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wellred
Sep 5, 2005, 3:16 PM
We cannot tell the precise moment
when friendship is formed.
As in filling a vessel drop by drop,
there is at last a drop which makes it run over;
so in a series of kindnesses there is at last one
which makes the heart run over.


by Samuel Johnson

Early one morning, I witnessed a flock of skylarks pursuing flying moths. As they darted and dipped in chase of their winged snacks, one of the birds hit a parked car and landed on the pavement. Immediately, the flock interrupted their breakfast run, joined in a chorus of song, and attended to their fallen aviator. Many of the flock sat side-by-side on nearby wire, while three or four birds at a time swooped to their injured companion. Taking turns, they seemed to flutter their wings over the downed bird. Replacement of these sets of would-be rescuers was repeated several times until the dazed lark, suddenly rose, flapped its wings and flew with the rest of the flock, quickly forming in mid-air, and heading skyward.

This type of instantaneous compassion is evident in the world around us. As a frequent visitor to this site, I have often witnessed and been the recipient of the warm, caring and heartfelt sharing that is readily available here. With apologies, I want to pause the many entertaining, enticing, and informing conversations just long enough to acknowledge the value the basic human kindness that is found here.

Compassion is more than being nice. Marc Ian Barasch, author of Fields Notes on the Compassionate Life: A Search for the Soul of Kindness, speaks about compassion as being “active giving”. Often compassion is thought of as softness and gentleness; however, true compassion requires toughness and strength. Compassion requires a bit of grit, and if you are up to it, you may engage with others in meaningful intercourse (yes, the kind that does not involve penetration), and reap the prize of happiness.

Happiness is not a quest, but rather is the gift our own actions. Most of us feel joy (or at least contentment) when we ease the pain of another person or bringing happiness to someone’s life. Through a series of meaningful exchanges we, in turn, gain a sense of well-being.

Recognizing that many of us visit this site for the fun of quick, anonymous sexual interludes; the site also offers opportunities for authentic kindness. Each morsel of charity builds toward soaring spirits and amasses toward friendship.

Charles W. Kohler, in tribute to friendship, wrote: “Those are our best friends in whose presence we are able to be our best selves.”

So thanks to you who help me to continuously discover the best within me.

With Love and Light,
Red :three:

Lorcan
Sep 5, 2005, 4:02 PM
You write well, WellRed.
While i am not loquatious, i agree.

My partner is another good writer.
You and he should converse.
:bipride:

arana
Sep 5, 2005, 4:38 PM
This is very beautiful Wellred. You have touched many of our hearts with this same caring, kindness and understanding friendship. We miss your presence in chat very much, but I'm glad to see you haven't left us completely. You are a wise and benevolent man, making people feel most welcome and at home. I hope that you are repaid that selflessness 10 fold.

Hugs,
Arana

ladydelanie
Sep 5, 2005, 9:53 PM
Wellred,

Once again you have touched so many hearts with the beauty of your words.
Thank you for always giving such thoughtful wisdom to us.
Oh how we have laughed over such silly little things. How those "silly" things make a long day so worth it!
Yes many of us come in here to laugh and have fun. We meet special people that brighten our days, or make us laugh so hard it hurts! Or that touch our hearts in ways no one but us can understand. Is it fate? I would say yes.
For there is a purpose we are all brought together, regardless of our sexual orientation.
Be it the need to help someone else or for the simple fact of pure unbiased friendship and love. :)
We miss you Wellred. Yes thank you for continuing to write and make us smile or prehaps bring a tear to our eyes.
Thank all of you that continue to support each and every one of us in our times of sorrow or times of joy. Thank you Wellred for being a friend to all.

May you find the peace and love in your heart we all deserve.
I hope to see you soon.......

Ladydelanie

Bi-ten
Sep 5, 2005, 10:53 PM
Wellred,

How many times do I read your posts and mavel at your thoughtfulness and eloquence. You are a gift to all of us. Thanks, for being you...

Hugs

csrakate
Sep 6, 2005, 3:22 AM
Wellred,
One of the first things I noticed when I came to this site were the prolific and thought provoking entries that you made on the forum. As time went on, I found myself lucky enough to be in the chat room when you appeared and once again, I found you to be the voice of reason but with just enough humor to add some fun to your posts.

I agree with you that many of us come here for different reasons, but for myself, the most important connections I have made have been with people like yourself, people who give of themselves so that the rest of us can better understand our own feelings and better understand those of the people we love. I can't thank you enough for the wisdom you have shared and I know that my marriage and my relationship with my husband have been enhanced as a result.

I was so happy to see you return to chat and I look forward to visiting with you some more in the upcoming days. Take care and once again....thank you for being you.

Kate

wellred
Sep 6, 2005, 11:55 PM
My intent in this posting was to underscore the values of compassion and friendship as found among members of this site. I expected (hoped) that others would share their similar experiences.

I find myself in the embarrassing position of having thrown out what I thought to be a bouquet and having it returned as if a boomerang. My heart is touched by this continue stream of consideration. You are wonderful people! :grouphug:

bigregory
Sep 7, 2005, 1:30 AM
:grouphug: :grouphug: :bowdown:
I was so lucky to find this site.
And Red just makes it even better.
It's just like comming home!! :upside:

sailorashore
Sep 10, 2005, 1:03 PM
Well writ, Wellred~~~
You are certainly one of the most articulate among us, and doubtless one of the most thoughtful, as well. I have had similar thoughts about our little chat community and web-site, but could never have expressed them so coherently. I agree with the folks above, Red. We are all fortunate to have found our way here, and doubly so that you have, too. Happy trails, amigo.
Fond wishes for your continued happiness.
sailorashore

codybear3
Sep 10, 2005, 3:37 PM
There is nothing I can say that has not been said already. Thanks Wellred for being a part of my cyber-life... :) :grouphug:

m.in.heels&hose
Sep 11, 2005, 2:58 PM
Wellred, that was one of the best stories i have heard/read in a long, long time!!!!

i too feel that the regular people here are very caring and concerned for others that we have come to enjoy their (online) company

i am awestruck for the thoughtfulness of everyone i have encountered here this is one of the most unique sites i have ever seen, and i hope that this site will never go away, on the other hand, i only see it to flourish more and more everyday!

thank you everyone for putting up with my ramblling! lol
:bibounce:

wellred
Sep 11, 2005, 8:13 PM
Last night, I enjoyed watching Strange Bed Fellows, starring Paul Hogan and Michael Caton. This film is about a couple of older chaps, living in an Australian country village. To solve a desperate situation, they pretend to be a loving gay couple. This scenario is the basis for a very funny set of circumstances.

However, the comedy's theme speaks to the extent of friendship. These "mates" have a bond that transcends the importance of their public image. Such solid relationships seem to be more prevalent in countries outside of the United States. Blessed are you that have the good fortune of having such mates.

With Love and Light,
Red

SweetBlackAngel
Sep 11, 2005, 8:41 PM
Awww...Red, what lovely things you've said. You're a light, indeed. :)

gina42
Oct 1, 2005, 12:45 PM
wellread,
i am lost for words with the storie you share wih us all..
i can not speak for all but when you write you express yourself wounderfully,your kindness and caring ways shine threw in your writting.


(a qoute from csrkate)
((I agree with you that many of us come here for different reasons, but for myself, the most important connections I have made have been with people like yourself, people who give of themselves so that the rest of us can better understand our own feelings and better understand those of the people we love. I can't thank you enough for the wisdom you have shared and I know that my marriage and my relationship with my husband have been enhanced as a result))


i couldnt have said it any better kate,because that is how i feel as well...
gina

Sparks
Oct 1, 2005, 10:22 PM
For you, my friend wellred; And to all I offer you this passage from Kahlil Gibran from his book "The Prophet".

"And let your best be for your friend.
If he must know the ebb or your tide,
let him know its flood also.
For what is your friend that you should
seek him with hours to kill?
Seek him always with hours to live.
For it is his to fill your need, but not
your emptiness.
And in the sweetness of friendship let
there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.
For in the dew of little things the heart
finds its morning and is refreshed."

jazzer
Oct 2, 2005, 6:08 AM
Hi Wellred. I was fortunate enough recently to see the Australian movie "Strange Bedfellows" and I too enjoyed it immensely. Australians have a great feeling of "mateship" and their ability to survive when other nationalities perished in the harsh conditions they experienced in Japanese prisoner of war camps remains a testament to that.
Perhaps it goes back to the early days when Australia became a dumping ground for English convicts, sent in chains to one of the harshest continents on earth and where survival depended on "mateship".
It is one of the sad ironies of life that people only discover their true friends when they are challenged by life. It is when you are having real life traumas and difficulty in dealing with life that you will discover those who truly treasure you as a friend or a "mate".
I believe you to be an intelligent, sensitive and caring guy Wellred and would be proud to call you a "mate". :) :2cents: