Long Distance Relationships?

[anne27]

I currently have a long distance romance going on with the most wonderful woman I have ever met. Neither of us meant for things to get serious, but now we love each other very much. We met online and corresponded for a little over 6 months before we met. Our first meeting was much more fun and much more erotic than I could have ever dreamed. We laughed, talked, made love, and slept in each other's arms. She's everything I could possibly want in a woman. She brilliant (seriously), sensual, fun, witty, a bit Domme... and she's about 450 miles away.

We are both married with our own lives and children and both very happy to have this added bit of love to our lives. Everyone is very ok with this, but the time we have together is sporadic and never quite long enough. We're handling the times between visits pretty well, despite the occasional heart pang. We do talk every morning on the phone for an hour and a half, then in the afternoon for another half hour or more and usually some online during the evening, with some text messaging sprinkled throughout the day. I am incredibly happy and a little giddy about being in love.

Is anything quite so scary and exhilarating all at the same time as being in love?

I'd like to keep this woman in my life for a very long time. But I know long distance relationships are difficult.

What I'd like to know, has anyone made a long distance relationship work for any length of time? Please tell me your stories, the good and the bad.

[TaylorMade]

I dated a guy in PA (I live in FL), for about a year. We moved a little too fast, but he was loving and attentive. We wrote letters, called, and pretty much tried to stay in touch every day, as you do. So far, you seem to be doing everything right.

I wish you luck.

*Taylor*

[julie]

Well Tom n i live 250miles apart, which is a good 5 hour drive in decent traffic on UK roads. We text or talk most days and aim to spend every 2nd or 3rd weekend together.

We have been doing this for a couple of years now and have survived some pretty full on traumas in this time. Like you we both have busy lives in own home towns. Tom works from home and is addicted to living by the sea... whereas i'm a real townie, living in landlocked Manchester with my three children.... who i have no intention of unsettling by removing them from their friends, schools and the first place they have ever felt truly at home in...

So our long distance relationship status is unlikely to change in the short to mid term..... and i think that is how it suits us both to be honest!

I miss Tom terribly at times... especially during the real painful times when i long to hold him in my arms, either to comfort or be comforted. But actually the distance does improve our communication massively because we have to talk, we cant just solve our disputes with sex so easily...

...mind you, we make up for it when we do get together :bigrin:

Good luck for you and your lovely lady, Anne... Why shouldn't it work for you in the long term?.. you two seem to be doing pretty well so far...

maybe just enjoy the delightful giddyness you are experiencing right now though... n let the future worry about itself eh

with love Julie :female: xxx

[Dagni]

I met my wife in Uppsala, Sweden on university, that was 11 years ago, and we spend 24h a day, but you know, i'm traveling all around the world, and she's mostly in Stockholm or Monte Carlo, so i always find time to be with her only if wish is strong enough, and even doing craziest things just to be together. For example, few weeks ago i was in Malaysia, and i simply left all job that i had and flied to Europe just to be with her one full day.
Love is endless.....don't throw your joy away.

[valentino]

i cant keep it in my pants that long.

[innaminka]

My wonderful Dean and myself spend months apart each year due to the nature of our respective work. Its been like this in some form for most of the time we've been married.
He's an explosives engineer. I'm a travel consultant.
he spends up to 2 months at a time in the Pilbarra where the minerals boom is peaking. He does this maybe 3 time a year. (mainly from March- Nov)
When he's home I schedule my necessary work trips O'seas, so our daughters aren't total orphans.
It works. I wonder if couples need to be together as often as they are.
We still love each other not one whit less despite the abscences. :female: :male:

......and It would be remiss of me not to mention the absences give my bi-side a chance to fly.......... :female: :female:

[deletetacount123]

I was in a 3 year relationship with a girl from England and Im in Canada.

We were just friends at first... met through another online friend of ours.
Then one day we talked about stuff a couple may talk about and realized we had more than friends feelings for each other and we both decided to try the long distance relationship.

So many lovely emails... this was before Text Messaging started so it was emails and chatting, sending each other little presents and letters in real life and so on.

We loved each other a lot.... always talked about what we would do when we met in person as well.

FAST FORWARD: 3 years later.... we started to get fusterated cause neither of us had the money to fly to see the other.
Watching couples in real life started to make us long to date someone more nearby.
We didn't want to end it and REALLY TRIED hard to keep it going but in the end, it was just better to end it and find someone more nearby to date.
We agreed to be friends but have since lost contact :-( I still remember her name tho but Im not sure of the spelling of her last name so I can't look her up hehe

Her name was Bobbi and her last name started with an M. She taught me a lot and I miss her still :)

Oh well.... I always said if its meant to be, old friends WILL connect you. If they don't then its not meant to be. :)

It was good while it lasted tho.

[Solomon]

our story? ookkk don't say i didn't warn ya! lol :tong:

we met online 1998... i was living in Pennsylvania, flex was in British Columbia

we chatted for about 6 months, we met together irl during a vacation i took in Ocean City, Md. for ten days, an we spent so much time in the hotel 'getting to know each other' that we didn't even get to the beach part! lol!

then i tried to move to Canada the first time an we took a trip across the country in like two weeks.... i came back because i spent too much money, and needed to do major repairs on my car at the time.... took almost a year to make the second journey back and the second time was the charm 'cause i stayed

i've now been here since 2000.... and things between us just keep getting better an better :cool:

[anne27]

Thank you all so very much for your replies!

Taylor, Thanks for the well wishes! Doing things right isn't exactly my specialty, but I'm trying. :bigrin:

Julie, I hadn't realized it, but you're right. We've had to really communicate instead of just 'making up in bed' when we've had a disagreement.

Dagni, you sound like a wonderfully romantic person. Thanks for your story.

valentino, yeah, I'm highly sexed, too. But phone sex and online play does help between visits for me.

innaminka, I think the key is finding out what works between a couple. Sounds like it provides enough freedom for you, and yet with enough time together to keep the relationship secure. Thanks! :)

Tash, the 'finding someone closer' thang is what worries me with my relationship. I've had a few net relationships, too. I'm still buddies with the woman who brought out my bi side some 3+ years ago. Sexy little gal from Texas. Without her, I'd probably still be a repressed straight girl trying to fit my round self in a square hole. Thanks for sharing your story. It's very sad how people drift out of your life.

Sol, I see y'all on the board and it looks like you have a wonderful thing going! Thanks for the inspiration!

Much appreciated everyone! Y'all made me feel better and made me think!