am i or am i not?

[becky_29]

ok, i´m a girl i´m 18, and once i made out with a girl...this was quite a long time ago, and now, well i date guys, i snog them etc etc, but Ã*´m curious...sometimes some girls make my eyes go whaaaaam and can´t take my eyes off them and wonder what would it be like to be closer...but i´ve never really had the opportunity to have something with a girl...maybe once but this girl was friends with one of my friends at school and well ´my friends are not very open about bisexuality or homosexuality...i wouldn´t want people to gossip and point at me when not even I am sure if there is a reason...i dunno i want to experience but i´m afraid...people with experience could you please help me out? am i discovering hidden desires and needs? am i just a horny teenager disappointed by my previous experience with guys who thinks that there´s gotta be more?? hehehe i would appreciate advice thanks!

[goober]

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Becky, It is my opinion that gays and lesbians, for the most part are turned off by members of the opposite sex. But that Bisexuals are simply highly sexual heteros. I really believe that it is a matter of choice. And that, while hetero sex is more constructive and puposeful, inter-gender sex is far more exciting. The problem always is the risk in trying to read the signals in seeking out same sex partner. Out of curiosity when you masturbate is the orgasm more intense when you think about lesbian sex?

[JohnnyV]

Becky,

Another girl, jaded dagger, put up a similar question a few threads above you.

I think the most important thing is not to let labels run your life. If you get too stuck on "what you are" you will lose sight of who you are and what you want. (Mejor dicho en español: lo que eres no importará tanto como quién eres y qué quieres). Prejudiced people who hate gays and lesbians got that way because they were stuck on labels. Gays and lesbians who feel defensive and respond to their oppression by "outing" people and terrorizing people out of their closets are also stuck on labels and equally monstrous.

Avoid the whole mess by waiting carefully until the time is right and finding the right person to experiment with. If you are in a culture/society in which gossip can be powerfully damaging and it's hard to venture to a lesbian club without being discovered, you may have to be patient and wait a while for the right occasion to present itself. Since you are eighteen, you have lots of time.

For now, I think you need to focus on your future. If you can build a stable economic and social base for yourself, in a few years, you will be in a strong enough position to explore these desires without worrying that your experimentation will backfire and harm your life chances.

Cógelo suave. Paciencia.

J

[OralBradley]

:flag4: :male: Only you can say whether or not you are bisexual. gay, or whatever. YOu are what your mind says that you are, and that may change from day to day and whom you are with.
Mostly what I have to say is, don't "should" all over yourself and build a montrous burden of guilt. What you are is right for you--enjoy it.

Brad