A rant against the cruisers who can't read - feel free to ignore :)

[jedinudist]

OK - I just need to post this in the hopes that the individual in question will "get the message"!

First, my profile states quite clearly that I am NOT looking for "hook-ups".

I quote:
Please be aware that we are not swingers. I'm not interested in "hooking-up". I am interested in making real friends :) ". So? So today I open up my e-mail ad I receive a message from a person here that says this:

"I'm gonna be in Memphis on business next week and I was looking for a playmate on the 4th or 5th. Care to join me?"

Now, that alone is frustrating because this guy obviously either didn't read my profile or figured the no hook-up part just doesn't apply to him. What makes it worse is that I CAN'T REPLY!!! When I click the link in the e-mail to reply via Bisexual.com, I get a screen with this message on it:

"Sorry! That user has specified that they do not wish to receive emails. If you still wish to send an email to this user, please contact the administrator and they may be able to help."

I do not want to reply via my personal e-mail. If this person sends a message like that via Bisexual.com, I seriously do not want them to have the ability to e-mail me directly since they obviously either can not read or don't care.

My point?

If you want to contact someone - Please take a moment to READ their profile. If someone specifically states they are not interested in a particular thing, don't waste their time asking them to participate in it.

We are a wonderfully diverse group of people. Let's try to show each other some respect and consideration. Notice I didn't reveal this person's name - no need to. He knows who he is. I posted this in the hopes of fostering a small increase in awareness among the rest of us that we really do need to be a little nicer to each other.

Ahhhhhh . Ok, I'm all better now :)

[Tingly_Tickles]

This sucks I know it happens to me all the time that's why I changed my profile
to the way it is now.

It's not that I'm stuck up or anything I just prefer for someone to read a little
to understand who I am and what I want not just think they can get a booty
call any time of day or night when they feel the time is right for them.

When will people learn how to communicate like intellectuals.

[Skater Boy]

OK - I just need to post this in the hopes that the individual in question will "get the message"!

First, my profile states quite clearly that I am NOT looking for "hook-ups".

I quote:
Please be aware that we are not swingers. I'm not interested in "hooking-up". I am interested in making real friends :) ". So? So today I open up my e-mail ad I receive a message from a person here that says this:

"I'm gonna be in Memphis on business next week and I was looking for a playmate on the 4th or 5th. Care to join me?"

Now, that alone is frustrating because this guy obviously either didn't read my profile or figured the no hook-up part just doesn't apply to him. What makes it worse is that I CAN'T REPLY!!! When I click the link in the e-mail to reply via Bisexual.com, I get a screen with this message on it:

"Sorry! That user has specified that they do not wish to receive emails. If you still wish to send an email to this user, please contact the administrator and they may be able to help."

I do not want to reply via my personal e-mail. If this person sends a message like that via Bisexual.com, I seriously do not want them to have the ability to e-mail me directly since they obviously either can not read or don't care.

My point?

If you want to contact someone - Please take a moment to READ their profile. If someone specifically states they are not interested in a particular thing, don't waste their time asking them to participate in it.

We are a wonderfully diverse group of people. Let's try to show each other some respect and consideration. Notice I didn't reveal this person's name - no need to. He knows who he is. I posted this in the hopes of fostering a small increase in awareness among the rest of us that we really do need to be a little nicer to each other.

Ahhhhhh . Ok, I'm all better now :)


Er... ok. But seriously, I might be in Tennessee next week... let me know if you wanna party! :tongue: :tong: :cutelaugh

[shameless agitator]

You can probably send them a pm. While we're on the subject, ya wanna cyber?:bigrin:;)

[diB4u]

OK - I just need to post this in the hopes that the individual in question will "get the message"!

First, my profile states quite clearly that I am NOT looking for "hook-ups".

I quote:
Please be aware that we are not swingers. I'm not interested in "hooking-up". I am interested in making real friends :) ". So? So today I open up my e-mail ad I receive a message from a person here that says this:

"I'm gonna be in Memphis on business next week and I was looking for a playmate on the 4th or 5th. Care to join me?"

Now, that alone is frustrating because this guy obviously either didn't read my profile or figured the no hook-up part just doesn't apply to him. What makes it worse is that I CAN'T REPLY!!! When I click the link in the e-mail to reply via Bisexual.com, I get a screen with this message on it:

"Sorry! That user has specified that they do not wish to receive emails. If you still wish to send an email to this user, please contact the administrator and they may be able to help."

I do not want to reply via my personal e-mail. If this person sends a message like that via Bisexual.com, I seriously do not want them to have the ability to e-mail me directly since they obviously either can not read or don't care.

My point?

If you want to contact someone - Please take a moment to READ their profile. If someone specifically states they are not interested in a particular thing, don't waste their time asking them to participate in it.

We are a wonderfully diverse group of people. Let's try to show each other some respect and consideration. Notice I didn't reveal this person's name - no need to. He knows who he is. I posted this in the hopes of fostering a small increase in awareness among the rest of us that we really do need to be a little nicer to each other.

Ahhhhhh . Ok, I'm all better now :)



No i totally understand... I get privates in the chat looking for casual or one time hook ups. I said have you read my profile... No...

I mean ugh, come on it dont take a genius to read a person's profile just to see what they're about and what they want.


REAL Friends in the GLBT world are very important- I'm just begining to realise that, I've got good and lovely friends but there all straight, i want at least friends who understand what its like to be either bisexual or in my case pansexual.

jedinudist I agree with you wholeheartedly.

I'm sorry that you've had such a bad experience.

[DiamondDog]

They just want attention from you that's all.

I get requests from people for sex who I don't know anything about on here since they don't have pics, anything about themselves, or haven't written a profile or linked to a website with info about them and I just tell them sorry I'm not into having sex with strangers.

I have the things written in my profile on here and other sites that I'm not into and not to contact me about and I'll just delete messages asking for cyber/webcam/hook ups.

[Bloodflower]

Wow, some people are just so ignorant. You have every right to be annoyed. I don't know why they don't pay attention to the people they're cruising. *sigh* :rolleyes:

[BronzeBobby]

I'm sorry it's bothering you so much... but to be honest, I'm jealous! Nobody ever hits on me. Maybe you should count your blessings and take the hits as a compliment. There are many worse things that could happen to you (imagine how you'd feel if you weighed 300 pounds and had an incurable skin rash?) If you carry on too much about being hit on, you might end up sounding like a friend of mine, who earns $150,000 a year, who always complains about his long hours and stressful responsibilities, to friends who are unemployed or stuck working part-time! We make the rich unhappy guy buy us dinner whenever we can.

Bobby

[Bloodflower]

Nobody ever hits on me.

Hey hot stuff, what're you doing later? LOL Nobody hits on you? Bobby, I saw your pic & if I were looking, I'd totally be seriously hitting on you! :flag4:

[canuckotter]

I get random pickup attempts every couple months. Some more blatant than others. I mostly ignore them. It does make me wonder why I bother putting up my profile at all...

[BronzeBobby]

Hey hot stuff, what're you doing later? LOL Nobody hits on you? Bobby, I saw your pic & if I were looking, I'd totally be seriously hitting on you! :flag4:

LOL, Bloodflower -- "If I were looking" -- weep weep -- that's the story I always hear. Always the groosman, never the groom. :( Hope the weather in N Carolina is going well! :)

[Bloodflower]

LOL, Bloodflower -- "If I were looking" -- weep weep -- that's the story I always hear. Always the groosman, never the groom. :( Hope the weather in N Carolina is going well! :)

HAHA! Well, I'm female too. It looks like you're searching for MISTER Right! LOL Hope things in Cali are rockin'. :)

[FalconAngel]

We run into that problem all of the time.

Not so much here, but on other sites that we have profiles.

In one case, the problem of people not reading our profile first was so bad that we had to put, at the front of the profile in all caps "NO STRAIGHT MEN!!!" three times. in addition we also put in all caps that people with a blank profile would be ignored and that we would also ignore people from out of our area who are not going to be in our area on a frequent basis.
We have gotten very clear in our profiles what it is that we are looking for just to prevent people from getting the idea that we are looking for a hookup.
We still get guys from bf Egypt asking to add them to our friends list, but at least the straight guys don't bother us as much.

In our experience, there will always be the idiots out there that are either too stupid or too lazy to read a profile.

When a straight guy sends us a message that shows that they did not read our profile like we ask them to at the top of the profile, they usually get a message back that is equally disrespectful and reminds them of the importance of reading profiles first.

We have gotten a few messages from Bi guys who were out of our area, though, but almost every one of them said that they wished they were in our area and wished us luck in our search.

That we can respect.

[jedinudist]

Er... ok. But seriously, I might be in Tennessee next week... let me know if you wanna party! :tongue: :tong: :cutelaugh

ROTFLMAO!

[jedinudist]

We run into that problem all of the time.

Not so much here, but on other sites that we have profiles.

In one case, the problem of people not reading our profile first was so bad that we had to put, at the front of the profile in all caps "NO STRAIGHT MEN!!!" three times. in addition we also put in all caps that people with a blank profile would be ignored and that we would also ignore people from out of our area who are not going to be in our area on a frequent basis.
We have gotten very clear in our profiles what it is that we are looking for just to prevent people from getting the idea that we are looking for a hookup.
We still get guys from bf Egypt asking to add them to our friends list, but at least the straight guys don't bother us as much.

In our experience, there will always be the idiots out there that are either too stupid or too lazy to read a profile.

When a straight guy sends us a message that shows that they did not read our profile like we ask them to at the top of the profile, they usually get a message back that is equally disrespectful and reminds them of the importance of reading profiles first.

We have gotten a few messages from Bi guys who were out of our area, though, but almost every one of them said that they wished they were in our area and wished us luck in our search.

That we can respect.

I just took a leaf from your book and added something similar to mine. :)

[nothings5d]

REAL Friends in the GLBT world are very important- I'm just begining to realise that, I've got good and lovely friends but there all straight, i want at least friends who understand what its like to be either bisexual or in my case pansexual.

When I first started coming out to people, I had just told my parents a week earlier. I was riding alone in a car with a friend, and we were talking about relationships and I felt I could trust her, so I just said, "Please don't tell anyone but I'm bi." Her response was, "Don't tell anyone, but I am too."

So I got very lucky in finding someone in real life to talk to who is bi as well. Though now it's very hard to find a minute to talk to her without her boyfriend around. Those two are always together, and though it makes it harder to have someone to talk to she seems to be really happy, so I'm happy for her.

[bisexualinsocal]

When I first started coming out to people, I had just told my parents a week earlier. I was riding alone in a car with a friend, and we were talking about relationships and I felt I could trust her, so I just said, "Please don't tell anyone but I'm bi." Her response was, "Don't tell anyone, but I am too."

So I got very lucky in finding someone in real life to talk to who is bi as well. Though now it's very hard to find a minute to talk to her without her boyfriend around. Those two are always together, and though it makes it harder to have someone to talk to she seems to be really happy, so I'm happy for her.

Is she hot and did you nail her?

[DiamondDog]

Is she hot and did you nail her?

bisexinSoCal-How is he supposed to tell if a woman is interested in him? Unless she says so.