Long Duck Dong
Aug 11, 2007, 4:30 AM
monogamy ...possibly one of the worst swearwords in the sexual dictionary.....
what is so bad about monogamy...???? lol its the point of view....
to some its the chains and locks of faithfulness.....but others is the ultimate in love and respect....but why is it such a *swearword*
monogamy conjures up images of a ball and chain, no fun, no enjoying the presence of the same and opposite sex in a sexual manner etc....a outdated and sadistic christian *rule of law *
monogamy, in fact, is a choice, a desire and a compromise...many people in monogamous relationships are quite happy with their partner, and do enjoy the presence of others in a non sexual manner, but desire only the one partner whom they are sharing their life with
in a day and age when human rights are at the forefront of near everything..... it is fast becoming a opinion, that a monogamous relationship is a invasion of a persons rights...lol
all too often we are starting to see more and more people in open relationships.... and just as quickly, relationships that crash and burn
unfortunately, the rate of verbal, emotional and mental manipulation in relationships is starting to hit a all time high, all too often stories surface about partners pushed into open relationships, casual sex encounters, kinky sex etc, leaving the person so messed up and screwed up that they may require months or even years of counseling to recover their self esteem and self worth
even in the forum from time to time, we see threads about people seeking ways to get their partner to warm to the idea of a open relationship / casual sex..... at times we read that the partner has said "NO * to the idea, yet the person seeks advice on how to push their partner to say * yes *
is it in the interests of building on the relationship ???
is it helping to nurture feelings of love and respect....????
well if mental, emotional and verbal manipulation is part of a healthy relationship, I need to really look at the relationships that are solid and nurturing without manipulation cos they are doing it wrong....
so why is monogamy so bad ??? cos it asks a person to commit to a relationship with another person and make sacrifices......sacrifices ????? arrrggghhhh, that means giving up something.....we can't do that.... thats wrong, thats unfair, thats not compromising......but we can ask our partners to sacrifice their desire for a monogamous relationship and thats perfectly ok...
many people say to me, that a relationship is about compromise.... and I agree, " lets compromise about the housework, bills, tv watching, time with friends, US time *.....
however I still fail to see how wanting a open relationship is a compromise..... as one person has to lose, if one person desires a monogamous relationship and the other person desires a open relationship.... there can be no compromise..... you can't have a open and closed door, its either open or closed
UNLESS both partners seek a open relationship.... then there can be no compromise....
so if wanting a monogamous relationship, being selfish ??? no.....
a person is asking that they be special to their partners, valuable, unique......that is what monogamous relationships are about.... placing your partner on a pedestal....
when you ask for a open relationship, you are saying to your partner that they are not that special person, they are a person that shares your life, your heart and your bed... WITH OTHERS
so when a person *laughs * at a monogamous relationship, they are saying that the values in the relations are stupid, foolish and outdated......
but the values of a monogamous relationship are built on love, respect, caring, honesty, compromise and commitment
a open relationship...is built on those things, but the open aspect is built around sex....
if you removed the ability to have sex from a open relationship, you don't have a open relationship....
so to the people that decry monogamous relationships as * evil and wrong *, i have this advise.... tell your partner that you can not commit to them.... sex is your world.... and that the more you are fucking around, the more chance the relationship has of surviving
to the people willingly in open relationships, congratulations, play safe, and best wishes
to the people in relationships, that want a open relationship against their partners wishes.... make a choice....
tell them that you feel your need to get laid by somebody other than them, is so important that they need to sacrifice their dreams and desires just so you can be happy, and screw their feelings
and to the people in a monogamous relationship.... smile, a monogamous relationship is hard to hold together in a world of temptations....but if you and your partner totally love each other and are willing to compromise, then almost nothing is impossible.....
what is so bad about monogamy...???? lol its the point of view....
to some its the chains and locks of faithfulness.....but others is the ultimate in love and respect....but why is it such a *swearword*
monogamy conjures up images of a ball and chain, no fun, no enjoying the presence of the same and opposite sex in a sexual manner etc....a outdated and sadistic christian *rule of law *
monogamy, in fact, is a choice, a desire and a compromise...many people in monogamous relationships are quite happy with their partner, and do enjoy the presence of others in a non sexual manner, but desire only the one partner whom they are sharing their life with
in a day and age when human rights are at the forefront of near everything..... it is fast becoming a opinion, that a monogamous relationship is a invasion of a persons rights...lol
all too often we are starting to see more and more people in open relationships.... and just as quickly, relationships that crash and burn
unfortunately, the rate of verbal, emotional and mental manipulation in relationships is starting to hit a all time high, all too often stories surface about partners pushed into open relationships, casual sex encounters, kinky sex etc, leaving the person so messed up and screwed up that they may require months or even years of counseling to recover their self esteem and self worth
even in the forum from time to time, we see threads about people seeking ways to get their partner to warm to the idea of a open relationship / casual sex..... at times we read that the partner has said "NO * to the idea, yet the person seeks advice on how to push their partner to say * yes *
is it in the interests of building on the relationship ???
is it helping to nurture feelings of love and respect....????
well if mental, emotional and verbal manipulation is part of a healthy relationship, I need to really look at the relationships that are solid and nurturing without manipulation cos they are doing it wrong....
so why is monogamy so bad ??? cos it asks a person to commit to a relationship with another person and make sacrifices......sacrifices ????? arrrggghhhh, that means giving up something.....we can't do that.... thats wrong, thats unfair, thats not compromising......but we can ask our partners to sacrifice their desire for a monogamous relationship and thats perfectly ok...
many people say to me, that a relationship is about compromise.... and I agree, " lets compromise about the housework, bills, tv watching, time with friends, US time *.....
however I still fail to see how wanting a open relationship is a compromise..... as one person has to lose, if one person desires a monogamous relationship and the other person desires a open relationship.... there can be no compromise..... you can't have a open and closed door, its either open or closed
UNLESS both partners seek a open relationship.... then there can be no compromise....
so if wanting a monogamous relationship, being selfish ??? no.....
a person is asking that they be special to their partners, valuable, unique......that is what monogamous relationships are about.... placing your partner on a pedestal....
when you ask for a open relationship, you are saying to your partner that they are not that special person, they are a person that shares your life, your heart and your bed... WITH OTHERS
so when a person *laughs * at a monogamous relationship, they are saying that the values in the relations are stupid, foolish and outdated......
but the values of a monogamous relationship are built on love, respect, caring, honesty, compromise and commitment
a open relationship...is built on those things, but the open aspect is built around sex....
if you removed the ability to have sex from a open relationship, you don't have a open relationship....
so to the people that decry monogamous relationships as * evil and wrong *, i have this advise.... tell your partner that you can not commit to them.... sex is your world.... and that the more you are fucking around, the more chance the relationship has of surviving
to the people willingly in open relationships, congratulations, play safe, and best wishes
to the people in relationships, that want a open relationship against their partners wishes.... make a choice....
tell them that you feel your need to get laid by somebody other than them, is so important that they need to sacrifice their dreams and desires just so you can be happy, and screw their feelings
and to the people in a monogamous relationship.... smile, a monogamous relationship is hard to hold together in a world of temptations....but if you and your partner totally love each other and are willing to compromise, then almost nothing is impossible.....