"What_r_u_n2?"

[proseros]

I dunno maybe its me. Tolerance notwithstanding for it's own sake, but when I see these "words" in a private chat window -especially as a basis for introduction- it is an almost instant turn off. Similarly, "greetings" offered in the form of stats or curtly gross descriptions of things.

It is frustrating to courteously get past this kind of "go" only to find that the person who initiated the confrence never bothered to view your public profile or find out anything more about you than what might qualify your time with them to begin with (by the time you get to age, race, and all those other annoyingly mundane things real people happen to be made of).

And when you, on the receiving end take reciprocal interest-only to find they've never bothered to create a profile themselves, though you try to make something meaningful of the exchange before the "caller" abruptly keys in "gotta go" or "okay-nice talking".

People are made of more than genitals and the will to use them, as I would think that anything might be more important in connecting with another human soul; and when responding honestly to the common query "how are u?"
you'd better not bear bad news.

It isn't up to me to tell others how or where they should chat. But I appreciate the opportunity to make a real (bisexual) friend far more than knowing how much hair is in the crack of someone's ass-Which is why this is the only place I've ever created a LIVE profile of who I am and what I'm about (albeit as gothically theatrical and cryptic as it may read, but then- "great minds think alike"; yes I love to fuck, but I'm intellectually healthy enough to talk to as well.").

For the most part just quibbling over a minor pet peeve, and I am aware of the matter of choosing to or not to indulge...

[jeancarleo]

A lot of people are curious. So in the chat room you might somtimes find people who are just looking for a way to experiment what they haven't tried yet. Not everyone's the same. I do have noticed that most people here in the chatroom are 40 years old or older and they're married and their partner don't know about them. Since not everyone's the same, not everyone is willing to tell their spouse because they're afraid. So here asking "what are you into?" they ask that to see if you can satisfy their needs. It's just life and we have to meet a lot of people before finding the right one for us ;)

[chulainn2]

Most of the time i get pm'ed by someone new and they ask...horny?
Obviuosly they have command of the English language. I try not to enage in much of a conversation with someone who does not have at least a minimun profile. You never know, it could be some kiddo.
I also had one pm me once and wanted to talk about underage sex, he said he was into and had sex with a 14 yo. Needless to say, I ended that conversation immediately and was going to report him to Drew but noticed he had deleted his profile. Of course he had nothing on it. So I just avoid pm with users with no profile information.

[DiamondDog]

Some people are into typing in shorthand or how they'd type on a chat program.

Also lots of people are into chat/cyber ONLY instead of actually going out and having sex with people since they're either afraid to, don't actually want to go out and have real sex or find it, if they're in a closed/exclusive relationship they don't want to fuck that up by cheating on their partner, or there are many other reasons too.

[void()]

Some use chat as a means of socializing, instead of a bar. Granted it is not the same experience, but it is similar enough. It lends a bit of public space to hopefully get to know others. This is prior to enjoying actual sex with a total stranger. Merely a humble :2cents: .

[the mage]

I dunno maybe its me. Tolerance notwithstanding for it's own sake, but when I see these "words" in a private chat window -especially as a basis for introduction- it is an almost instant turn off. Similarly, "greetings" offered in the form of stats or curtly gross descriptions of things.

It is frustrating to courteously get past this kind of "go" only to find that the person who initiated the confrence never bothered to view your public profile or find out anything more about you than what might qualify your time with them to begin with (by the time you get to age, race, and all those other annoyingly mundane things real people happen to be made of).

And when you, on the receiving end take reciprocal interest-only to find they've never bothered to create a profile themselves, though you try to make something meaningful of the exchange before the "caller" abruptly keys in "gotta go" or "okay-nice talking".

People are made of more than genitals and the will to use them, as I would think that anything might be more important in connecting with another human soul; and when responding honestly to the common query "how are u?"
you'd better not bear bad news.

It isn't up to me to tell others how or where they should chat. But I appreciate the opportunity to make a real (bisexual) friend far more than knowing how much hair is in the crack of someone's ass-Which is why this is the only place I've ever created a LIVE profile of who I am and what I'm about (albeit as gothically theatrical and cryptic as it may read, but then- "great minds think alike"; yes I love to fuck, but I'm intellectually healthy enough to talk to as well.").

For the most part just quibbling over a minor pet peeve, and I am aware of the matter of choosing to or not to indulge...

..........................Well... when you walk naked in the bath house you're gonna get some cum in your toes...Whether you play or not. You just gotta walk it off my man...

[proseros]

Point taken, if with reluctant humility. I suppose on my part an aversion to horndog cybercruising that prefers a degree of responsible socialization; no doubt I too at times am overwhelmed with insatiate lusting and may bewail fulfilling some phatasmal freak-nasty escapade. But with a reserved courtesy nonetheless leaving room to acquaint with mutual spontenaity that leaves room for that certain 'personal' connectivity I think we all seek to identify with in right space and time.

Even if I am not 'n2' whatever I can still indulge in an accepting an unbiased way, and develop an affectionate connection that is inclusively meaningful.

We can be friends too you know...

[rissababynta]

i do know how you feel. if someone pm's me and the first thing they type is "horny?" or "what are you into?" or "what are you wearing?" or "what are your stats?" or even "my dick is twenty feet long" (ok, that is a little exagerated but it seems like some people are so desperate to turn you on by their magnificant penis that someday this will be one of the lies about size lmfao), i don't even want to talk to them anymore. Whatever happened to "hi"? I have no desire to speak to anyone if they can't even pretend like they want to get to know me before finding out if i'm attractive to them or not. And i do NOT go into chat to rub myself while you tell me how hard you are, i'm sorry. if you pm me with this in mind and i tell you i'm not interested, either stop talking to me like a pig or stop talking to me period. it's not a hard concept...



ok, rant over..

[12voltman59]

You do have to wonder what is up with such people because they nearly always also ask how old you are, where are ya from--I wonder if they know we have profiles at all-I mean all they have to do is hit the other side of the IM box for Christ sake----they almost invariably never have anything more than the absoulte minimum necessary in order to allow them to chat.

I also get them asking--"why is everyone talking about movies??" or whaterver the topic of discussion is at the moment in the main room--"this is supposed to be a sex site---this is boring!!!!"

I will take a few moments to tell them that in the main room--its sorta like going into a bar---everyone is out in the main room chatting and you most likely are not gonna have sex right out in the middle of the floor in front of everybody--you can think of the IMs as being like going into some side rooms for privacy---I also tell them that as opposed to those sites that are pure sex sites---this site is more of a community of sorts.

They don't seem to get that at all--a few months ago I got several private messages from this guy---he was pissed at me that I put up photos on the bulletin board---after several of his nastygrams---I finally just lost any civility and told him to F off and that he doesn't understand or appreciate that this site is more than simply about being a sex hook up site and if that is what he wanted---to go somewhere else---there are at least several such sites I know of like Adult Freind Finder that he might find to be more to his liking.

He has not bothered me since and I had checked out his name--no profile of course and he was someone who had recently joined the site---I deleted his messages so I forgot his name--but I bet he is like the vast majority of those who are "members" here--they come in a few times and find its not Squrit.orq or a site like that and never come back--which to that I say:

GOOD RIDDANCE!!!!!!!!!!

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

lol What I hate are the ones who type; "a/s/l please."
Oh Puleese. If you had bothered to look on my profile you would have Seen what my age, sex, and location Was! And it sounds soo juvinile to do that anyway. Talk to me like I'm a human and you Might get some decent answers.
Get an update on your routine and pick up lines, boys..lol.
Cat

[the mage]

Point taken, if with reluctant humility. I suppose on my part an aversion to horndog cybercruising that prefers a degree of responsible socialization; no doubt I too at times am overwhelmed with insatiate lusting and may bewail fulfilling some phatasmal freak-nasty escapade. But with a reserved courtesy nonetheless leaving room to acquaint with mutual spontenaity that leaves room for that certain 'personal' connectivity I think we all seek to identify with in right space and time.

Even if I am not 'n2' whatever I can still indulge in an accepting an unbiased way, and develop an affectionate connection that is inclusively meaningful.

We can be friends too you know...

....................I agree with you 1oo% ( perceptions generated here by others aside) Its why I stopped using any chat rooms 10 years ago.

[Tingly_Tickles]

Shouldn't there be some type of rule stating that if you haven't looked at ones profile then
you must not be able to ask such questions as a/s/l I remember using that back when I
was like 13 - 16 when aol was all the latest thing and kids were everywhere on the net.

Personally I've made a post about this sort of thing before too and I only seen a mild
change as the way people write to me but that's life I suppose.