Confused, need help!!

[curious_m_18]

Hey everyone,
i know this comes up a lot, but I am genuinely confused about my sexuality. I don’t ever look at men on the street and think sexual thoughts about them. I do about women as any straight 18 year old would. However, when it comes to being turned on with porn or something I watch anything, I get off to straight, gay, lesbian and bi. After I watch either gay or bi, I always tell myself that I am not gay or bi and I am straight.

But I am so confused as to if I am just trying to tell myself I’m straight because of how me being bi would be to friends and family.

I have not been with another guy at all but the idea is arousing, however I wouldn’t consider myself gay or bi at the moment.

Please help me, I need any advice I can get.

Thanks in advance
J

[blackout]

I'd say you're bi. Just don't worry about it. Eventually you will probably see some guy you are attracted to. It happened to me as well.

[goldenfinger]

curious m 18 ,,,,A warm well come to the club.The confused club, that is.You'r very lucky,living in the time of computers. just one click, and the answer to your question is answered. When I was 18, I was no different to you and millions of other young boys, but I didn't know that then. So I'll spare you the hell, you are NORMAL. You can now join the normal club, and welcome.If it makes you feel any better, young girls is no different. All part of life. If I had known then what I know now, you know how it goes........Today, all you have to do, is GOOOOOGLE whatever you wants to know. Try google "Sexuality" and spend some hours reading, plenty there. Happy reading:compuser:

[parkerbi]

I mentioned my point of view on another similar topic. You should try it out. You will not find the answer out until you try it out. If you are turned on by that guy, then you are bi. If not, then you know the answer.

[elian]

Parker may ultimately be right, but I wouldn't force yourself into a situation you aren't comfortable with either.

If possible - try not to label yourself - although I find that hard to do myself - the important thing is that you remember that you are a whole person - you don't have to broadcast it to the world but also don't beat up on yourself just because you have certain feelings that seem contrary to what society says is "right".

I mean, maybe we should have an anonymous poll that asks men if they are ever aroused by the thought of other men getting off while watching straight porn - I'd be curious to see the result. Not that any STRAIGHT guy would ever admit it.

[shameless agitator]

Sounds to me like you're probably bi, but I wouldn't worry too much about labeling yourself just yet. At 18 a fair amount of sexual confusion is to be expected. Just relax, and if you find a guy you're attracted to, go for it. I spent a good 16 years in the "questioning" phase til I met the first guy who just took my breath away.

[curious_m_18]

Hey all,
thanks for your help...its really opened my mind up more to the fact that my feelings arn't strange and that im actually normal...

Thanks for the advice all and im open to any other advice or points of view that anyone has to offer...
Cheers
J