dazed_and_confused
Aug 22, 2008, 1:21 AM
So here's the thing.... my best friend is a lesbian. We've only been friends for about 3 years now, but I honestly feel such a strong connection to her, it's unexplainable. She's got a gf (that's not good for her, and this is their 2nd time around), but she spends most of her time with me, or on the phone with me.
I've been with girls before in the past (just sexually, no dating), and this girl is aware of that. About a year and a half ago, I informed her that I had feelings for her. Back then, it kinda freaked me out, and I think she could sense that. She didn't give me any sort of response except that she was still hung up on her ex (not the same one she's with now). But since then I've come to grips with the fact that I have these feelings (not just sexual, but fully emotional) for a girl.
There was no response after I told her, and shortly after that she jumped into the first round with the current gf. She pretty much lost touch with all of her friends (including myself), until they broke up. Then things were back to normal again. Since then, she and I have become even closer than before. I had my feelings for her under control until the last couple of months. But she's got a gf, and I'm scared of losing her as a friend again.
What should I do? Tell her and risk losing the best friendship I've ever had? Bite my tongue, and keep my feelings to myself since she's in a relationship and the 1st time she didn't respond?
As far as what would happen if I were to tell her, and she felt the same... I would totally not have a problem being in a relationship with her. Its so weird because when she's around, it's like no one else is in the room. No one else matters. The connection we have is just amazing... and I just look forward to getting a text or call from her everyday, or hanging out. But it's getting harder and harder to not just kiss her when we are together.
I date guys (and sexually attracted to them), but I'm attracted to girls also (sexually). This is the first time in my life I've actually had these feelings for a female.
I know this post probably sounds like a jumbled mess, but that's how my head has been. I've been hoping she'd make the first move, but that hasn't happened. And she's not the type to make the first move, which makes this all that much harder. I'd be devastated to find out that she didn't feel the same way... so any advice or suggestions anyone has would be great. Thank you for taking the time to read this and help!
Dazed*and*Confused
I've been with girls before in the past (just sexually, no dating), and this girl is aware of that. About a year and a half ago, I informed her that I had feelings for her. Back then, it kinda freaked me out, and I think she could sense that. She didn't give me any sort of response except that she was still hung up on her ex (not the same one she's with now). But since then I've come to grips with the fact that I have these feelings (not just sexual, but fully emotional) for a girl.
There was no response after I told her, and shortly after that she jumped into the first round with the current gf. She pretty much lost touch with all of her friends (including myself), until they broke up. Then things were back to normal again. Since then, she and I have become even closer than before. I had my feelings for her under control until the last couple of months. But she's got a gf, and I'm scared of losing her as a friend again.
What should I do? Tell her and risk losing the best friendship I've ever had? Bite my tongue, and keep my feelings to myself since she's in a relationship and the 1st time she didn't respond?
As far as what would happen if I were to tell her, and she felt the same... I would totally not have a problem being in a relationship with her. Its so weird because when she's around, it's like no one else is in the room. No one else matters. The connection we have is just amazing... and I just look forward to getting a text or call from her everyday, or hanging out. But it's getting harder and harder to not just kiss her when we are together.
I date guys (and sexually attracted to them), but I'm attracted to girls also (sexually). This is the first time in my life I've actually had these feelings for a female.
I know this post probably sounds like a jumbled mess, but that's how my head has been. I've been hoping she'd make the first move, but that hasn't happened. And she's not the type to make the first move, which makes this all that much harder. I'd be devastated to find out that she didn't feel the same way... so any advice or suggestions anyone has would be great. Thank you for taking the time to read this and help!
Dazed*and*Confused