dealing with kids...

[the mage]

I strongly encourage any one with kids of any age who reads this site to pay close attention to this strong revelation....
Note in the various post the ages at which we adults now admit to having our first sexual encounter. Dam we were young. No where near 18. No one is (was) celibate.
There is strong evidence of genetics in sex. If you're Bi, good chance your kids are. That promotes and allows early exploration. I started at age 9 (and the sex was not forced on me).
Your kids are bombarded by 2 realities now, one, the media, encourages a continuous orgy, the other the church/state, denying access to birth control and sane advice re abortion, and advocating look dont touch.

Please be sane about your kids sex. It will happen and happen early. Kids in N.A. now hit puberty as early as age 9 do you know that???

Talk openly and honestly (yes I have sex too, son) be there to teach safety, not lecture morality. You have NO chance on the moral front, your child will find its morality apart from you, but you can teach and encourage safety and awareness of hidden danger in sex play (and life). STD's have no mercy.

[rissababynta]

it's funny. i was just talking to my husband about this the other day. he was talking about how they had better be virgins until they were 30, especially our daughter. of course he was joking but i know in the back of his head he does not want to think about his children having sex, like most parents in the world. it opened up a big discussion about it. we aren't stupid and we know that they are more than likely have a great deal of knowledge and/or experience by the time they are 16! as a parent i don't want to think that way about my children but i try to be realistic. i do not have a problem talking to them about it when the time comes and neither does tony because if they are going to do it, which they will, they might as well be safe.

[TaylorMade]

I strongly encourage any one with kids of any age who reads this site to pay close attention to this strong revelation....
Note in the various post the ages at which we adults now admit to having our first sexual encounter. Dam we were young. No where near 18. No one is (was) celibate.
There is strong evidence of genetics in sex. If you're Bi, good chance your kids are. That promotes and allows early exploration. I started at age 9 (and the sex was not forced on me).
Your kids are bombarded by 2 realities now, one, the media, encourages a continuous orgy, the other the church/state, denying access to birth control and sane advice re abortion, and advocating look dont touch.

Please be sane about your kids sex. It will happen and happen early. Kids in N.A. now hit puberty as early as age 9 do you know that???

Talk openly and honestly (yes I have sex too, son) be there to teach safety, not lecture morality. You have NO chance on the moral front, your child will find its morality apart from you, but you can teach and encourage safety and awareness of hidden danger in sex play (and life). STD's have no mercy.

I don't know about that. While I do find myself making descisions my parents would not have made, I also find myself taking on a code of ethics that they are a strong influencer of.

To make a blanket statement like this doesn't take into account the culture the parents come from and raise their children in. A single parenting style doesn't work for everyone. I'm not far removed from 18, and to be honest, I am glad they tried to teach me some morality and ethics, and will probably do the same (though maybe not the same methods) to my own children.

*Taylor*

[julie]

...i leave lots of packs of condoms in my bathroom, which my teenage children and their friends know they can help themselves to.

i have also strongly encouraged my boys to practice using condoms on themselves before they become sexually active. their initial response was:-

'its ok because the teacher showed us how to put one on a banana' hmm.... :rolleyes:

...great, thought provoking thread though, thanks for starting it the mage

[Azrael]

Please be sane about your kids sex. It will happen and happen early. Kids in N.A. now hit puberty as early as age 9 do you know that???

All the growth hormones in the meats and whatnot. At least that's my hypothesis.

[ForbiddenWindow]

I was 16 and my dad handed me a box of condoms for my birthday as well
as a gameboy with mario. We had a chat and was like totally cool with sex
but he let me know i could ask him anything and i pretty much have

Knowledge is power...use it or loose it.

Thats what i learned.

[gb11vt18]

As a teenage the sexual activity of teenagers now is more than it has been becasue of peer pressure and the hormones that are in the foods that help to grow food faster. I don't know if there is any way to stop the hormones but as for the peer pressure the best idea is just to show them how to keep them self safe and be honest with them becasue hopefully your children will be honest for you. As I know my parents have done none of this so I am not honest with them but I have learned everything from others as well as my own experience but that is not the way it should be.

[Solomon]

lol hormones they find in meat might have something to do with early onset of puberty if there were such a thing as early onset of puberty...

people have been hitting puberty at 9-11 for millenia, and historically an 18-19 yo. getting married would have been seen as being on the tale end of the appropriate time for marriage

it's only during the industrial age that it's been heavily promoted that families start later due to children having to go to longer years of schooling in order to have a chance for good jobs

but that doesn't mean to say that hormones in meat doesn't have an affect on us sadly.... and i don't have a clue as to what it would be

but early onset of puberty? perhaps, but i think it would need to be much earlier than 9-11...