Go without or get crap...

[TaylorMade]

I made a promise to myself once: No more shitty sex. Ever. From male or female.

But as the months go by, and I sit by myself and the only companions in my bed seem to either be attached to me, accessible only by phone or have batteries, I ask myself, it is worth it?

Seriously? Anyone ever made that promise to themselves. . .how did it go? How long did you starve yourself for a hoped for feast to break the fast?

*Taylor*

[Flounder1967]

I have never made that reasultion.

Sometimes taylor you just gotta say "what the fuck" and get laid.

[ambi53mm]

Five years and I never lost hope...it was worth the wait.. I've no regretts.

Ambi:)

[Azrael]

Five years and I never lost hope...it was worth the wait.. I've no regretts.

Ambi:)

It's been a year for me. I remain cautiously optimistic.

[fffff]

most epic song on Sun of Tiphareth: Our lust for lunar plains :P

I was kind of confused by this thread... Did Taylor mean that the only partners she's had got emotionally attached to her, could only be reached by a phone or "had batteries"?

I know I must be wrong, so I'll assume she's referring to starving off from sex, which goes in line with how you guys replied.

I haven't had any sexual interactions for a year and a half. In fact, I recently gave up masturbation because I associate it too much with false hopes and fantasies of actual people.

and I feel great about it! Well, I have my moments that I don't, but overtime, I find relaxation and comfort with my choice. I don't really want to be obsessed with the physical realm anymore. I've recently been meditating more often too with the help of youtube and auxiliary sources of information on the subject.

[BiphobiaFighter]

I've lasted my whole life so far and I'm still going strong. Almost 20 years. :cool:

I'm waiting for someone special. :)

[ChsnyNLelandsBsh]

I havent had any sex at all and Im 22....

I have had sexual contact with the opposite sex and it wasnt pretty nor was it a turn on.....it was actually a turn off....I was sickened by it and didnt go any further....

I take care of it myself with fantasies with being with the same sex.....

I do wish I had someone that will touch me and fill my fantasies but....I guess thatll have to wait

[Germanicus]

I'd rather go without since no sex is better than bad sex and I only kick myself afterwards.

[ambi53mm]

I don't really want to be obsessed with the physical realm anymore. I've recently been meditating more often too with the help of youtube and auxiliary sources of information on the subject.

Interesting!....LOL Twenty-five years of meditation that ended with the aforementioned five year break led me to the conclusion that in fact, physical reality is where my focus needs to be. Considering my almost obsessive focus on sexuality over the last ten years…I’m apparently making up for a lot of lost time.

Those that guide my path put it to me very simply.. “Don’t negate the reasons you chose to be here in the first place.”

An individual can travel far and learn much in the process…but in this reality eventually I found I could travel further and grow even more with the shared experience of another…:yinyang:...the waiting was difficult at times, but I never lost hope. When she came into my life, I finally began to understand the need for focuss.

Sometimes it feels like you are in the middle of the ocean with no shore in sight. If you get tired of swimming then just roll over and float. Trust me.. There’s more at work than meets the eye.

Ambi:)

[shameless agitator]

5 years for me. I hadn't made that kind of resolution, but the concept of casual sex just doesn't do anything for me & I didn't really want to be in a relationship. You really do quit thinking about it after a while. After about 2 years I'd pretty much quit thinking about sex (though I did still keep rosy palm pretty busy), and I found it actually made it easier for me to form friendships because I wasn't spending the energy on trying to figure out if there were romantic/sexual possibilities.

[shameless agitator]

most epic song on Sun of Tiphareth: Our lust for lunar plains :P

I was kind of confused by this thread... Did Taylor mean that the only partners she's had got emotionally attached to her, could only be reached by a phone or "had batteries"?

I know I must be wrong, so I'll assume she's referring to starving off from sex, which goes in line with how you guys replied.

I haven't had any sexual interactions for a year and a half. In fact, I recently gave up masturbation because I associate it too much with false hopes and fantasies of actual people.

and I feel great about it! Well, I have my moments that I don't, but overtime, I find relaxation and comfort with my choice. I don't really want to be obsessed with the physical realm anymore. I've recently been meditating more often too with the help of youtube and auxiliary sources of information on the subject.Attached meant fingers ;)

[fffff]

Attached meant fingers ;)

lol k.

[fffff]

Interesting!....LOL Twenty-five years of meditation that ended with the aforementioned five year break led me to the conclusion that in fact, physical reality is where my focus needs to be. Considering my almost obsessive focus on sexuality over the last ten years…I’m apparently making up for a lot of lost time.

Those that guide my path put it to me very simply.. “Don’t negate the reasons you chose to be here in the first place.”

An individual can travel far and learn much in the process…but in this reality eventually I found I could travel further and grow even more with the shared experience of another…:yinyang:...the waiting was difficult at times, but I never lost hope. When she came into my life, I finally began to understand the need for focuss.

Sometimes it feels like you are in the middle of the ocean with no shore in sight. If you get tired of swimming then just roll over and float. Trust me.. There’s more at work than meets the eye.

Ambi:)

I understand what you're saying. I personally believe that the spirits of the people in my life are just as important, and if I can have a happy union with one, or meaningful friendships, then all the better.

But the obsession over pleasures like sex... That, I'll gladly pass up unless I find a happy union.

I think what you said about later in your life, focusing on the physical realm especially through sex, makes sense. I mean, if you found happiness there, why not?

[the mage]

Sexual desire is a natural state of being. You can choose to ignore it but IMHO there is no harm done to your spirit by satisfying the wants of your body.
Do no harm to others is the Imperative in all things.....

[fffff]

Sexual desire is a natural state of being. You can choose to ignore it but IMHO there is no harm done to your spirit by satisfying the wants of your body.
Do no harm to others is the Imperative in all things.....

I agree, it's just in my position today, I feel happier not acting out on my sexual desires.

I guess I'd rather wait, like the lot of ya have done at some point in your lives.

[Skater Boy]

Sexual desire is a natural state of being. You can choose to ignore it but IMHO there is no harm done to your spirit by satisfying the wants of your body.
Do no harm to others is the Imperative in all things.....

Once you've done something (sexually) you cannot un-do it. Therefore, you need to be certain that what you do is exactly what you WANT to do, and will further the progression of your well-being.

That said, its sometimes better to regret having done too much, than regret not having done enough.

But then again...

[the mage]

Once you've done something (sexually) you cannot un-do it. Therefore, you need to be certain that what you do is exactly what you WANT to do, and will further the progression of your well-being.

That said, its sometimes better to regret having done too much, than regret not having done enough.

But then again...

Well my man I SO agree!!...........care, caution, and LIVE LARGE!!

Man puts his life in clutches of the non living every day (cars airplanes).
Live YOUR life when you can. Denying experience will make you dull, it will not keep you out of heaven.

[DiamondDog]

Sexual desire is a natural state of being. You can choose to ignore it but IMHO there is no harm done to your spirit by satisfying the wants of your body.
Do no harm to others is the Imperative in all things.....

Ha! Oh the hypocrisy!

Brian, you're the one who posted about how badly you'd love to punch me in the face repetadly. Just because I disagreed with your outdated and biphobic opinions about bisexual men, and how het women get HIV. :rolleyes:

It's impossible to live as a human, and "do no harm to others" you have to eat something to live. Animals and vegetables don't arrive on your plate because of heart attacks!

Taylor,
Try to meet new people and see how that goes.

Don't live with regrets and you know yourself the best and what you want and don't want.

You just don't want to wind up being bitter, paranoid, anxious, have anger problems, and become deeply jaded when you're old like the mage is.

[IanGray]

You seem a bit down because of some negative experiences. I know only too well that life can be a bitch and some people can be unfeeling. I hope I can give some words of encouragement.

Firstly Life constantly changes so you never know what's round the corner and the things that you desire might someday come your way. I mean, you could meet someone who is willing to discuss what you both want both emotional and sexual,

Although it isn't always easy to stick to, having a lot of patience and perserverance is essental in achieving what you want out of life.

I am 60 and still single with very little sexual experience. That doessn't mean I have given up, believe me there is always hope.

Happy hunting, keep smiling and may you get all you desire.

[Azrael]

I'd rather go without since no sex is better than bad sex and I only kick myself afterwards.

Pretty much how I look at it.
Why settle for less than what you're worth?
I'll NEVER make that mistake again. Ever. Promise :tong:

[BiphobiaFighter]

I'm glad I didn't follow through the most recent time I was tempted about sex.

Over six months ago, a casual acquaintance who lived near where we were at the time sat next to me. I knew that he was also bi. I was thinking about asking if he wanted to back to his home with me (I would never have ended up going through with asking him but I was still considering it). He didn't know I was thinking about it.

He publicly sexually harassed me later that day. :(

I've never propositioned anyone and the only person who has propositioned me was an illegal prostitute. I think she turned from friendly to nasty quicker than anyone else in history when I said no, so I'm also glad I didn't say yes to her either! :)

Having sex isn't really that important to me at the moment. When I find someone (probably just one person...although I might be surprised with my future, polyamory doesn't look like something that is for me), however, that would change completely! :)

[TaylorMade]

Ha! Oh the hypocrisy!

Brian, you're the one who posted about how badly you'd love to punch me in the face repetadly. Just because I disagreed with your outdated and biphobic opinions about bisexual men, and how het women get HIV. :rolleyes:

It's impossible to live as a human, and "do no harm to others" you have to eat something to live. Animals and vegetables don't arrive on your plate because of heart attacks!

Taylor,
Try to meet new people and see how that goes.

Don't live with regrets and you know yourself the best and what you want and don't want.

You just don't want to wind up being bitter, paranoid, anxious, have anger problems, and become deeply jaded when you're old like the mage is.


I'm hoping new city=new opportunities and social circles. I have lived in Central Florida before... and well, it seemed cock just fell out of the sky and grew from trees then (ROFL). . .I don't need it to fall out of the sky or grow from trees. . .I just need to stumble on one or two, ya follow?

I haven't regretted not doing it for this period of time. . . just it's so frustrating some times, but then I think ahead to the... yeah, that was okay. . .okay, it sucked moment.

30 more days . . .30 more days...then I will be free to go. Or is it good to go?:bigrin:

*Taylor*

[Not2str8]

ok, perhaps this is a decidedly male perspective here, but the worst sex I've ever had............was still great.

In all seriousness, the only sex I ever regret having was with a partner who agreed to have sex with me, when in fact she was doing it because she felt it was expected. It wasn't something that she really wanted. In other words...no passion. Once I found out what the problem was, I wished I hadn't gone there to begin with. Fortunately, those are rare occurrences.

[LakeCountyBiLady]

I have come to the decision that it isn't the quality of the sex that is half as satisfying as the passion that the partner brings to the relationship. HO HUM sex can become amazing if you have a passionate connection with the person, and the ability to communicate desires and needs.

That being said, I will now go and send my application to Hallmark, in the hopes of being able to write those mushy type cards.

[jem_is_bi]

Whether your looking for love or friendship and you want it sooner rather than later you have to be willing to tolerate less than perfection from prospective partners. So, if you want to increase the odds of quick success, be tolerant of prospective partners, have fun and sometimes sex. Ultimately, a really good one will be in your arms and heart. Aggressive goal oriented behavior can be helpful. But, I realize this is not always possible for everyone.

Good luck in what ever stategy you choose. But my advise is: Don't do any thing really stupid but all the same GO FOR IT!!

JEM

[the mage]

Ha! Oh the hypocrisy!

Brian, you're the one who posted about how badly you'd love to punch me in the face repetadly. Just because I disagreed with your outdated and biphobic opinions about bisexual men, and how het women get HIV. :rolleyes:

It's impossible to live as a human, and "do no harm to others" you have to eat something to live. Animals and vegetables don't arrive on your plate because of heart attacks!

Taylor,
Try to meet new people and see how that goes.

Don't live with regrets and you know yourself the best and what you want and don't want.

You just don't want to wind up being bitter, paranoid, anxious, have anger problems, and become deeply jaded when you're old like the mage is.

.................no little puppy I wanted to punch you in the face for response to the violated thread you tool you.

[DiamondDog]

.................no little puppy I wanted to punch you in the face for response to the violated thread you tool you.

Actually I wrote the response to that AFTER you flipped out when I said that ALL bi men aren't a catalyst for ALL het women getting HIV and you said that ALL het women who get HIV get it from bi men who are of course cheating on them.

Brian, it's not my fault that you have such a need for telling everyone your own personal drama that when you did a consensual "rape" scene with a total stranger and then turned around and called it real rape, and then later turned around and claimed that it was no big deal and wasn't really actually true rape at all once you got tons of attention and caused drama about it on here.

[TaylorMade]

Ohmigod... Please,oh please, oh please. . .

Just start a separate fight thread so you two can duke it out.

Please? :(

*Taylor*
(no drama in '08 dammit!)