Older Men

[flbimale4cpl]

I am just curious to get some feedback. I am 36, mostly bottom, and am very attracted to men much older than me (meaning a minimum of 10+ years). I have talked to a few others about this and am just curious how common this is? I love sex with men much older than me because I have found that they tend to be more open minded, appreciative, experienced, and loving. I'm not trying to stereotype and I know everyone has their own personal preferences, I just wonder sometimes how common this is...

[ambi53mm]

I am just curious to get some feedback. I am 36, mostly bottom, and am very attracted to men much older than me (meaning a minimum of 10+ years). I have talked to a few others about this and am just curious how common this is? I love sex with men much older than me because I have found that they tend to be more open minded, appreciative, experienced, and loving. I'm not trying to stereotype and I know everyone has their own personal preferences, I just wonder sometimes how common this is...

Based on my own observations and experiences I don't think it's as common on average when compared to people seeking less of an age gap. However, I would imagine it's probably not that uncommon especially when the situation is reversed meaning older men looking for younger males. We're both in our fifties and usually feel comfortable with people based on the total package with only slight attention to chronological age. The difference between say 56 and 36 isn't that great all things considered, both being within the beginning and ending of middle age. We would tend to draw the line howver when the age range reaches under the ages of our children (24). Although we would probably find common ground on a lot of levels, sexually we'd probably feel.. uncomfortable...but that's just us.
Preferences are unique to the individuals involved. Having pretty extensive experience levels often helps define and fine tune those preferences. If this has been your experience and defines what you enjoy then it must be right for you. Sometimes arriving at what you enjoy is discovering and eliminating all those things that you don't or wouldn't enjoy. My :2cents: anyway LOL.

ambi:)

[DiamondDog]

Everyone's different in their attractions.

[anteak]

I'd like to give you my perspective, being the older man (mid 80s). Over the years I haven't lost my desire for sex. What has changed is I have expanded my desires. I was very straight til in my 40's, met a guy that introduced me to BiSex. He would have sex parties at his place, we would lick and fuck the girls. One time I was looking at porn, getting hard when he said "can I take care of that for you"? That was the first time I was sucked off by a male. He arranged for many of his friends to fuck me and cum in my ass. I loved that, still do. It opened a whole new approach to sex. Later I had to find out what it was like to suck a cock, then have one cum in my mouth, eventualy I swallowed. Met a couple and we had many MMF parties. Eating pussy, sucking cock and fucking each other. Later my GF joined us so she experience eating pussy. Both girls eventualy fisted me. He tried but never made it inside my ass. My wife and I used to go to Plato's West. Fucked a lot but never had same room sex with another. She went her way, I went mine. Saw a little FF sex. never saw MM there. It may be wrong in some eyes but I have no regrets or guilt feelings for anything I've done. I only wish I had tried other things. Like a real creampie after someone had fucked her. I'm still open to it. I did have prostate surgery last year and no longer ejaculate but have very intence orgasm's. almost every day :-)

[Tingly_Tickles]

Different indeed just as myself I prefer anyone to be only a few years difference
from my own.

I don't think it's common or uncommon just a preference enjoy it to the fullest.

[Delilah]

Men older than me are much more attentive, patience, and they know the meaning of sensualism and long foreplay. I find older men to be more stimulating and I can produce so much orgasm I almost past out. Especially men with facial hair. I find facial hair on older men soooooo stimulating.
I love 'em!!! Bring on big daddies and leave the boy toys alone that's for sure!!
;)

[hillwalker54]

Delilah, as an approaching 55 guy, ya made my day :-)

anteak, You my friend are an inspiration. Good on ya Mate!

[onewhocares]

Well I had thought of posting here but thought that perhaps my opinion as a woman might not be appreciated. For me, and this is my own personal viewpoint......

I happen to enjoy the company of an older man. I am 46 and a fine man over fifty is a treasure. Long gone of the days of insecurity,of indecisiveness, of lack of pride in themselves and that makes them up, particularly for me their mind and sense of humor. They know how a lady should be treated and has shown me nothing but the actions of a true gentleman. Not to say that the young me are not that also. I happen to care for a youngin and he is fine example of a man coming into his style.

Perhaps and I am some what leary to mention this old sterotype but for me it has been a joy to meet many of the middle aged men from this site...oh they are just so cute. I would name them, but then alas I would blush. All fine upstanding men, gentlemen through and through. Friends...first last and always. Nothing more.

Belle

[ambi53mm]

Well I had thought of posting here but thought that perhaps my opinion as a woman might not be appreciated. For me, and this is my own personal viewpoint......

I happen to enjoy the company of an older man. I am 46 and a fine man over fifty is a treasure. Long gone of the days of insecurity,of indecisiveness, of lack of pride in themselves and that makes them up, particularly for me their mind and sense of humor. They know how a lady should be treated and has shown me nothing but the actions of a true gentleman. Not to say that the young me are not that also. I happen to care for a youngin and he is fine example of a man coming into his style.

Perhaps and I am some what leary to mention this old sterotype but for me it has been a joy to meet many of the middle aged men from this site...oh they are just so cute. I would name them, but then alas I would blush. All fine upstanding men, gentlemen through and through. Friends...first last and always. Nothing more.
Belle

You are an awesome human being!!:)...You must be the Northern Version of the Southern Belle....Belle

Sincerly
Ambi:)

[shameless agitator]

I also prefer older men. I actually like to be the younger one in a relationship with either gender, but the range widens considerably with men. 10 years older is about my max with a woman (though I was actually in a long term relationship with a woman 13 years older), but 20 or even 30 years difference would be just fine with me when it came to another man. I can remember an 80 year old I was quite attracted to. I was 30 at the time.

[jem_is_bi]

I really like men in their 50's and 60's!
Younger is good for talk or text
But, I really prefer my older partner for sex.
We do our sexual thing for hours of pleasure.
In 69 he gets a reward he does very much treasure.
He sends my mind and body to the heavens in raging sexual fire.
We are 60 yr old men with plenty of energy to fulfill another's desire.


JEM

[IanGray]

I am 60 and never cease to be suprised by womens taste in men. I keep thinking that I am too old, nobody is going to desire me now, when something happens that proves me wrong. Just proves that you don't know what's round the corner.

[Bluebiyou]

Follow your heart and mind.
Sometimes one will lead or the other. Rarely both shall point in the same direction (these are the most magical moments of life when they do). You will ride to the heights and fall to the bottom of the abyss.
One rule of love that is seemingly now may not hold true later.

Polonious:
...This above all things, to thine own self be true. For then it must follow as night the day that thou cans't not be false to any man...

Shakespere, fuckin' Shakespere... shoulda been in the fuckin' bible... line one chapter one.

Without understanding love and free will one cannot understand God.

[someotherguy]

There are some sites online for "dads and sons". Seems to be not uncommon at all. Check out silverdaddies, as an example.

I'm sure that whatever anyone's sexual preferences are it means there is something wrong with them, and the best we can hope for is to live in ignorance and denial.

[onewhocares]

I really like men in their 50's and 60's!
Younger is good for talk or text
But, I really prefer my older partner for sex.
We do our sexual thing for hours of pleasure.
In 69 he gets a reward he does very much treasure.
He sends my mind and body to the heavens in raging sexual fire.
We are 60 yr old men with plenty of energy to fulfill another's desire.


JEM......LOVE your post!!!


I just adore men in these years!
They fill me with desire and bring me to tears.
Not tears of sadness but of utter joy.
And I never have to break them in like a boy!
With age comes wisdom, maturity and knowledge,
Not the stumblings of a man who is still in college.
When his hair starts to thin and his temples are gray,
He can come and snuggle up to me on a cold winters day!
A man comes in to his prime at this time....
I am lucky cause I have a cherished one who is MINE.

[warmpuppy]

I have been amazed at the number of younger guys who have been attracted to me over the past 3-4 years. At least two told me they liked that I have virtually no limits and help them live fantasies that they can't find in younger men.

The older I get, the more things I find myself getting into. For example, I would never have tried watersports with a guy 10 years ago -- now it's one of my favorite things.

[onewhocares]

Like you warm puppy I agree....I too never would have tried Kayaking if it were not for the fine man who introduced me to it. It is a wide and wonderful world that has been open up to me.

[diamond_tether]

We're both fans of older men (and women). We were both raised like little adults, spent more time around people who were much older than us, etc. So, we find our personalities typically mesh more with older friends. Older men in particular typically seem calmer, more relaxed and open about things. Granted, this is all our perception.

[ladymozart]

I too prefer older men I am almost 33 and my bf is 53 I have always been attracted to men at least 10 years older than i am. I find that they are more mature more experienced and more sensitive. They usually like to cuddle more and take there time rather than just rushing to get there rocks off.
They can usually last longer too I have found.
thats just my prefrence i very rarely am attracted to someone younger than i am.
thats me.:)
ladymozart:bipride:

[chulainn2]

Another reason why you just gotta luv ladymozart.

[jem_is_bi]

I really like men in their 50's and 60's!
Younger is good for talk or text
But, I really prefer my older partner for sex.
We do our sexual thing for hours of pleasure.
In 69 he gets a reward he does very much treasure.
He sends my mind and body to the heavens in raging sexual fire.
We are 60 yr old men with plenty of energy to fulfill another's desire.


JEM......LOVE your post!!!


I just adore men in these years!
They fill me with desire and bring me to tears.
Not tears of sadness but of utter joy.
And I never have to break them in like a boy!
With age comes wisdom, maturity and knowledge,
Not the stumblings of a man who is still in college.
When his hair starts to thin and his temples are gray,
He can come and snuggle up to me on a cold winters day!
A man comes in to his prime at this time....
I am lucky cause I have a cherished one who is MINE.


Thank you, Onehwhocares.
You are a better poet than me and obviously blessed to have such a wonderful partner. While being young is wonderful. Being older can be wonderful too. In all but physical capabliity and beauty, many of us in advanced middle age are better than ever.

JEM

[elian]

I generally like SO that are older than I am. I used to believe that age doesn't matter - but I tried dating someone who is nearly 60 and I found out that some of his beliefs really don't mesh with mine. For example, he still has some negative views of women. Because of these differences I don't think we could be in a committed relationship but we are still friends - and I value the experience he has in life and in the gay community in general.

It doesn't surprise me that I like older men and women, for many years growing up I really did want unconditional love from a male role model. I think I've learned that while we are all capable of selfless deeds there isn't really any such thing as a "Knight in Shining Armor" - or at the very least they don't show the parts in the movie where the knight has to apply the polish.

I'm not fond of terribly young men for the same reason I don't have kids - simply because I'm struggling to find out what I want. I think perhaps I'm doing myself and younger people a disservice by taking that view. There are a lot of younger folks who are enthusiastic and could probably show me some new ways of thinking. It's just that I've already been 18 - and I know how much I thought I knew before I turned 25, 30 - I'm starting to see a pattern here.

[onewhocares]

Jem I am so not a poet. I just happened to love what you wrote and it spurned me into words that go hand in hand. Your perspective on the older man topic is most endearing to me. I too enjoy the company of older men for oh so many reason, physical being the least of them.

Belle

[TaylorMade]

We're both fans of older men (and women). We were both raised like little adults, spent more time around people who were much older than us, etc. So, we find our personalities typically mesh more with older friends. Older men in particular typically seem calmer, more relaxed and open about things. Granted, this is all our perception.

I also was raised the same way. My parents made my brother take me along so I had contact with guys 10-15 years my senior, so I just simply knew how to talk to them. I do like older men, and I'm just as picky with them as with men close to my age. Would I date someone younger then myself? I doubt it. . hard to say.

*Taylor*

[jem_is_bi]

Jem I am so not a poet. I just happened to love what you wrote and it spurned me into words that go hand in hand. Your perspective on the older man topic is most endearing to me. I too enjoy the company of older men for oh so many reason, physical being the least of them.

Belle

You make me feel happy and smile. :)

JEM

[flbimale4cpl]

Thanks to everyone who has responded!!! It is much more common that I had thought to have these desires...

[welickit]

I had never given age much of a second thought. Then about a year ago the wife and I were out and had an encounter with a guy who was in his mid 20's. To make a long story short, he ended up giving me a blow job and my wife jerked him off. He was very eager and wanted to keep sucking even after he had swallowed. He eventually satisfied his urges. Never saw him again but looking back he was certainly someone who left a good impression and someone we would certainly enjoy meeting again. He had a thing for older men and showed his appreciation very well.

[wolfcamp]

I've always had an attraction for men older than myself. I've always associated older guys with assertiveness and dominance. My tendency has usually been to assume the submissive role, but not always. And since I am often very nervous with another guy, especially when first meeting, I am relieved when he will take the lead and get things rolling.

Now that I am getting into that "older man" category, I am starting to rethink that idea. First of all, the pool of guys older than myself is getting relatively smaller, and subsequently the selection of a suitable partner are also getting smaller. Second, I now have the opportunity to explore the advantages of being the older man. I would have the chance to feel more control and dominance that, in the past, I was always happy to leave to the my older partner. In the past I was happy to assume the submissive role. I always wanted to be the seducee and not the seducer. Now it might be time to look at the other side of the coin. Still, I don't think I'd feel comfortable with a large age difference. A max of 10 to 15 years younger might be OK, but younger than that and I think I'd feel a bit perv-ish.

[Bisexualnewbie]

Hi there,
Just my own personal preference but I prefer guys around my own age (34) but saying that I think if the guy is in shape thats better than age.:)