Can a Bi Man fall in love with another man?

[onewhocares]

I was intrigued by a comment by our resident troll in another post. It was about men falling in love with another man. He seems to think it could not happen. Say a man wants more out of a relationship, wanting an emotional connection and not just just a sexual relationship and finds such a man. My question is, can a man who is bisexual fall in love with a man that has come into his life? Can they fall in love with a man like they do with women? What if the new same sex relationship begins to take precedence over his marriage....Has this happened to any of you? How did your spouse handle it?

Belle

[cliffml]

I've had it happen to me, luckily i'm not married. It was only ment to be a sexual relationship, but it just blossomed. Even thou it's over now, for a time it was just as passionate of a relationship as i've had with a women. So my answer would be "yes" you can fall in love with your same sex partner.

[NumberSix]

I say why the hell not?

Love is love, you never know when it's gonna hit you. I've never had it happen to me, but you just never know when you're gonna meet that one person that makes you want more than just the physical part .. man or woman, it really makes no difference, in my opinion.

[void()]

Short answer: Yes.

I did not bother posting to the 'bi men what do you really want?'

There appeared to be lots of negativity in that thread, even without our resident troll. Seems we men are still thought of as pigs or dogs. The only hope some posters offer is we're completely homosexual without a family.

A knock on the door is heard. Someone comes and answers the door. "Hello?"

"Hi, I'm the exception to the rule. There are quite a few like me. Please stop using such broad stroking brushes to paint images of folks, it really doesn't serve much purpose. In fact it is often counter productive. At the very least it bothers folks like me. Makes us use broad stroking brushes, too. We label you all hypocritical bigots. At that point we simply refuse to communicate with you. Please try to remember that in the future, it might help foster the spirit of free and open communication. Thanks."

The door closes.

Yes a man can fall in love with another man. Yes a man married to woman can fall in love with another man. Yes that man desires relationships with both his wife and the other man. Yes that man shall be diligent in attaining that, because yes both his wife and the other man love him and desire it as well.

I think my boyfriend sums it up quite well. "I just want to be loved, forever."

It is rather simple as far as goals. But it is pretty difficult to find. Once you do, never surrender it. To many exist to detract in this world. Remember, exceptions to the rules exist, and not merely to spite the rules.

We can exist simply because it is what we are to be. Socrates says doing is being. Love is doing so I am being.

[Bluebiyou]

... our resident troll ... about men falling in love with another man. He seems to think it could not happen. ... can a man who is bisexual fall in love with a man that has come into his life? Can they fall in love with a man like they do with women? What if the new same sex relationship begins to take precedence over his marriage....Has this happened to any of you? How did your spouse handle it?

Belle

Belle, my darling... let go.
It is an axiom that:
We have no choice over who or what we fall in love with, it either happens or it doesn't.
I myself am in a monogamous relationship. I am still in love with a previous gf (10 years past). I decided to leave that girl. I am with present gf of free will.
I have only fallen in love with one man in all my life. I suppose I'm still in love with him. If I separate from my gf I will probably seek him out, as well as another girl I know.
Judging from what I know of you, sit patiently. If your hubby falls in love with another man, and it was meant to be...
If you fall out of love with your man, then it is your time to leave.
Love is such an important part of our being...
As long as you love him, LOVE HIM. This is being true to yourself and YOUR love.
Always treat your 'significant other' well, that is who YOU are.
Best wishes. You're playing on top level (reflection of your wonderful character) with a most important issue.
Realize that you fell in love with this man for a very valid reason, and that reason quite probably includes his bisexuality which not only made who he is, but what he is.
:)
Blue

[DanBasil]

I actually fell for a man, I left my girlfriend of 2 years at the time to pursue this new monogamous relationship, and now 2 and a half years later I'm still with him.

[fairbankswingers]

:male: Yes, very much so...I have fallen in love with another man and was still married, and I still loved my wife....was hard in some ways becuase I had deep feelings for both...if we had not moved due to a work transfer we would still be together...they were swingers like us and we all four were very close and my wife and his knew how much we loved each other...they did not mind as - well we never hid anything or even took anything from our wives...I miss him, and am just now getting over it 2 years later...I for one prefer a loving relationship, not just sex...and we look for that in our swinging as well, where trust and feelings are there for us all...

[Mrs.F]

I have a friend (from this site) that when he divorced his wife he had nowhere to move but in with his male friend friend with benefits who is gay. My friend had always known he was bi but felt he could only have a "inlove", romantic relationship with women. After moving in his with is gay friend he said he did fall inlove with him and they lived in a loving, romantic relationship for many yrs. However, he's now come to the point in his life where he is missing the female, not just for sex but for loving, romance, holding hands in public and etc....Anything is possible and is different for every person.

Flounder and I also have another friend that Flounder went to college with. He was married to a woman at the time and had a son with her. They soon divorced and he met another woman, we attended that wedding and became good friends with her as well and did couple things together (no sex because at that time had no idea Flounder was bi). Soon we heard that this marrage went to hell in a hand basket fast. We contacted him after awile and discovered he had bought a new house and was starting a new life. He invited us over and to our surprise he had a male roomate who it was very obvious was gay. Didn't take Flounder and I long to discover that our friend was now in a gay relationship and VERY happy. Now we are very close with them and think the world of both of them. So, we went from never knowing he was bi to finding out he was really gay and he fully admits this us now. He felt that we would never except him or his partner. But a couple yrs. after that happened...wham bam, I find out my husband is bi and he has sat down and told these friends. They were shocked. But even more shocked and happy that I had accepted Flounder. Amazing the way this world turns sometimes. While these guys would be great for Flounder be friends w/ benfits with...they are monogomous and plan to stay that way...and I think that's great.

So, my answer (as a straight woman, I know) would be yes, it's possible, I've seen it!

[open2both]

Duh...YEAH!

[Rudy75]

Most Definitely!

I am totally in love with my boyfriend. Have been for years.

My relationship with him is better than any I ever had with a female.

I still date females, but it never seems to last.

[jem_is_bi]

If I am will my present male partner for the rest of my life that would be great.

[cutenewlybi]

I say why the hell not?

Love is love, you never know when it's gonna hit you. I've never had it happen to me, but you just never know when you're gonna meet that one person that makes you want more than just the physical part .. man or woman, it really makes no difference, in my opinion.

I totally agree...you can not chose who you fall in love with or when...

[bamberggm]

I think it is possible for a man to fall in love with a man but i dont think i could. Not sure why but i dont think i could get past close friends.