havin some trouble....

[ChsnyNLelandsBsh]

I have been dealing with my sexual confusion for a couple of years and am starting to grip the fact that I am bisexual or bicurious...i am having a hard time dealing with it and finding a girl to figure out what I really feel....how to handle it and I have hinted it to my mom but no support or anything like that....I am starting to like females more and more and Its to the point where I want a female to fill my fantasies but dont know how to go about that...and I dont want to feel like a desperate fool....

[Bluebiyou]

If you don't want to feel like a desperate fool, conform to expectations of you and pretend to be a straight for the rest of your life. Then you'll grow angry, but you won't be a desperate fool.
Sorry, kid. You sound nice, but the whole thing of bisexuality is all a part of love. Success takes risk (in the form of making yourself vulnerable). You'll make plenty of sloppy 'mistakes' (if that's what you want to call them) if you are true to your heart and your sexuality. It's par for the course.
Jump in and find yourself a nice gal! There's no method, it just happens. And for goodness' sake; don't expect family approval (it may or may not happen).
Remember this: this is your pursuit of love. You can waste your life trying to make your life look good to others or you can be true to yourself. Go forward with confidence! The greatest thing you have to fear is fear itself; your fear will hold you back more than anything else in life! Best Wishes!

[DiamondDog]

Go to a dyke bar or just get out and actually meet people if you're too young to go to a bar.

[ChsnyNLelandsBsh]

thanks....I do have a lot of fear of not being accepted etc...but I need to learn to let it go etc....

[Bluebiyou]

Keep it under wraps. It's scary to embrace entirely first.
Since you're here, as opposed to a lesbian web site, you obviously have desire emotionally and/or physically for men/penis and women/vagina. Welcome to the club. Believe it or not we see you as normal and healthy. I think even Freud said something to the effect that we are all bisexual.
Go to the woman you want to go to. Find her and begin to make advances. If she moves away, she isn't interested; let go. Find another.
It's been my experience that women who are bisexual enjoy the passion of men, the very telltale signs of sexual intercourse (erection, penetration, ejaculation), sometimes the fatherly-like approval and love of a man, but the intense (and complicated - yet simple) emotional involvement of another woman. This is very common, but by no means a 'rule'. Bisexual covers so much - so many combinations and possibilities. Explore your feelings by asking yourself what feels good to you - what you want; this is the true path.

[the mage]

I have been dealing with my sexual confusion for a couple of years and am starting to grip the fact that I am bisexual or bicurious...i am having a hard time dealing with it and finding a girl to figure out what I really feel....how to handle it and I have hinted it to my mom but no support or anything like that....I am starting to like females more and more and Its to the point where I want a female to fill my fantasies but dont know how to go about that...and I dont want to feel like a desperate fool....


Take your time... be your own, cute, sexy, a bit confused and vulnerable self and you'll find a partner. When the lust is strong relieve yourself if you cannot find safety and comfort in a partner whom you can trust.

[ToThineSelfBeTrue]

hey there.

I'm in the same boat as you, so don't worry you're not alone. I'm still very much coming to terms with the fact that I like women as well as men, and it's difficult. I in no way think it's wrong, but it's just hard for me to accept because I guess there is a lingering fear that I wont be accepted by those I love the most, my family. It'll happen as it will with you. It takes time and I suggest just go at whatever pace you're ok with. Just remember that you're you and you're beautiful and deserve to be happy as you are, not as someone else would like for you to be.

Good luck!

[ChsnyNLelandsBsh]

thanks....I have been talking to a girl and she is mighty fine!!

[rmorti]

im in the same hole as you and your making more progress then me :P Most my friends know im curious and they dont care, my family arent very close so they dont really care either. I just love women so much im finding it hard to want to do stuff with a guy. I still dont seem to enjoy fantasys of men, just visually they catch my eye. All I'll say is dont think about it, go with the flow and enjoy it. Not many people in tjhere life can say they have been with a man and a women etc :) I hope to try my end of it too....just never seem to be interested in a guy when I talk to them, they just fall into friend factor.

[Alaskaman]

I had my first and for decades my only encounter with a man when I was in my late 20s. For two decades I regarded it as a singular encounter, prompted by the ending of an unhappy marriage and a lack of sex.

But when I turned 50, I confronted myself. If that tryst was meaningless, then why did I think about it so much and so favorably? Secure in a good marriage, I had to admit I wanted to be with a man as well. My wife and I invited a man to our bed for pleasure. Even within threesome play, he and I gradually became too "fun loving" for my wife's comfort. We have kept the friendship but abandoned the sex.

If my situation helps you, then know I wish I had had the courage to face the mirror earlier in my life, to be more open about my desires and to pursue them. Myy failure to do so is the greatest disapponitment of my life. In short, I should have worked less, relished the pleasures of man and woman, and feared others' opinions less.

Be strong. Be true to yourself.

[ChsnyNLelandsBsh]

thanks....I am starting to learn not to take the opinions of others so much anymore....I am going to just go with the flow....

[deeTM]

That's all you need to do. I myself am slowly becoming more comfortable with who I am in all of this. The way I see it, do what you want to do but don't deliberately hurt anyone in the process. Not that I think you would of course, that's really how I'm pursuing my own bisexuality.

Good luck!

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Just be you first and formost, Girlfriend. :} Dont worry about your family's (or anybody elses) opinions of your sexuality. Frankly, it isnt anyones business but yours, anyway. Just let nature take its course, and dont push it...let it come to you slow and easy. Like the old song says "Love comes quickly to whatever you do, you cant help falling" :}
In other words, it'll happen when its Time to happen.:}
Hugz
Cat.

[ChsnyNLelandsBsh]

thank you everybody I appreciate all of the input....