question mostly for married bi guys

[centralpaguy]

Just a question...I have seen a lot of adds for married men looking for married men only. Why is that? Is there a "stigma" that comes with single bi guys? or is it on the mindset that a married guy wont get feelings for a married guy? I am currently dating a girl that keeps saying " I dont want to know about it" but because I have chosen NOT to get married why does that make me unappealing ? Just a question and I am not asking to start a war just trying to gain some insight here

[warmpuppy]

Sometimes a single guy can create a "Fatal Attraction" kind of situation. When you're married, other married guys have as much to lose as you do.

That's not a hard fast rule, but the risks are generally smaller.

[viajero]

And sometimes a married guy can get a fatal attraction towards a single guy.

It may also be because they don't want to face the rejection from guys who don't approve of them fooling around on their spouses. Then there are those who feel you're somehow more masculine if your married.

[chick_a_dee]

After a manly session of hot sex, the married men go home to their wives.

[eddy10]

I am a married Bi. I do not understand the problem in that it does not matter to me ... married or single. What counts is whether or not I like the person and we click.

[Cogent]

Three reasons
a) Lower perceived emotional risk - see above
b) Lower perceived health risk - probably have less chance to fool around and might be a tad better about playing safe
c) Understands what the other married guy is going through... a larger comfort zone and more in common

[BothBi420]

I think that some people believe that there is less risk playing with another married guy. Less risk of std and less risk of the other guy outing him to his spouse.
I believe that niether is true, you have to protect yourself from the risk of std's at all times and if you dont want to get caught then dont to the hook-up!
As a couple we have hooked up with single guys and married guys and found no difference. :three:

[ambi53mm]

Just a question...I have seen a lot of adds for married men looking for married men only. Why is that? Is there a "stigma" that comes with single bi guys? or is it on the mindset that a married guy wont get feelings for a married guy? I am currently dating a girl that keeps saying " I dont want to know about it" but because I have chosen NOT to get married why does that make me unappealing ? Just a question and I am not asking to start a war just trying to gain some insight here

Sometimes I think it’s just a simple matter of personal preference. Many of the reasons given thus far are good reasons. What someone feels comfortable with I try to understand and respect as long as it doesn’t infringe on my own desires and sense of morality. I’ve spent more time as an unmarried bi male than a married bi male and so to some extent my preferences have changed a little since becoming married to a woman who’s also bi. We have explored with a third person of both genders as well as individually alone. We have also had other bi-couples we’ve explored with and this turned out to be the most gratifying across the board. However finding four people who connect in the way and at a level we’re looking for like has been a long process beset with it’s own complexities.

I have a great friend also a member here, who I see occasionally and he is single( at least for the moment). My wife has had her own friends on occasion as well and they have also been single or had husbands who gave them the freedom to go out and explore their bi-side, but it’s not our first preference as a bi-couple. Most of the married bi-males I do hear from are not open with their wives about being bi and are cheating. I don’t judge their situation as I’ve walked in those shoes before and am far from perfect. I choose not to involve myself in those kind of arrangements based on my current sense of morality which has evolved over the years along with everything else. Personal preferences and what you feel most comfortable with….as the old saying goes…
”Let your conscious be your guide”.

There seems to be an abundance of us in varying degrees of sexual exploration as well as, an abundant variety of situations and desired situations….LOL No one should have to go hungry.

Ambi:)

[laloo333]

My primary reason is safety re stds. Also I think there is a bond of identification, since my partner shares my experience of being a married man. I also like my partner to fully enjoy the pleasures of sex with women. The 2 single guys I have been with seemed to me to be tending more toward the gay end of the spectrum

[centralpaguy]

OK I keep hearing STDs Not to start anything but a single guy would be more apt to be careful since he is not in a committed relationship (in theory) than someone who is "stepping out" on his marriage. And if one partner is stepping out how does he know his partner isnt too? That comment is only for the married and she doesnt know group. It seems like a double standard to think if a guy chooses not to be married for whatever reason he may have that he is "more gay" or a potiential "outter" (because he doent have as much to lose) or is more likely to be "unclean". Perhaps I am nieave since most of the men and women I have been with have been friends first. Am I just out of the reality of it all or what?

Me personally I have more of an inclination to the married male BECAUSE he can go home to his wife and relationship there and I dont have to have anything but a buddy with bennies

[matterinhand]

As a bi married guy I like talking to other bi married guys because I get turned on talking about our sex lives, both with our wives and other guys.
Bi guys with, or who've had, girlfriends are classed in the same catagory.

I have no problem talking to gay guys, or straight guys, but both of them limit the chat.