See this picture of my wife.............

[IanGray]

I got a message on Gaydar from a man who said he would show a picture of his wife if we got together for some fun. I took this to be an invitation to a threesome, which I turned down because of the potential problems involved. It can be bad enough dealing with one person three or more ads might increase any complications. With my inexperience it's too soon to consider.

When I received his next message he said that it wasn't a threesome he wanted and his wife didn't know anything about it.

This highlights the importance stating clearly and concisely what your looking for. Anyone else had similar experiences? :)

[FalconAngel]

Sometimes even that does not guarantee that the person replying actually bothered to read the info in your profile.

We have profiles on a few different websites, and if you think that we are specific on this site, you should see what we have on other sites.

We even post at the top of one of our profiles that we are only looking for Bi men, no straight or Gay men, no women and no one who is on the "down low" as regards their spouse.
Even with all of that, they see the picture and assume that we are looking for another guy for her rather than a guy for both of us (mostly me, really). You don't want to know how many guys sent us messages about getting together with my wife because they looked at, quite literally, nothing other than our profile picture.
Some of those guys, after explaining exactly what we are looking for, actually tried to convince us that what he wanted is what we really want.

Fortunately, after a few months, those kind of responses have withered away to almost nothing. On the one site, we must have had to tell off about a hundred straight assholes from Egypt, Bolivia, Spain, Italy, etc. that we were not interested in them or adding them to our friend list. They were probably almost all Nigerian fraud scammers, anyway.

Anyway, you will have to put up with idiots that are either too arrogant or too stupid to read your profile before they respond to it.

Unfortunately, we will never be rid of them.

[IanGray]

Sometimes even that does not guarantee that the person replying actually bothered to read the info in your profile.

We have profiles on a few different websites, and if you think that we are specific on this site, you should see what we have on other sites.

We even post at the top of one of our profiles that we are only looking for Bi men, no straight or Gay men, no women and no one who is on the "down low" as regards their spouse.
Even with all of that, they see the picture and assume that we are looking for another guy for her rather than a guy for both of us (mostly me, really). You don't want to know how many guys sent us messages about getting together with my wife because they looked at, quite literally, nothing other than our profile picture.
Some of those guys, after explaining exactly what we are looking for, actually tried to convince us that what he wanted is what we really want.

Fortunately, after a few months, those kind of responses have withered away to almost nothing. On the one site, we must have had to tell off about a hundred straight assholes from Egypt, Bolivia, Spain, Italy, etc. that we were not interested in them or adding them to our friend list. They were probably almost all Nigerian fraud scammers, anyway.

Anyway, you will have to put up with idiots that are either too arrogant or too stupid to read your profile before they respond to it.

Unfortunately, we will never be rid of them.

You mention straight(?) men. I have discovered recently that straight can mean I want sex with men but haven't tried it yet. This as well as "you can fulfill my fantasy if you pay me money." has put me off dating agencies as it is difficult to find the genuine ones. It is also true that too many people don't read profiles properly. I have stated that I'm not into cross dressing, but I still get men expecting me to dress in womens clothes.

[onewhocares]

Hi there,

I must agree with the posted above. I think that we are speciffic in our profile as well. But I am convinced, that many people do not read the profiles. While I do conceed that while in this chat room here, I chat with all that seem interesting and I have met so WONDERFUL people and I do not bother to read their profiles immediately.

I have in the last two months or so posted on Craig's List for I fear a treasured relationship from here is destined to end soon as he has no time for me in his life. Now while in the first ad I was straight forward on my preferences....I received an ungodly amount of responses before the ad was flagged and removed ater only one hour...at first I thought it was because I mentioned that I was married to a bi man. In the second ad, I was not straight forward but rather down right insistant on my interests (kayaking), physical description (tall, bald or balding, body hair, not skinny) intellect, hobbies and above all to Have THE Time to Make Me a wanted part of his life and accept the ramification of that and communication. Well, this ad, placed on July 16 is still on and I am astounded at the replies. I am nothing special, but I am amazed that like you, people just do not take the time to throughly read and COMPREHEND what they are reading.

But like anything I guess, we must sift and search amoung the haystack to find the needle...or like me...searched for a prince, found a Jester and now wither on the vine.


Belle

[FalconAngel]

You mention straight(?) men. I have discovered recently that straight can mean I want sex with men but haven't tried it yet. This as well as "you can fulfill my fantasy if you pay me money." has put me off dating agencies as it is difficult to find the genuine ones. It is also true that too many people don't read profiles properly. I have stated that I'm not into cross dressing, but I still get men expecting me to dress in womens clothes.

There is a difference between bi-curious and straight. And anytime that a guy who's profile says he's straight and he is telling us that the profile says that because he's closeted, he gets pretty thoroughly talked to, to make sure that he is, in fact, Bi.

We've had a lot of guys claim they were Bi or Bi curious and we find out that he is, in fact, straight.
We had a few different guys do that to us......only one got through our screening process.
We had one guy who had the unmitigated gall tell my wife that she needs a "real man" in her life. When she told him that I was an Army veteran and fully capable of satisfying her needs, he pretty much shut up about the "real man" thing. We never heard from that twit again.

As far as the cross-dressing thing, the guys who say that probably only saw the words "cross dressing and ignored all of the other words around it, just like the guys who ignore the words around "straight men" when they see "no straight men".

Those guys are ignorant and normally do not deserve the decency of an answer. But there are always a few that deserve a rude answer.