still bisexual?

[IanGray]

I was watching 2 pints of larger recently and the actress who plays Donna was wearing a revealing costume which reminded me that i'm attracted to both men and women. it is easy to think you are 100 percent gay when you spend your time chasing men. Any thoughts on this folks? :tongue:

[blackout]

I was watching 2 pints of larger recently and the actress who plays Donna was wearing a revealing costume which reminded me that i'm attracted to both men and women. it is easy to think you are 100 percent gay when you spend your time chasing men. Any thoughts on this folks? :tongue:

Well I guess you aren't gay.

[alaskacouple]

My thoughts are that very few people actually fit on the extreme ends of the sexuality spectrum.

I'm sure you're familiar with a normal distribution curve (a bell curve). In most distributions there are a few points that lie to either extreme with a fairly even distribution of variables working into the middle from both ends. In regards to human sexuality, that translates into a minority of 100% straight on one extreme and another minority of 100% homosexual on the other - while in the rest of the curve you would find what is aptly termed bisexual.

In our society it seems that people tend to label themselves with either 'straight' or 'gay' by default. Sounds like it might be time for you to broaden your horizons a bit.

[BiphobiaFighter]

In 2003-2005, I was attracted to men and women just about equally. It made me realise that I'm bi.

Through most of 2006, it was a woman that I liked. It made me wonder if I was, in fact, straight. Porn, however, showed me it's not the case.

Through most of 2007, it was a man that I liked. It made me wonder if I was, in fact, gay. Porn, however, showed me it's not the case.

I feel that I'm just about equally attracted to all sexes but it's just that the quality of the representatives of the sexes in my life determine my attractions toward them at a particular time. I'm sure that it's not my sexuality changing that causes me to think the quality is changing because when the people in my life change, my attractions to each sex do too. It has caused me to be "pretty-much" straight and "pretty-much" gay at different times but my sexuality is 100% bi. :)

At the moment, I'm just about in the middle.

[cockNballs]

I was watching 2 pints of larger recently and the actress who plays Donna was wearing a revealing costume which reminded me that i'm attracted to both men and women. it is easy to think you are 100 percent gay when you spend your time chasing men. Any thoughts on this folks? :tongue:

I know a lot of Lesbian and Gay Identified people who still find the opposite sex attractive. You can label yourself however you wish.

I know Lesbians who sometimes fuck men...very rarely but they do.
I know Gay men who like women's tits, and also sometimes fuck them

They still call themselves gay.

We are so stuck in a binary system of labeling people...
Be whoever you want to be, and if that is a gay male who likes tities, then so be it!

You are what YOU say you are. And fuck you freinds or others who try to put any label on you!

[nothings5d]

My thoughts are that very few people actually fit on the extreme ends of the sexuality spectrum.

When I told my older brother that I was bisexual he just looked at me and said, "I think most people are really. I would have explored my feelings in that area but the appeal of the family dynamic stopped me."

This came as a complete surprise to me, he's married and has a kid and has never shown any sign of liking men at all. His reasons kind of hit a sore point though. The whole, "You can't have kids if you're gay" thing. I don't really care for that concept, but at least he found someone he really loves and who loves him just as much.


We are so stuck in a binary system of labeling people...

Of course we are. Humans like things to fit into nice neat groups, it's just how our brains work. Sometimes makes me wonder if god wasn't a computer programmer though.

There are 10 kinds of people in the world. Those who understand binary, and those who don't.

[MaybeNextTimeBi]

It is up to you on how you want to label yourself if anything at all. I've always boiled it down if you enjoy it do it. I have always found myself attracted to women so women are for romance and guys just for fun. With me, my first sexual encounter was with a guy and I tend to look back and wonder if it was just easier but I'm sure we all have different stories.

[truelove201]

In 2003-2005, I was attracted to men and women just about equally. It made me realise that I'm bi.

Through most of 2006, it was a woman that I liked. It made me wonder if I was, in fact, straight. Porn, however, showed me it's not the case.

Through most of 2007, it was a man that I liked. It made me wonder if I was, in fact, gay. Porn, however, showed me it's not the case.

I feel that I'm just about equally attracted to all sexes but it's just that the quality of the representatives of the sexes in my life determine my attractions toward them at a particular time. I'm sure that it's not my sexuality changing that causes me to think the quality is changing because when the people in my life change, my attractions to each sex do too. It has caused me to be "pretty-much" straight and "pretty-much" gay at different times but my sexuality is 100% bi. :)

At the moment, I'm just about in the middle.

Very illuminating! Thanks for your post...

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When I told my older brother that I was bisexual he just looked at me and said, "I think most people are really. I would have explored my feelings in that area but the appeal of the family dynamic stopped me."

This came as a complete surprise to me, he's married and has a kid and has never shown any sign of liking men at all. His reasons kind of hit a sore point though. The whole, "You can't have kids if you're gay" thing. I don't really care for that concept, but at least he found someone he really loves and who loves him just as much.



Of course we are. Humans like things to fit into nice neat groups, it's just how our brains work. Sometimes makes me wonder if god wasn't a computer programmer though.

There are 10 kinds of people in the world. Those who understand binary, and those who don't.


I know a lot of Lesbian and Gay Identified people who still find the opposite sex attractive. You can label yourself however you wish.

I know Lesbians who sometimes fuck men...very rarely but they do.
I know Gay men who like women's tits, and also sometimes fuck them

They still call themselves gay.

We are so stuck in a binary system of labeling people...
Be whoever you want to be, and if that is a gay male who likes tities, then so be it!

You are what YOU say you are. And fuck you freinds or others who try to put any label on you!

CockBalls and nothing5D-
This sort of thinking is what you see with people who are really closeted.

I've seen men and women who say that they're "straight" and heterosexual yet somehow sleep with the same gender.

Just because someone says that they're homosexual or gay/lesbian and yet they want and have sex with the opposite gender, that doesn't make them homosexual gay or lesbian since if they really were homosexual they wouldn't have sex with opposite gender or desire it with opposite gender at all.

When it comes to someones sexual orientation they can SAY one thing but their sex fantasies/sexual desires/sexual actions show us reality of who they are and show us what the persons real orientation is.

I have seen posts here (I lurked awhile before registering) where confused men and women say they are straight yet want to taste cock or straight woman say she want to eat pussy or straight man says he want to take a cock in their ass and if they really were heterosexual/str8 they wouldn't be here posting asking if they r str8/bi/gay, telling us this, and they wouldn't want sex with the same gender at all if these people were str8.

By your logic, everyone who say that they gay/lesbian yet sleep with opposite gender really is gay/lesbian and you also think that everyone who sleep with same gender yet profess to be totally straight and heterosexual really is heterosexual then.

You talk about how we should not put people into categories yet you yourself do that by saying that these people really are gay or str8 when they really are not since they're sexually attracted to both men and women.

Not everyone is bi, my dyke friend wants nothing to do with cock/semen/men at all!

Gay male friends of mine they want nothing to do with womans tits, pussy, he think pussy nasty and say vaginas all smell like fish.

If the people you wrote about really were homosexual or lesbian they wouldn't be going out having sex or wanting it with people of the opposite gender.

[BiphobiaFighter]

Certain feelings or behaviours aren't always significant enough to a person for them implement them into their identity. I respect it.


Very illuminating! Thanks for your post...
Thank you. :)

[DiamondDog]

I was watching 2 pints of larger recently and the actress who plays Donna was wearing a revealing costume which reminded me that i'm attracted to both men and women. it is easy to think you are 100 percent gay when you spend your time chasing men. Any thoughts on this folks? :tongue:

What if you are bisexual and then over time become homosexual? Or you're bisexual but you decide to only have sex/relationships with men, and just fantasize about women? What if you're both bi and homosexual, or in between the two?

What if you just get rid of the sexual orientation labels to describe yourself all together because none of them really fit you, don't describe you, and are just pointless political tools that people often break?

I have friends who are in all of these categories.

[innaminka]

Reading the posts, it seems that as a group label, we carry a myriad of positions - so what?
Its all labels. You are what you are - regardless, and acknowledging that for some people, self-identification can cause great personal trauma, its still a label.

Personally, label-wise I would position myself as someone who was definitely bisexual with all of the nuances that label carries - but over the last years, I find myself happily sliding twards complete homosexuality. (and everything that entails :female::female::))
Tho I love and enjoy my husband - so what does that make me?
Who cares. I'm having a great, fulfilling life.

[Bloodflower]

I have always found myself attracted to women so women are for romance and guys just for fun.

I'm the exact opposite. Most of my emotional relationships have been with men & physical relationships w/ women.

Get this...my first sexual encounter was w/ a gay man. I'm not sure where that puts me as a female, but it was a strange experience. :eek: