onewhocares
Jan 13, 2008, 11:09 AM
Not too long ago, I was in a discussion about being on this site, what brought us here and what we have derived from our presence. I said that I am indeed one of the most luckiest of women as I have had the pleasure to meet many many of the members of this site, both on line and so many in person. I mention that their friendship was a gift I treasure....that got me to think............
What is the most special gift that you have received from someone on this site? I am NOT speaking of actual material gifts...but rather something more.
For me, if I must pick one, from the many in my memory, it has to be the privilege of helping my dear friend become the woman he had always dreamed of being. When he told me of his long hidden desire to be a woman( he had known since childhood that he was trapped in the wrong body, that of a man) I took it upon myself to learn all I could about transgendered people. I was the only person with whom he shared this long hidden desire. I was committed to his friendship, and more, knew that I wanted to be able to share in his transformation.
Well, I can tell you that I was so moved to be able to be present at the birth of the woman that he always dreamed he could be. I guess when I went to assist, I was hoping rather selfishly that making him into a woman would fail so I could have my friend as I knew him back...a man, a lover, a friend. A man who showed me what real friendship was all about and what making love to a woman meant. Months of classes, discussions, reading and sharing lead us to a resort in Hawaii. After a weekend spent giving lessons on walking, talking, gesturing as well as pedicures, manicures and make-up I said the time was now to see if there was indeed a woman within.
I knew in an instant that the man I knew and loved was gone forever and replaced by a most beautiful woman , beautiful from the inside out. I watched as she gazed at herself in the mirror and saw, after years of wondering what it would be like to actually look like a woman see her reflection. I saw the utter joy and bewilderment in her eyes. All the years of frustration, hidden feelings, and long unanswered questions were dropped by the wayside. There sat a woman, who given this new sense of self, might be able to go forth an become the woman she was meant to be.
From that moment I knew that I was to be changed too, for I had been given the gift of a lifetime. My friend, was still there, had always been, but now just in a new and elegant package. To be able to take what talents I had to help give new life to a part of someone else, someone long dreamed of was indeed a treasure. There I was thinking that he was the one getting the gift, when all along it was I. I came to know that my giving to others YOU are the one with the gift.
Thank you dear Brian for you have given me the gift of a lifetime...the joy of seeing beauty develop right before my eyes. Beauty on the outside but emanating from the heart of gold within.
Would you like to share your thoughts..........
Thank you for reading,
BELLE
What is the most special gift that you have received from someone on this site? I am NOT speaking of actual material gifts...but rather something more.
For me, if I must pick one, from the many in my memory, it has to be the privilege of helping my dear friend become the woman he had always dreamed of being. When he told me of his long hidden desire to be a woman( he had known since childhood that he was trapped in the wrong body, that of a man) I took it upon myself to learn all I could about transgendered people. I was the only person with whom he shared this long hidden desire. I was committed to his friendship, and more, knew that I wanted to be able to share in his transformation.
Well, I can tell you that I was so moved to be able to be present at the birth of the woman that he always dreamed he could be. I guess when I went to assist, I was hoping rather selfishly that making him into a woman would fail so I could have my friend as I knew him back...a man, a lover, a friend. A man who showed me what real friendship was all about and what making love to a woman meant. Months of classes, discussions, reading and sharing lead us to a resort in Hawaii. After a weekend spent giving lessons on walking, talking, gesturing as well as pedicures, manicures and make-up I said the time was now to see if there was indeed a woman within.
I knew in an instant that the man I knew and loved was gone forever and replaced by a most beautiful woman , beautiful from the inside out. I watched as she gazed at herself in the mirror and saw, after years of wondering what it would be like to actually look like a woman see her reflection. I saw the utter joy and bewilderment in her eyes. All the years of frustration, hidden feelings, and long unanswered questions were dropped by the wayside. There sat a woman, who given this new sense of self, might be able to go forth an become the woman she was meant to be.
From that moment I knew that I was to be changed too, for I had been given the gift of a lifetime. My friend, was still there, had always been, but now just in a new and elegant package. To be able to take what talents I had to help give new life to a part of someone else, someone long dreamed of was indeed a treasure. There I was thinking that he was the one getting the gift, when all along it was I. I came to know that my giving to others YOU are the one with the gift.
Thank you dear Brian for you have given me the gift of a lifetime...the joy of seeing beauty develop right before my eyes. Beauty on the outside but emanating from the heart of gold within.
Would you like to share your thoughts..........
Thank you for reading,
BELLE