blooz1955
Sep 4, 2007, 11:41 AM
I have enjoyed seeing naked men and been turned on by the idea of them since I was a little kid. I had a couple of gay experiences with guys in high school, but never really pursued it after that except in my fantasies. I have never felt romantic about a man only sexual, always romantic but also very sexual toward women.
I got married, had kids, got divorced 20 years later, and now am re married to a wonderful beautiful woman who I told very soon after we met about anal sex and other male sex fantasies. She indulged me with toys and with her words.
Recently, I told her that I really love the idea of having actual sex with a man again. The reaction was similar to those I have read on this site, fear, hurt, a bit of mistrust perhaps. She worried that she was not what I really wanted and wondered if I could ever really be happy, sexually speaking, with just her. It was very hard on both of us and I was emotionally trashed by the hurt I had put on her.
It has been a year since I first told her I thought I was bisexual. She has gotten somewhat used to it and I have never been with a man. I will not cheat on her. I have discussed us having a 3some with a man and that is exciting but we have still only fantasized. Interestingly, she likes to pretend I am getting fucked and giving head to a man, but hates to use the term bisexual.
The thing is, I kind of like the "cleanliness" of the fantasy. No other emotions involved with another person. She is excited by the idea of me being fucked by another man and tells me so, I do not think we are ready for the reality of it though. We have talked about me trying sex with men while I am out of town, but I am not sure I would do anything even if she told me I could while on the road. It is kind of scary. What if it is not as perfect as the fantasies we have together?
So, what am I? Just a fucked up hetero who likes dildos in my ass? I really would like to make sense of it for myself and for my wife. I love reading the opinions of others on this site, so please give me some. Somewhere in them I hope to understand myself better.
I got married, had kids, got divorced 20 years later, and now am re married to a wonderful beautiful woman who I told very soon after we met about anal sex and other male sex fantasies. She indulged me with toys and with her words.
Recently, I told her that I really love the idea of having actual sex with a man again. The reaction was similar to those I have read on this site, fear, hurt, a bit of mistrust perhaps. She worried that she was not what I really wanted and wondered if I could ever really be happy, sexually speaking, with just her. It was very hard on both of us and I was emotionally trashed by the hurt I had put on her.
It has been a year since I first told her I thought I was bisexual. She has gotten somewhat used to it and I have never been with a man. I will not cheat on her. I have discussed us having a 3some with a man and that is exciting but we have still only fantasized. Interestingly, she likes to pretend I am getting fucked and giving head to a man, but hates to use the term bisexual.
The thing is, I kind of like the "cleanliness" of the fantasy. No other emotions involved with another person. She is excited by the idea of me being fucked by another man and tells me so, I do not think we are ready for the reality of it though. We have talked about me trying sex with men while I am out of town, but I am not sure I would do anything even if she told me I could while on the road. It is kind of scary. What if it is not as perfect as the fantasies we have together?
So, what am I? Just a fucked up hetero who likes dildos in my ass? I really would like to make sense of it for myself and for my wife. I love reading the opinions of others on this site, so please give me some. Somewhere in them I hope to understand myself better.