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TaylorMade

Jul 20, 2007, 6:37 PM

After hanging out on the internet for . . . wow, 10 years. . . I have developed a theory: 85-90% of people on the internet are who they or their pictures say they are. It's the other 10-15% that give the 'Net a bad name.

I've had some good 85-90% stories. Dated one or two of 'em. But it's the 10-15% stories I'd like to hear.

Here's mine:

I joined a personals website called PlentyOfFish. I said I was bi in the profile. I got the attention of a guy who was local, but originally from Toronto. He seemed cool, and that picture! Trust me, you'd eat this up. . . strapping, auburn haired w/ a great bod. I was revved up for this meeting. We were going to go to Starbucks at a local Marina and then do...whatever.
I went to Starbucks and walking in the same time I was - - a paunchy, grey, shadow of the guy in the picture. Needless to say, I was a little piqued. We still took a walk and talked... bid him good bye, and took some pictures of the marina and went home.
Waiting for me was an e-mail. He didn't apologize for his dishonesty and went a step further and asked if maybe "a girlfriend" and I could "join him for some naughty fun". . .some random afternoon, because to be honest, while listening to me, "I really couldn't take my eyes of those titties of yours."

WOW. Just bad.

Anyhow, anyone else with their 10-15% stories?

*Taylor*

CardShark

Jul 20, 2007, 7:11 PM

TaylorMade

Jul 20, 2007, 7:15 PM

:eek: If i told you Taylor :rolleyes: you wouldn't believe it! Very long long long story and kinda embarrasing. I dunno.....your odds might be a tiny bit off i think?? I hope your right though i'm not so sure.

Try me, CardShark. :) This is going off of alot of meetings and like 2 board get togethers.

*Taylor*

CardShark

Jul 20, 2007, 7:34 PM

I became friends with a girl whom i talked with for i dunno six months or round abouts and she used really sexy pictures in swimsuits,towels,panties and tshirt and such of her daughter to get me to talk to her. Took me some time to piece things together about her. Little comment here...little one there. Wasn't anything really out of the ordinary about her like she was rich or miss america or some shit. Just lied about her age,martial status and picture pretty much. We got into a pretty big fuss you could say over the phone one day when i pieced all the things together would take a long time to describe how that all came down. The last few months of talking to her was almost like being a detective a little bit. But bad thing is her personality was awesome. I gave her a million chances to come clean but she stuck to her story to the end. Finally she said enough with this i will prove it to you! She drove 300 miles and came to the casino where i play poker at most days and just showed up. I of course had no idea who in the fuck she was??? She claimed to be 26 and was really 46. She was also very overweight. I am a person that thinks some bigger girls are way hot! BUT! Number one she must be super confident and have no issues or baggage about it. The age thing ummmm who couldn't get over an age difference. However, I told her by going about it the way she did she has a better chance being an astronaut. Not to mention, showing me hot photos of her daughter to get me interested! To me that is beyond wrong! She started balling crying and said see you hate me cause i'm fat that is why i lied. I said no i would tell the hottest girl on planet earth the exact same thing i'm telling you now. Get the fuck away from me! I had a friend of mine who was floor boss at the time to call security and have her 86d. Never spoke to her again. That is about as short and sweet as i can make it but there is a shitload more in detail. :rolleyes:

TaylorMade

Jul 20, 2007, 7:44 PM

WOW!

My friend told me about her cousin who used to be in Ice Capades (or something similar). . .and had since gained a whole lot of weight. But, she used a picture from those days and used it to entice men. . .one guy showed up to her workplace with roses. . .let's just say many were quite disappointed.

*Taylor*

CardShark

Jul 20, 2007, 8:09 PM

Yeah but you daughter bent over a motorcycle in a string bikini? I mean who does this? Actually kinda made me think like she needed a padded room or some shit. She needs to be in the same building with Charlie Manson,Micheal Jackson and that crazy bitch who thought God told her to drown all five of her kids one by one. Forgive her? Pffft I would be afraid to sleep in the same house with the bitch! :eek:

DiamondDog

Jul 20, 2007, 10:31 PM

This guy found my blog/live journal and it turned out that we had quite a bit in common like we're around the same age (he was a year older than me), we live near each other, we like the same music/authors/foods, and he invited me out for coffee/tea so I said OK and this was after chatting for about 4-5 months.

We meet up and he looks like he does in his pictures and over coffee and tea, and we get to talking.

He asks me sexual questions abouit myself so I answer them truthfully. I tell him how I'm not vanilla and other things about myself like how I don't do anal sex. He tells me that he's vanilla and that he's a bottom for anal sex. He also he insists that he's "gay" yet he wants to have more sex with women, and has had a 3 way with a man and a woman. He also claimed that he could afford to live in a major east coast city and afford rent in a nice area, food, utilities, etc. and pay for it all by working minimum wage at a pet store and by tutoring Italian via email and phone. That didn't add up or even make any sense at all.

Then later after coffee and walking around the city he invites me back to his place to have sex with him and says "Let's go back to my place and fuck or I could just blow you."

I tell him how I'm not into that the first time I date/meet someone, and how we're not that sexually compatible anyway, and I go home.

As soon as I get home and log onto AIM he IM's me and he says how he wants to tie me up (don't worry I didn't do ANYTHING with this nutty guy), and how he wants to have more sex and do bondage with women. He also jokes about wanting to fuck me and I tell him how that's not going to happen. He tells me how I talked about nothing but sex LOL.

He kept inviting me out and telling me how badly he wanted sex with me like how he wanted to blow me or have me fuck him, and how the next time we hung out he was going to show me his cock and I jokingly said what if I dont' want to see it? Or what if I laugh when I see it?

I just got annoyed one day and told him flat out, how I didn't want to have sex with him and I started ignoring his IMs, and I never saw him again to date or hang out. After our first time meeting when he IM'd me after I came home, I'd just ignore his IM's.

Eventually he got the hint and asked if we were on speaking terms and I said no how we're not compatible and he asked about being friends and I said sorry that's not going to work out either. He admitted and lied and said how he felt the same way but he was clearly into me since he kept IMing me and inviting me for sex and all that.

I told other friends of mine about him and they agree with me about how he just lied about everything or was just so sketchy, because he wanted to be the person that he thought that I wanted him to be instead of just being himself.

I met this other guy for coffee who I had met on a dating/sex site and I was thinking about doing SM with him.

We meet up for coffee and we have quite a bit in common since we both went to the same highschool and he was a few years ahead of me.

Anyway, he wants me to do W/S with him in a starbucks bathroom and I just tell him sorry I don't want to do that and I go home.

The first and so far only woman I've had sex with I met online through a friend and they both went to the same college.

My friend and I take her to a nearby hippie/artsy town and we walk around and I get to telling her how I've never had a girlfriend or had sex with a woman and she started making fun of me and saying how she'll have sex with me.

We go into a sex toy/porn store and I find out that she is submissive and into bondage/SM so I take a rider's crop off the wall and use it on her in the store a bit. We were in the back of the store away from the clerks and the person running the store didn't say anything and again it's not like we got naked or anything.

Anyway my friend and I take her out to dinner and I figure that he wants to take her to a nice place so I get dressed up and she winds up attacking me and making out with me and saying how she wants to have sex with me.

Note that when I was dressed casually and not so nice (I had put on nice clothing and gel in my hair and changed out of a T-shirt and shorts) she could have cared less about me!

My friend did suggest a 3 way between us and her but I did not want to see him naked as he has VERY bad hygeine and he isn't bisexual and he's heterosexual, so he wouldn't have had sex with me anyway and he's not even my type.

All of us went out to dinner and I wound up touching her legs under the table and later in the car when my friend is driving us around I start to masturbate her and I tell her how we're having sex but how no matter what else we do or don't do how we'll just part ways in the morning since we both live in different areas and we talked about how neither of us want a relationship.

I wind up giving her oral sex in a parking lot and letting my friend and another guy watch and I was very dominant when I did this to her. She wants me to fuck her bareback and I tell her fuck no and that ends it. I wasn't even getting hard from the sex we were having and I liked giving a woman oral sex but I didn't like her. The police show up and all of us quickly run into a movie theater with tickets for a movie that we'd purchased earlier.

She winds up telling me how she wants to "use" my body and I get annoyed at this telling her how I'm not a piece of meat or a human dildo for her gratification, and she also talks about how she had done some VERY dangerous things in the past with men like barebacking and swallowing cum from random guys.

We part ways and she goes home with my friend since she is staying with him and winds up having sex with him that night. I don't care about this at all.

She stalks me online saying how we're "in love" or how we're "going out" and how I'm her boyfriend when we'd previously agreed that it was only sex and that we'd go our seperate ways and get on with our lives. Eventually she winds up stalking me and going to my house but I just didn't answer the door.

She and my friend both wind up telling me how she lied about all the dangerous sex that she'd had with guys in the past and how she hadn't done any of that. She said how she thought that if she presented herself as being slutty that I'd somehow want her more for some strange reason. I tell her how I don't care that she had sex with my friend but how we're not going out or how I'm not her boyfriend and how we're not in love.

I kinda did chew her out online when she IM'd me and said all of that and went back on our agreement.

Most of the people who I've dated/had relationships/met from the internet are OK and these 3 were the exception.

AdamKadmon43

Jul 20, 2007, 10:53 PM

Herbwoman39

Jul 21, 2007, 1:27 AM

Way back in the Dark Ages of chat, when we used dial-up modems, I met a young man who claimed he was 24 and a lawyer. We talked on the phone a few times and he did sound about that age. But because scanners and digital cameras were prohibitively expensive, exchanging photos was nearly impossible.

We dated for about six months though there were signs here and ther that he wasn't quite what he claimed. So early one morning I asked a frined of his for his phone number and I called. An older-sounding woman picked up the phone so I asked if he was there. His MOTHER replied that he had left for school already.

Turns out he was 14. His net account was revoked by his parents and I didn't see him again for a very long time.

Much to his credit though, when he *did* come back he apologized profusely saying that he did it because he knew i was so depressed and he just wanted me to be happy.

ForbiddenWindow

Jul 21, 2007, 2:29 AM

Insamuch I'll just read and learn. Wow, I was wondering how fake society can get? Like whats the point of pretending to be something your not?

And as to herbal woman, I think its kinda cute that he was trying to make u
happy. Probably way ahead of his other fellow classmates for emotions at the
age of 14.

DiamondDog

Jul 21, 2007, 5:07 AM

Sorry....

I don't have any good internet stories.... horror or otherwise.

I have not yet ever gotten desperate enough to want to actually meet (for love, romance and sex) people that I chat with on the internet. I might be guilty of occasionaly have gotten drunk and engaged in a bit of cyber, (****YOU DID NOT NEED TO ADMIT THAT YOU DAMNED IDIOT****), but that is about it.

Forums and chat room are an interesting platforms for the exchange of ideas, and to meet interesting and diverse people. Most of the people that I communicate with (most expecially here) are probably really nice, sincere, honest people who are what they say they are. But, when it comes to meeting people for real, I still prefer to do it the old-fashioned way...

Pick 'em up in a bar.

Adam

LOL be careful!

Bars can be freak magnets!

I'm serious. I've met the following people in bars.

I have a friend who I met in a bar who used to do sex for pay and he had been with well, A LOT of men and women in the 1980s in NYC and he used to IV drugs, and yet claimed that he was 100% clean and had no STDs at all.

He offered me sex but I just said no thanks, we just went for coffee instead and talked.

I felt really bad for him since he had a fucked up life and if you've ever seen the movie Mysterious Skin that was basically his life but he wasn't so mean and heartless as the main character in that movie. But he was still whole as a person and still a human being.

I have two other friends who are together on/off a lot, and the one husband/exhusband was/is big into IVing drugs and barebacking as a bottom (getting fucked without a condom), and he claimed that he was 100% clean and didn't have HIV/HEP C. He and his husband invited me for sex as they have an open relationship; but I said no thanks.

I also have met a completely bat shit MTF who claimed that she had once been a long range sniper in the army during the vietnam era and she was hired by the gov't, how she could have been "made" in the mob, and how she used to take lots of amphetamines and LSD. She claimed that HIV was transmitted via DNA and she seemed very paranoid and schizophranic to me.

I also once met a cute girl and we got to talking and she talked about how her ex boyfriend was big into IVing heroin and how he did that daily for 4-5 years.

I picked up a leather boy in a bar and I took him home and I wound up flogging his ass and paddling him and I made him piss outside. He wanted me to originally go to his dungeon and I said hell no and I offered to tie him up, blindfold him, and give him other sensations but he didn't want any of that. Eventually in the middle of when we were having sex in the form of erotic SM I Just said OK enough! I'm not a mind reader and ended it, since he wanted me to be REALLY dominant but I'd never met him and I told him I was going to do these things to him but he didn't want me to. Also, he didn't use safewords in the SSC (safe, sane, and consensual) method but he did it more in the RACK way.

I don't IV drugs but in the area where I grew up and another area where I lived for a few years heroin/cocaine were VERY popular and lots of people did IV them or use them.

CountryLover

Jul 21, 2007, 9:15 AM

When I first joined the chat room #bi-married-men, I picked up a stalker.

He hated me terribly, and stalked me for over a year. He threatened me in all sorts of awful ways. I changed email accounts almost weekly, and somehow he always managed to track me down. He also called with menacing threats.

I was pretty scared by it all, but then he started threatening my family and THAT's when I took care of it. I had a phone sex friend who was a private investigator. He tracked this idiot down, located his home information, his wife's work info, his own job info, and the fact that he'd been stealing from his company (I had hard proof.)

My friend sent an encrypted email to Idiot and told him if he ever threatened me again, that all the gory details of his sexual hijinks AND his illegal job activities would be published to all interested parties.

:) I never heard from Idiot again.

Then there was the pedophile/conman who is enjoying our Federal penitentiary after I tracked him down for the FBI.

On the flip side, I met my beloved husband on AFF in Mar 2006, and we're celebrating our first anniversary next week. He was definitely a diamond in the pigpen!

I've literally met thousands of folks offline from past reunions and chat rooms. I'd say at least 90% of them are just good folks - but that last 10% are real stinkers!

chulainn2

Jul 21, 2007, 2:17 PM

I had a girl stalk me last year. We met (I dont remember her) at a local pub that is dog-friendly. I rode my motorcycle there with my yorkie and was having a beer and apparently she & I had a dog-conversation. She took the lic. plate number off my bike and had her brother, an austin cop pull my address. She sent me emails about how nice my house is and wanting to have margaritas in my hot tub. She also emailed me pics of her. I knew they were legit because she was a girl-next door type and not some super hottie.
After several emails she confessed that she needs therapy and refused to meet. She was very upset that I did not remembering her. She emailed several love poems. I became a lil scared, heres a psycho bitch that I dont remember meeting, whose driven and walked around my house and has a brother that is a cop. She sent me a final email last December saying she needed to stop hanging on to me (huh). And last Valentines Day, there was a single red rose on my front door. Sounds like fatal attraction, glad i dont own a rabbit.

12voltman59

Jul 21, 2007, 6:01 PM

I think that with the Internet--is certainly a case of "Caveat Emptor" or buyer beware.

For some reason--the net does have a way of bringing out the BS and the BSers!!!!

Skater Boy

Jul 21, 2007, 6:21 PM

The photo on my profile ad is me. I wouldn't use someone elses, because if I ever eventually meet up with someone, then I would have some serious explaining to do.

If you're one of the select few who has a picture of my face (lucky you! ;) ), then obviously that is also the real me.

The only liberty I take is censoring the photos... if they catch me at a bad angle, they get deleted straight away. I also reserve the right to take the photos when I'm looking at my best, which is usually after I've spent a few weeks working out, eating and drinking healthily and sleeping well, as opposed to the opposite. But generally, what you see is what you get.

And yes, I'm very cautious about attracting the wrong sort of attention online, as I'm sure we all are.

AdamKadmon43

Jul 21, 2007, 11:44 PM

LOL be careful!

Bars can be freak magnets!

I'm serious. I've met the following people in bars.

That just might make a good thread...

"Who is the freakiest person that you ever met in a bar?"

Adam

Slide n

Jul 22, 2007, 12:31 AM

I don't have a horror story. but I have met two men online that were who they said they were. I am very careful on who I meet offline. Maybe that has helped. In that I have not met any stalkers.

mistymockingbird

Jul 22, 2007, 2:23 AM

I met a guy off of craigslist last year. I'd posted an ad, we chatted for a while, exchanged pics, then agreed to meet. That in itself was a comedy of errors cause dude just did not have his shit together. It was like trying to nail jello to a wall making plans with this guy. When we met I realized that his picture was obviously several years old, he didn't really look like it anymore. However, he was nice enough and still pleasant to look at, so we gave it a go.

Before we did anything he made a long speech about wanting me to be sure that I was willing to do the nsa thing, because some people can't handle it, some people get clingy. I assured him I would be fine. The sex was less than stellar. He came 3 times. I still hadn't cum after 3 rounds, but I had brought toys and had him help me finish off that way so it wasn't a total loss. He'd also talked about wanting to have a woman take charge and dom him, but then he wouldn't listen to instruction. Poor confused boy.

About a month later I agreed to meet him a second time. To give him one more shot and because he was game for stuff. And quite honestly, because I wanted someone to take some pics of me in various stages of undress and I knew if I fucked him again he'd do it. Not one of my proudest moments, but there you go.

Again, the only time I came, was when a toy was involved and I was driving. So I decided he'd had enough chances and politely told him, thank you for playing. He kept emailing. Kept texting. Kept asking when he could see me again. Was not picking up the oh so direct hint. Then I moved. From Seattle to San Francisco. I figured that would be it, he'd give up and find someone else.

Oh how I was wrong. 7 months later and I still get the odd text or email from him. Telling me how much fun I was and how I really opened him up to explore and how I should let him know when I come back into town cause he'd like to see me again. This from the guy that wanted to make sure I would be down with nsa sex because some people get clingy. Hello Mr. Cling. I stopped responding to his texts 4 months ago. They still come in. I'm so glad the sex was good for him, because it was not good for me. At least I got some good pics out of the deal.

TaylorMade

Jul 22, 2007, 2:37 AM

I probably could get a thread started on CL horrors alone.

*Taylor*

mistymockingbird

Jul 22, 2007, 2:46 AM

I probably could get a thread started on CL horrors alone.

*Taylor*

I've no doubt. I've been lucky with CL. He was the only bad one and he was more harmless and clueless than anything. Dude never even knew my real name.

TaylorMade

Jul 22, 2007, 2:49 AM

Just one here...but he gives me the full body shivers and dry heaves thinking about it.

*Taylor*

captslaprock

Jul 22, 2007, 12:33 PM

I DID LEARN THAT MEDIUM BUILD HAS A BROAD DEFINITION

Vuarra

Jul 22, 2007, 12:57 PM

I was on fling.com for a while, and I used a pic of me and perplexxed together, nude, for an avatar. While we are not the most svelte people in the world, we are not obese, either. So, in the pic, you can see our ass cheeks, and that's about it.

I get a message from a woman who is heavier than the two of us put together, just saying "OMG!!!!!!"

I'm still not sure whether to laugh or cry about it.