could my wife be bi?

[nobdywnz]

we went to a strip club and i got her a lap dance, afterwards i asked her if she liked it and she said oh yeah. well when we got home and got in to it real heavy i asked her what she would do if that girl was there and she said she would do her, but she has said nothing since. i don't know if she was saying that for me or if she meant it. sometimes i will put some porn on the tv and she seems to watch more when there are lesbians going at it. i would like to know how to find out if she if she is curious, if she is i want to be there to enjoy, at least watch.

[anne27]

... i would like to know how to find out if she if she is curious, if she is i want to be there to enjoy, at least watch.



You and nearly every other male on the planet.

[Gemini25]

Well, the first thing you may want to do is open the lines of comunication of what you both like, fantasize about, ect... The fact that she goes to the strip clubs with you and watches porn with you is a good indication that she's open to trying new and different things with you. Although since there is nothing in your profile to go by, and your on a BI site makes it a little confusing about what you are really looking for. But my orginal thought still stands though. Talk to her and find out what she's thinking. Just my :2cents:

[DiamondDog]

You and nearly every other male on the planet.

LOL not me!

I seriously don't get turned on by lesbian sex or watching female/female sex as it doesn't do anything for me.

When I was in Jr. highschool my friends and I would look at lesbian porn (the type created by hetero men) because it was the cool thing to do and it didn't do anything at all for me.

I would just wind up looking at hetero porn, a man and another man and a woman having bisexual sex all with each other, naked men alone, or men engaged in gay sex together.

I have read some lesbian erotic fiction where there is BDSM in it and the BDSM was a turn on while the lesbian sex was not.

[the mage]

Tell her she is free to explore ,her sexuality with women when you're NOT THERE as a first step. If you are not generous enough to do that you are just using her for your own fantasy.

[welickit]

Assuming you are actually married you should be able to discuss anything. If you can't then you shouldn't be married to begin with. Sit down....or lay down and discuss it. Honesty really does work.

[shameless agitator]

Tell her she is free to explore ,her sexuality with women when you're NOT THERE as a first step. If you are not generous enough to do that you are just using her for your own fantasy.I have to agree with tis sentiment, though you never know, she may be more comfortable having you there. At first I thought I wanted my first experience with a guy to be a menage a toi with my female ex. I've since changed my mind, but that was what I thought in the beginning. Just let her know that it's her choice entirely.

[DiamondDog]

Just tell her, "babe, tuna ain't my style!"

[shameless agitator]

Just tell her, "babe, tuna ain't my style!"Huh?? Tuna obviously is his style, he's wondering if it's his wife's as well