coming out, the complex question

[Long Duck Dong]

this is a random thought thread, I don't need advice or help, just expressing some random thinking

coming out ??? gotta ask myself, why would i need to do it ??

well I quess that any of my partners need to be respected.... but do they... I mean, is it gonna affect them ??
secrets in a relationship are not the best thing to have... but then again open honesty is not the best thing either

* hey darling, I wipe my ass from left to right then open and down, then look at the toilet paper and study the remains of my body waste *.....yeah I quess some secrets just don't need to be mentioned

but what about coming out.... sure I am bisexual... but is telling a partner that I am bisexual, gonna serve any purpose if it doesn't affect the relationship ??

* hey darling, I am bisexual, but I am also 100% faithful, and honest, I don't want to go outside of the relationship at all and I have no interest in sleeping around cos it may impact badly on the relationship.... btw why are you loading the shotgun ?? *

mmm what about the aspect of being proud of who I am..... well, I guess there is that point....

* hey, world, I am bisexual and I am proud of it.... what ya mean who gives a shit ??? *

I have pride... I have accomplished things in my life..... mmmmmm then again, I have created some fuck ups, that god would struggle to do
so if I decide to * come out * what am i accomplishing ???

1 ) I may find peace in myself..... mmm IF i can't find peace in myself without telling the world about me, I have a few issues I need to look out

2 ) I may find a partner that accepts me for who I am...... true, very true.... but hows that gonna ensure that the dishs are done, the bills are paid, and that the person doesn't think I am a asshole

3 ) I don't have to hide my true nature around people..... thats true too, and while I am at it, I can tell them my wanking habits, the fact I fart and hold the covers over my head and the fact that I can a itchy asshole in bed... cos they are also bedroom issues....

4 ) its easier to explain away the fact that I have a opposite sex, and same sex partner.....I have to justify my relationships to other people ????

5 ) it makes it easier for people to relate to me..... nods, true... and it also gives me more headaches when people decide the * closet homo * needs * da bash * or converting to homosexuality or the 3 day sermon about how god loves all his children but wants to kick your ass for letting others fuck it

6 ) I would not be ashamed of myself as a bisexual..... snorts.... I am ashamed of my behievour at times, not who i am...

I think that if I come out as a bisexual, then I can bring more understanding to other bisexuals around the world by my actions and words......but that creates a issue..... people may think that other bisexuals are whisky drinking, cigar smoking, obnoxious, opinionated grump old people ( aged 36 ) that are ex martial artists with a term in the armed forces and behind bars....
* sighs *.... its getting to the point that coming out is looking more and more like a excuse to annoy people lol

coming out is not gonna improve the way I act around people, cos I have not changed, the way they percieve me, has

coming out is not gonna get me a pay rise......well.... it depends on the job.....maybe I could double as a street walker or what ever the correct term is....

coming out is not gonna improve the relationship with my family....my father wouldn't care, my stepfather is homophobic and my mother just needs another reason to bitch and moan at me.... do i really wanna give her another one ???

still, I did decide that I would try new things.... and I have always wanted to know if hell exists.....

so world, family and friends and partner and god, i'm bisexual..... * sits and waits for either the rejection, the judging, a shotgun blast, or a lightening bolt.......* smiles sweetly *

mmm I have survived that......... now I wonder what would happen if I come out as a ....... tree hugging, life living, light filled person who loves everybody

" dearly beloved... we are gathered here today to commit this persons remains to the earth........."

yeah I think the world can survive me coming out as a bisexual..... just not sure if I can survive it ....lol

[yoyo4u]

Up to not long ago my signature read:

"If we were all heroes, who would sit at the curbside and clap their hands...."

Since I found many heroes here, all I'm left with is to clap my hands!

thank you long.
yoyo

[Judas Imok]

Very entertaining, yet enlightening post. While I do not regret my "coming out" which I just did last night to my parents... and I still think it a good idea... I just love your thoughts.

*emphatic applause*

*hugs* :)

[Lorcan]

Sure you don't have to come out if you don't want too.

I do.

For one thing it really improves my relationship with my partner. I can say "she's cute!"... he can say "he's cute!" We both know what we mean, and we can share this little fantasy. And we don't have to hide what porn we look at. :bigrin: I mean I partnered with this lover to share who i am, and i consider being bisexual a big part of who i am. I understand if some people don't consider it a big part of who they are... then they would think, "why tell?"

Besides... i think its good that people think that all other bis are genderfuck autistic-like Japanese-ophile girl-fags that are carpenters and into sculpture. :bigrin: That is, until another entirely different person comes out and blows that theory.

And i have to say, good post LDD. Just a little depressing reading all those rationalizations.

[DiamondDog]

I see coming out as an important and good thing as I feel that doing anything else to your friends/family/people you have relationships with, and yourself is akin to lying to yourself and others, and not being true to yourself.

[Long Duck Dong]

just in case people get confused or misguided...I have been out as a bisexual for many years....I kinda realised that the post may give the wrong impressions and is simply a extreme look at the ethics of dilemma of coming out lol

I never really * came out * to my family, my mother is christian and anti anything gay / les / bi / trans,

I don't see coming out as a big deal, myself....it didn't change my life that much, nor did it change me....the only difference i did notice, is that people asked is that was also why i was so gifted ( don't ask, its a long story and its nothing to do me with my penis either )

i feel that being a out bisexual haven't impacted on my relationships, as people know what they are getting into and it saves me the hassle of having to tell people once we are in relations....

so why write the post ??? lol I love writing, and expressing random thoughts....and somethings stuff i write, can help others... but I love to throw a humourous spin of different aspects of my life....lol

[ghytifrdnr]

so why write the post ??? lol I love writing, and expressing random thoughts....and somethings stuff i write, can help others... but I love to throw a humourous spin of different aspects of my life....lol


So LDD, does that qualify as mental masturbation? :bigrin:

[Long Duck Dong]

mmm yeah I guess it could lmao