More ignorance or clever probing?

[Enoll]

So I'm confused on a friend's motives.
I was hanging out with all my friends tonight, playing pool, the usual.
I got to talking to one of my friend's girlfriends about how my friend is all homophobic and such and how he hate gay peoplebeacuse he's scared of them.
So after awhile we start speculating about the sexuality of people in our group who we've never seen with either sex, be it female or male. Mostly as a joke mind you, nothing serious.
The section of conversation ends with, "well, atleast he's not bi", reffering to one of my not present friends. As she said it, she gave a wierd look and said it in a stange tone. I sat there for a moment trying to not blurt out: "beacuse then he'd be just like me right?".
So I asked, "what's wrong with bi's? you seem to dislike them".
Supprisingly to me, she goes on to spurt EVERY stereotype we have, including "they can never hold down a relationship with just one person at a time". Wich made me giggle, wich confused her obviously. You see, the 1st of this month marked 2 years for my girlfriend and I, few "fights", no cheating.

Then after I finished standing up for a sexuality only afew choice people know I have (have? haha) I asked her if she knows any bi people to base all these things on.
"Nope, never met one."
I've known her for just over two years.

Now, I'm also alittle confused, well, that's not the right word. Suspicious might be better. You see, she's a third year psychology student. Wich makes me nearly think she set up the whole little scenario just to see what I'd do.
Some sort of little mind fuck to find out one of my last little secrets.
Beacuse she used phrases like "fence sitting" and the like, things I've known other bi's to get up in arms about in the past.
If that's so, I played right into it and I don't mind one bit.

Though if the opposite is true, then well, I just don't know.
I'd never met someone before who dislikes bisexual people but has
many gay friends.

Well, that's a load off my mind for the evening.

<3
Matt.

[biwords]

Possible rule of thumb: if it bothers you enough to ask, ask. If it doesn't, put it out of mind altogether -- I've driven myself bonkers speculating about people's motives, and to no good effect.

[diamond_tether]

As a psych student, I'd say she's probably fucking with you. Especially considering her using every stereotype and piece of terminology that applies to Bisexuals. She might be speculating something about you and trying to get a rise and/or see if you'll admit something. Personally, I'd fuck with her right back and leave out choice words/pronouns here and there to make yourself seem like the Devil's Advocate. Since you're with a woman, she won't be able to outright say too many 'assumptions'. I'd use that to my advantage and see what her game potentially is. In the end, as long as you don't lie or seriously misrepresent yourself - you were just going along as normal.

The alternative bothers me because it means someone's approaching a career in counciling other people on possibly this specific issue and she's clearly got the wrong idea about it.

[Enoll]

As a psych student, I'd say she's probably fucking with you. Especially considering her using every stereotype and piece of terminology that applies to Bisexuals. She might be speculating something about you and trying to get a rise and/or see if you'll admit something. .

It seems more and more like she was if I run it back through my mind.
I guess If she was it'd just be karma comming back on me for playing mind
games with some of my friends about it. They all have ideas and such that I might be. One of them even asked flat out "are you bisexual?", I just winked
and walked off wich was followed by a "what the fuck does that mean?" being yelled dowb the hall. So really I'd just be getting what I deserved.
Not that I see that as a bad thing ofcourse, I like to have afew things to keep me occupied to wonder about when work is slow.
The oly thing I've never been straight up with people about is my sexuality, even if they ask, I've always liked to play games and make people keep guessing.

It's getting closer and closer to a point where I'll have to tell someone who'll spread it around. but for now I might keep playing back and forth games with people.
She really caught me off guard, I'll find out soon, I hope.

[diamond_tether]

I guess If she was it'd just be karma comming back on me for playing mind games with some of my friends about it. They all have ideas and such that I might be. One of them even asked flat out "are you bisexual?", I just winkedand walked off wich was followed by a "what the fuck does that mean?" being yelled dowb the hall. So really I'd just be getting what I deserved....
...The only thing I've never been straight up with people about is my sexuality, even if they ask, I've always liked to play games and make people keep guessing.

It's getting closer and closer to a point where I'll have to tell someone who'll spread it around. but for now I might keep playing back and forth games with people.


Heheh, we've all been there. I'd say do what you do and have fun with it. Ride it out until you can't anymore, really. I don't hide the fact that I'm bi anymore and if asked outright I'll admit to it, but if someone can't ask me flat out or starts playing games with me then I take it as my free ticket to mess with them - I'm better at playing like that than they most likely are (if only because I've had more practice with dancing around it). Plus, it's fun to see them confused and unsure about what you meant when you say something. I actually had my step-mother walking on eggshells about it for a while at one point. She was just way too much fun to string along. :)

[miamiuu]

I definitely dont like the feeling of being probed. Also what bothers me is when people just blatantly ask about your sexuality when they really dont even need to no. Not like they want to go on a date, or anything.

[teamnoir]

Some people like to test others.

Why not just tell her that you and your GF are bi since you're both friends with her?