Am I Bi-Sexual or not?

[RoyalFlush]

I had an interesting discussion with my woman last night and it made me think, am I Bi? I mean I have never slept with another man before, been in the perfect situation but never went further than holding his hand? If I look at pictures of men having sex I dont really find that sexy and it does not turn me on? What does it mean if I enjoy my woman sticking her dildo up my ass but I have never tried to be intimate with another man?

I gave it some thought and keeping in mind the fact that something happened to me when I was very young. I know being molested doesnt mean you neccessarily become gay or Bi but it does play a big part I feel. Anyways my first sexual experience was with an older boy when I was only nine, I got no enjoyment out of the experience, only the pain. I was wondering if that maybe stopped me from being eventually completely gay perhaps even though I enjoy the sensation of something in me? Is anyone else in this situation or can someone give me some advise?

[dans94]

Enjoying something or someone playing with your ass doesn't make you gay or bi. There is a lot of pleasure to be had there for everyone so don't worry about it. If you significant other thinks otherwise try to get her informed, don't let her rely on myth and superstition. Good luck. Dan

[RoyalFlush]

"If you significant other thinks otherwise try to get her informed, don't let her rely on myth and superstition"

Dan. I am the significant other and i am VERY openminded. I dont mind my man liking having things up his bum or even wanting to try different things. Just aslong as he is happy and feels comfotable in doing so. I will still love him none the less. :female:

[RoyalFlush]

Dont you people think I have the best woman in the whole World? Thank the makers she chose me to settle down with, I can at least never worry about getting bored. She has helped me understand my sexuality more in the time we have been together than I have figured out during my whole life. I wish every man who has unanswered questions about his sexuality could have the honor of being with someone like my woman who understands and explores her sexuality with her partner.

Thanks Dan for the advise, I kinda knew that already but I guess if things are gonna happen oneday then they will happen regardless. :male:

[wntedlongnwid]

being bi isn't bad but not being isn't either. you like a dildo up your ass because you are aman and it presses on your prostate, thats why some men like me like to take it in the ass. if you have an orgasem while you have pressure on your pdostate it will be more intense. that dorsn'y make you gay or bi.

[truelove201]

I had an interesting discussion with my woman last night and it made me think, am I Bi? I mean I have never slept with another man before, been in the perfect situation but never went further than holding his hand? If I look at pictures of men having sex I dont really find that sexy and it does not turn me on? What does it mean if I enjoy my woman sticking her dildo up my ass but I have never tried to be intimate with another man?

I gave it some thought and keeping in mind the fact that something happened to me when I was very young. I know being molested doesnt mean you neccessarily become gay or Bi but it does play a big part I feel. Anyways my first sexual experience was with an older boy when I was only nine, I got no enjoyment out of the experience, only the pain. I was wondering if that maybe stopped me from being eventually completely gay perhaps even though I enjoy the sensation of something in me? Is anyone else in this situation or can someone give me some advise?
:female: Seeing your message was very interesting to me. I have just recently had similar discussions with my husband however he really hasn't allowed me to do that to him. He is attracted to men and I'm ok with that. Are you attracted to men at all? We are so looking for support on how to proceed with him investigating his interests. Any help you could offer would be most appreciated.

[biwords]

Welcome to the site, truelove! I think you'll find people here very helpful in answering questions, offering the benefits of their experience, and being generally supportive. Very best wishes to both of you on your journey!

[case_126]

hey flush,

You are indeed blessed with a royalflush.

Dont worry about your first experience, even if it was a little forced. If you read some of the posts, many people had their first experiences with the same sex, doesnt make you gay or even bi.

good luck with the rest and give your women everything she wants. she sounds very special.

[Cerealk]

Being bi (by that I mean not hetero or homo) means you can feel attraction to both gender (or more), be it emotionnally, sexually, spiritually or anything else. Being bi doesnt mean you have to have sex with guys, it doesnt mean you have to be in relationship with one. Hell you dont have to act upon any kind of feelings.

Personnally, gay porn turns me off, but I only get off lately while fantisizing (sp?) about being with a guy.

The best thing would be to clarify to yourself what you really feel like toward girls, see if theres anything of it toward men. It might be similar, it might be completly different. I cant relate to your childhood experience, but if you want, stick around here, read some of the threads, and it might give you some more understanding about yourself. Straight, bi and gays are all welcome here, so dont worry.

(Slap me if Im talking out of place, but not too hard k? =P )

[truelove201]

Thank you biwords. I appreciate that. I have already in the few short hours that I have been a part of this site found so much helpful insite. You are all truly amazing people!

[barb19634]

Question my wife won't give me a straight answer. We went to HedoIII and my wife was with another woman. She kissed and they petted and it ended. My wife was turned on the most I have ever seen in 7 years. She looks at other wmone and if she thinks another woman is good looking she'll say it or give hints. How do you know if your wife is bi or really gay and won't talk about it. What are some signs or sayings to clue someone in?

[LusciousLounge]

Being bi (by that I mean not hetero or homo) means you can feel attraction to both gender (or more), be it emotionnally, sexually, spiritually or anything else. Being bi doesnt mean you have to have sex with guys, it doesnt mean you have to be in relationship with one. Hell you dont have to act upon any kind of feelings.

Personnally, gay porn turns me off, but I only get off lately while fantisizing (sp?) about being with a guy.

The best thing would be to clarify to yourself what you really feel like toward girls, see if theres anything of it toward men. It might be similar, it might be completly different. I cant relate to your childhood experience, but if you want, stick around here, read some of the threads, and it might give you some more understanding about yourself. Straight, bi and gays are all welcome here, so dont worry.

(Slap me if Im talking out of place, but not too hard k? =P )

*applauds Family-Feud-style*
GOOD ANSWER! GOOD ANSWER!!!

[LusciousLounge]

Question my wife won't give me a straight answer. We went to HedoIII and my wife was with another woman. She kissed and they petted and it ended. My wife was turned on the most I have ever seen in 7 years. She looks at other wmone and if she thinks another woman is good looking she'll say it or give hints. How do you know if your wife is bi or really gay and won't talk about it. What are some signs or sayings to clue someone in?

Signs:

she wont give you a st8 answer (no pun-intended).. she would probably deny it if she wasn't.. not necessarily, but probably
she kissed/petted a woman and CLEARLY enjoyed it.. A LOT
she hints that other women are hot

Not to speak for your wife, but I think she's probably Bi. If she's still into men (and you, a man), she's probably not lesbian. I mean, speaking from experience, I've done the same hinting thing before. Actually, a lot of people that are trying to wrap themselves around being Bi do that in front of loved ones (ie. Hinting at Bisexuality or interests).

Have you actually straight out asked her if she was into women as well? Not if she's "Bi/Lesbian", but asked her about her interests in women instead of labels?... annnnd, if so, what did she say?

[IanGray]

I had an interesting discussion with my woman last night and it made me think, am I Bi? I mean I have never slept with another man before, been in the perfect situation but never went further than holding his hand? If I look at pictures of men having sex I dont really find that sexy and it does not turn me on? What does it mean if I enjoy my woman sticking her dildo up my ass but I have never tried to be intimate with another man?

I gave it some thought and keeping in mind the fact that something happened to me when I was very young. I know being molested doesnt mean you neccessarily become gay or Bi but it does play a big part I feel. Anyways my first sexual experience was with an older boy when I was only nine, I got no enjoyment out of the experience, only the pain. I was wondering if that maybe stopped me from being eventually completely gay perhaps even though I enjoy the sensation of something in me? Is anyone else in this situation or can someone give me some advise?

The key phrase to remember is;; Am I sexually attracted to both men and women? From what you have stated I would call you straight. Taking a dildo i:flag4::flag4:nside of you or past experiences with boys that you didn't enjoy I feel does not make you bisexual.

I have had a gay experience with a boy at school and enjoyed it. So I have no doubts about my sexuality.

Hope I have helped you towards getting to know yourself.

[diB4u]

Hmmm well just because someone had a bad experience doesnt mean that they're straight.

ITs true liking to do things, and acting upon them are different things. I fantasies about pleasuring another woman, and when the time came i didnt enjoy it at all... But the other way around and i like it.

I have a cut off point, so somethings I can do and like and other things I dont do... Plus it also depends on the individual. For me straight sex is better when I'm either in love or very close to it.... So gay sex would be the same...

But romantically yeah i can fall in love with a women, i have done with two.

[DiamondDog]

Only you know who/what you are.

If you don't at least want or crave, sex with men then you're not bi or gay.

Also just because you want to do receptive anal sex with a toy, or enjoy it alone with a dildo/toy, that doesn't necessarily make you bi/gay either as it's not a requirement for sex between men.

[IanGray]

I have spent a long time enjoying looking at pictures of naked men, which should convince me that I am gay. However, whilst watching two pints of lager the woman that plays Dona wore an outfit that made her look extremely sexy. I thought"wow! What a body!" She turned me on as much as any man would and reminded me that I am bisexual. I hope that this helps you take away the confusion that you are experiencing.

[parkerbi]

Why not just try it out with a man? If you feel good, then I beilive you are bi or at least bi-curious. If not, then you know the answer.

[diB4u]

Why not just try it out with a man? If you feel good, then I beilive you are bi or at least bi-curious. If not, then you know the answer.

True... but also dont just jump into the sack with the first bicurious or bisexual person that you meet. Trust me been there done that, and there was no chemistry and she had a kinda smelled down there, so thats why I'm gonna take my time in finding the right bisexual woman to be with.

Men not a problem. Women i wanna be with romantically and sexually... just have issues...



To responde to the orignal poster yeah I agree, because being abused does mess things up emotionally and for some coming out is delayed untill middle age.... As soon as i find the facts then i'll display the evidence.