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smokey
Jun 24, 2007, 4:26 PM
Source: Ohio State University
Date: 2003-07-02

Women's Sexual Behaviors May Be Closer
To Men's Than Previously Thought
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COLUMBUS, Ohio - A new study suggests that men and women might not be as far apart in sexual behaviors as previous research has shown.

In many surveys, men typically report engaging in sex at earlier age, more often, and with more sexual partners than do women. However, a new study shows that some reported gender differences might show up because women don't always answer surveys honestly, but give answers they believe are expected of them.

"Women are sensitive to social expectations for their sexual behavior and may be less than totally honest when asked about their behavior in some survey conditions," said Terri Fisher, co-author of the study and associate professor of psychology at Ohio State University's Mansfield campus.

In this study, the researchers asked men and women about their sexual attitudes and behaviors under several different testing conditions - including one in which the participants believed they were connected to a lie detector machine.

Women's answers were closer to men's in some areas of sexual behavior when they thought lies could be detected. Men's answers didn't change as much as did women's under different testing conditions.

"Before the study, we thought men would generally overreport their sexual behavior and women would underreport it under certain testing conditions," Fisher said. "However, we found that women were more likely than men to have different answers depending on conditions when they were surveyed."

"Our results may reflect currently shifting gender roles in which women don't feel as strong a need to meet certain expectations about their sexual behavior."

Fisher conducted the study with Michele Alexander, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Maine. Their results appear in a recent issue of The Journal of Sex Research.

The study involved 201 unmarried, heterosexual college students (96 men and 105 women) between the ages of 18 and 25. All the participants completed questionnaires that asked about their sexual attitudes, sexual experience and behavior, and the age at which they first had sexual intercourse.

The participants were split into three groups, based on the different conditions under which they completed the questionnaires.

In one group, the researchers placed electrodes on the participants' hand, forearms and neck and the participants were told they were being attached to a polygraph (lie detector) machine. However, the polygraph was an old model that didn't actually work. Although the participants filled out written questionnaires, they were told the polygraph was sensitive enough to detect dishonesty even in written responses. The participants were left alone in a room to answer their questionnaires.

A second group filled out the sex surveys alone in a room and were told their answers would be completely anonymous.

In the third group, participants were led to believe that the researcher might view their responses and the researcher sat right outside the testing room with the door open.

In general, the researchers found that women who thought their answers might be seen by others tended to give answers that were more socially acceptable than did women who thought they were connected to a lie detector.

For example, women who thought their answers might be read reported an average of 2.6 sexual partners. But those who thought they were monitored by a lie detector reported an average of 4.4 sexual partners. Women who were not attached to the lie detector, but who had privacy during testing, gave answers in the middle - an average of 3.4 sexual partners.

Men's answers didn't vary as widely. Men who thought they were attached to a polygraph reported an average of 4.0 sexual partners, compared to 3.7 partners for those who thought their answers might be seen.

"Women appear to feel pressure to adhere to sex role expectations that indicate women should be more relationship-oriented and should avoid being seen as promiscuous," Fisher said.

Fisher said it is not entirely surprising that women changed their answers more than men.

"We live in a culture that really does expect a different pattern of sexual behavior from women than it does from men," she said.

The study showed more differences between men and women in sexual attitudes than in sexual behavior. One reason that the study didn't show more differences in behavior seems to be because the sex differences the researchers sought to explain aren't particularly strong anymore.

"Our results may reflect currently shifting gender roles in which women don't feel as strong a need to meet certain expectations about their sexual behavior," Fisher said.

However, the results show there are still gender differences and these differences need to be taken into account in a variety of ways, she said.

For example, many of the most widely respected sex surveys are based on face-to-face interviews with participants. But these types of interviews may lead women to give answers that they feel are more socially desirable, even if they are not completely honest. Having participants complete written questionnaires anonymously may yield more honest results, Fisher said.

Also, medical professionals need to be aware of how women respond to questions about their sexuality.

"Based on these findings, a doctor may need to ask female patients about their sexual behavior in different ways than they would for male patients," she said.


So what do you think ladies?

absolutely_true
Jun 24, 2007, 5:18 PM
For as long as I can remember I've always been careful of how I express my sexual desires and beliefs whether it's with family, friends, strangers, or partners. I'm still kind of hesitant to admit how many partners I've really been with and to this day not a single person knows the exact number because of my fear of being labeled a slut in todays society. TODAY's society, one that supposedly has brought on an acceptance of woman's sexuality. You always hear that guys boast about how many women they've slept with and cheer on the girls that put out. But then they admit they won't settle down with these same girls. After they've #%&*ed all the women they can, they want nothing to do with women who've done just that. So we lie. We put out, but we don't say we do.

DiamondDog
Jun 24, 2007, 6:51 PM
Also a lot of women (and many heterosexual men) only see "sex" as being penis in vagina sexual intercourse. :rolleyes:

Herbwoman39
Jun 24, 2007, 7:34 PM
Adherence to the classic "good girl" role is one of the reasons I suppressed my same sex attraction as long as I did. That whole "Father Knows Best" "Leave It To Beaver" idyllic bullshit has done more damage because people actually BELIEVE that's the way life is supposed to be.

Lorcan
Jun 24, 2007, 7:45 PM
yeah... you can't marry a woman who likes sex because she's a whore! So you have to marry a woman who doesn't like sex! And how does that work for you guys? :rolleyes:

darkeyes
Jun 24, 2007, 7:54 PM
I enjoy sex and its not unkown for me to move in and go out on the pull just as men do. Yet I am considered a whore and a slut and they are Jack the Lads sewing wild oats... wot bollox huh? And yet if I let them they would be in my knickers quicker than you could say pox. Trouble is that with most of them the moment doesnt even last that long!

gb11vt18
Jun 24, 2007, 11:31 PM
This is a very interesting research topic I do believe that the feild that was used is kinda small to be acceptabled for any kind of new way of thinking, but the more research and more testing occurs than this study can become accepted and finally stop women from thinking that they are sluts if they have sex. Sex is a natural part of life, it is the love between two or more people for the goal of sharing the deepest part of themselves.

spartca
Jun 24, 2007, 11:33 PM
Here's something I wrote recently in a paper on the subject:

The truth is that gender roles are indeed shifting. We are seeing the impact of the feminist movement over the past four decades in the relationships of today. For example, the stereotype of men as having most of the affairs is no longer true:

"But whatever natural laws other species follow, among humans the frequency of extramarital affairs does not depend on gender so much as on opportunity. Now that so many women work outside the home, the rate of extramarital affairs by women has skyrocketed. According to Annette Lawson, Ph.D., of the University of California, Berkeley’s Institute of Human Development, since women have entered the workplace in massive numbers, the number of extramarital affairs of young women now slightly exceeds those of men." (Gottman, pp. 16)

It seems these days women are having affairs at least as often as men. In the past we thought women didn’t have affairs because “women just don’t do that,” but now we know that their behaviors were guided and shaped by a patriarchal system of power that both directly prevented them from having affairs by keeping them trapped at home, and indirectly prevented them from having affairs by enculturating them to believe that as women, they didn’t want to have affairs in the first place.

I won’t go detail about all the sex-negative messages that women received in the past, and continue to receive to this day. Suffice it to say that the sexual revolution has had a big impact, slowly and over many years. The movement of women’s attitudes can be seen to be a dynamic process as feminism interacts with systems of power in all arenas, a process that continues even as you read this manuscript.

In the area of infidelity, this change has brought about new messages in popular media and consciousness that actually encourage affairs for women:

" …the societal “message” to women reflects a more accepting attitude toward women’s affairs – as illustrated by the generally positive light in which they are depicted in books and movies, most notably The Bridges of Madison County. This attitude is also reflected in the material used to promote several nonfiction books on the subject and in the words of “encouragement” used to promote one popular novel about affairs: “Every woman should have at least one in her lifetime.”" (Vaughan, pp. 16)

If you’ve ever seen the movie, you will recognize that these new messages are highly romanticized. While permission for women’s affairs have shifted, the underlying gender stereotype that women are biologically predisposed to romance whereas men are biologically predisposed to sex has been reified in the process. Witness the popularity of the national bestseller Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus, or as a social test, ask anyone.

While these gender stereotypes indeed persist, the fact is that women are having as many or more extra-marital affairs men. How is the tension between these two social facts resolved? It turns out that the prevailing attitudes and social messages reinforce the idea that men’s affairs are “shallow” and sexually-oriented, whereas women’s affairs tend to be more “meaningful” and emotionally-based. At least this is what I have found amongst my fellow students and colleagues.

This therefore is the current social climate of our time, which informs the attitudes and beliefs of our clients, and perhaps even our own worldview as therapists. It helps to be aware of “the rules” of infidelity in our society, for better or worse. Whether this is biologically based or socially constructed is nearly irrelevant to the treatment of couples in therapy. To come full circle, our responsibility is to our client, the couple, in therapy. However we might personally view the relative merit of sexual versus emotional affairs, we must remain loyal to our clients as a couple.

References:

Druckerman, P. (2007). Lust in Translation: The Rules of Infidelity from Toyko to Tennessee. New York: Penguin Press.

Gottman, J. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Crown.

Lusterman, D. (1998). Infidelity: A Survival Guide. Oakland: New Harbinger.

Pitt, D. (2007). Lust in Translation: The Rules of Infidelity from Toyko to Tennessee. Booklist, 103(12), p. 18.

Vaughan, P. (2003). The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering From Affair. New York: Newmarket.

mouse46
Jun 25, 2007, 10:05 AM
:bibounce: Well, I think we women aren't so different than our men, sexually. Hubby and I check out women together and I find I make some of the same comments as he does,pertaining to her body.And sexually I do think we have the same drive even tho I'm not into multiple partners , I would love to get a few women together sometime. Something I've thought about more often lately. Guys I find have the same thoughts. So who ever thought women and men are different sexually were mistaken. This is my :2cents: .