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othamble2
Jun 7, 2007, 7:00 AM
Hello to all.
This is my first posting. My g/f had said she was homophibia. In the past she would get upset if I mention that a female had flirted with her. Example her class meet gave her a secrete santa gift which included wine , female bath and body works scent, incense etc. The girl always wanted to hang around her too. WE both agreed that the girl might be bi being she gave a gift of that nature to another woman. My g/f would get upset with me when I would joke with her saying the girl has the hotts for her. However, lately she don't get upset when talking about females who be looking at her as if they think she is cute or looking at her tits. (Nice they are) Lately she's always pointing out gays or les we see in public as to say they are gay or flammers as she call the gays guy couples. A client of hers was a transexual and she express a curiousity to understand why and what makes a person turn gay. She confronted the trans with question like was he born like that, and how did he discover being gay. I am confused as to why all the attention on the lifestlye lately. Mind you in the past we had talking about threesomes but she is against it. I often wonder if she is curious her self but ashame, shy to let me know. The life style convo seems to come up to often for there not to be some sort of interest or concern. I have had little bi experience but wouldn't reject to situation if it was to araise proving we both are on the same page. She doesn't know of my prior contact. Any comments are welcome.

Thank you

GalacticiaActual
Jun 7, 2007, 10:19 AM
Maybe you should just ask her...

othamble2
Jun 7, 2007, 12:42 PM
Thank you,

I have asked only to get the question thrown back at me and then she wants to why I asking her that. It should seem obvious why I asking being she is always pointing out those who are out or talking about the lifestyle. I realize maybe its my desire that she is curious but she's the one always bringing up the subject 2-3 times a week it seems like. I enjoy our ability to discuss the topic but dag if she dont like it or agree with it why keep talking about it and not just leave it alone. I know you are not her but thanks for reading. LOL

SexyTanBiBoy
Jun 7, 2007, 1:24 PM
Your assumptions may be your problems. I knew my sexuality tastes long ago, but it was an old gf that brought me out. She started with what made me happy. Next thing I knew, I was out of the closet, and another guy was involved in our relationship. Mention the obvious, agree with her that another woman was checking her out, ask how it made her feel. Tell her it turns you on (if it does). Ask her if she wants you there or not. Be careful here. Once another person finally admits to themselves that they prefer an open and honest lifestyle the person who helped them over the hump (so to speak) is usually not ready for the results, and as such becomes jealous and leaves the relationship. It's not about you, it's about her. You need to be as supportive as possible, and be understanding. If she blows up again, drop the subject and move on.