Can You Really Have It Both Ways?

[s_shunpike]

I have been a member here for a couple of months and have really enjoyed seeing people's threads and comments. It is so nice to be able to find a place where people have the same thoughts, fears, concerns, dreams and realities.

So - here is my post.

I am 37 and have been married to a wonderful woman for 8 years. She is fantastic! We are in a polyamorous marriage, fully supportive of each other. I have been attracted to both sexes as long as I can remember. Through society's pressures, with exception of a couple of minor experiences, I have never pursued my desires to be with another man.

Just recently I decided to take the plunge and put an ad on another site. I put my heart out there and decided to state exactly what I was looking for. Not sex, not an occasional discrete relationship. A real relationship based on love, respect, desire and honesty. Within minutes I had several responses. While most were the requisite sex only, didn't read my ad or believe it type of responses - one stood out.

I am now dating a gentleman who shares the same wants and desires in a relationship that I do! The feeling is fantastic! My wife is extremely happy for me, and is as excited to see my relationship blossom as I am.

So - perhaps you really can have it both ways!!!

Peace to all, and keep up the posts :)

[kitten]

Congratulations! I am so happy for you and your spouse.
Best wishes and continued luv and hugs-

[biguymass]

Congratulations!!

I'm glad it's working out for you.

Most people aren't lucky enough to find what you have :)

[meteast chick]

Wow, congrats...

Must be nice, I was married to a man that wouldn't let me be truly happy, and put an ad out for a single lady, and all I get are men, married women and people looking for 3somes!

Good luck to you and for me too!

luv and kisses,
xoxoxoxoxoxo
meteast

[s_shunpike]

Thank you!

This will be an interesting journey. The choice was made by me to simply not accept anything less than what I wanted. Maybe it's getting older, but I have settled for way to much in the past and not been happy. I am much more patient these days. If I can't have what I want, I simply have no problem waiting and finding what I want :bigrin:

Funny, taking that attitude seems to have led me directly to what I want. Bizarre, makes me wonder if that would have worked for the past 37 years :smilies15

[TaylorMade]

I'm gonna try to have it both ways.

Succeeding may be another story.

*Taylor*

[BreeIsMe]

I am so happy for you!!!
It is a truly rare event that someone who is bi can:

1. finds and marries a woman who understands this type of attaction and is willing to foster it

AND

2. finds a man who wants the same thing he does and not just physical sex.

Congratulations and I hope you enjoy every minute of yor existence..

Bree