Coming Out Process - More Help Plz!

[DuskTillDawn]

Hey Y'ol

as some of you may know I recently "came out" to my best friend which i think went well, however, she is finding it really difficult to understand. She knows and accepts that im bi but in her mind im gay.

Has anyone had a similar problem? or do have any ideas of anything I could say to help her understand coz im at a lost. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thx

[biwords]

Would she be open to reading some of the threads on this site that have dealt with this very question?

[jedinudist]

Hey Y'ol

as some of you may know I recently "came out" to my best friend which i think went well, however, she is finding it really difficult to understand. She knows and accepts that im bi but in her mind im gay.

Has anyone had a similar problem? or do have any ideas of anything I could say to help her understand coz im at a lost. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thx

That is one of the biggest issues facing Bisexuals... So many people don't see bisexuality as it's own valid orientation. They usually see it as:

1. You're just curious.

2. You're really homosexual but can't/won't admit it.

You can try referring your friend to some of the information here at bisexual.com in the form of threads and "chatting" directly with some of the good folks here, and you can just calmly assert that you are not homosexual, you're not heterosexual, and you're not in some "phase". You're Bisexual. Then continue to live your life and let that show your friend what your orientation is. It's a long hard road sometimes, but it's the road we're on.
Congratulations on your coming out. I sincerely hope it continues to go well for you :D

[lilbitsva]

I have a few things that you can talk to her about. Go to her and take some information with you. Go and do some research about it and take it to her and show her that it's not gay that you are bi. Not that there is anything wrong with being gay. But if you aren't then she isn't getting the point. If this was me i would take some books and explain to her that i would want you to understand, and hear is a few things to help you with that. Because sometimes people will read things and get a better point of view then us trying to teach them. Because as you all know sometimes are friends zone out. And maybe when you said bi every other word she didnt' hear. Another thing is bring her on hear and letting some of us talk to her. So that she can see that we are like everyone else we just happen to like both sexes. I wish you the best of luck with this. lil bit :)