bi yes, but anal or not?

[mrplayfuluk]

In my explorations on the net in defining my sexuality, I have come across plenty of bi and bicurious guys who are excited about mutual masturbation and oral sex but shudder at the idea of anal sex. Is this a common theme with some of you. If so what is it that puts you off?

[biwords]

I sense a DiamondDog post coming on! :)

[scubaman]

I think it is a personal issue. No, not all men are like that. Myself I want to try anal and hopefully sometime soon I will be able to.

[gcidd]

For me I never really thought about anal. My first time with a guy I was super nervous, and given the guy I was with we strictly focused on oral activities. I didn't even think about anal play. Then I met this second guy, who was older than me (I probably was 28, he was mid 50s), and we had started out oral, but I just got so incredibly turned on, and I wanted to try something new. I asked him if he wanted to screw me, and the funny part was I didn't have to ask twice. It ended up being one of the most awesome sexual encounters ever for me. My point being it's something you do when you're ready. When I meet a guy for the first time there has to be a comfort level. Generally we start out with mutual masturbation and move forward to more things when we're ready. I don't think anyone can jump into anything.

[welickit]

I had my first anal experience when I was 14. It was with a much older guy who picked me up as I was hitch hiking a ride. He gave me a blow job then fucked me. Even though I was nervous it didn't hurt and was enjoyable. As a result I have always enjoyed anal, whether it is with another guy or my wife with one of her strap on's. I am fortunate to have a wife that enjoys it as much as I do.

[Tx46M]

Many times with women, giving and receiving (toys/strap-ons) so far only oral with guys. Not closed to the idea, given the right circumstances I probably would indulge. ;)

:male: :2cents:

[allbimyself]

This isn't uncommon, just like there are str8 guys that love different forms of anal play. Being str8, bi or gay as nothing to do with WHAT you do but, rather, WHO you do it with.

[Diana_TS]

Everyone is different, whether bi, gay, or straight. Some women love to give oral sex, some love to receive, some don't like either, the same goes for men straight or bi. Anal is just another form of sex, some like it some don't. I didn't think I would like it until the first time it happened, now I love it. Viva la difference. :bigrin:

[open4bizness]

I heart the anal.

[xxxcjs]

I think this is a pretty common issue , I am still lookingfor my first bi experiance but only intrested in oral .

[wolfcamp]

In my explorations on the net in defining my sexuality, I have come across plenty of bi and bicurious guys who are excited about mutual masturbation and oral sex but shudder at the idea of anal sex. Is this a common theme with some of you. If so what is it that puts you off?

I think first and foremost is the worry about disease. Beyond that, anal sex takes, or might be perceived to take a very dominant or submissive role, and some guys might not be ready for such a role. Just think about it. A guy would have to enjoy a certain amount of dominance to climb on top of another guy and fuck him. On the other hand, you take on a very submissive role, and posture, when you allow another guy to mount you. I think that's kind of a scary thought for some guys.

[Johnny Reb]

Just my feelings on it, but, I would be afraid of it hurting my crack, and of disease. It just seems unsanitary to me.

[Biboz49]

I think it's a common theme and just preference as well as comfort level. Of course you don't have to like anal to be bi. Personally I fantasize about taking it anally and that gets me off :tongue: Initially I found it very uncomfortable to take a normal sized dildo but I keep trying because the thought turns me on so much and I'm getting more and more comfortable with it. I agree there needs to be a comfort level with the person you're with.

[biwords]

I truly think that anal sex is the crown jewel in man-to-man sex.

Scott Fitzgerald, if I remember right, said that for a long while after you read Keats, all other poetry "is just humming". Not that I don't enjoy other kinds of man-to-man contact, but I do think that something of the same thing can be said of anal as Fitzgerald said of his experience of Keats.

So there, friend DiamondDog!

[DiamondDog]

I truly think that anal sex is the crown jewel in man-to-man sex.

Scott Fitzgerald, if I remember right, said that for a long while after you read Keats, all other poetry "is just humming". Not that I don't enjoy other kinds of man-to-man contact, but I do think that something of the same thing can be said of anal as Fitzgerald said of his experience of Keats.

So there, friend DiamondDog!

Not everyone's wired for pleasure from anal sex like you are.

I've tried it and it's not for me. However, I'd like to experiment with anal and vaginal fisting on the giving end.

I've met lots of other men who feel the same way and aren't as anally oriented as we're a lot more oral and masturbatory in our sex practises, and some men I'm friends with aren't even into penetrative sex at all for the most part or some only save oral penetration for sex with a husband/boyfriend/partner.

I have no problem finding men who I'm sexually compatible with as it's simply not a problem for me, and I talk to people before having sex with them and tell them what I'm into and what I'm not into.

Even if a guy says he is a hardcore anal sex top/bottom it doesn't mean that you have to or simply must have anal sex with him just because that is his preference.

[Audioslave]

Ive tried it when I was younger and loved it. I wish I had someone trustworthy now to do it, but alas I havent. If youre happy and relaxed,its ace.

[swans]

I am not that keen on recieving full length anal- I have tried it a few times with my two bi-buddies bit I find it too painful (It may be because they both have quite thick shafts).
But I do like to feel a hard pointing cock slide between my smooth raised oily buttocks and feel its big swollen nob nudge against me before it slips inside a little- especially when I have my mouth full at the time with another big nob!

[the mage]

Recieving Anal is absolutely one of the most pleasurable things in sex if you are wired for it.
It requires physical submission which most men are not willing to give up, but to those who do, its sublime in its pleasure.
For me I orgasm from being fucked by a talented top. The stimulation of the prostate is just like a womans G spot.

[Johnny Reb]

So it just comes down to how you are wired, whether its for you are not? So way to know then until you try right?

Has anyone had similar fears as the ones I expressed, only to try it and find anal to be enjoyable?

[ds6220]

well, this one is tricky. my experience with guys is very limited (one suck off in the woods, so, yeah, limited) but one thing that may cause a bi man to be cautious of anal (besides the obvious STD thing) is that if he "goes all the way" then he may not really be bi but gay. Some may feel that bi is aceptable but gay is not. I think I would like to try anal if given the right opportunity but there is that little bit of me that worries what that says about me.

[DiamondDog]

well, this one is tricky. my experience with guys is very limited (one suck off in the woods, so, yeah, limited) but one thing that may cause a bi man to be cautious of anal (besides the obvious STD thing) is that if he "goes all the way" then he may not really be bi but gay. Some may feel that bi is aceptable but gay is not. I think I would like to try anal if given the right opportunity but there is that little bit of me that worries what that says about me.

eh I could care less if someone thinks I'm gay. I can't pass as being heterosexual (whatever that means?) but I don't care about this.

anyway IMO people shouldn't use heterosexual standards of sex (i.e. going all the way, fucking="real" sex while everything else is just "messing around") with gay sex, bisexual sex, or sex that isn't purely heterosexual and completely vanilla.

Anal sex is far from a requirement for being gay and I know lots of gay and bisexual men who simply don't do it and just do oral sex instead and some who are only into sucking cock and don't get blown at all, and there are others who are the complete opposite in that they only get blown and don't suck cock at all.

Also in my first post here I've written about men who are big into jack off/masturbatory sex.

[Peggy]

It does not matter. It's only what you really feel and want. I personally don't like the kissing part. But otherwise I will more than happy to lick a man everywhere. Of course diseases is quite an important issue. I started enjoying anal play alone when I was 14. Then I got married and was straight until last year when I managed to convince my wife in using a strap-on. So am lucky. But still would like to have a great first experience with a man. I usually do not have any problem. It is very pleasurable. I enjoy better than screwing my wife. Anal pleasure is just great...After some trials you get use to it and you even require little lubrication. You so excited that your ass responds to it. It's great...

[ds6220]

you know, I guess that makes sense. the whole thing is new to me and I can only associate this in ways that relate to past experience.

[BoaterGuy69]

I personally do not wish to be on the receiving end. I have never given a man anal but might be willing with the right partner (i.e. - no STDs). That is hard to determine and receiving is just not for me. From what others posted maybe it is the submissive part that I don't care for, but I just think that it would hurt too much.

[mooon]

It is very common to find guys that are only interested in oral.

I got into anal first by myself, then with my wife's assistance.
It does not hurt if you get used to it.
It sends me over the top!
I decided I am bi because I need to get fucked.

For me, JO and BJs are just foreplay!

Each to his own.

[jay_1981]

im a big fan of anal

[dickhand]

Well , I guess I must be wired for it . My cousin and I started out doing each other when we were around 13 y/o . Oral came later . Anal never stopped . As we got older he decided he didn't enjoy receiving anal and I did , so whenever we get together now , I always receive . I cum almost everytime I get fucked . You gotta love the prostrate . I love to give but most encounters I have had since coming of age have been with tops .

[the mage]

well, this one is tricky. my experience with guys is very limited (one suck off in the woods, so, yeah, limited) but one thing that may cause a bi man to be cautious of anal (besides the obvious STD thing) is that if he "goes all the way" then he may not really be bi but gay. Some may feel that bi is aceptable but gay is not. I think I would like to try anal if given the right opportunity but there is that little bit of me that worries what that says about me.

................what a silly thing to feel....................

you are what you are, Labels just confuse things as shown right here.

you need to remember, there is NO SUCH THING as "bisexual activity".

There is hetero sex, there is Homo sex. there is no Bi sex. PEOPLE are bisexual the activities you take part in are homosexual sex.
Get over it. and do what feels good.

[DiamondDog]

................what a silly thing to feel....................

you are what you are, Labels just confuse things as shown right here.

you need to remember, there is NO SUCH THING as "bisexual activity".

There is hetero sex, there is Homo sex. there is no Bi sex. PEOPLE are bisexual the activities you take part in are homosexual sex.
Get over it. and do what feels good.

What if you're having sex with both a man and a woman at the same time?

Myself and many others see that as being bisexual sex since it's with both genders at the same time.

[biwords]

What if you're having sex with both a man and a woman at the same time?

Myself and many others see that as being bisexual sex since it's with both genders at the same time.

I'm with the Mage here. What DD describes is simply straight and gay sex taking place simultaneously. I suppose having sex with a hermaphrodite would constitute 'bisexual sex'.

[K.D.Lucky28]

I've had anal before (only receiving) and I liked the sensation but I found it a little unsanitary. I never did it again after that, I am strictly oral and mututal masturbation (thats what I really LOVE to do). No anal, but I love to watch a guy just get off and cum right in front of me and know that I'm the 1 doing it to him. I like everything but anal. Nope no butt sex 4 me.:yikes2:

[NakedInSeattle]

Bi yes..but anal no...have tried it and find it painful. Have given anal (male and female) and find it ok only if the other really wants it. Would love to experience it if could get past the pain.

[biwords]

Mutual masturbation ranks way up there for me, too. Do you think it's a common favorite?

[matterinhand]

Must admit I've only read the first few replies, so something similar may have been said.

I enjoy giving anal, either to my wife or to our playmates, but personally whenever I've had anything up my anus I just feel like I'm desperate for the toilet, and that (for me) isnt erotic.

[wildgal70]

No anal for me, hurts too much!

[intuit2]

interesting thread....my take.......I'm way too "anal" to be into anal....lol

[open4bizness]

Must admit I've only read the first few replies, so something similar may have been said.

I enjoy giving anal, either to my wife or to our playmates, but personally whenever I've had anything up my anus I just feel like I'm desperate for the toilet, and that (for me) isnt erotic.

Come on, admit it. When you go poo, you go "oooo!"

:tongue:

[jem_is_bi]

Come on, admit it. When you go poo, you go "oooo!"

:tongue:

Only after the deed is done and dog is gone!!
I am not about to put it back!!!

Anal?
In. Ouch!
Out. Ah!!
In. Ouch!!!
Out. Aaaah!!!
In. :eek::eek::eek:
Out. :):):)

JEM

[mooon]

Dirty?
Not if you douche first.

Hurts?
Your butt must be RELAXED. For a newbie it may take a looong time to get used to something going IN. Start small. Don't forget the lube. Patience.

It will be worth it !
But, each to their own. :yinyang:

[chook]

I'll just stick to being a royal pain in the arse.......:tongue:


Cheers Chook :bigrin:

[timepga50]

I enjoy recieveing anal either with a dildo or perferably a real dick. I always have ,even though my first time was kinda of painful.I could'nt even begin to explain why.:)

[darkeyes]

Anal is fine if ya like that sorta thing... gud luk 2 yas...but not for me ta.. much nicer ways of enjoyin meself tyvm!

[elctrogirl]

i've totally changed my mind about anal in the last year. i had tried full on anal sex years before with a few guys, but it was way too fast and it hurt like hell and i couldn't crap right for the next several days. later i was surprised when someone stuck their pinky up my ass just as i was cumming, and it felt awesome! the orgasm was so strong. when i did porn I ran into a lot of girls who really liked anal, some even better than conventional hetero sex. so i'm exploring, but i think i'm going to like it...

[mark123]

In my explorations on the net in defining my sexuality, I have come across plenty of bi and bicurious guys who are excited about mutual masturbation and oral sex but shudder at the idea of anal sex. Is this a common theme with some of you. If so what is it that puts you off?

I've given head a few times but I'm a bottom and definitely want to receive anal sex too.

[mike9753]

I have been told that the anus holds many more nerve endings than other parts of the body. So if that is correct, and I think it is, then anal activity - rimming, fucking, etc. has the potential to be extremely pleasurable.

Mile

[AdamKadmon43]

It never ceases to astound me as to how much information people are willing to volunteer about their personal lives.... Just go into a forum and discuss for the entire world to see, whether or not you like to get fucked in the butt..... What the hell is wrong with people ???? Wouldn't one think that sort of thing would be rather personal ???

Maybe I should start a thread on how often people change their underwear (assuming that they wear any). I'll just bet that there would be all sorts of people who could not resist the urge to enlighten everyone as to the whys and wherefores of underware changing. I am sure that there would be long and elaborate, eloquent discourses on underware changing... complete with philosophical approaches to that subject that no one else had ever thought of. (please forgive the bad grammar).

I am begining to suspect that myself and great deal of other people in here have far, far to much un-usable time on their hands.

Adam

[anteak]

In HS I had two buddies that fucked me and I fucked them. We were curious to find out how it felt to put our cocks into another person. We didn't have girlfriends. Over the years I've had many many more cocks up my ass than in my mouth. I find it so exiting to feel a cock enter me and stretch my ass, it can be painful if not done slowly and well lubricated. B4 aids I visited many gay baths all over the country just to get fucked. I did suck maybe 4-5 cocks but getting fucked was my goal. A friend used to arrange to have someone stay with him that would fuck me on monday mornings (his day off) he would watch then suck my cock till i'd cum. I remember once when this guy fucked me good, after he shot his load he went to clean up and Ray was sucking me, Frank returned and stood beside the bed watching, I looked up and saw that flaccid cock hanging there, I couldn't resist , I raised up and took it in my mouth hoping to get him hard so he could fuck me again. He said "sorry I can only fuck once" so I quit. It was the very first time I ever tried to suck a cock. Ray told me about the "Gay Baths" and how men went there to have sex. They were usually listed in the phone book and not hard to find so I visited many of them during my working life. Primarily to get fucked. However curiosity did enter and I had to find out what it felt like to suck a cock and eventually what it was like to have someone cum in my mouth. I sucked maybe 5-6 cocks to settle my curiosity. I didn't get into serrious cock sucking til late in life, learned to DT and enjoy feeling a pulsing cock unload with the head as deep in my throat as it can get (I found I can take 8") Ive eaten my cum for years and now enjoy eating others.

[rosendo]

Anal is great, and I missed so much. My last anal was 23, years ago, try but with a small cook first. It is a good idea to masturbate while been penetrated. Also the most wonderful thing is that you may eyaculate while been penetrated ,with no masturbation and that is the most delicious act ever.







In my explorations on the net in defining my sexuality, I have come across plenty of bi and bicurious guys who are excited about mutual masturbation and oral sex but shudder at the idea of anal sex. Is this a common theme with some of you. If so what is it that puts you off?

[warmpuppy]

My gay next door neighbor introduced me to the greek ways earlier this summer. My first time as a bottom, and I wonder what took me so long.

Wow!

[Duneman69]

My wife was really into group sex with bi guys when we first met. Although I'd had oral sex with several men, anal held no appeal for me so I'd never tried. My wife, however got off on seeing guys do anal and though she never pressured me I agreed to try it with some of the other guys she was having sex with.

After trying with four different guys on five occasions, my wife told me to forget about it. It was so apparent I DIDN'T enjoy it that it spoiled it for her.

[ambiSextrous]

...My last anal was 23, years ago, try but with a small cook first...

I fried it with a small cook...does that count?:rolleyes:

[guycurious]

I love it. My wife and I have had the company of two bi guys to date. The first guy (my first time w/ a guy) was kinda' disappointing. The second guy had a nice tool AND a bi wife to boot. The four of us got together and had a great time exploring. Alas, they are no longer around.

I love the sensation of having something inside me. My wife can almost fit her entire hand inside me and the orgasm is mind blowing.

We are still trying to find a bi guy for a FWB situation. We may have found one but I think my wife is starting to back peddle on the whole sharing of her husband w/ someone else concept.

Very frustrating........This pent up sexual desire is killing me......

[citystyleguy]

In my explorations on the net in defining my sexuality, I have come across plenty of bi and bicurious guys who are excited about mutual masturbation and oral sex but shudder at the idea of anal sex. Is this a common theme with some of you. If so what is it that puts you off?

never on the first date, what kind of guy do you take me for!

all kidding aside, i dont do one night stands, so as for my choice of taking my time, and thereby for myself and my partner(s) getting to know them and what makes them groan the deepest, enjoy the longest, and yell the loudest, i have always enjoyed anal sex, just do it right, take your time, and explore your options.

good anal sex is an art, and best done with an appreciative partner(s); if you want to explore the art, start with yourself and learn.

unfortunately, for some practitioners it is used to dominate, done roughly, and then becomes a focus of disgust. it is also a complete surrender to your partner, an absolute placement of trust in the same, and so for those who are willing to try, this becomes a major obstacle.