Am I Bi?

[roger_redwood]

The kind of Bi situation I fantasize about involves me with a male & female couple. I want to play the role of never having sucked a cock before and being reluctant to suck a cock the first time.

I want the female to coax me, show me, teach me and perhaps fool me into or gently force me to take a taste, wipe it accross my lips and gradually encourage me to take a hard cock in my mouth.

I'm convinced that once I get a taste of it, I'll do it with gusto. Once I've gotten it into my mouth, I want to be called a cocksucker. I'm not sure about taking a load of cum, but I'll have to cross that bridge when I come to it.

The one constant in my fantasy is that the woman instigate the action, with me initially being the unwilling participant.

Am I Bi?

Regards,
Roger Redwood

[ambi53mm]

I went once to a website that posed the foloowing questions:

(1) Do you fantasize about sex with women?

I checked yes

(2) Do you fantasize about sex with men?

I checked yes

Please press the submit button.

The next screen to pop up simply said:

You're bi.

Doesn't get any simpler than that.

Ambi:)

[Cantaloupe Island]

That is certainly a bisexual fantasy! However, whether you are bi is really a harder question. Every person has at some time experienced a homosexual fantasy, but it needs to frequent enough of strong enough that the person considers him/herself bisexual. So I guess my question really is, do you think about or fantasize with having sexual contact with men frequently? Is it something you'd like to pursue?

Just really ask yourself some questions about who you are and what you like.

Cheers

[AdamKadmon43]

I went once to a website that posed the foloowing questions:
(1) Do you fantasize about sex with women?
I checked yes
(2) Do you fantasize about sex with men?
I checked yes
Please press the submit button.
The next screen to pop up simply said:
You're bi.
Doesn't get any simpler than that.

Ambi:)
Cool !.... That just about sums it up.

Maybe life ain't really as complicated as we want to think that it is.

Adam

[phoenix11664]

The fantasy you describe involves "forced bi" sex play, humiliation and female dominance. (I know because this is one of my personal favorite fantasies.)

I would not rush to judge yourself as bi based solely on your fantasy.

However, it does strongly point to that direction.

In my opinion, part of the reason guys like us have this fantasy is that we're bi but we lean more towards women (and probably have conflicted feelings about being gay). So having a woman dominate and force us to do the thing makes it okay or easier to fantasize about than if she weren't in the scenario.

Then again, maybe we're just horny, kinky submissive guys.

Either way, I think it's important to come to an understanding of what bisexuality is and to do some soul searching before labeling yourself as bi. I think it's important to be honest with yourself and to accept yourself as you are, no matter what your sexual orientation is. To me, part of the gift of exploring my sexuality/orientation is that it has helped me to love and accept myself more. I wish the same for you.

[DiamondDog]

Roger,
Only you know for sure.

Based on what you wrote, I'd say that you're bi since you want sex with men, and you probably enjoy or want sex with women too. Also you wrote about wanting sex with a man and a woman at the same time.

Fantasies can show us a lot about what we want sexually. Yes there are fantasies that never come true or are just fantasy; but this is a fantasy that you want to come true, right? How bad do you crave it? Do you dream about cock and how it tastes and about kissing a man and taking him all into your mouth and giving him pleasure?

Hetero guys don't want sex with men. Even if a woman tries to "force" them into doing it or anything like that, they'd just say no thanks or it wouldn't even be something that they'd want to do, or enjoy doing. Contrary to popular belief based on homophobic fantasy, or the fantasy of that hot heterosexual guy that you want but can't ever ravage or kiss by bi/gay men, and the gay porn industry real heterosexual guys (not the closeted guys who call themselves "straight" yet have sex with men), don't just get bored one day and pop open a beer and say "hey, let's suck or fuck each other!" or say "hey, neither of us have had sex with a woman in awhile, let's drink some whiskey and get it on with each other!".

Heterosexual guys don't have sex with other men under the excuse that it's kinky as they'd only rather do this only with women or if they were going to do ANY bondage/SM with or to a guy it wouldn't be sexual or erotic at all.

Coming from what phoenix said I'm the opposite.

I probably don't lean more towards women and I don't care if anyone thinks that I'm gay/queer, and sometimes it seems that I am gay but I know I'm not based on my attractions to both men and women that both never fully go away like they have for other monosexual friends of mine.

I can fall in love with women but for the most part I get more infatuated and I'm more romantically and sexually inclined towards men and sex with women isn't "making love" (LMAO I always laugh when men describe ANY and ALL sex, even a hook up with a woman as being "making love"), and it's more just sex and sexual release for me.

I'm a switch who can play and has done either role but I'm more on the dominant side for SM and the submissive side for bondage (without discipline), and I've done bondage/SM with men and women separetly and I do sometimes fantasize about both being there but usually I'll fantasize about being with another man and a submissive woman and while I've never had vanilla sex with a woman, if I were going to have vanilla sex with a woman I'd want another guy there too and we double team a woman! <eg>

I have gay male friends that are submissive and they'll talk about how they want to be branded as a cocksucker (some of them are ONLY into sucking cock and don't even like to recieve oral sex from other men) or how they want a guy to fuck their mouth/throat and show them their true position in life.

Also, despite the fact that these gay men are submissive they don't want to have sex with a woman at all in any way, shape, or form and they don't want to be "forced" by another gay/bi guy to have sex with a woman as the idea disgusts them and they're grossed out by women's genitals/bodies just like heterosexual men are icked out by men's penises and bodies.

[Daviecurious]

As others have said, only you know (or will know) for sure. In my case, my earliest bi-sex fantasy was exactly the same. As time passed, the desire to know for sure did not diminish, and I found myself taking steps to find out. MM sex is all and more than I had expected, or would have believed. Just enjoy the journey, whether only as fansasy or by actually participating. Your true friends will still be friends, and the others don't matter.
Be safe, have fun! :male:

[TheBisexualProfessor]

From a philosophic viewpoint, it's interesting that we humans want labels for everything. It must be part of our psychological makeup that we need classifications and distinctions in order to understand and to dialogue. But, ultimately, who cares what label you put on yourself? You find this fantasy to be attractive and fun. That's what fantasies are for!

I share a very similar fantasy of inviting a guy into the bed with my wife and me ... and the two of us guys filling her with pleasure as we give her all the attention. After a mind-blowing orgasm, I'd love her to ask us guys to take care of each other so she can watch! She enjoys seeing me cum all over myself when I masturbate, so imagine how much she might enjoy the two of us guys sucking each other and cuming all over each other!

Is that a bi fantasy? I guess so. Am I bi? I guess so. But the label is only useful insofar as I might need to NAME a reality. It doesn't MAKE the reality.

PS: Just remember that fantasies should only carefully be brought to fruition. Don't rush. They may or may not work out in real life to be as much fun as we imagined. It's important to think it through and consider in advance the possible emotional consequences and health risks.

[nothings5d]

As others have said, the only person who can tell you what your sexuality is is you. It comes down to how you really want to think of yourself. Sexuality is just a label that helps people understand what we want from sex but it doesn't give us the entire picture. What sexuality comes down to is what makes the most sense for a label to you.

[cakehead]

The real answer is you know yourself. But you need to be willing to accept it yourself.

The fact your on a bisexual website, pretty much answers your question.

Just cause you are feeling this way just wont determine your whole life ahead of you. People get feared by the label bisexuality cause it should mean to them, no marriage, no kids, no family stuff which disrupts there entire childhood dreams... when really all it means is your more open to sexual encounters.

Bisexuality should be embraced, not feared.

[open2both]

Of course you are!
Jump in, the water' fine!!:bibounce:

[cliffml]

I think so. Whether it's just a fantasy or it because a reality, I think everyone is bisexual to some point.

[grinchrick]

When I was younger my girl friend and my neighbor Ken got high and had sex togeather he oraly did me but i didnt return the favor and i still wish i had,if given the chance again i let go and enjoy it