Anal Advice

[mark123]

As of now I'm still an anal virgin. I've recently found and have been corresponding via e-mail with a bisexual male (top) and we seem to be getting along pretty well. Well anyways, I'm very excited and nervous as we're planning on meeting very soon. Can any body with "bottom" experience offer any advice for my first time? :tongue:

[shameless agitator]

I'll have to leave most of the advice to those with a bit more experience, but I will say this. Lube is your friend, and lots of it. Make sure you're comfortable enough with him that you know he'll respect your boundaries. If you need him to slow down or even stop, you need to know that he will. And, as always, play safe.

[chick_a_dee]

There's another forum called the Pleasure of Anal Sex, in it you will find a great posting in regards to anal sex. There's a guide to all those who want to explore this great part of sex.

[Sapphrodite]

In the interests of not having to repost all things anal again, here are all the available threads dedicated to anal sex (and yes each title is a link directly to the thread):

ANAL TOPICS:
the Acceptance of anal sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=5376)
The Pleasure of Anal Sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=688)
Anal sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=5296)
Need a new Anal toy.. what should I get? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=5126)
Anal Douching in the shower? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4914)
Easing into anal sex.... (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4881)
Anal beads (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4762)
Need Advice For First er...Anal...um... (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4605)
bi yes, but anal or not? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4103)
Anal Sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3822)
cumming during anal sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4012)
anal (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3542)
ANAL (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1647)
Tips for receiving anal? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3240)
anal, an acquired taste? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2724)
Guys, how do you prepare for anal sex? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3074)
Questions about anal sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3065)
Anal Plug Suggestions (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2614)
Anal Help!! (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2616)
Anal Masturbation (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2434)
Anal stretching! (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1178)
MEN AND HYGIENE BEFORE ANAL SEX (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2232)
What do you enjoy about anal sex? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=232)
looking for an anal toy that I can wear all day (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2069)
ready to have anal for first time (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1393)
not into anal intercourse? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1228)
first time anal (for guys... well I guess chicks too) (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1043)
Easy Anal (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=225)
Easing Into Anal (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=792)
Anal help (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=735)
I want to do anal (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=323)
Anal Sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=664)
Anal for men vs. women ?? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=506)
anal sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=282)
Anal First (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=277)
Women and Anal play (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=257)
Anal toys. (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=89)


Don't get me wrong, I like anal as much as the next person, but it's a topic that already has lots of coverage (given the type of site we're on - LMAO)!! Try using the Advanced Search (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/search.php?) options and keywords to find topics that are of interest to you; if you get too many results, try using the Search Titles Only option in Advanced Search.

One more reason to have the Forums divided into Forum Topics ~sighs~
Good Luck!!
Sapphy

[vittoria]

In the interests of not having to repost all things anal again, here are all the available threads dedicated to anal sex (and yes each title is a link directly to the thread):

ANAL TOPICS:
the Acceptance of anal sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=5376)
The Pleasure of Anal Sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=688)
Anal sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=5296)
Need a new Anal toy.. what should I get? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=5126)
Anal Douching in the shower? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4914)
Easing into anal sex.... (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4881)
Anal beads (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4762)
Need Advice For First er...Anal...um... (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4605)
bi yes, but anal or not? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4103)
Anal Sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3822)
cumming during anal sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4012)
anal (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3542)
ANAL (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1647)
Tips for receiving anal? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3240)
anal, an acquired taste? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2724)
Guys, how do you prepare for anal sex? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3074)
Questions about anal sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3065)
Anal Plug Suggestions (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2614)
Anal Help!! (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2616)
Anal Masturbation (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2434)
Anal stretching! (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1178)
MEN AND HYGIENE BEFORE ANAL SEX (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2232)
What do you enjoy about anal sex? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=232)
looking for an anal toy that I can wear all day (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2069)
ready to have anal for first time (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1393)
not into anal intercourse? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1228)
first time anal (for guys... well I guess chicks too) (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1043)
Easy Anal (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=225)
Easing Into Anal (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=792)
Anal help (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=735)
I want to do anal (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=323)
Anal Sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=664)
Anal for men vs. women ?? (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=506)
anal sex (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=282)
Anal First (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=277)
Women and Anal play (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=257)
Anal toys. (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=89)


Don't get me wrong, I like anal as much as the next person, but it's a topic that already has lots of coverage (given the type of site we're on - LMAO)!! Try using the Advanced Search (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/search.php?) options and keywords to find topics that are of interest to you; if you get too many results, try using the Search Titles Only option in Advanced Search.

One more reason to have the Forums divided into Forum Topics ~sighs~
Good Luck!!
Sapphy


LOL!! :bigrin:

[bityme]

Obviously, with all those threads devoted to anal sex, there has to be something GREAT about it!

If you take it very slow, starting small and learning to relax your muscles, increasing in size only when it is comfortable, your first experience can be fantastic. If you are not prepared it can be a disaster.

Anal sex is not something to just jump into. Like fine wine, it must be savored.

[wolfcamp]

In the interests of not having to repost all things anal again, here are all the available threads dedicated to anal sex (and yes each title is a link directly to the thread):

ANAL TOPICS:

...so on and so forth...

Don't get me wrong, I like anal as much as the next person, but it's a topic that already has lots of coverage (given the type of site we're on - LMAO)!! Try using the Advanced Search (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/search.php?) options and keywords to find topics that are of interest to you; if you get too many results, try using the Search Titles Only option in Advanced Search.

One more reason to have the Forums divided into Forum Topics ~sighs~
Good Luck!!
Sapphy

Sapphy,
I think it's quite possible that mark123 was just looking for a little personal reassurance rather than a technical howto. (maybe I'm wrong) Of course he, or anyone, could use the advanced search feature and find all the ins and outs (yes, I know ;) ) of anal sex, but anticipation of a first time experience can be very nerve wracking, and I can easily see how someone would want a direct response from real people (even if they are virtual). Sometimes people want or need something, and don't quite know how to ask. He could just be saying, "Hey, somebody talk to me about this." I think we should consider that possibility.

Is it really so bad that someone brings up the topic of anal sex once again? After all, anal sex is really the ultimate culmination of an intimate male/male relationship. It's an act that is very difficult and awkward to approach or initiate. It only makes sense that guys, especially newbies like mark123, would want to talk about it, and to get reassurance and advice through direct feedback. That is exactly the sort of thing that bisexual.com is here to support. I think we should give the poor guy a break.

WC

[mark123]

Don't give yourself an enema. Also it's going to hurt.

I remember doing it my first time with a boyfriend (who was very thick) he knowing it sometimes leaves little chocolate treats had me do an enema first. I did so and we thought I was good to go.

We get into it and do it for a while and it's ok after getting over the initial feeling of my butthole being ripped open. (I cried but dealt with it ) So then he goes to pull out and a geyser of shit and water spews out of my ass completely out of my control and sprays all over him and the sheets.

WOW!
That's good info to have! Sounds like all hell broke loose!
Thanks for the advice!

[Sapphrodite]

WC and others: Of course he's looking for support and acceptance - I mean that's why where's all here! But the idea of posting the 25+ Anal links is more because many have expressed the idea of having topic headings underwhich everyone could post similar topics and not have to go through some 500+ topics to find other threads on the same topic.

And trust me, I like Anal as much as the next person... I was trying to be helpful by giving Mark, and anyone else who reads this thread, access to all the fun stuff on this topic in one neat-and-tidy posting.

Sapphy :bigrin:

PS: Oh! And the enema thing - it can also prepare you for anal sex! Be sure to wash and help loosen yourself there first, and warm the liquid. Empty half the container at a time (squatting in the tub works best), wait for about 30secs in an upright position, then sit on the toilet for about a minute, and repeat.

Strangely enough raising your arms above your head (like 'touchdown') then slowly bringing them back down to your sides will help expel any trapped water. It's best to do this whole procedure a few hours before sex and make several bathroom attempts to ensure you're good to go!

[elian]

I think the reason most men don't THINK they can have multiple orgasms is that most STRAIGHT guys don't like the idea of receiving anal sex.

Don't know your level of experience with guys, if this is your FIRST time with guy - or with this guy - you might want to wait for anal - depends on chemistry, time, number of partners you/he have had before, etc.

Everybody has to start somewhere but trust and patience mean a lot if you are inexperienced. Anal sex isn't fun when your PARTNER is an asshole..hopefully you are a good enough judge of character to to decide if that is the case before you put yourself in that position.

Use LOTS of lube, it's a bit uncomfortable to start because, well - to be honest the anus is designed to expel things from the body - so make sure you are empty FIRST - and then ignore the urge to go type of feeling Again, this is where learning to relax (physically and mentally) and having a high level of trust in your partner would be handy.

Depending on the mechanics of it and the shape of the body, you may want to try more than one position. Partner should go slow until things are working right - sometimes it's hard to convince an inexperienced top that it isn't a freakin' race...then again..sometimes it's hard for a partner to hold back too :)

For me, it isn't so much the physical feeling anyway - more of an emotional connection. Just about the time I thought to myself "I'm not really into this" I started to feel the OTHER feeling.. <evil grin>

As if you can't tell from the tone of this message I'm still not so sure I'm head over heels (literally) crazy about doing it on a regular basis - but it was a lot of fun at the time.

[dick8823]

There are some things that you should do:
1. Make sure your clean, take an enema before you meet.
2. First time use the doggie position.
3. Make sure your partner uses a condom and plenty of lube.
4. Go slow, slow penetration will lessen any pain.
5. Have partner use slow thrusts until you're use to the fullness.
6. If, during sex, you need more lube, apply it. Lube is your friend.
7. Relax and enjoy it.

[dafydd]

As of now I'm still an anal virgin. I've recently found and have been corresponding via e-mail with a bisexual male (top) and we seem to be getting along pretty well. Well anyways, I'm very excited and nervous as we're planning on meeting very soon. Can any body with "bottom" experience offer any advice for my first time? :tongue:



The most important one: Use a condom and plenty of lube.

d

[someotherguy]

Not everyone's anatomy is right for anal sex. Have him go in there first with his hand about halfway to the elbow (his), to check for obstructions and particularly sharp turns that would preclude intercourse. Tip: no wristwatch.

[anteak]

As one who has experienced anal sex many many times with many partners all I can say is, it is one of the most enjoyable thing one man can do to another. I learned early in life that I enjoyed having objects inside my ass. I loved the stretching of my sphincter, the full feeling I felt, later when I experienced a real cock and felt it pumping in and out till he finally shoved it in as far as it would go and I could feel his cock pulse as he unloaded deep inside me. I used to go to "Gay Bath's" and get fucked as often as I could, I learned to suck cock there also. For the purpose of getting the guy hard so he could fuck me. Most of my experiences took place prior to "Aids" and were unprotected. I loved seeing his cum drip out of my ass afterward. I eventually tried fisting which I enjoyed very much as a bottom. Been fisted by two men and two women. I loved it all. Would love to do it again.

[Bi_Druid]

Personal advice that I've found works for me and those I've been with:

- lots of lube if it's your first time (or you've not had it for a while and feel a bit tight)
- ALWAYS wear a condom!
- I find if the receiver is sat upright on he who is giving, then as a receiver you have far more control over how much goes in and how fast/slow, you have much better control over the pace of the act.
- take your time and savour the moment, don't rush these things. I found early in my practising that rushing anal or going straight into hard thrusting just hurts the receiver. Plus, taking it slow to start with at least is far more sensual.

P.S. - I do agree with the earlier point of sub dividing the forum threads into key sub groups. It would help make the forum easier to navigate somewhat, and tidier in appearance. I feel it would be a rather sensible and helpful idea, from a user's point of view at least.

[TidewaterVA1]

Best advice I can give, is show up for the meeting. The Norfolk, VA people have a bad habit of not being polite. :banghead:Most have no response at all, :mad:, if you loose your nerve be polite and tell the other person. I hope he is good for you, and you enjoy it.

[dafydd]

Not everyone's anatomy is right for anal sex. Have him go in there first with his hand about halfway to the elbow (his), to check for obstructions and particularly sharp turns that would preclude intercourse. Tip: no wristwatch.

You're kidding right?

d

[BiGuy97015]

As of now I'm still an anal virgin. I've recently found and have been corresponding via e-mail with a bisexual male (top) and we seem to be getting along pretty well. Well anyways, I'm very excited and nervous as we're planning on meeting very soon. Can any body with "bottom" experience offer any advice for my first time? :tongue:


Relaxation is everything.

[mark123]

I had my first anal experience a couple of weeks ago! I was definitely topped by a very dominant guy!
OMG! After I sucked him, he put on a condom, lubed up, bent me over my sofa and slammed his cock inside me! He didn't give me time to get use to it. I couldn't believe how sharp the intense pain felt at first but as he was fucking me the pain dissipated and started feeling really good.

[anteak]

I started anal when I was in HS. Had two friends each named Bob. I started with Bob G. because we were curious to know what it felt like to put our cocks in a tight warm place and stroke til we orgasmed. We enjoyed it and repeated it many times. I told Bob H about it and he was curious also. So I was getting fucked by two guys and returning the favor. The three of us never played together. What I'm trying to say is it can't be too difficult if three HS guys figured it out and did it often with no adverse effect it can't be too difficult. Lube is important. We used our mothers hair set gel as it was the slickest stuff we knew of. Would love to feel a stiff one shoved up there again.