Would you date someone who had very little sexual experiences???

[deletetacount123]

Would you date someone who has little sex experiences? even tho they know a lot but never actually did this and that?? (pretty much a virgin to most sex acts but only knows what they do cause of books/tv/internet and friends who are openly talking about thier own sex lifes)

What if the person was older? like late 20s or 30s or older than that?

[Herbwoman39]

It depends. If I were more experienced, then I would. I enjoy taking the time to teach someone else how to give and receive pleasure.

But that's just me.

[deletetacount123]

Hmmm :) Why did I know you would be the first to reply? hehe

[Herbwoman39]

LOL! Cause I'm just that quick when it comes to your posts ;)

On a more serious note, my first husband was 19 years older than me. I really don't believe that age makes a difference as far as attraction goes. We want who we want.

[allbimyself]

It depends on the reason the person is inexperienced. If it's because of them repressing their own sexuality, probably not. If they are just a "late bloomer" and have a healthy sex drive, I see no reason why not. Could be a lot of fun.

[TaylorMade]

It depends. I usually like someone with equal or more experience to me. But Tasha... I think what you CAN do is. . ."fake it till you make it". . .pay attention to your body when you masturbate. Read erotica that features acts that interest/arouse you. Think about what a particular porn does that appeals to you.

And when you get with that person... Ask questions about what they like sexually. . .ask them even to show you!

You may not have practical experience, but master the hell out of the theory till you do.

*Taylor*

[Herbwoman39]

You may not have practical experience, but master the hell out of the theory till you do.

*Taylor*


That's how I got by with straight sex in the first few months after I lost that virginity. :) I read everything I could get my hands on about position and the like. Nothing wrong with being a living encyclopedia :bigrin:

[deletetacount123]

It depends. I usually like someone with equal or more experience to me. But Tasha... I think what you CAN do is. . ."fake it till you make it". . .pay attention to your body when you masturbate. Read erotica that features acts that interest/arouse you. Think about what a particular porn does that appeals to you.

And when you get with that person... Ask questions about what they like sexually. . .ask them even to show you!

You may not have practical experience, but master the hell out of the theory till you do.

*Taylor*

Ya, thanks for the advice Taylor :) I do have lesbian erotica lol Its hard to hold a book and play with yourself tho. But the books do help... since one is about first time lesbian experiences :)

I think everyone is suddenly a "frist timer" again when it comes to a new partner are they?? cause everyone is different.... what your last partner enjoyed may not be something the new one enjoys.

Im very inexperienced cause my ex wasn't a sexual person :( it was like once he married me, he didn;t have to do it anymore. I feel like I lost years cause of that.

My sister was watching me eat a cupcake the other day.... I have this thing for licking the icing first lol anyway... I was licking it and just playing with the icing on my lips/tounge cause I like it, I always do this. lol She suddenly said "For someone whos never done oral... I think you'll do very well."
LOL seriously!!! omg I never thought of icing like that... lol
Maybe that can be a trick... icing on my gf's private.... mmmm I love icing. lol

Tasha

[deletetacount123]

LOL! Cause I'm just that quick when it comes to your posts ;)

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Yep lol You are the first to reply to a lot of my posts actually hehe

[cand86]

God, I hope so. As a twenty-year old virgin who considers herself very educated on all manner of sex theoretically, but has no practice under her belt, I'd be in a whole boatload of trouble if nobody wanted to date me for my lack of experience.

[deletetacount123]

God, I hope so. As a twenty-year old virgin who considers herself very educated on all manner of sex theoretically, but has no practice under her belt, I'd be in a whole boatload of trouble if nobody wanted to date me for my lack of experience.

I believe there are people out there that would LOVE to be "the first" more special that way :) Although I don't think I'll tell them what I have done or haven't unless they ask.... instead I'll learn as much as I can and play with myself... then when the moment comes, let them do things first and remember how they are doing it :) so I can do the same to them :)

[MarieDelta]

Would you date someone who has little sex experiences? even tho they know a lot but never actually did this and that?? (pretty much a virgin to most sex acts but only knows what they do cause of books/tv/internet and friends who are openly talking about thier own sex lifes)

What if the person was older? like late 20s or 30s or older than that?


All that wouldn't matter at all. What would matter more to me was if we had something to build a relationship upon.

If I like you and think we can have fun together has more bearing on dating than any sort of sexual experience/ inexperience.

The sex thing can be worked out at a later date ;)

It's a detail and, as you are willing to learn , a small detail at that.

[dafydd]

I don't ask for a sexual resume when I go to bed with someone. It's always a surprise.
Very inexperienced lovers are hot/problematic.
Very experienced lovers are hot/problematic.

D.

[AstroGlide]

OUCH THAT HURT....

"Older" beings at late 20's or 30's? I think I will just while away in my rocking chair and slippers and sit on the porch and wilt away into the sunset at the ripe old age of being greater than 40. Let's see now.... where did I put my slippers? Come to think about it.... where did my rocking chair go? Darn.... where is the porch? Where am I?

Sorrowfully,
Astro :confused:

[the mage]

I'd have no trouble playing with a newbie (..ahem..that would be.. again..)
M/M play with a newbi can be exciting but also dangerous. Never seduce a drunk guy you don't know for sure is Bi/gay.
Some cum in 30 seconds some don't get it up.

[lastlaf44]

As long as that person is very open when it comes to talking about sex. :D If two people can't tell each other what they like (or at least moan at the appropriate manoeuvre), then all's lost.

~Lastlaf~ :female:

[deletetacount123]

As long as that person is very open when it comes to talking about sex. :D If two people can't tell each other what they like (or at least moan at the appropriate manoeuvre), then all's lost.

~Lastlaf~ :female:

Ya, Im open to talking about sex... maybe not at first when I frist meet someone... but after awhile and Im comfortable with the person, Im more open and pretty much can talk about anything.

[biwords]

All that wouldn't matter at all. What would matter more to me was if we had something to build a relationship upon.

If I like you and think we can have fun together has more bearing on dating than any sort of sexual experience/ inexperience.

The sex thing can be worked out at a later date ;)

It's a detail and, as you are willing to learn , a small detail at that.


I don't think MarieDelta's answer can be improved upon.

[onewhocares]

Well as one who was a virgin until I made love to my future husband at the ripe old age 24, I never really worried about it much. I figured that I had read enough, seen a few movies- which I found pointless and had no plot. Never really masturbated at all but still knew innately that I would be an adventurous and attentive lover. I think I have turned out that way. The only real stumbling block came when Hubby wanted a man. I knew that something was missing, and I naturally assumed it was ME, that I was not a good enough lover for him. Well time and understanding has lead me to the conclusion that I am a considerate and giving lover and no matter how hard I try or the more I am adventurous or experimental, I am never going to give him what a man can. So, I gave up, focused on what I know I can do well and decided to live my life for ME. That is where I am now and loving every moment of it.

Belle

[JoyJoyHollywood]

I have before. I can say that I would do it again. It's a little bit harder than dating someone who has some experience under their belt, but if you handle it right then it can be great. You just have to be real careful about how much you push. Can't go at them like a linebacker, but they can be just as fun. Sometimes even a lot more fun.

[Catherine]

It's like anything, how are you going to get experience if people won't give you a chance to have experience? I've never understood the must have 2 years working experience in the field as a requirement for an entry level job. LOL.

I was a really late bloomer to all sex. But I sure made up for lost time after the age of 26. Nobody died, got hurt, or ended up screaming down the street from the first couple of times either. :)

Sure, I'd be glad to return the favor. As long as the person was honest with me that they were "unsure" and just wanted to "try" but couldn't make any promises. I can deal with a lot if one's honest as to where they are really at in the process.

Catherine

[akeeper]

I do not think it would matter to me if somebody were experienced or not. It is more important to be a good person on the inside then to have experience. Helping that person explore could even be erotic.

[MarieDelta]

If you're (fun and enthusiatistic) outside the bedroom, then chances are you will be (fun and enthusiastic) in bed. :bigrin:

[Kitsy]

Yeah why not? Though I have little sexual experience myself so yeah ^_^;; Though I'm kinda proud to be a virgin still... But then I might as well be since otherwise it'd be a bit of a downer ^_^;; That sounds a little wrong, but I was gonna say bummer >_< I guess it doesn't matter really, but I got a bit of a dirty mind... Anyway I like to think that what makes sex great is the sharing of love... But I might just think that because I'm rubbish ^_^;;

[deletetacount123]

While sex is important.... I believe theres tons of ways you can show your love for someone. Even if its just cuddling together as you watch a movie.

When I seek relationships, I want love :) Everyone knows me to be a loving person and cause of that, I think my inexperiences won't matter.

To me, sex is PERSONAL... I only want to make love to the person Im in love with.

There are moments I feel bad about being inexperienced..... I hate it and rant about it outloud or to myself lol But then I sit back and think.... maybe to the person I love's eyes, being inexperienced is a good thing for whatever reason they have.

If I should meet someone who thinks Im a freak for being inexperienced.... well, then, that just tells me they aren't worth my time.
Cause if someone really loves you... they love you for WHO you are... they have fun with you, they enjoy your company... being inexperienced is a little part that can easily be worked on as the relationship grows. :)

[aWOOhoo!]

God, I hope so. As a twenty-year old virgin who considers herself very educated on all manner of sex theoretically, but has no practice under her belt, I'd be in a whole boatload of trouble if nobody wanted to date me for my lack of experience.

Yeah, I'm a master of the theory... I read a lot. But, I'm a virgin and I'd be it buttloads of trouble if no one would date me. :(

But, it may never become an issue, because I suck at relationships, so it just never gets that far.

[deletetacount123]

Yeah, I'm a master of the theory... I read a lot. But, I'm a virgin and I'd be it buttloads of trouble if no one would date me. :(

But, it may never become an issue, because I suck at relationships, so it just never gets that far.

don't say that..... you never know :)
Personally I think I'll never meet someone that CAN LOOK PAST me being deaf.

Its become a well known habit where I'll meet friends... they seem to rather do things more with friends that aren't deaf (or deaf friends would rather do more with friends that sign more often while I tend to speak more than sign)

It sucks.... the relationships I had with 3 guys.... oh boy....
you could soooooooooooo tell they were using my deafness as an excuse not to talk to me often. Therefore my speech is being allowed to get weak cause I NEED to speak to keep up my speech levels!! lol

Im a easy gal to hold a converstation with... girls never have a problem with holding a converstation with me :)

[junior8]

I have been in that situation and it turned out to be some of the best sexual experiences Ive had because the other person was so interested in trying things they never had done.

[stuporman]

I don't ask for a sexual resume when I go to bed with someone. It's always a surprise.
Very inexperienced lovers are hot/problematic.
Very experienced lovers are hot/problematic.

D.
Dafy, I couln't agree more. If he or she loves you, and/or really wants to have sex with you (the second being cardinal to whether the relationship becomes more that a friend), go for it. if he/she doesn't want to have sex, they're not worth your time to pursue. However, if they DO want you, and you find them desirable (most guys are willing to trade looks for a sexual willingness, within reason), GO FOR IT! You can teach him/her a lot. I assume its a him, cause the most common sexual problem women have is having to beat the losers of with a stick, but if you get the chance, go for it. Life is too damn short not to live it to the fullest.
"And if someone should come along
And want to give you soem love and affection
Honey get it while you can
Baby get it while you can"
-Janis Joplin

[someotherguy]

Would you date someone who has little sex experiences?

No, only someone who has had big sex experiences. :rolleyes:


I would be afraid of someone who had managed to make it into their 30's without ending up naked with another person at some point. I would suspect them of secret magical powers that could be turned against me.

[onewhocares]

Well Someotherguy, turn it around....those powers could be used to pleasure you!!!! Even now, after 21 years being with the only man I ever made love to, and being with just a few lovers, I crave to learn more. I want each and every lover to teach me what has pleasured him in the past so that I can learn and become a better lover for both of us. Learning is something you can do every time.


Belle

[florian_bi]

What if the person was older? like late 20s or 30s or older than that?

no problem at all...

[TrimBeardHairyBod]

Most definitely yes. I say that because the guy who initiated me into full man-to-man sex was absolutely superb. He knew that my experience didn't amount to much and pulled out all the stops to give me the time of my life. So patient and attentive he was.

He really did set the standard for fulfilling (physically and emotionally) man-to-man interaction and I am forever indebted to him. It would be nothing less than a thrill to give someone else a similar first-time experience.

[curioushm]

OH my goodness this is the perfect question for me to answer..... I am 9 years older than my wife. When we met 6 years ago she was so not sexually experianced at all, and being 9 years older I was so very very afraid she would never be as sexually naughty as I would like, or have had in the past. Here is the answer. OH MY GOD she is a little nympho now patiants and teaching is the best way to go. Now she loves all kinds of things she was not introduced to before. Halaluah to my patiants.

[shameless agitator]

I not only would but have dated people with almost no sexual experience. There is definitely something to be said for being able to train somebody to do things the way you like without any habits to break. Of course I'm back in the novice category since deciding to take up men

[darkeyes]

we all havta start sumwer an sumtime... an sum peeps like virgins an peeps wiv little experience... this is a daft question...

[creach]

In the long distant past i did and found it to be fun, refreshing and rewarding!

However, in the last couple years i have been with very inexperienced "lovers" (not virgins but as near as damn it!) and found them to be irritating, inflexible, stubborn and well bluntly put useless... I wasn't pushy but did make suggestions only to face a stony look and a wierd or just plain rude comment...

I have to say that this has put me off so now i would definitely think twice and err on the side of caution, relying a little more on my instincts! :tong:

[deletetacount123]

In the long distant past i did and found it to be fun, refreshing and rewarding!

However, in the last couple years i have been with very inexperienced "lovers" (not virgins but as near as damn it!) and found them to be irritating, inflexible, stubborn and well bluntly put useless... I wasn't pushy but did make suggestions only to face a stony look and a wierd or just plain rude comment...

I have to say that this has put me off so now i would definitely think twice and err on the side of caution, relying a little more on my instincts! :tong:


:) I am really open minded when Im comfortable.... :) Especially after a drink just to relax me :)

I probably wouldn't feel comfortable and want to leave, if someone just wanted to jump right into sex.... I'll rather a relationship develop first, like get to know you non-sexually FIRST then we'll go to the next step.
(you know, allow some comfort and trust to built)

I'll be a VERY happy girl when I get my firsts lol

[CardShark]

You know? I've found a person even with little experience if they are very wild by nature ? They catch up and learn really really fast! LOL I kinda think that is born in you :cool: Now i've been out of school for a little over ten years so for some really young people? There issues may vary. Only thing that would bother me about being with someone so inexperienced would be the fact that i would feel weird when the convo turned to my level of experience. LOL She would probably be more apt to have a problem with my history versus hers. I will admit though i'm very different to most guys. I like girls that are very outgoing and little on the wild side. If i had the choice between choosing the exact same girl one is a virgin or one partner. The other lost count in high school and not sure but may have starred in a porn movie one drunk wild night on spring break. LOL You guys can have the good girl i'll take the girl everyone gossips about! Way more fun to be around from my point of view even without the sex. Just life in general. I'm probably in the minority on this issue though. :rolleyes:

[coyotedude]

Yes, I would! But for me, dating was never about sex. I tend to be more attracted to personalities than bodies or sexual experiences.

Although I am a sucker for beautiful eyes and a lovely smile....

Peace

[redheadhoneycat]

OUCH THAT HURT....

"Older" beings at late 20's or 30's? I think I will just while away in my rocking chair and slippers and sit on the porch and wilt away into the sunset at the ripe old age of being greater than 40. Let's see now.... where did I put my slippers? Come to think about it.... where did my rocking chair go? Darn.... where is the porch? Where am I?

Sorrowfully,
Astro :confused:
Hey Astro I am 32 can you help me? I can't find the rocking chair either......lol :tong:

[deeTM]

I wouldn't turn someone down for not having a lot of sexual experience. The idea would be laughable. Please don't take that as an insult though. Sex is about the person (people?) you're with and you. It's always a learning experience. Always. I've had a few partners (mostly female at this point) and it has been different every time. It's been fumbles and giggles and not always mind blowing but I wouldn't trade any of that. Sex doesn't mean love but is always soooo much better for me when love is involved.

So Tasha, please don't even worry about it. Enjoy the moment and I'm sure the girl or guy you're with will too.

Dee.

[TorontoGuy2007]

wow, my first time logging in here in a while and wow, a question i can certainly relate to. as an inexperienced person myself, i prefer the idea of a partner with minimal experience. but the bigger issue, i won't wanna date someone who expects sex right away.

i guess overall, this question really depends on how important sex is to the partner in question.. if they want good quality sex with someone they are just "Dating" then they probably would want someone experienced.. but if they are looking for love or for a life partner, then i'm sure they would not expect sex right away and/or high-quality sex right away.

[the sacred night]

My sister was watching me eat a cupcake the other day.... I have this thing for licking the icing first lol anyway... I was licking it and just playing with the icing on my lips/tounge cause I like it, I always do this. lol She suddenly said "For someone whos never done oral... I think you'll do very well."
LOL seriously!!! omg I never thought of icing like that... lol
Maybe that can be a trick... icing on my gf's private.... mmmm I love icing. lol
Tasha

Lol, I like to lick food items that remind me of oral sex as well. I wouldn't advise actually putting any on a girl's vulva, though, because I read that using food down there causes infections :(

[mouse46]

Would you date someone who has little sex experiences? even tho they know a lot but never actually did this and that?? (pretty much a virgin to most sex acts but only knows what they do cause of books/tv/internet and friends who are openly talking about thier own sex lifes)

What if the person was older? like late 20s or 30s or older than that?
:flag4: I have been with younger and older both inexperienced! I found it a little frustrating at first but as they learned what to do it was very fofilling. What they didn't know I taught them. A eye opening experience all the way around. Would I do it again , yes, no question! ;)

[Drain]

Question : I am experienced (i.e. had a bunch of sex) but haven't tried recieving anal. Does that make me inexperienced? Surely it will when I do it for the first time (hopefully soon). Or maybe that is just not having tried something. If so, doesn't that go for everything? We all have to start somewhere and hopefully we get someone who is a little more experienced and guides us in the right direction to get the most out of it.

Besides, I'm sure there are still a few things I could learn about stuff I've done lots of times.


:2cents: Drain :2cents: