OFF LIMITS

[goldenfinger]

Apart from legally off limits, do any of you have "off limits" people you wouldn't try to hump. Friends, friends of friends, friends of family. I have long held the view that if gay people fished it their own pond,so to speak, that they would be more widely accepted. I once asked my now X, because she has a lesbian friend, and she said, hell no, that is all part of the fun.She confessed years later that they did do it. What is your take on this.:eek:

[darkeyes]

Beina nice angelic innocent lil soul these days me don try an "hump" ne 1 cept me partner.. but not so long back evry male bar 1 wos off limits.. an e wos a pipe dream.. but of me own sex.. every 1 me don fancy.. racists an bigots of ne kind.. peeps wiv no teeth an more lines on ther face than Clapham Junction, bad skin, grotty teeth an poor personal hygeine.

Specifically me best m8 Jo, er partner an er cuz Sam an er partner. Sam cos Jo wud kill me..an Sams partner a mitey formidable gal 2..an not gonna upset er... life is 2 precious..me own in particular. She is actually a yummie attractive lady wiv terrific figure.. jus a tad scary in a seethe....

Jo's partner Alice cos she is jus that ..Jo's partner... yummie but me m8's lady. Wile Naggy is well spoken..Alice is POSH an speaks wiv plums in er gob!!! The luffly though Jo me me met at uni long time ago. We clicked str8 off an this shy retirin lil dark haired luffly soon became dafter than me.. an she 2 is a jambo...we share everythin, r each othas support in timesa stress an trubble an me hates the fact she lives in France..tho its triff for cheap hols!:bigrin: We have often shared a bed.. we often chat for hours hugglin an fall asleep in each othas arms, but neva 1ce has eitha of us eva tried 2 chance our luk wiv each otha. Wy? Cos our friendship is jus much much 2 much important 2 both of us, an that 2 us means no naughties.... we not pushin our luk in changin jus how much we mean 2 each otha... hav neva had a friendship quite so strong an don expect 2 hav gain. Naggy mayb but she's me partner, an its ona diff basis. So Jo is out...woteva happens in me lil life...she us 2 important 2 me.

[DiamondDog]

I have long held the view that if gay people fished it their own pond,so to speak, that they would be more widely accepted. I once asked my now X, because she has a lesbian friend, and she said, hell no, that is all part of the fun.She confessed years later that they did do it. What is your take on this.:eek:

What's that about homosexual people and fishing in their own pond? What exactly did you mean by that? :confused:

Just because you're attracted to the same gender it doesn't mean that you want to have sex or date everyone of that gender or that you even want to sleep with friends or family members. Most people are heterosexual and not attracted to the same gender, so that takes out most of the population anyway.

Many bi/gay men like myself are VERY picky and I can see tons of men and I'd only actually consider sleeping or dating a few of them and the number of women who I'd actually want to sleep with or even maybe casually date is even lower. Sometimes I'll go for as long as half a year where I don't want anything to do with having sex with women at all; but mostly all of my bi male friends are the same way.

Your ex girlfriend either lied because she cheated on you with that woman while you were in a relationship with her, or she doesn't want to accept her sexuality like many other people.

Like Darkeyes wrote about her friend Jo, I have male friends who I'm in love with and we're just that we're friends but we've slept in the same bed together, kissed, and been there for each other emotionally but we've never had sex with each other since it would ruin our friendship and my friend already has a male partner.

[goldenfinger]

Darkeyes, sorry don't understand much of what your saying.
Diamonddog, fishing in your own pond means that if your gay, you would never try to have sex with a person whom you know to be straight. Full stop. You would only go for people you know is gay or bi.Some gay people will go for anyone, hence fear in the wider community about gay people.If you have a mutual attraction to someone, that ok. But is some too close for comfort.Hope that clears it up.

[Bluebiyou]

You would only go for people you know is gay or bi.Some gay people will go for anyone, hence fear in the wider community about gay people.If you have a mutual attraction to someone, that ok. But is some too close for comfort.Hope that clears it up.

Clear as mud!
But what about predatory straights? Would a straight bar be any more than marginally attractive if we knew these guys would only prey on straight women? ...That they wouldn't make sexual advances on bisexual and lesbian women?
For that matter, would anything make a straight bar more attractive? Nothing I like to see more than a man strap on a John Wayne ego, be false head to toe and persue women like prey. Likewise to watch women whore themselves up and play to the highest bidder (okay, there's actually a high percentage of women who just go to a straight bar for a good time/conversation who detest the dishonesty). Ah, straight bars, where great minded men have not one but two topics - sports and weather (when they're not hunting women) - to demonstrate the superior intellect of mankind. Gay bars are a little better, at least there is the potential for some intelligent conversation. Wait, what was the topic again? I kinda wandered!
:rotate:

"That's five compartments! She can stay afloat with the first four compartments breached but not five; not five."

[darkeyes]

Darkeyes, sorry don't understand much of what your saying.
Diamonddog, fishing in your own pond means that if your gay, you would never try to have sex with a person whom you know to be straight. Full stop. You would only go for people you know is gay or bi.Some gay people will go for anyone, hence fear in the wider community about gay people.If you have a mutual attraction to someone, that ok. But is some too close for comfort.Hope that clears it up.

OOo soz Goldenfinga..don speak English so don hav a clue wotyas sayin..canya say it in Fran??? Hava chinwag wiv Chookie..e from ur parta world an livs upside down an all..an can Franslate for ya! E's nice that way..:tong: Kissie

[Germanicus]

Outside of friends, family, the only people who are "off-limits" are those whom I dont fancy in anyway shape or form.

[innaminka]

Yes, I do have limits. There are peoploe to whom the idea of "jumpin' them bones :tong:" for me is wrong.
Close friends are off limits. Sure sometimes I'll tease and flirt, but that's it. Good friends are very, very rare.
same with work colleagues; or at least the ones I am in constant interaction with. How many careers have been ruined by a casual quickie???

The str8 "community" isn't off limits. Yes, i've been with str8 women and its been enjoyable for both parties, but there is no way I am the "predator." The other party has to be interested in me as me before any furter steps are taken.

I still manage to have a helluva good time, tho!!! :female: :tongue: :female:

[diB4u]

Yes there are off limits with every body, i dont as a rule date or have sex with my own friends... There has never been the attraction there, as one of my friends i've known her since i was 2.

I have a moral list of who i would and wouldn't consider, some call me choosey but the truth being, i dont have sex with any tom, Richard or Harry. Some people call me picky, others less nice words. Just because a man flirts with me, doesnt give him the right in assuming that I am interested in him.

I would say co workers, but i had this one sided emotional feelings with her. :flag1:

[DiamondDog]

Darkeyes, sorry don't understand much of what your saying.
Diamonddog, fishing in your own pond means that if your gay, you would never try to have sex with a person whom you know to be straight. Full stop. You would only go for people you know is gay or bi.Some gay people will go for anyone, hence fear in the wider community about gay people.If you have a mutual attraction to someone, that ok. But is some too close for comfort.Hope that clears it up.

I don't go for heterosexual men since it's pointless, I don't have a death wish or a desire to get bashed, and despite what some bi/gay men fantasize about and what's in gay porn they're not into having sex with men.

I don't go for heterosexual women since I refuse to get involved with hetero women as I feel that they don't understand queer men and no matter how open minded they are or understanding it's something that they'll never truly understand or really accept.

I can't give them the relationship that most of them want which is a closed/exclusive relationship with a guy.

I'm not into even having serious relationships with women.

I'm fine with having a friendship with benefits or just VERY casual dating where we have just sex.

I'm more into having relationships with bi/gay men like me and if I were ever going to attempt to have a relationship with a woman it would have to stay open all the time and she would have to be bisexual/queer like me.

I don't have sex with closeted people like innaminka wrote about, like men who say that they're "straight" or heterosexual but yet they somehow desire sex with men and either fantasize about it or even seek it out with other men. :rolleyes:

I don't get involved with people who go behind their partner/husband/wife's back when they're not in an open relationship/marriage.

I personally wouldn't date or have sex with a guy that does not kiss either.

Also like other people I don't have sex, date, or get into relationships with people who I work with at all since as the saying goes it's not good to "shit where you eat" and having a relationship/dating or sleeping with someone who you work with only causes problems later on, plus it's someone who you work with having a partner or dating someone is one thing but I need time away from that person and I wouldn't want to see them at work too! Many companies will fire you if you're involved sexually or in a relationship with someone who you work with or they will consider it to be sexual harassment too.

[TaylorMade]

No Co-Workers

No Blood Relatives

No Close Friends

No Siblings of Significant Others

No Significant others of Siblings

No one who does not know that I am bisexual.

No Friends Exes. (A former friend of mine violated that rule. I long to bury the hatchet. . .in her skull.)


*Taylor*

[jem_is_bi]

No married women.
No married men without the wife’s approval.
No straight males! (No sexual interest in them or desire to seduce them).
No relatives!!

JEM