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onewhocares
Aug 18, 2008, 9:58 AM
Hello All,

Well, I have been home a week from my adventure to cook and teach at a camp in Vermont and thought that I would give you an update as to the stay in the Green Mountain State. First and foremost, I want to thank ALL of you who took the time to share recipes with me for the cookbook which I published for the kids. I must say, that even though I was rushed, having only two days to compile the recipes and art work, it came out really nice. I had it spiral bound and laminated so the kids could take it home and use it. I received many compliments on the layout, safety concerns and cooking tips which I included. Arana, everyone thought your recipes were great when they read them! There was only ONE problem................I never ever got to teach a class or have the kids use the book, if you can believe it.

The week I spent in Vermont was nothing but pure HELL. Here it is a week later and I still can not feel my fingertips and my back is killing me. Also.....tip to all...never volunteer for anything. One of the reasons that I did agree to take this position( a challenge actually) was so that I could share the experience of camp with my daughter. I went to this very camp as a child and my wonderful memories have lasted a lifetime. This was not to be the fate for Kendall and I. We arrived on Saturday as I was obligated to take a sexual and physical abuse class before I was to commence working. Turns out, the class was postponed but no one bothered to tell me. When I met the director and one of the program directors, they said since you are here, lets get cooking. I was, as the camp director would later tell me in my exit interview, thrown directly into the fire. She surmised that I was a woman of stamina and looked like I could get the job done and handle anything they threw my way. Guess what...I did not stop. From Saturday lunch to the following Saturday lunch I worked non stop, standing on my feet....chopping, stirring and general cooking for 101 hours and then shuttle to and from the town for supplies for another ten hours. I was even told that I had to organize the stockroom and the walk in cooler. This tall chubby blonde came home tired, sore, disillusioned but.....thinner ...as all I seemed to have time for was to drink water and cook...I only had the time to brush my teeth two or three times while I was there. Funny how working non stop, in the wicked heat....only found out on Wednesday that the kitchen exhaust fan actually did work can make you skinny...er.

I attribute the disaster to the lack of communication and dysfunction of the staff. Seems, even though the co-program director knew all of the effort that I put into the cookbooks, the tee shirts to give to each child and all the supplies to make the daily cooking classes fun....never bothered to schedule the classes. Heck, the other director a blonde princess who did nothing but walk around all day with her daughter on her hip never ever introduced herself to the cooking crew. I understood that under a new regime of leadership that not everything would run smoothly...but man this place was a mess. Turns out what really hurt the most was that toward the end of the week, I put out the book and tee shirts for the kids to take, that the young counselors in training who, coincidentally taught cooking classes...come to the kitchen and used my cookbook and ingredients for their classes. Now most of you know that I am an easy going kind of a gal, but that really frosted me. Was going to donate all the things I brought for the classes and such, but in the end, sent them a bill.

I guess I should have gotten the hint on the first day. When the director contacted my brother, whom I had given as a reference, he joking said that he was sending me up their with my own travel trailer when she mentioned that accommodations for staff were tight ( remember, I was supposed to share the room behind the kitchen with the 73 year old Argentinean head cook). She said that the idea sounded nice. One of my brothers friend graciously lent me his 25 foot travel trailer and brought it up there for me and set it all up. On that first day, the maintenance man told me that I was drawing too much electricity and that I would need to conserve. Later in the week, on two separate occasions, my electricity was turned off. Well it turns out that even though the camper was there to ease their housing shortage....it was a godsend as it turns out that my daughter was allergic to the mold and dust in the cabins and had to bunk with me. SHE hated the whole experience. One night when she was not back in the trailer when I returned from the kitchen at 9:30, I thought she had made good on her talk of running back home....she said...she would walk to the main road, hail a cab and say...." my dad will pay you when you get me back to Boston". Turns out she was still at a program. There were camp get to know your fellow staff member parties that we were not invited to...yet our names were placed in a Secret Santa drawing. Even that training class was postponed several times and when it did arrive we were reprimanded for arriving late....and the dinner was late because we had to attend, and we were yelled at for that. When the day to leave arrived, we were all packed and ready and waiting for the fellow to come get the trailer...even here we were behind the eight ball. Having rained all week, the fellow got the truck and trailer stuck stuck in the field where it was parked and had to call AAA. We all pooled what ever money we could scrape together to get us out and on the way home. As it turns out, I had to bring another worker, who had been coming there for seven years, back to Boston so that she and her daughter cold catch a flight back to Europe as she left in disgust when the new staff came in and caused disfunction.

Lest you think that my ranting here were all my own....the saving grace of this adventure were the 73 year old Argentinean and the cool woman from upper state Vermont who also came to work in the kitchen. She had NO experience in the kitchen and they treated her worse. I am a strong woman, but on Tuesday they brought us both to tears. Were it not for the fact that I had made a commitment to the children, wanted to teach my daughter that one does not run in the face of adversity, and most importantly....I could not in good conscious leave the cooking duties for 150 children to one older man whose hands shook. So I stayed. The other cook and I both did.

They hinted around at the exit interview that they were looking for a replacement for the head cook who is retiring after next year and hinted to me.....I never laughed so hard.

Friends joke that this was my good deed for a lifetime and will surely get me into heaven. Well I look at it as it made up for all my past sins, sins to come and even sins which I could just possibly dream about doing. And when I get to the pearly gates and St. Peter comments on this week from hell....that he will allow me to bring my friends...I have enough free passes for ALL OF YOU on Bisexual.com to get in on my coattails.....just mention that you know Belle from Boston and you will go to the front of the line.

Well, I shall close this diatribe.....I thought you would all get a kick out of my adventure...but most of all I want to say THANK YOU for all your support and encouragement in the process.

Belle

PS, if you want a cookbook for your kids, just let me know.

Mrs.F
Aug 18, 2008, 10:17 AM
Oh, I don't mean to laugh, but I'm laughing! Your a better person than I just for volunteering! :rolleyes: I remember as a young person going to girl scout camps and church camp and each and everytime I went.............OMG>>>>> I HATED IT! I told me my mom I was done. I wanted NO part of sleeping in a dirty, smelly, spiderweb haven where I would turn my flash light on every 10 seconds to make sure I didn't have bugs on me. Brushing my teeth and hair from a well pump. Sweating my ass off constantly and to top it all off. I started puberty early and got my period when I was 10. I had it while I was at church camp and it SUCKED!! Now Flounder had different experiences and he loved all the camps he went too. I will send our son to a camp only if he wants to go and if he doesn't like it, I will not force him to go again.

I feel for you Belle! I know you were hoping to make this a great experience for both you and Kendall. Those people running the show will soon find out what it's like to run a camp single handedly if they don't get their S*** together and treat the volunteers with some dignity. Again, because you stayed...makes you a better person! :bigrin:

thongguy
Aug 18, 2008, 10:23 AM
Belle, Where'd you go, Kamp Krusty from the Simpsons? that story was funny and hell at the same time! Ive never knew i could be pissed and laughing at the same time! Im sorry to hear you had a bad time, but it was a good deed and im sure all those kids really appreciate what you did. whats that saying? No Good Deed Goes unpunished ? is that it? You should have opened up a can of Whoop-Ass on those Camp Counselors.

still_shy
Aug 18, 2008, 10:44 AM
OMG Belle! What a nightmare! You handled it a lot better than I would have, I think. What a great lesson to teach your daughter (albeit at you expense). As awful as it was, I'll wager that she never forgets the week. My heart breaks for you, what a disappointment! It's such a shame that they didn't realize what a jewel they had in their midst.
<<<<great big hugs>>>>
Hillary

ladydelanie
Aug 18, 2008, 10:47 AM
Belle,
You are a real trooper...I do have to tell you that you have made my day though....LOL.....Like Mrs. F I cant stop laughing. Not because you had a nightmarish experience, trust me that is not why I'm laughing. It's the way you wrote about it, with such vivid discriptions. :bigrin:....
Ok I will stop laughing for a minute and tell you this....You my dear are a wonderful, kind person for enduring all of the cruel and rude behavior. I am not sure many would have been as patient as you!! Maybe you should contact the owners of the camp and let them know just how horrible things were being run.
All in all,the truth is.....YOU are an Angel!! Surely you will go straight thru the Pearly Gates! :angel:


Hope you are recouping well!!
ladyd :)

texasman6172003
Aug 18, 2008, 11:14 AM
Gawd Allmighty Belle!!:eek:.. Hon,You have more strength and patience than i would have!! If that had been me and my Daughter,im sorry but those assholes would have been left to fend for there selves. I am a patient man,but you poor thing they just flat took advantage of you. But all that aside it was daMN funny hon,:bigrin:. And if the time comes and St Peter meets yu there,Just tell him you allready done your time in Hell,:bigrin:.. Things like this that make me proud to b one of your friends,,:bigrin:

onewhocares
Aug 18, 2008, 11:25 AM
Miss Lady D......

Believe me...they did get a tersely worded letter. Also included where the items discussed at my exit interview about what we were repremanded for and what improvements I could offer. ( Have not hear a response back yet!)When ever the camp director ever hinted around at my considering the job of head Chef for the future I litterally burst out laughing....I know it was rude but what the hell was she thinking.....you could not pay me enough money or offer me new body parts to replace the ones which ache so much NOW.



Belle

darkeyes
Aug 18, 2008, 11:27 AM
*massages tall yummie lady's frazzled nerves betta an gives er lil cheepers on cheek an lips*

12voltman59
Aug 18, 2008, 1:56 PM
Sorry to hear your tale of woe Belle--but this story could make a great script for a comedy movie--what you wrote about--it would seem fantastic if it was the script of a movie!!!!

It is sorta funny and sad too since that organization is no good for kids to be exposed to---

I bet there are lots of places just like that.

I am glad ya made it through though dear---rest up and chilll out a bit then get started writing that screenplay!!!LOL

ladydelanie
Aug 18, 2008, 8:16 PM
Belle,
I am so glad you wrote that letter! Being a parent that has, in the past spent a small fortune on Summer Camps....well I think the "Higher Up's" need to know!.
I hope you have gone to get yourself a wonderful massage and pedicure!

Oh I have an idea........Send them those bills too!!:bigrin: Just tilte it...
"For all my pain and suffering"
:cutelaugh



Ladyd

usedbear1950
Aug 18, 2008, 8:43 PM
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!


ur ever luvin'
usedbear :rotate:

elian
Aug 18, 2008, 8:47 PM
You poor sweetheart - I know that most "institutions" seem to have a shortage/vacuum of volunteer labor but this sounds ridiculous to the extreme. The funny thing is most people think of it as "the kitchen" I don't think a lot of people know what goes on back there.

Learned the hard way that there were lots of people who will DRINK the coffee, and some that will complain about how it's made - but few will actually take the time to MAKE it until shamed into the deed - people can be peculiar sometimes.

I remember going up to a hunting cabin my grandfather had in Maine some years ago - our "vacation" always seemed to turn into a week of doing chores like chopping wood, shoring up the dock, cabin repairs, etc. It seems that none of the people who would gladly use the thing in the wintertime to get away from their wives could be bothered to lift a finger in the summer - and my grandfather was soft spoken about it and was never afraid of hard work so it always fell to him to do the chores.

Those "vacations" were hard work to me - a week literally with no electricity - the best we had was an LP stove and LP gaslights to play scrabble by. You know what - I always complained about it but it was a different experience and in the long run probably a good learning experience - even if it seemed long to me at the time.

Nothing quite beat coming back to the OTHER cabin he had there with his girlfriend though - the one with heat, light and warm water. Bathing nekkid in the lake in the C-OLD spring water was a sobering experience - it was very nice to have a HOT shower at the end of the week.

Now he's gone - we've sold the cabin because it takes 12 hours to get here from there - but it's gone to folks who have been friends of the family for years. Best we can do since it DOES take 2-3 weeks to get it ready for the season and we all only get 2 weeks vacation at most off work.

Still, those are some memories I'll never forget - bats under the rafters of the front porch, nailing homosote to the outside, sealing the kitchen floor with linseed oil - cooking WAAY too much pasta ("that can't POSSBILY be ENOUGH?!") on top of the range that was sitting on the front porch while it was pouring down rain outside. You just threw the level away - I mean if you built anything with a level when you were finished it would be crooked as hell. Hard work hauling rock and gravel back to fix a washed out driveway - but at night I fell asleep knowing I had accomplished something for sure.

I also have a very interesting memory of sleeping on a top bunk, waking up one night to see the most beautiful purple/blue electroluminencent ..err..stuff just floating around the front door - I haven't seen anything like that before or since - and of course - Moose-everything - it was Maine after all!

Anyway - rest well now.

Peace,
-E

onewhocares
Aug 18, 2008, 9:11 PM
THANK YOU all for you comments, both here and in private. You are too great to have as friends. Yes...I am so surprised at how many of you would like to have a cook book. What about this....Since I only had a couple of days to do this book...give me some time I will be able to include the sixteen recipes which I was unable to. I will change the cover page and introductions. I will not allude to the sourse of the recipes so that you can rest assured that no one will know where they came from.

Lady D...I NEVER would have thought to send them the bills for the chiropractor, the massages, the jars of Tiger Balm, the heating pads and the pain pills that I got from Canada. Opps..then there are the inner soles....the half a gallon of Absolute Vodka which I brought, poured for myself on a nightly basis but never got a chance to drink as I fell asleep before I could drink it.

What I did figure out was had I worked a standard forty hour work week for what they paid me ( $ 380.00) and then took the hours I worked over forty times that rate..I am taking that difference off my taxes. Will have to talk t my accountant about that.

Used Bear....ok....LAUGH LAUGH LAUGH....when next you see me and I can not walk up to you and give you a big ole hug.....I know you love me...

I am SO lucky to have you all in my life.

Belle

scorpio9
Aug 18, 2008, 9:18 PM
Congratulations Belle! It's people like you that make this world worth living in. Sorry it was such sh*t, but thank you for your efforts. Your karmic credit card limit has been lifted sooooo high, go forth and enjoy now.
(A tip of the hat to you)

Mrs.F
Aug 18, 2008, 9:31 PM
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!


ur ever luvin'
usedbear :rotate:

LMAO! Aren't you a sweet ole thing!!!! :rolleyes:

MUAH! :tong:

chuck1124
Aug 18, 2008, 10:28 PM
Belle,

You are as strong and as determined and as loving as I imagined you are. St. Peter is proud and so am I to hope you are my friend.

Chuck

NWMtnHawk
Aug 19, 2008, 12:21 AM
Belle, . . . I don't think I've ever talked/typed directly to you, but have always thought highly of you and yours. My first impressions of you were absolutely confirmed by your telling of this experience; you're a woman of high character and integrity. Assuming your daughter is of younger years, I have to imagine that as a grown woman she will look back and know this truth, "My mother is a woman of character and integrity and I'm so proud she's my mom." Right on girl! I take my hat off to you.

Cherokee_Mountaincat
Aug 21, 2008, 4:39 AM
lol Oh my poor sweet Belle. I'm sorry honey, I dont mean to laugh, but I cant help it.
I am SO sorry all of that happened to you. You have Vastly more patiance and tolerance than "I" personally do, and you worked your backside off to make the cook books and the T-shirts too..:(
I know you worked your.."Hiney"... off too, for that's the type of person that you are.
You'll look back on this and laugh one day, and so will your daughter. Mine would have been going "Mom..MOm...MOM! No you caint kill the nice Director" lmao
Big big hugz to you my Friend
Your Cat
(I still want a cook book) LMAO

hudson9
Aug 21, 2008, 1:36 PM
"So, will you come volunteer at our summer camp...?"

WARNING!! DANGER WILL ROBINSON!!

The problem is everyone thinks they know how to run a summer camp ("How hard could it be...") but have no idea what's really involved. My wife had 2 bad experiences (fool me once...) at different camps, once as the Camp Nurse at a 2 week session for kids w/ asthma, and again at a 1 week session for kids who had lost a family member. Both noble endeavors, however: lack of proper and sufficient supplies, shortage of staff, inadequate accommodations, and appalling lack of management- and interpersonal-skills by the managers.

I have found that when people are asking for volunteers, it often means they really don't have enough money to do what they are attempting properly. Particularly if you are providing a skilled service (cooking, nursing, etc.), you're much better off at a place that can offer you an actual salary -- you can always contribute your salary back if you want.

At the very least, if you are going anywhere as a volunteer -- make sure you have your own way to get home at any moment if you need to!