Being Bi and finding love.

[Summerlin1973]

I know in my heart of hearts that this topic has to have been posted on here dozens of times before. Either I'm totally retarded with my search skills... Or, well thats it, I'm a tard in general.

Like I tend to get super wordy and verbose, so I'm gonna just try and be direct or at least as direct as I can be.

I'm 34 years old, and I have been divorced for a little over a year now. I'm pretty cool with being single. I don't really feel an urgency to find a mate or spouse. But, eventually... I do want all those things. I definitely want to have children and a family at some point.

What's got me alarmingly concerned is, in a forum or venue away from Bisexual.com there seem to be relatively NO women who are into bisexual men. When I say into, I mean sexually excited by them as well as able to love them for who they are.

I'm an attractive, fit healthy man, and have no problem with meeting attractive women in straight venues. But I am completely mystified as to if the good looking, intellectual, and healthy (both spiritually, and physically) women actually exist.... Or is that such a rarity that it would just become more and more frustrating for me to attempt to seek out.

I think healthy relationships are deeply rooted in honesty, and I wouldn't ever want to be in a serious, adult, mature and long term relationship with a woman who didn't know everything about me. Yet disclosing my orientation like in the early stages of dating, aren't working. I'm sure if I got to know them better, and we developed a strong relationship/bond they'd be more likely to be accepting, but to me that's dishonest. Its all a twisted pretzel of a mess, and I wonder how other bi men deal with it, and what the female perspective is. Granted this site is generally bi friendly, but I'd love any feedback.

Like i said before, I'm sure there's tons of posts on here answering all my questions. But I am really poor at doing proper searches, and it seems like maybe a new thread is better anyhow.. So as to not hijack anyone elses.

Thank you to everyone for this amazing site.

[shameless agitator]

Well, I've generally found women to be okay with my orientation. Maybe you're meeting women in the wrong places? There have been a few who were put off, but not many. I'm all for coming out very early, as in on or before the first date. If they are going to have a problem with it, it's better to find out immediately & not waste anybody's time.

[IanGray]

I know in my heart of hearts that this topic has to have been posted on here dozens of times before. Either I'm totally retarded with my search skills... Or, well thats it, I'm a tard in general.

Like I tend to get super wordy and verbose, so I'm gonna just try and be direct or at least as direct as I can be.

I'm 34 years old, and I have been divorced for a little over a year now. I'm pretty cool with being single. I don't really feel an urgency to find a mate or spouse. But, eventually... I do want all those things. I definitely want to have children and a family at some point.

What's got me alarmingly concerned is, in a forum or venue away from Bisexual.com there seem to be relatively NO women who are into bisexual men. When I say into, I mean sexually excited by them as well as able to love them for who they are.

I'm an attractive, fit healthy man, and have no problem with meeting attractive women in straight venues. But I am completely mystified as to if the good looking, intellectual, and healthy (both spiritually, and physically) women actually exist.... Or is that such a rarity that it would just become more and more frustrating for me to attempt to seek out.

I think healthy relationships are deeply rooted in honesty, and I wouldn't ever want to be in a serious, adult, mature and long term relationship with a woman who didn't know everything about me. Yet disclosing my orientation like in the early stages of dating, aren't working. I'm sure if I got to know them better, and we developed a strong relationship/bond they'd be more likely to be accepting, but to me that's dishonest. Its all a twisted pretzel of a mess, and I wonder how other bi men deal with it, and what the female perspective is. Granted this site is generally bi friendly, but I'd love any feedback.

Like i said before, I'm sure there's tons of posts on here answering all my questions. But I am really poor at doing proper searches, and it seems like maybe a new thread is better anyhow.. So as to not hijack anyone elses.

Thank you to everyone for this amazing site.

Just a few lines to say that what your seeking is out there somewhere. I met a couple(she was straight and he was bi) whilst at college in the late 80s. He was fully open about being bi. So keep on searching. :)

[diB4u]

I know in my heart of hearts that this topic has to have been posted on here dozens of times before. Either I'm totally retarded with my search skills... Or, well thats it, I'm a tard in general.

Like I tend to get super wordy and verbose, so I'm gonna just try and be direct or at least as direct as I can be.

I'm 34 years old, and I have been divorced for a little over a year now. I'm pretty cool with being single. I don't really feel an urgency to find a mate or spouse. But, eventually... I do want all those things. I definitely want to have children and a family at some point.

What's got me alarmingly concerned is, in a forum or venue away from Bisexual.com there seem to be relatively NO women who are into bisexual men. When I say into, I mean sexually excited by them as well as able to love them for who they are.

I'm an attractive, fit healthy man, and have no problem with meeting attractive women in straight venues. But I am completely mystified as to if the good looking, intellectual, and healthy (both spiritually, and physically) women actually exist.... Or is that such a rarity that it would just become more and more frustrating for me to attempt to seek out.

I think healthy relationships are deeply rooted in honesty, and I wouldn't ever want to be in a serious, adult, mature and long term relationship with a woman who didn't know everything about me. Yet disclosing my orientation like in the early stages of dating, aren't working. I'm sure if I got to know them better, and we developed a strong relationship/bond they'd be more likely to be accepting, but to me that's dishonest. Its all a twisted pretzel of a mess, and I wonder how other bi men deal with it, and what the female perspective is. Granted this site is generally bi friendly, but I'd love any feedback.

Like i said before, I'm sure there's tons of posts on here answering all my questions. But I am really poor at doing proper searches, and it seems like maybe a new thread is better anyhow.. So as to not hijack anyone elses.

Thank you to everyone for this amazing site.



Awww sweetie- well Let me rest your minds that there are women who love bisexual men- I love bi and gay men. Just is, and not always in a sexual way. I like seeing two men hold hands- it feels right and well i have had this soppy smile on my face and well you know.. its cute.

Honesty and respect and trustwothiness are very very important qualities to have in general, and for any prospective mates to have.

I do know what your saying, but try not to give up hope. I am not by anyones standards attractive, nor sexy...(well my standards, and some to some!)

:eek:

Sometimes though I've found that bisexuality as opposed to homosexuality has to be done on the quiet.

I more than anything want to have 3 relationships at once- if that is at all possible- considering I dont do 'relationships'. I want a bisexual man in my life as my partner, boyfriend, lover and console.

The other one would be more for him- i want him to have his gay husband.

I also want to have a Transexual woman. She would be the femine arm of who I am... Kinda like a circel. A united front. She would be very womanly, pretty, soft in features and attitude but a monster in bed. Cough. She would be my friend, my lover, my soul.

As long as you try and search for what you want- never give up on your goals for oneday you might've got them in your grasp.


Happy searching.:bigrin:

[someotherguy]

There is more acceptance of and understanding of bisexuality among educated people than uneducated. That narrows the field. Large population centers are more accepting of sexual diversity than small towns. That narrows the field. By far the most important single trait in selecting mates that women have is money, and that of course narrows the field quite a bit. Being tall would help. Then at last there is the psychology of wanting the best. Women are shoppers and they want the best. This means that 98% of women want the "best" 2% of men. Being bisexual is not an option in that bracket. So what you will need to do is manage a sub-standard relationship with a woman who has accepted her need to "settle for" a less-than-best man. It helps if you can offer her a trade. Find something about her that she desperately needs to be accepted about, and in turn she might accept your sexual orientation.

[sdnaustin]

I understand the feeling, I went through it years ago, and when I met my wife, I thought she understood...but because I only hinted at it, she really didn't.

So now after years of marriage and a kid, the truth is out, and she wasn't happy to hear it...but we are coming to terms, maybe she will be one that is accepting. She's always liked gay men, she just thought she found a gay man that was really straight...and I burst her bubble.

[bdbaker3000]

I dont think i can really offer any advice. I told my wife before we got married, and i agreed to be faithfull to her only. Thought she accepted it only to find out later when she found bi porn on the computer, that she wasn't at all. Now it's used as a weapon. Just be sure that they are really cool with it.

[TaylorMade]

There is more acceptance of and understanding of bisexuality among educated people than uneducated. That narrows the field. Large population centers are more accepting of sexual diversity than small towns. That narrows the field. By far the most important single trait in selecting mates that women have is money, and that of course narrows the field quite a bit. Being tall would help. Then at last there is the psychology of wanting the best. Women are shoppers and they want the best. This means that 98% of women want the "best" 2% of men. Being bisexual is not an option in that bracket. So what you will need to do is manage a sub-standard relationship with a woman who has accepted her need to "settle for" a less-than-best man. It helps if you can offer her a trade. Find something about her that she desperately needs to be accepted about, and in turn she might accept your sexual orientation.

Oh for the love of. . .There are alot of women here with bi male partners. . .did they settle?

I'm looking for a bi male partner, am I settling?

This message is probably the last thing Summerlin needs to hear. There are good women that are open enough to accept a different type of man out there...believe me.

*Taylor*

[Summerlin1973]

Haha. I'm fully aware that a woman who commits to a serious relationship with a bisexual man is definitely not "settling" for anything, as well knowing the relationship wouldn't be "sub-standard." I sincerely didn't mean anything negative

Anyhow, thanks to everyone for the replies. I've just come to the conclusion that sexual preferance, sexual fantasies/desires, and without a doubt sexual orientation must be talked about and discussed openly early in the courting stages of a relationship. My theory is that once you've already spent some time in a monogomous relationship, and then spring being bisexual on your mate... Well, the odds are stacked up against you. Sure, if she really loves you and wants to make things work there's a chance she'll be accepting. Hell, there's even the possibility that it could turn her on and spice things up. More likely than not however, there is a solid possibility that she wont be overly pleased with A. you being bisexual, and B. you not disclosing this to her MUCH sooner.

This is only my opinion, but I think I'm going to use it as my standard now when dating.

I'm an attractive, fit healthy man, and have no problem with meeting attractive women in straight venues. But I am completely mystified as to if the good looking, intellectual, and healthy (both spiritually, and physically) women actually exist.... Or is that such a rarity that it would just become more and more frustrating for me to attempt to seek out.

I realized I left something out in that paragraph. The second sentence should have read "but I am completely mystified as to if the good looking, intellectual, and healthy (both spiritually and physically) women - who happen to like or be turned on by bisexual men actually exist.

Probably over looked that in my hasty first post on Bisexual.com !

Thank you everyone for the responses. The feedback here is priceless, and clearly shows a level of understanding that the masses have yet to catch up to. It's genuinely appreciated.

[gfofbiguy]

There is more acceptance of and understanding of bisexuality among educated people than uneducated. That narrows the field. Large population centers are more accepting of sexual diversity than small towns. That narrows the field. By far the most important single trait in selecting mates that women have is money, and that of course narrows the field quite a bit. Being tall would help. Then at last there is the psychology of wanting the best. Women are shoppers and they want the best. This means that 98% of women want the "best" 2% of men. Being bisexual is not an option in that bracket. So what you will need to do is manage a sub-standard relationship with a woman who has accepted her need to "settle for" a less-than-best man. It helps if you can offer her a trade. Find something about her that she desperately needs to be accepted about, and in turn she might accept your sexual orientation.

I am the str8 woman in a relationship with a bi man. I certainly do NOT feel that I have had to "settle for" a less-than-best man. I haven't had to "settle" for anything with him. He is the best man I have ever been with, and I would not trade him for anyone.

Summerlin1973, my b/f and I met online through a personals site and he told me, while we were chatting, that he was bi, before we met face to face. He told me so I would have an "out", because, as you said, many women do not want a bi man as a partner. However, I still wanted to meet him, and I am very, very happy that I did. We will have been together for 2 years in March, and have been living together for over 1 year now. I do appreciate his honesty of telling me at the beginning, even before we met, that he was bi. Honesty is priceless in a relationship.

We women who like/love our bi men are out there...maybe difficult to find, but you will find one.

[DiamondDog]

There is more acceptance of and understanding of bisexuality among educated people than uneducated. That narrows the field. Large population centers are more accepting of sexual diversity than small towns. That narrows the field. By far the most important single trait in selecting mates that women have is money, and that of course narrows the field quite a bit. Being tall would help. Then at last there is the psychology of wanting the best. Women are shoppers and they want the best. This means that 98% of women want the "best" 2% of men. Being bisexual is not an option in that bracket. So what you will need to do is manage a sub-standard relationship with a woman who has accepted her need to "settle for" a less-than-best man. It helps if you can offer her a trade. Find something about her that she desperately needs to be accepted about, and in turn she might accept your sexual orientation.

That's also not always true.

I've lived in major cities and in small rural towns and the small rural towns were A LOT more accepting of sexual orientations that were other than heterosexual more than major cities are.

Here's an example in small towns I've kissed and held hands with men in public in broad daylight and nobody cares but if I did this in a large city aside from certain bars or sections of the city people would definatley care and I'd risk being beaten up.

[Azrael]

That's also not always true.

I've lived in major cities and in small rural towns and the small rural towns were A LOT more accepting of sexual orientations that were other than heterosexual more than major cities are.

Here's an example in small towns I've kissed and held hands with men in public in broad daylight and nobody cares but if I did this in a large city aside from certain bars or sections of the city people would definatley care and I'd risk being beaten up.

I don't disagree, per se. Lemme put it this way. It depends on which major city. Tampa and or St. Pete don't hold a candle to DC in terms of population. I live near Tampa. Laurel, MD and the DC Metro area are basically my second home. Once you get about fifteen minutes east of Tampa, you're back in the south :cowboy: (DISCLAIMER, my Mom's side is from New Orleans, not knocking the south.)
That being said, I feel a little safer in DC, as insane as it sounds. Up there it's less of an issue .
This happened here:
http://rightsforall.meetup.com/93/boards/thread/1937222
Whatchaguhdo?

[RockGardener]

Our situation is actually reversed. My boyfriend knew I was bi before we ever met because it was in my profile (on a dating site). I had no idea about him. We talked for two months before we met and then went out for four months before he started hinting at being curious. After going out a few more times, I got suspicious that it was not just a curiosity. I asked him point blank about his MM history, and he told me. So, I didn't know I was getting a bi man, I just got lucky. :love1:

Rock

[ambi53mm]

Within the first few dates my wife revealed that she was bi…..two years later and with great reluctance on my part I revealed that I was more than curious and related my history of exploration to her….it was our honeymoon.
Fear of rejection played a big part but was not the sole reason for my silence…I was and am still infatuated with this woman and we’ve been married for 6years come next month…It was more a matter of the fluctuations and to a large part my own ignorance of my own sexuality.. “bisexuality”. My attention wasn’t directed towards other sexual partners and how I might or might not feel about my sexual nature in some distant future…my attention was totally on her….all of her…not just her sexual orientation.
I can understand why some think it’s a good ideal to be out from the start…and why others feel it’s better to wait until all those other aspects that go into developing a relationship are discovered. I don’t believe there’s any wrong way or right way…just what you’re comfortable with and when you feel the relevance to all other things have been considered and what’s in the best interest of the relationship.
We’ve recently met and befriended a couple who have been together married for over 18 years….just now are they revealing and discussing their own sexual curiosities towards same sex…and they have the love, respect and history to go there now at this time in their lives.
Sexuality within any relationship is important but it’s not the most important part of a relationship…and if it is…good luck to you when you hit 80…or if one of you is unable to have sex anymore.
Being open and honest is absolutely a major factor in building trust within a relationship…but sometimes timing plays a big part as well…be as honest as you can afford to be in the moment….because the moment is all we have for now.

Ambi:)

[onewhocares]

Well I am the straight wife of a bi man. He was the first and only man I made love with prior to getting married. He did tell me that he had been with other men before we were married, our dear friend and best man as a matter of fact. Looking back it was never an issues, well the first few years I did wonder if I was enough for him.

In the end, eighteen or so years latter circumstances arrived at US wanting to have a man in our lives. We I have met some of the best friends on this site, some are going to be in our lives forever some are lovers. We came to this site really to find a friend with benefits for hubby, but I found a whole new world. Who knew back all those years ago that I bi man ( I really did not even know what that term meant to be honest) would marry a woman who loved to have men around. I found I much adore seeing and being with two men rather than seeing a couple, who knew. We seem to be a perfect match in that department.

I can tell you with out question Bi Men are a most wonderful breed of men. Open, adventurous, caring, thoughtful; not that straight men are not, but I seem to find myself delighted to be in their company. I guess I just have been so so lucky to meet so many from this site who give the rest of the members here such a great reputation.

Just an aside.....about the women who love bi men. Now this is somewhat a generalization, but the women that I have met on this site are some of the strongest women I have ever known. Open minded, very strong and confident women who love their partners and who choose to be here and get to know like minded women. I am finding out that not every woman is able or willing to stand by and live with a man who desires another man...there are inherent issues but it is a tribute to those ladies ( or men of bi women for that matter also) who know a diamond in the traditional rough.

Keep looking you will find the right lady for you....or like my husband did...happened to find a woman who did not even realize just how much she adored men....lots of them. I work with all men and they consider me one of their buddies, like many of the men here. I am most honored to be a friend to them.

Belle

[StashaNsam]

We think it might be helpful to look at the "bisexual" issue from a slightly different perspective. What if "bi" is removed from the discussion. Then it comes down to a relationship which is all about monogamy or having other sex partners.

It's a common topic which comes up in bi chat rooms, a married person is distressed that their mate won't accept or is kept in the dark about his or her bisexual curiousity or desires. But it's really about being "faithful" to an exclusive relationship upon which it was built. Non-bisexual couples have to confront feelings of being sexually aroused or desire to another person. The issue is, what will that individual decide to do in the context of a relationship which was founded on exclusivity. Will they remain faithful or will they cheat.

If two people started out by discussing their relationship on a non-exclusive setting - "If we get married, I would like us to agree that we will continue to have other sexual partners" - then that would be a much more honest and healthy beginning point, regardless if those other partners were the same or the opposite sex. We would guess, that many potential relationships would never even develop past that one point of agreement. If it progresses, then the second issue might center around the issue of emotional involvement with another person. "Its just SEX, I'm not going to fall in love the the other person!"

In bi-chat rooms, we often hear of a husband explain that he is on the down low because his wife would be shocked to find out that he is even bi curious. We often point out that it's first a matter of being sexually faithful before it's an issue of bisexuality. Of course, we won't be foolish enought to believe that some spouses would also be negative because of the increase chances of AIDS or STDs as well as the age old prejudices toward homosexuality, but first its an issue of fidelity.

We would be curious on how others see this point of view.

"Two roads diverged in a woods, and I, I took the road less traveled by. And, that has made all the difference." R. Frost

Lovingly, Stasha & Sam

[Summerlin1973]

Well I am the straight wife of a bi man. He was the first and only man I made love with prior to getting married. He did tell me that he had been with other men before we were married, our dear friend and best man as a matter of fact. Looking back it was never an issues, well the first few years I did wonder if I was enough for him.

In the end, eighteen or so years latter circumstances arrived at US wanting to have a man in our lives. We I have met some of the best friends on this site, some are going to be in our lives forever some are lovers. We came to this site really to find a friend with benefits for hubby, but I found a whole new world. Who knew back all those years ago that I bi man ( I really did not even know what that term meant to be honest) would marry a woman who loved to have men around. I found I much adore seeing and being with two men rather than seeing a couple, who knew. We seem to be a perfect match in that department.

I can tell you with out question Bi Men are a most wonderful breed of men. Open, adventurous, caring, thoughtful; not that straight men are not, but I seem to find myself delighted to be in their company. I guess I just have been so so lucky to meet so many from this site who give the rest of the members here such a great reputation.

Just an aside.....about the women who love bi men. Now this is somewhat a generalization, but the women that I have met on this site are some of the strongest women I have ever known. Open minded, very strong and confident women who love their partners and who choose to be here and get to know like minded women. I am finding out that not every woman is able or willing to stand by and live with a man who desires another man...there are inherent issues but it is a tribute to those ladies ( or men of bi women for that matter also) who know a diamond in the traditional rough.

Keep looking you will find the right lady for you....or like my husband did...happened to find a woman who did not even realize just how much she adored men....lots of them. I work with all men and they consider me one of their buddies, like many of the men here. I am most honored to be a friend to them.

Belle

Thank you for the kind words. I'm 100% positive about when the right time to disclose my bisexuality is. There's not question at all (for me personally) that it needs to happen very early on, if not sooner. That part I'm confident about.

I believe she's out there. I'll just patiently go about my life, and be grateful for the day I finally meet her. There's lots to accomplish in the meantime. And time's a wastin.. Thanks everyone for the great posts on this. It is so very appreciated.

[lonelygirlintx]

They DO exist and I am one of them. I am sorry you are having a hard time finding one, but then again, so am I. I need more friends in my life and I have tried to find either gay or bi guys, but they just obviously aren't in Texas! I need some help too.:(

[Ninnian]

:eek: Im more of a freak than I thought?!?!

Lessee... Im an intelligent, thoughtful bisexual woman who may not be the most attractive, but who works out doing martial arts 6 hours a week. I found my husband while working in a "mans world" that was in a rural area. I think he's HOT , even tho he's 3 inches shorter than I am (Im alil over 5'8). When I met him, he definetly didnt have lotsa money, tho he DOES have dreamy hazel eyes. Oh wait, he didnt have a cool car, he had a Nissan pick-up.
Some while after we were together and maried , living and loving in our rural paradise... we came out to each other. We're both bi! We're both thoughtful of being polyfidelitous. Go figure! So many striked against him, and yet I still found him irresistable!. We've been together for about 18 years. sheeeeeesh. 2% of teh men, my arse.

and Ambi55?.. Woman like us Love to hear men liek you say such sweet things about the Love of thier life. Thanks for letting us hear you say that about your relationship! yay ya'll!

Im also glad to se ethat summerlin has become comfortable with just what HE thinks he needs to do to start a relationship off openly. Is it what I woudl do?.. No.. but then again, Im not him! YAY, Summerlin!

[NYRangersFan]

ok yea i so didn't read all the replies lol.... but I love BI and gay men... i'm bi myself involved with a bi guy too.... i love watching two men make love... it's hot as hell... I was raised open minded and i guess my sexual mind was too cause I think if you are lucky enough to find someone that makes you happy then you should be with them no matter their gender. but yea I know a few girls that love it like me and a few that say it doens't turn them on but it's whatever...everyone has their own opinion. but long story short... i love bi guys :P:bipride:

[Summerlin1973]

ok yea i so didn't read all the replies lol.... but I love BI and gay men... i'm bi myself involved with a bi guy too.... i love watching two men make love... it's hot as hell... I was raised open minded and i guess my sexual mind was too cause I think if you are lucky enough to find someone that makes you happy then you should be with them no matter their gender. but yea I know a few girls that love it like me and a few that say it doens't turn them on but it's whatever...everyone has their own opinion. but long story short... i love bi guys :P:bipride:

Thank you! Me too!!!

[sometimesitbethatway]

oops I think I stole your thread topic.. guess I am bad at searching for old topic as well. But I suppose we are in the same boat.
From what I hear, we should just be ourselves and relax. Love will come if it's the right person...

[Bluebiyou]

When it happens it happens.
As I've said a million times before:
YOU HAVE NO CHOICE OVER WHO OR WHAT YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH. IT EITHER HAPPENS OR IT DOESN'T.

Being open, meeting people, and talking, are essential ingredients in finding someone you fall in love with.
These things can also get you in trouble, all the way to deadly trouble.
So how do you want to live your life? Your life is your canvas to paint.
Do you want to 'cover your ass' and not get hurt?
Or are you willing to take a risk and find love... love that only a lucky few realize in life?
Your choice!
:)
Best wishes and good luck!

[Summerlin1973]

oops I think I stole your thread topic.. guess I am bad at searching for old topic as well. But I suppose we are in the same boat.
From what I hear, we should just be ourselves and relax. Love will come if it's the right person...


Not sure about you, but for me personally finding love is hasn't been difficult at all in the past. However.. I'm looking for a good looking, physically fit, clean, intelligent and open minded woman. Even this is not all that hard to do, especially here in Vegas. Of course, add "is bisexual and into bi men" into the pre-req... It goes downhill fast.

I actually have found someone, and turns out I've known her for a long time. Just wasn't comfy telling her about my orientation until very recently. I'm hoping the general cliche that there's someone for everyone is in fact true!

Good luck to you too.

[gfofbiguy]

Not sure about you, but for me personally finding love is hasn't been difficult at all in the past. However.. I'm looking for a good looking, physically fit, clean, intelligent and open minded woman. Even this is not all that hard to do, especially here in Vegas. Of course, add "is bisexual and into bi men" into the pre-req... It goes downhill fast.

I actually have found someone, and turns out I've known her for a long time. Just wasn't comfy telling her about my orientation until very recently. I'm hoping the general cliche that there's someone for everyone is in fact true!

Good luck to you too.

I was wondering if it is necessary for her to be bisexual as well? I'm completely str8 and my b/f is bi, and like I stated earlier he told me before we met face to face that he was bi, and I was fine with it and still wanted to meet him and here we are, 2 years later, still together and still very happy. Good luck to you with your new "someone"!

[Summerlin1973]

I was wondering if it is necessary for her to be bisexual as well? I'm completely str8 and my b/f is bi, and like I stated earlier he told me before we met face to face that he was bi, and I was fine with it and still wanted to meet him and here we are, 2 years later, still together and still very happy. Good luck to you with your new "someone"!

I'm not sure if its necessary fer to be bi or not. I am turned on by and attracted to bi women, so it would just seem to make sense. But no, I do not feel that its entirely necessary. Maybe that could just be a wish list item?

[gfofbiguy]

I'm not sure if its necessary fer to be bi or not. I am turned on by and attracted to bi women, so it would just seem to make sense. But no, I do not feel that its entirely necessary. Maybe that could just be a wish list item?

:) I think most men are...LOL I'm sure my b/f wishes I were bi, but I'm not and I can't change my orientation any more than he can change his. :rolleyes: His orientation isn't all that he is, it's just a part of him...but I love all of him.

I don't want to tell you what to have on your list or what to exclude or have on a "wish" list, I was just curious if that was a prerequisite for you, that she needs to be bi as well.

I think being honest with someone at the beginning is best, at least it was for me...you can weed out ones that would not accept that part of you and not waste either their time or your time. :2cents:

[Nick_bi]

I told my wife (long before she was my wife) a few months into our relationship that I was bi. She's never had a problem with it, and in fact, was kinda "oh, is that all" when I told her.

[Summerlin1973]

:) I think most men are...LOL I'm sure my b/f wishes I were bi, but I'm not and I can't change my orientation any more than he can change his. :rolleyes: His orientation isn't all that he is, it's just a part of him...but I love all of him.

I don't want to tell you what to have on your list or what to exclude or have on a "wish" list, I was just curious if that was a prerequisite for you, that she needs to be bi as well.

I think being honest with someone at the beginning is best, at least it was for me...you can weed out ones that would not accept that part of you and not waste either their time or your time. :2cents:

Thank you!

[sometimesitbethatway]

Not sure about you, but for me personally finding love is hasn't been difficult at all in the past. However.. I'm looking for a good looking, physically fit, clean, intelligent and open minded woman. Even this is not all that hard to do, especially here in Vegas. Of course, add "is bisexual and into bi men" into the pre-req... It goes downhill fast.

I actually have found someone, and turns out I've known her for a long time. Just wasn't comfy telling her about my orientation until very recently. I'm hoping the general cliche that there's someone for everyone is in fact true!

Good luck to you too.

Well, I was in a LTR for 7 years of my life right out of high school. So my love-life was easy until it ended. Now the chicks that are into me are just not of my standards. So I am already a picky person, that's why I am so worried that out of the small number of chicks I would consider, there would be one in there who is accepting of my bisexuality. But, I haven't been sweating it lately. I figure this is 2008 and there is no "normal" white picket fences type scenarios anymore. I think the world is at the start of accepting REALITY. So... weirdness is only normal now-a-days. I'd rather be honest up-front. I have hope and I have hope for you as well.
Good luck to you too