New and unsure about being Bi

[Jadeite]

Ok please don't attack me for this.

I think I'm probably bisexual, but I've never been with or even had the opportunity to date a girl (I'm a girl btw). I've had boyfriends before but the relationships were just kinda ok. I know that I definitely find guys attractive and I've been very curious about and attacted to girls. I definitely feel more comfortable being around girls more. I don't know if I am bi or if my head is just messing with me. Help.

[thesea]

Just pay attention to how you feel..

When you see a pretty girl does your heart speed up? Does your tummy flip or your knickers burn? You can see where I'm going with this :bigrin:

Try flirting with girls, how does that feel? Do you feel like kissing them? Do you wonder what their hair smells like, how their skin feels?

If you wonder then go on some dates, kiss, flirt touch..how do you feel then?

Is all this girlyness making you happy? if so, do it more, take a deep breath and invite them home with you.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

I dont think you'd be attacked for this, Hon. :} Every person that is bi, or who is Bi Curious has these feelings at one time or another in their lives. Its a bit scary at first, and unsure. But, what you need to do is experiment slowly and easily, and see what comes from it. Find a girl that you are attracted to, and sort of slowly show and interest in her and see what he responce is. The key is slow and easy. Bull in a china shop accomplishes Nothing. :}
And if that doesnt work, then there are sites for bi and lesbian women to go to talk about their concerns and possibly meeting to talk about it. Where it leads from there is up to you.
Just be safe at All times, and discover yourself. ;)
Cat. ^..^

[still_shy]

I completely understand where you are coming from...For the last 10 years I just left the bi part of me blocked out. Only recently have I begun to discover how attracted I am to other women. And you're right, when you are missing out on a part of your sexuality, any sexual relationship is going to feel kind of blah. My husband and I have the most amazing sex but since we have beun to explore my sexuality a lot more, I have opened myself up to enjoying sex sooooo much more than I ever have before.

[Audioslave]

At the end of the day,its just a label anyway my friend. Dont get too hung up on it. Just enjoy yourself safely,whether its with a guy or a girl. Good luck.

[BI BOYTOY]

At the end of the day,its just a label anyway my friend. Dont get too hung up on it. Just enjoy yourself safely,whether its with a guy or a girl. Good luck.

i agree does your heart go filllder fladder does the butters flies in the tummy wake up?

[BI BOYTOY]

do you sometimes see a pretty girl and dam she hot.and get hot your self?

[davelaz]

Although I'm not a female, I know exactly where you are coming from. I've denied my bisexuality to myself for years, but am now beginning to realize that I AM attracted to men and women equally and there is no need to deny it to myself. Although I prefer to keep it secret from my wife (for personal reasons; long story!) I've told a select few and surprisingly they are not shocked but support me 100%. Anyway, if you are hesitant about making moves on someone your age, you might want to see if you can find an older, more experienced lesbian/bisexual woman with patience and time to be your teacher. Then, when you gain more and more confidence, you can hit on someone your own age. Good luck in your quest!

[onewhocares]

Hi Jadeite,

First welcome. Second NO one is going to say anthing but be supportive and understanding because we all have been there or know someone who has. Like all the people who have posted, just listen to your own heart and body....that will give you a good indication as to what is going on inside your body as well as your mind.

Belle

[*pan*]

hi, and welcome to bisexual.com, as for the question of being bi, who knows. but consider this, it's only natural for someone to relate more to the same sex especialy girls, i have been told by many woman that most men are assholes, so go figure, of course you would relate more with woman , you have more in common with them and they are probibly more aware of your feelings then men, but this dosent mean your bi, maby you just havent found the right guy yet one who would be your soul mate one who can relate with you when even soman cant, dont give up the search. and if you do happen to have sex with a woman and like it, just consider it another option in life that dosent restrain your sexual desires to only one sex. i always felt that bisexuality is the natural way of sex and that anything else is restrictive and not normal but just another rule made by man. being bisexual my self with equal energys of feminine and masculin i am able to sense and feel both sex's problems and feelings being empathetic towards both. it's part of the joys of both worlds. good luck and hope some of this helps. feel free to contact me and chat if you like. peace and blessings > pan /|\