Am I Bi?

[trapezeflyby]

Or just big-time kinky? Only months before I hit 50, a long-term on-again, off-again urge has resurfaced, and this time it isn't passing. I want to blow a man. I have experienced this desire periodically since my early 20s, but never acted on it. The twist is that I'm not at all romantically/emotionally attracted to men. Nor am I interested in the type of romantic behaviour with a man that would typically culminate in a sex act. Other than this quirk, I have no gay proclivities at atll (that I'm aware of ). So, you folks are the experts. What do you think?

I am currently living with a sexually liberal woman. We have what I expect is, given our age, a reasonably good sex life, part of which includes pushing boundaries. We've discussed my fantasy of giving a guy head, and she's receptive to participating in some way. However, it also troubles her, as she has personal friends who spent most their adult lives in hetero relationships, only to "discover" their gayness and abandon their long-term partners. Anyway, I digress . . . .

[FSJeepguy]

Sounds like it to me, you want to give a guy a BJ (Ilove doing that) then you're well on your way to bi.
:2cents:

[jazzer]

I think you are ready to try a MMF threesome to satisfy your desire to play with and suck another man's penis, but in the presence of a woman. From what you say I think your partner may enjoy watching you and will love being pleasured by two men. I didn't have my first MMF threesome until I was 59 and loved it, just sorry I didn't try it sooner.
I enjoy men sexually but have absolutely no desire to leave my wife to live with another guy and I feel sure you will be the same.
I have lived and worked with men all my life and never felt an attraction towards them unless I know for sure that my feelings will be reciprocated.
Whatever you decide, discuss it with your partner and explain exactly how you feel and let her explain to you exactly how she feels, your relationship may depend on it. If either party feels uncomfortable about a threesome, it will never work. You must also feel comfortable with seeing your wife having sex with another man.
Are you bi? Does it really matter as long as everyone is happy and having fun?

:2cents: :bibounce:

[cchalmer]

I call myself bi.....I do enjoy having a man involved in my sexual activities. Where I guess I would compare myself to you is I have no desire to be with a man alone. I enjoy anything as long as it is happening with a woman there as well....even if all she does is watch. I have a very good friendship with a couple and the 3 of us play regularly. I also hang out with the guy and when his g/f is not around neither of us has any feelings at all about wanting to have sex, but when his g/f is present......the sky's the limit.

Are you bi???? I would say yes simply because of your desires however you may want to act on them. I would call you a lucky man that your partner is willing to help you fulfill your fantasy.

My advice is to go for it....have a good time with your wife and another man. Any door that you don't open just means another smack in the face and a lot of what if's and I wish i had.......

[wellred]

I suspect that you may benefit from focusing on enjoying your sexuality and reassuring your commitment to your woman, rather than dwelling on concern about labels -- such as "bisexuality" and "gay".

Best wishes,
Red

[cchalmer]

I suspect that you may benefit from focusing on enjoying your sexuality and reassuring your commitment to your woman, rather than dwelling on concern about labels -- such as "bisexuality" and "gay".

Best wishes,
Red


Well said Red.......You can't get any simpler than that. Labels are a thing society has forced upon us and in truth they don't really mean a damn thing.

[bigregory]

I dont find many men sexy.
But still they fill my dreams.
Yes your just as BI as the rest of us.
Be proud .
Enjoy life.
LIVE

[Bi-ten]

Amen to the last three replies!

Have a great time:)

[jordok]

Firstly - Yes you are bi but then again I reckon 90% of the population are.

Regarding the 3 way MMF theme, this is the no 1 fantasy amongst bi blokes that I chat to. I also wonder as you mentioned that your lady was 'sexually liberated' whether you use a lot of porn together including inevitably MMF movies. Liberation leads to experimentation -

Is it possible to watch MMF and not fantasise about getting involved?

Its interesting to wonder whether its all just about liberation. Fundamentally we're all just horny getting over our upbringing and society's unrealistic expectations of how we should live.

[bim4mmf]

Hello,

first of all i think you are bi curious. Its very hard to reprress your urges, and you are lucky to be living with a woman who seems to be accepting of this somewhat. I am not so lucky. I have been with men before, but never a MMF. for me there is no emotional attachment and would never kiss another guy. but just sex is different, i know it may sound strange, but there are many of us like this. We just need men for that one thing. For me nothing would ever replacew women in my life. Good lucck to you

[codybear3]

If you have the opportunity to give a blowjob, do it and don't worry about if you are on your way to being bisexual, on your way to being gay, or on your way to disneyland. If the only enjoyment you get from a man is giving a bj, so be it. If other things develope and you have no problems with it, then maybe you can say you "are" on your way to being "labeled" bisexual. In the end, explore and find out more about this "urge" you have. Just be safe in your exploration and best of luck to you..... :2cents: :paw: :paw:

P.S. - Then again...Yeah, you might just be "big-time kinky"... :bigrin:

[donie]

You might be "bi" in the practical sence of the world if you blow a guy but I feel true bisexualism inplies you can actuallu be attracted to, love and have sex with both genders. There is always a preference for one gender over the other'



Or just big-time kinky? Only months before I hit 50, a long-term on-again, off-again urge has resurfaced, and this time it isn't passing. I want to blow a man. I have experienced this desire periodically since my early 20s, but never acted on it. The twist is that I'm not at all romantically/emotionally attracted to men. Nor am I interested in the type of romantic behaviour with a man that would typically culminate in a sex act. Other than this quirk, I have no gay proclivities at atll (that I'm aware of ). So, you folks are the experts. What do you think?

I am currently living with a sexually liberal woman. We have what I expect is, given our age, a reasonably good sex life, part of which includes pushing boundaries. We've discussed my fantasy of giving a guy head, and she's receptive to participating in some way. However, it also troubles her, as she has personal friends who spent most their adult lives in hetero relationships, only to "discover" their gayness and abandon their long-term partners. Anyway, I digress . . . .