Promising Galahad
Aug 21, 2007, 5:03 PM
Its all very frusterating at times. There was a girl who I use to work with. She was very attractive and all the guys use to hit on her. Her and I had alot in common and as it turns out she assumed I was gay.I never bring up my sexuality unless I know the person. For a couple weeks we went to lunch and even saw each other outside of work.At the time I was having trouble with a guy I was very interested in so it was nice talking to her about it. One day the subject came up and she asked me when I knew I was gay. I told her about ten years now but I am not gay. I am bisexual. She got defensive and a little angry. Turns out she thought this was my way of getting to know her.She thought I was after only one thing and only pretended to be her friend. Word got out that I was 'confused'.
Not all but some of my gay friends think I am in denial and am afraid to come out.They think bisexuals will screw anything that moves and that we can not be trusted at all.Most my gay friends have a story about how a bisexual they know broke someone they know up. Of course, its always the bisexuals fault never the cheater who is either gay or happens to be bisexual. I have always heard no one breaks up a happy relationship (but according to my friends, bisexuals do) There was a friend a couple years ago who I really liked.He was gay.He came out to his parents and they kicked him out. I felt so bad for him. None of our gay friends took him in.He later told me I was the last person he went to because he knew I was bi and figures I would turn him away. I told him that was nuts and he stayed with me for about 5 weeks til he got on his feet.Another time was in the winter.This was in January and one of the coldest nights of the year. He was dropped off by some friends at the mall where his car was parked at about one o'clock in the morning.His card was dead.He called around and no one was either picking up the phone and wanted to help him out.He called me and I went to pick him up.When I got there he was practically frozen. I gave him alot of support when his parents kicked him out and him and I became closer.I was about 6 years older than him and kind of felt like a mentor to him.We talked about very personal stuff and we got closer and closer.I was seriosuly thinking about turning our friendship into something more and judging by his actions and body language it seemed like he felt the same way.
One night we were at a friends house on his deck having dinner.My bisexuality came up.The conversation turned rather ugly, alot of negative sterotypes about bisexuals came up,lots of things about me came up that were not true and I really got hurt.I was hurt that these people who knew me thought I was the kind of person they were describing.I had listened to all these guys talk about the guys they slept with who they never saw again. All these one night stands and tricks they had. I do not judge them at all. Yet they all turn on me and make me feel like this cheap whore who sleeps around with anything that moves. Funny thing is, they all had me won over. I went about a year without having anyone in my life and here they are almost every weekend with a new boy toy.The highlight of the evening was when this friend of mine who I thought was a real close friend told the others with me right there that he could never,ever be in a relationship with a bisexual.They can't be trusted. He then went on naming all these opinions and passing them off as facts. He was surprised I got so upset. He appologized for misleading me but made it very clear that bi guys are truly sick and that I needed to either come out or get some help.A couple of my gay friends have actually suggested I get some therapy because they feel my bisexuality is not something I am born with but a choice I am making. These gay men have no clue that they are acting just like these homophobes who bash gays who think homosexuality is a choice. What kills me is I am very active in the gay community.I sponsor several friends every year with the annual AIDS walk and I support the gya and lesbian film festivals as well. I have been known to just loose it when I witness or even read anything close to being homophobic.I do not tolerate homophia or anything remotely close to a hate crime or any type of gay bashing whatsoever (I even got after a co worker who kept using the phrase, 'Thats so gay') So, there is a little bit of betrayal I feel within the gay community when I go out of my way to fight for gay rights and show my support for the gay community and then I get pissed on by them
I am at a point where my sexuality is off limits when meeting new people.I hate how everyone around me tells me what I am thinking and how they know what I feel.Who I sleep with should be no ones business.Why is who I am attracted to everyone's business? Why does everyone have something to say about who I love and sleep with? Because of all this I have trouble meeting people.
Theres a certain actor on a tv show who I am in love with.I tell alot of my friends that this is who my dream man is.This guy is 'my type' and how I think he is just perfect. However, we went to the movies the other night and there is a certain actress in the movie who I think is just stunning and beautiful.Even though she's been around for awhile I had never seen or heard of her.I thought she was funny,a good actress, but most of all really hot. I felt the same way towards this actress as I do towards this other actor on tv. None of my friends can grasp this. I have the exact same feelings towards both (physically of course) Because of that one of my 'so called friends' said they don't want to hear about any of my crushes or love interests til I figure out exactly who I am. This really hurt me and even though no one else said anything their silence sort of told me they agreed with him. Since then this friend has called me twice on my cell and three times on my home number not to mention the two emails he has sent.I have not responded to any. He has not appologized at all and this last email he sent he asked what my problem was and said I was acting like a baby.As a matter of fact I have not answered any of the emails or calls of my friends who were there when he said this.
I honestly feel I need to get rid of these people.They are not friends and they are only holding me back and bringing me down.Anyway, I just needed to rant. Thanks for listening!
Not all but some of my gay friends think I am in denial and am afraid to come out.They think bisexuals will screw anything that moves and that we can not be trusted at all.Most my gay friends have a story about how a bisexual they know broke someone they know up. Of course, its always the bisexuals fault never the cheater who is either gay or happens to be bisexual. I have always heard no one breaks up a happy relationship (but according to my friends, bisexuals do) There was a friend a couple years ago who I really liked.He was gay.He came out to his parents and they kicked him out. I felt so bad for him. None of our gay friends took him in.He later told me I was the last person he went to because he knew I was bi and figures I would turn him away. I told him that was nuts and he stayed with me for about 5 weeks til he got on his feet.Another time was in the winter.This was in January and one of the coldest nights of the year. He was dropped off by some friends at the mall where his car was parked at about one o'clock in the morning.His card was dead.He called around and no one was either picking up the phone and wanted to help him out.He called me and I went to pick him up.When I got there he was practically frozen. I gave him alot of support when his parents kicked him out and him and I became closer.I was about 6 years older than him and kind of felt like a mentor to him.We talked about very personal stuff and we got closer and closer.I was seriosuly thinking about turning our friendship into something more and judging by his actions and body language it seemed like he felt the same way.
One night we were at a friends house on his deck having dinner.My bisexuality came up.The conversation turned rather ugly, alot of negative sterotypes about bisexuals came up,lots of things about me came up that were not true and I really got hurt.I was hurt that these people who knew me thought I was the kind of person they were describing.I had listened to all these guys talk about the guys they slept with who they never saw again. All these one night stands and tricks they had. I do not judge them at all. Yet they all turn on me and make me feel like this cheap whore who sleeps around with anything that moves. Funny thing is, they all had me won over. I went about a year without having anyone in my life and here they are almost every weekend with a new boy toy.The highlight of the evening was when this friend of mine who I thought was a real close friend told the others with me right there that he could never,ever be in a relationship with a bisexual.They can't be trusted. He then went on naming all these opinions and passing them off as facts. He was surprised I got so upset. He appologized for misleading me but made it very clear that bi guys are truly sick and that I needed to either come out or get some help.A couple of my gay friends have actually suggested I get some therapy because they feel my bisexuality is not something I am born with but a choice I am making. These gay men have no clue that they are acting just like these homophobes who bash gays who think homosexuality is a choice. What kills me is I am very active in the gay community.I sponsor several friends every year with the annual AIDS walk and I support the gya and lesbian film festivals as well. I have been known to just loose it when I witness or even read anything close to being homophobic.I do not tolerate homophia or anything remotely close to a hate crime or any type of gay bashing whatsoever (I even got after a co worker who kept using the phrase, 'Thats so gay') So, there is a little bit of betrayal I feel within the gay community when I go out of my way to fight for gay rights and show my support for the gay community and then I get pissed on by them
I am at a point where my sexuality is off limits when meeting new people.I hate how everyone around me tells me what I am thinking and how they know what I feel.Who I sleep with should be no ones business.Why is who I am attracted to everyone's business? Why does everyone have something to say about who I love and sleep with? Because of all this I have trouble meeting people.
Theres a certain actor on a tv show who I am in love with.I tell alot of my friends that this is who my dream man is.This guy is 'my type' and how I think he is just perfect. However, we went to the movies the other night and there is a certain actress in the movie who I think is just stunning and beautiful.Even though she's been around for awhile I had never seen or heard of her.I thought she was funny,a good actress, but most of all really hot. I felt the same way towards this actress as I do towards this other actor on tv. None of my friends can grasp this. I have the exact same feelings towards both (physically of course) Because of that one of my 'so called friends' said they don't want to hear about any of my crushes or love interests til I figure out exactly who I am. This really hurt me and even though no one else said anything their silence sort of told me they agreed with him. Since then this friend has called me twice on my cell and three times on my home number not to mention the two emails he has sent.I have not responded to any. He has not appologized at all and this last email he sent he asked what my problem was and said I was acting like a baby.As a matter of fact I have not answered any of the emails or calls of my friends who were there when he said this.
I honestly feel I need to get rid of these people.They are not friends and they are only holding me back and bringing me down.Anyway, I just needed to rant. Thanks for listening!