HOW MANY GUYS HERE ARE MARRIED AND SECRETLY BI

[Shefford]

I started having the urges just before I turned 59 of what it would feel like to have a cock in my mouth. After communicating with a guy on Zoig a few months I finally met this guy at a local ABS and got the taste of a cock and his load as well. It's been over a year now and I've sucked around 125 . My wife of 40 years does not know , I still love her but her sex drive is down to Zero , I don't want an affair. This is no strings attached.

[srq4fun941]

Married and bi here. Wife doesn't know. I keep it very private and secure. I had a regular friend to meet up with for about 3 years until he changed jobs and moved out of state.

[Fzmr9t]

Married over 37 years, been BI for about the last 19 of them. The only ones who know are the ones whose cocks I'm sucking (or otherwise entertaining)

[oldoralman]

After my wife caught me looking at cock in another website I decided to give my wife hints that I like cock too. This went over ok. I guess this really happened as I have wanted to watch her get fucked by another man for years. To get over her negative response to this I turned to sucking cock, which I really enjoy and I have told her so. I asked her to watch me suck another guy but she refused. She does not mind my having sex with another guy as long as she does not know about it. Do you think the reason I like cock so much is here refusal to fuck another guy? She loves me very much as I do her and we have a great relationship otherwise.

[OlderBC1]

Yeah. I love my lil soulmate, & almost had her one night. She called her sister, telling me, " You guys need to fuck!" I thought she even mentioned trying sex with her herself? Turned o fucking me in the ass with big dildos, making me suck'em first, etc. She actually enjoyed it. then it all went to hell in a handbasket. Now , she says when I loose weight, get the blood clots/hips fixed, well pick up where we left off?! I hope it means literally? I'd love a dick in my mouth right now, with her joining me...oh happy day!

[foundpuppy]

Married, my wife knows but its the best kept secret in our house. I don't tell her about any tryst i may have. I also cross dress (casually) while home and she would much rather me be one of the girls than be bio.

[Ltsp123]

I am married and secretly bi and wife has no clue. I have been bi since my teens and have been with five guys in my time. All of these encounters were before I got married and I have never cheated on her with another guy (or a girl!). I figure it is better to keep my bi desires secret and secretly fantasize about sucking cock rather than telling her.

[Bifun2009]

Back when I was 37 (54 now), I had met a guy for my first bi experience. We had been chatting in the old AOL chat rooms. Shortly after meeting him, I had met a gal that would end up becoming my wife 2 years later. While I was dating her, I continued to meet up with the same guy and we developed a friendship. I use to golf on a league so, I told her that I was becoming a substitute on another league so that my new FWB and I would have a set day and time to hook up for sex. This went on until, I got married, but she never knew about me having sex with him. I would see my buddy only 3 or 4 times the first year I was married and then, my wife got pregnant and my bi-side was put on hold for 2 years.
Contact with my buddy was lost for those 2 years, but quickly renewed when my wife decided that marriage wasn't for her and moved out, leaving me with the kid. I began hanging out with my buddy again as well as having sex with him.

There are plenty of ways to work around the wife if, you REALLY want to fulfill your desire(s). In my case, she knew that I really enjoyed golfing and that I was in a league as well as golfed with buddies or clients throughout the week. I'm in Michigan so, this was only good from May to Oct, early Nov. During the winter, it wasn't difficult to make a trip to Home Depot or to help a friend move an old stove to his sisters house or something. I loved my wife and she was quite the nympho. But, I really enjoyed having sex with my buddy and did not want to give that up. So, I had to get creative to be able to keep that going. It also made it easier that I was able to introduce them to each other when, I was dating my ex. He would visit the house once in awhile, but she knew I was "golfing" with him so, she never had a reason to be suspicious of anything.

[cuttin2dachase]

I meet mainly older bisexual married men who have been fooling their wives for many years. Many of their wives have lost interest in frequent sex with them or either completely cut them off from sex. Some still had frequent, satisfying sex at home, but their love of and attraction to men and cock is something no wife can ever give them, so they have to seek out other men or be unfulfilled/unhappy. Every one of them loved their wives and families, but felt compelled to find ways to secretly have sex with me and other men. One thing they all have in common is that they have maintained plausible cover stories and never given their wives any reason to doubt them. Golf/fishing/hunting outings, having a beer after work with co-workers, going to a sports bar to watch sports, going to their gym, poker nights and similar themes are the most common types of cover stories I've encountered. I've never once encouraged a man to "cheat" on his wife with me. But at the same time, if he already cheats or is seriously looking to cheat, I don't discourage him either.

[sisboy]

Wives are not that dumb.I think they know we are bi but just dont say anything.My wife coaxed and coaxed me until I sucked cock spposedly for her and her boyfreinds entertainment.After sucking a cock for the first time it did not take much coaxing at all for the second or third time.By the fourth time I would walk up to him while he was sitting having a drink get on my knnes pull his sweet cock out and start sucking.Wife got pissed but he enjoyed the hell out of it and left a nice deposit for me to swallow.Asked wife why she was pissed she was the one who got me started and she said"I knew all along you would enjoy a cock".She was right and never stopped encouraging me to keep exploring cocks and what they have to offer.She has brought out a fem submissive side of me that I enjoy and is a hit with every man I have ever been with.

[larrywilldo]

I am living with my girl friend for the past 17 years. She does not know of my bi play and should she find out, she would walk and never look back. She is a straight as an arrow Catholic girl who is ultra conservative. She just wouldn't understand.

[ncbymail]

I am. I've tried to break it to her without just saying, 'I like to suck cock'!, but either didn't get it or she'd rather keep it, 'don't ask...'
Either way I don't want to lose her and love her but don't get sex from her now. So I've found a work-around. Everyones different and this works for me so don't lecture about being honest etc...

[NakedFun38]

I am. I've tried to break it to her without just saying, 'I like to suck cock'!, but either didn't get it or she'd rather keep it, 'don't ask...'
Either way I don't want to lose her and love her but don't get sex from her now. So I've found a work-around. Everyones different and this works for me so don't lecture about being honest etc...

What's your work around?

[Prosound16]

I am. But im not to sure on how much longer ill be married

[sysper]

is it because ur bi and/or something else?
I am. But im not to sure on how much longer ill be married

[BiGuyInHouston]

I am not, but I love sucking you married guys

[ghw132]

My wife an I were talking about our earliest sexual experiences one evening over wine. My first experience was with a fourteen year old male friend. I told her in great detail how rewarding that experience was, how erotic and how he pleased me so much, that I would go to him every time he called. She admitted that her first sexual experience was with a girlfriend. However, it was just casual touching, that just let her know that being touched there was fun. So I told her at the time I thought I was gay, but I soon met a girl and found out that they were fun also. But all my life I had been searching for another male partner that could pleasure me like he did. She told me if I found him and wanted to do something, to let her know, and she would probably let me try it again. I have been looking and keep her informed of my search, letting her read the emails and look at the pictures. She has a good eye for male talent. Have not found anybody yet, but still looking and keeping her informed of how it is going. So I go with the idea that if you tell them why you are bi, and explain it as an erotic good experience that can be shared and it is just sex, and No danger to the marriage they are more likely to go for it.

[borntosuckcock]

Very oral, I've been sucking cocks since I was 8 or 9 and loving it. Started to eat pussy around 10 or 11 and loved it. I'm totally Bi and now I'm 68.i don't get pussy anymore and I miss it, but I still score a fair amount of cock. My wife has no idea that I'm Bi and love cock as much as pussy. We've been married almost 50 years and I'll carry my secret to my grave. She'd leave in a second if she ever found out. I've enjoyed my life, but sometimes I wish I could have been more open.

[~Joe~]

I'm married and my wife knows that I'm into men.
A number of years ago we where parked up and in the trees she saw two men wanking each other and the one guy started to suck the one guy off.
Then my wife shocked me by saying why don't you go try it!
Well after being shocked by what she said, i went into the trees and met a guy who's cock was out of his shorts and i just dropped down and started to suck him, he blew all over my face and then another guy came up behind me and fucked me shooting right up my ass, I was hooked from that day in 1999.
So yes my wife is ok with me having sex with other men.

[csreef]

I was a member of a LGBT center that had a Bisexual support group. The lady who facilitated the group said that she was thinking about having a session or two from 12 to 1 p.m. during the week, because there were quite a few married men who contacted her about going to the group session, but they couldn't because they were Bisexual, "on the Down Low" and didn't want to go to the regular session, which was held in the evening.

[willswallow77]

I'm married and my wife knows that I'm into men.
A number of years ago we where parked up and in the trees she saw two men wanking each other and the one guy started to suck the one guy off.
Then my wife shocked me by saying why don't you go try it!
Well after being shocked by what she said, i went into the trees and met a guy who's cock was out of his shorts and i just dropped down and started to suck him, he blew all over my face and then another guy came up behind me and fucked me shooting right up my ass, I was hooked from that day in 1999.
So yes my wife is ok with me having sex with other men.

Wow, what a nice surprise, if my wife ever did that my cock would be diamonds.

[ncbymail]

What's your work around?
Same as lots of guys here, Craigs.., other hookup sites and going to ABS with gloryholes. Not perfect by any means but I feel like I gave her enough info to know what was on my mind and if she was unsure or confused about what I was saying she didn't try to take the conversation further. So I figure she doesn't want to know details or when/how/who.
So I keep sucking dick as often as I can, which is very little (3-5 times a year).
I think if I could find a regular for a once a week or every other I wouldn't waste so much time on the computer edging and looking at gay/bi porn.
I don't intend to stop sucking dick. But I do consider trying again to get her to acknowledge that she really knows what I'm saying. But I have brought it up at least 3 times and it's gone nowhere.

[bw299]

I posted earlier that I was married and secretly bi. Well that has changed. She now knows but it's kind of a "don't ask, don't tell" situation. She knows I get with guys but she doesn't want to talk about it. We still have sex and she loves sucking my cock. So I guess all is well.

[BiNylonFred]

I'm sure I'm bi. My wife and I fantasise about me having a cock in my mouth, she tells me how much she'd like to see that, so she could play with herself watching, but actually doing it is another thing. I don't look at guys on the street and think, 'ooh, I want his cock in my mouth,' but I sure do get turned on when on here or pantyhose share club, (I'm FredInTights on there) I see a nice big cock, sometimes naked, other times in lacy panties and if I am in pantyhose, which I am as often as I can, I so want to rub cocks in nylon with a guy. Doing it however isn't something I actively seek, but I'm on here, so I'm at least in the realm of being with other me and their lovely hard cocks... I remember sucking my first and only cock many moons ago and wonder / try to remember whether I enjoyed it or not. When I'm horny I'm pretty convinced if there was one there to suck I wold.

[cuttin2dachase]

I'm 1 for 2 on this thread topic. My 1st wife was a sexy slutty hotwife and ardent swing partner who got me to try oral sex with men in our mfmf couples 4somes and our mmf 3somes. I was instantly hooked on orally pleasing a hot, hard cock almost as much as on orally pleasing a hot, wet pussy. And it didn't matter to me if it were a woman or man sucking my cock, because it felt so heavenly being pleased orally by either gender. The excitement of being secretly bisexual and sharing that secret only with my hotwife and the bi men and couples we swung with was intoxicating. We swung together every chance we got until we split up over her alcohol and party drug abuse. We were legally separated for almost 3 years. I missed having my hot slutwife, but I didn't miss having an alcoholic, druggie wife who would cheat on a good thing and fuck anyone who had cocaine or meth because I couldn't and wouldn't support her habit. So she knew I was bi and loved it and was quite proud of turning me out as bi. I moved on to having sex with other women, men and couples as a solo legally separated bachelor swinger.

It was a year until I met the woman who would become my 2nd wife. It was a long distance thing because she was in NC and I was 500 miles from her in GA. We didn't see each other but 10 or 12 times in the 2 years we dated before we became engaged. She was also legally separated from her 1st hubby. We were graphically honest with each other about other people we saw and fucked in the absences between the times that we could be together. I didn't 'EXACTLY' come out to her as being bi or admit to her that I was meeting men more often than women or tell her how much I really enjoyed being with men. However, I did confess & spill my guts about 1st wifey and I having been wild swingers and that I had done some bi things with men as part of our swing lifestyle. She told me in no uncertain terms that she would never swing with me or accept it if I wanted to be with other women or men or cheat on her with other women, men or couples. I decided I'd rather give up swinging fun and bi fun than lose her. I promised her I'd be faithful to her and I did stay faithful because I loved her. BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE. As it turned out, she had a married lover she'd been fucking since before we met. I knew about him from our openness about other people we saw, but she didn't ever 'EXACTLY' tell me that she was in love with him and I was her 2nd choice. We were married for 7 years and had a great sex life before I discovered she'd had a lover on the side the whole time. I had not lost my lust for swinging and naked men. I did go to mm websites and swingers' sites and chat with other bi & gay men and mf couples and have cybersex, but I'd remained physically faithful to my 2nd wife all the while we were together. I was hurt, embarrassed and felt so stupid and naive that I had been so trustful when I should have seen all the signs she was using me. I also wanted to kick myself in my own ass for missing so many opportunities to cheat on her with men or swinging couples. So no, my 2nd wife didn't know I am bisexual or the extent to which I am bisexual.

[downforce]

Me, Ive been bi since I was 17, Ive been married to my wife for 10 years. Ive never told her I was bi, or even had encounters with other men. She's told me before that she doesnt care if I do, but she just doesnt want to know about it. Ive only been with 3 guys since we've been together, which is going on 13 years...the past year or so the urge to tell her has gotten stronger, especially since I revealed to her my love for being anally penetrated and eating my own cum. She's used her toys on me several times, culminating in her fucking me with her 1-3/4" dia rabbit while I jacked off, and she's had me eat her creampie numerous times.

Even with all that, Im not real sure how she would take it if I told her Ive had gay experiences...even though she's had a couple lesbian experiences

[DJCRT]

Guess I'm one of the married and secretly bi guys here....always have kept it to myself unless there's someone I trust to talk to about it!

[silverhair65]

Count me as a bisexual married male buried in the closet. There is no greater pleasure than being with a man. As I age I find I prefer sex or servicing a male lover.
In the past my wife and I have played me being bi, usually her idea, with her toys, first sucking a dildo progressing to a strapon, and yet I still can' tell her of my need for a man.
Hopefully I can muster the courage soon.

[rascal2014]

I am married and bi but my wife has no idea. But she is a prude anyway and has almost no interest in sex. I have enjoyed a couple friends cocks several times and always look forward to meeting up with them.

[ShavedBalzz]

Mine knows but doesn't want to know about it...

[Sundazzled]

Married, but sometime after age 50, I discovered (or developed) an interest in bisexual play. My encounters have been few and far between, but I have explored mutual masturbation, frottage and receptive oral sex. I love it all!

[Jymmi]

If my wife found out it would be over for me as well. Ive been sneeking around with my mistress of 5 years and with men for 2 years i dont do it often but when ever i get the chance i take it ive met most of my male partners on squirt and my mistress just said to me on new years just after sex that she wants to swing which is good because now i have a place where i can have sex with men who cant host

[Cocksuckerjim]

Secretly Bi here, play when I can.

[StonedKinkster]

i'm married, but not secretly bi, i just wish i knew where to get dick in omaha

[Joboo]

I'm in the same boat, who have you ever found to talk about it? I had one night stand with a girl I met on the road years ago. She made me use a condom saying her husband was bi. As I prodded her about it she admitted she kind of enjoyed that he was bi. We had been drinking and I ended up confiding in her about my past. She was turned on by me telling her and wanted more details. While it felt good to tell her about it I was still very nervous the next day. It was a random event over 20 years ago and never happened again. All I remember was how good it felt telling her and how it felt good hearing how she felt a large percentage of men had same sex at some point in their youth.

[Samdy]

If my wife would find out I am bi, no telling what she would do. I don't think she would acccept it. I would like to see her with another man, but when I hint at it, she just laughs it off. I do suspect she did have a brief affair, but that doesn't help with my desires. I do masturbate thinking about blowing a guy while she is being ate by another man or woman. I guess I will just dream.

[BigAlNYC]

Not married (anymore), but in a very long term live-in relationship with a woman. She has had bi boyfriends in the past, so I don't think our relationship would end immediately if she knew. But I have always found it much easier, with much less tension and potential for emotional drama, to keep those parts of my life and sexuality separate. I made the "mistake" of telling my first long-term girlfriend many years ago, and she would always bring it up when we were arguing or at times of emotional insecurity. I think it ended up standing as a barrier between us, and created pointless doubt about my hetero masculinity and my commitment. Since there's really no chance that I'm going to be leaving a woman for a long-term relationship with a man, and since I am very careful about health concerns, I see no reason to create undue drama or pain. No need to rock any boats but my own.

[BiGuy97015]

Me! Married and secretly VERY BI in Southern California. Love sucking big cock and am a deep throat expert. What I crave the most are bi women who LOVE watching bi guys and share cock with them...

[Joboo]

I'm surprised to read on here that some who's wives don't know they're bi have told them it's okay if they are... How would that just come up in conversation?

[cuttin2dachase]

If a male/female couple are open and honest about their desires and fantasies, bisexual desires are easily discussed.

[Joboo]

If a male/female couple are open and honest about their desires and fantasies, bisexual desires are easily discussed.
i understand that but from what I've read there are some who say their wives have no idea they are bi. Then they go on to say that their wives have told them it's okay to pursue or okay if they suck cock. Now I can see how it would come up if you were doing mfm or cucking. I guess some just don't give enough information about their situation.

[iwantmore]

Came out to my wife 2yrs ago the urge to explore my bi curiosity was getting intense as I approached 50. She was completely supportive and accepting.....she fully understood that this was something she could not help me with. We agreed the best for me to explore this would be with another couple with a bi male, not interested in cheaters and single guys. Met two couples over the past 2 yrs.....wife's interest has now grown to looking to participate, currently chatting with a bi couple.
I do have an amazing wife and we have no secrets between us......it has created a deeper bond between us.

[Luvpanties]

Love my wife very much, but sex is much too important to trust to a woman!

[Fzmr9t]

One of my fantasies is to have someone else in the room while I’m enjoying a guys cock!
to be able to let someone else in on my ‘secret ‘ so to speak...

[Radlatino]

45, Bi M, westmont IL, would like to find a FWBs who enjoys clean fun. Enjoys, foreplay, 69, making out, Jo. I think some married guys secretly interested after watching porn with the wife. But but are afraid to try, thinking it will move them. To thinking it will make them want more. I think if you want to explore, y not try. When I was married I found myself. Very aroused by it more when she wanted me to do it. Not knowing she has been thinking of it. For a long time, just didn't know how to all me

[ChiefH]

I am married and Bi also! I have kept my Bi feelings hid for the last 50 years!! They have surfaced over the last few years!! But I do not play outside of my marriage!! Not in the mood for a costly divorce!!!

[Michaelcuriousman]

Married and secretly Bi. I haven’t told anyone. I have been with two guys before my marriage. They are the only ones that know. I definitely can’t tell my wife because she would t accept it. I would loose everything I’ve worked very hard to build.

[xp243]

HEY GUYS IF YOU ARE MARRIED AND HIDING YOUR BISEXUALITY FROM YOUR WIFE, HOW DO YOU DO IT AND ARE ANY OF YOU ACTUALLY SEEING ANYONE ON THE SIDE. I AM MARRIED AND BI BUT MY WIFE FOUND MY SECRET EMAIL ACCOUNT AND GOT THE PASSWORD SO I AM PAYING HELL RIGHT NOW.
Same as you my wife found a post I posted about what I wanted to do with a guy she has been pretty good about it I told her I would never cheat on her and ask her. I ask her about maybe having a 3some with another guy but she don't want to.

[Sexy1971]

Married 15;years she is not accepted I am bi so I sneak a cock on occasion I wish I had a regular playmate

[NJwood]

It is very good that my wife is accepting of it. But she is of most things sexual. I can go to strip clubs cuz that will be to her benefit. If if I had a massage with a happy ending, no worries. A guy, well she doesn’t have a penis so she recognizes that’s not an itch she can satisfy. There are rules I need to abide by that makes her comfortable. Besides the whole idea of her manly hubby sucking cock and getting fucked is a major turn on.

[RegularJoe]

I'm secretly bi and married too in Texas. I would love to chat with you.

[charlietx]

well, my wife and I have not had sex in many years. I am 74 she is 71. It's a hormone thing with us both. Men still have the urge to have sex and women don't. I still love my wife dearly and we enjoy retired life together, except sex. I really don't want to get envolved with other women, so I try to get sexual satisfaction with other married guys in the same situation. My wife does not know and no reason to tell her. So I am very discreet and find someone to be friends on other reasons, and have sex in private.

[rikkybaby]

Married and bi, but haven't had an encounter with a male in over 20 years. It's hard to find someone I feel safe with.

[Lakerat14]

My wife knows and loves it! Encourages it in fact. It’s a huge turn on for her.

[hung4you]

Both my wife and I come out to each other 3 years ago, it’s been an amazing journey sharing our past secret playmates. Once then we often share our friends and it’s sexy as hell watching her devour another pussy or seeing another mans cock pound her. As I travel, I find a lot of men are indeed Bi and know for a fact there are a lot of men who play with others given the proper motivations. Most men are into one time release or full ongoing friendships that are discreet. All of the men I have met while traveling have been married o being clean is priority.

And just so so you know, Dallas TX has a high concentration of willing bi guys. So I know when I land in Dallas I will send out a text and I always get someone who wants to play.

[Janis]

I'm bi and not told my wife. No reason to tell her because I wouldn't cheat on her. I may flirt a little and go to gay bars but I keep my vows.

[WMassM4M]

my wife swears she has never ever considered it, but yet her frind when we were dating that she hung out with all the time was a lesbian :confused:

It's amazing how tolerant people are until it applies to their own lives. I'm gay, not bi, and completely in the closet. I used to be open when all my friends were gay. But I tired of that life and relate to few gay men. My former business was in the motorcycle industry. I was quite well know in the area, in that world. There might be some suspicion among my friends, because I never speak about women or my previous relationships with them. However, I have seen it so often where people come out to friends, they are always assured that it changes nothing, but then the phone never rings again. I enjoy being with my friends a great deal and I won't jeopardize that. There are those who say "If they don't accept your sexuality, they were never your friends" I don't care - we each deal with things differently. I completely understand the guys who don't come out to their wives. My sexual desires are a small part of my life and I'm not willing to trade the other things.

[DLazguy]

My wife has no idea. I usually try playing when I'm out of town. I don't current have anyone on the side.

[NEWTOOTHIS]

Mine definitely has no idea !

[DD788Snipe]

My wife kinda knows but we never talk about it. I have to be very discrete.

[Robtiti]

Me here.

[Grant_Norman]

Wife totally sexless and a homo-phobe, conservative christian.....I am Deep in closet and hope to stay there! My activity was 3-5 a week, but that's dropped off now so I think I'm safe...kinda

[Arsamatoria]

I am both married and secretly bi.

[Bidirectional4u]

I'm bi, wife is Bi, we enjoy a boyfriend together. Life is good!

[Playmaker88]

I am not married but I do have a closeted married bud, He has a hard time getting away from his wife but when he does the sex is as good as could be imagined

Last night his wife was away so it was time to play, we make out like teenagers, I took him bi the hand and led him to my bed where we both gave each other what we desired... we kissed, he sucked my cock then I got behind him and put my cock deep inside him... the evening was full of 2 bi men pleasuring each other... he went home with a mouthful of cum and a satisfied ass, I can't wait to fuck his sweet ass bare again

[Flypaper]

Wow, I wish I had a single male neighbor like you! I’d be excusing myself from household duties “to go watch sports with Frank. Back home by halftime honey!”

My wife has no idea. If anything she thinks I’m cheatong on her with women, I sometimes wonder if she’d feel better or worse to learn that I’m getting action woth other men, not women.


I am not married but I do have a closeted married bud, He has a hard time getting away from his wife but when he does the sex is as good as could be imagined

Last night his wife was away so it was time to play, we make out like teenagers, I took him bi the hand and led him to my bed where we both gave each other what we desired... we kissed, he sucked my cock then I got behind him and put my cock deep inside him... the evening was full of 2 bi men pleasuring each other... he went home with a mouthful of cum and a satisfied ass, I can't wait to fuck his sweet ass bare again

[GayGuy04]

I think married guys are sexy to actually know he loves cock on the side. ... hot!

[csreef]

I have a FWB, who is openly Gay, and he will tell me that he has three married guys that he "Services on a regular basis." He said that one guy will come over to his house right after he has screwed his wife. He said that he can still smell his wife's perfume, and the taste of his wife's Pussy on this guy's cock when he is giving him a BJ.

[sysper]

does the female scent affect him at all, make any kinda impression, repulses him?
I have a FWB, who is openly Gay, and he will tell me that he has three married guys that he "Services on a regular basis." He said that one guy will come over to his house right after he has screwed his wife. He said that he can still smell his wife's perfume, and the taste of his wife's Pussy on this guy's cock when he is giving him a BJ.

[Robtiti]

I have a FWB, who is openly Gay, and he will tell me that he has three married guys that he "Services on a regular basis." He said that one guy will come over to his house right after he has screwed his wife. He said that he can still smell his wife's perfume, and the taste of his wife's Pussy on this guy's cock when he is giving him a BJ.
Wish I could find someone like him!

[mike r]

My wife knows I'm bi and never asks about my adventures. Years ago we were swingers and there was not a hint of male bi in the swingers group although my wife ate her share of pussy.

[wifekinky4husband]

Wow I am perplexed at people in marriages unable to be open. Sure it takes time, patience, and you have to work at proper well worded communication and examples but we all need to get open eventually with our mates. It took us what seemed like forever to get it ALL out there but we never stopped introducing one another to our thoughts and desires. We work as a loving team happy to see each other happy. I know wives can handle it guys, myself and many dozens of married friends have handled it, heck we are even the ones the husbands have to handle. ;) You never know until you play with them. There is always something they ladies would like to attempt or try that can open the door to more. We learned a long time: I try something, he gets to, early on for my husband it was positions, for me it was anal play. Then it was he wanted me to masturbate for him, I then in turn wanted to watch him. Then he wanted to see me to myself dp, I added I wanted to see him do himself. And so forth and so on. Read more about us, you will see the progression over time.

I have a girlfriend married at 1.5 years, her husband lets her know he loves cum, she was freaked out by it. Come to find out she likes to ride wall toys anally. I mentioned he shared his desire; she should share hers with him. I'm sure it wasn't an easy thing for him to do. She finally did. He likes it anally as well. Of course she is now thinking he has bi tendencies. 2 years into the marriage they do it side by side on the wall toys, he gobbles cum as well as riding away. She is a bit turned on by doing something she had secretly enjoyed alongside him and the cum thing has grown on her. She asked him to teach her to handle taking it in her mouth, so they now share this 2.5 years later. She still thinks he is bi and wonders about it all the time. I asked my husband if I could share about us. She is nonstop with the questions about our sex life.

Her husband asked me if my husband was bisexual a few weeks ago and I explained how we work. He doesn’t understand how we can be married and he do the things I ask of him so the man is not bi – lol. Crazy thing is my friend (his wife) sort of likes the kinkiness of it now. Oh My Goodness. Women! I tell you, we are crazy.

The point is, find common interests, share secrets, share fantasies, Role Play carefully introducing tid bits here and there with other characters then eventually yourself. That had a large part in my husband growing to accept my wild desires.

Come on guys trust they can handle more than you think. Just be careful how you introduce it to them. We ladies often need time to simmer before we get to cooking.

I have so many friends with similar examples, don’t give up.

[wifekinky4husband]

As for the guys who are – cheating is cheating. Don’t do it. With guy or girl, I could care less. I’d want my husband to tell me – hey, I need more sex; I want more anal, more doggy, more masturbating, more oral, toys, machines, group, whatever but for goodness sakes man up. My husband is more like I’ll do something for you if you will do something for me. If he wanted a threesome, he’d offer something I wanted – possibly three naked hunks with hands all over massaging me. If you want to suck cock find something crazy for her that she’s like to do. If there is nothing, give her more of her favorite. I have never know another female who doesn’t like massages. Slip in sensual massages as I mentioned. :)

[B87cabj]

I'm married and secretly bi. I was hooking up with guys before my lady and I met. When we started dating, I stopped being with men, but I couldn't help myself. I went out and met a guy and have been meeting guys for random fun. She doesn't know..and she can't know.

[sysper]

1st of all please let me tell u what a pleasure it is to hear from a lady! as much as i like to hear about the possibilities within my own sex something i've been exploring for years, it's great to hear a female's voice on things & remind me, the opposite sex has a thing or 2 to offer me too lol. kinda the point behind a bisexual site i think. personally i would like to hear from more females here & more about female bisexuality :)
i wanna say, u have got a great attitude about sex. i know u & ur husband love each other dearly but u don't assume monogomy is necessary. i wish more people realized that. so many people are inclined to believe they can't sleep around with anyone yet it's not in there nature to be with only 1 person & they feel guilty when they do sleep with someone else or even think about it. it could be challenging but i truly believe a couple can have some fun on the side but truly be in love with each other & be dedicated & devoted to each other for life. i even believe u could be in love with more than 1 person. but im not saying that's everyone. each couple is unique & have there own path.
but like u said here communication is key. it's so important to be honest & open with ur lover. ur in a relationship that is very intimate, very personal. u open up a side of u noone else will ever see & u see that person in the same depth. it's the closest u will probably ever be with any other person in the world. so u shouldn't hold back & leave things to guessing. of course that could cause problems i realize it's not all fun & games. but as with all relationships there are risks. i dont really know what more to say because i understand it's profound but i've never been this deep with anyone. i just know there's so much to explore. sexually definately but also emotionally & personally. doing it all by myself for now.

Wow I am perplexed at people in marriages unable to be open. Sure it takes time, patience, and you have to work at proper well worded communication and examples but we all need to get open eventually with our mates. It took us what seemed like forever to get it ALL out there but we never stopped introducing one another to our thoughts and desires. We work as a loving team happy to see each other happy. I know wives can handle it guys, myself and many dozens of married friends have handled it, heck we are even the ones the husbands have to handle. ;) You never know until you play with them. There is always something they ladies would like to attempt or try that can open the door to more. We learned a long time: I try something, he gets to, early on for my husband it was positions, for me it was anal play. Then it was he wanted me to masturbate for him, I then in turn wanted to watch him. Then he wanted to see me to myself dp, I added I wanted to see him do himself. And so forth and so on. Read more about us, you will see the progression over time.

I have a girlfriend married at 1.5 years, her husband lets her know he loves cum, she was freaked out by it. Come to find out she likes to ride wall toys anally. I mentioned he shared his desire; she should share hers with him. I'm sure it wasn't an easy thing for him to do. She finally did. He likes it anally as well. Of course she is now thinking he has bi tendencies. 2 years into the marriage they do it side by side on the wall toys, he gobbles cum as well as riding away. She is a bit turned on by doing something she had secretly enjoyed alongside him and the cum thing has grown on her. She asked him to teach her to handle taking it in her mouth, so they now share this 2.5 years later. She still thinks he is bi and wonders about it all the time. I asked my husband if I could share about us. She is nonstop with the questions about our sex life.

Her husband asked me if my husband was bisexual a few weeks ago and I explained how we work. He doesn’t understand how we can be married and he do the things I ask of him so the man is not bi – lol. Crazy thing is my friend (his wife) sort of likes the kinkiness of it now. Oh My Goodness. Women! I tell you, we are crazy.

The point is, find common interests, share secrets, share fantasies, Role Play carefully introducing tid bits here and there with other characters then eventually yourself. That had a large part in my husband growing to accept my wild desires.

Come on guys trust they can handle more than you think. Just be careful how you introduce it to them. We ladies often need time to simmer before we get to cooking.

I have so many friends with similar examples, don’t give up.

[Sundazzled]

I’m 64 years old, but have the identical situation. Wife lost all interest following a bout with cancer that resulted in the loss of her left breast and both ovaries. After one very frustrating year with no sex (save for the self-service variety $ I began exploring bisexual options, and found that sex with guys could be very satisfying. I ‘ve been happily bi for 13 years now, and have never regretted my decision to explore intimacy with other men. My wife doesn’t know, but probably suspects that my needs are being met elsewhere.

sex wit other guys makes sense in several levels:
1)It feels less like cheating than if I took a female lover. 2) After age 50, the odds of finding a female interested in extramarital sex are pretty slim; 4) Who knows what feels good to a guy better than another guy?; 5) women view sex differently than women. Women get all wrapped up in emotions, while guys are generally more interested in just interested in “gettin’ ‘er done.” It’s just about two guys helping one another do something we all do separately,two guys

[Hornychimp67]

HEY GUYS IF YOU ARE MARRIED AND HIDING YOUR BISEXUALITY FROM YOUR WIFE, HOW DO YOU DO IT AND ARE ANY OF YOU ACTUALLY SEEING ANYONE ON THE SIDE. I AM MARRIED AND BI BUT MY WIFE FOUND MY SECRET EMAIL ACCOUNT AND GOT THE PASSWORD SO I AM PAYING HELL RIGHT NOW.

Been there

[D2227s]

Been there myself. My fiance found my account and the emails. It was a tough couple of weeks but kind of a relief. We ended up breaking up but not because of this. You'd be surprised how understanding the significant other can be if your open and honest about what's going on in your head. Good luck.

[bibttmlatino]

For the tradcons talking about how sacred marriage is, go spend some time in divorce court. Times have changed, women have changed. I think I speak for a lot of guys when I say if I could go back in time I would have NEVER got married, there is no benefit to a man.

Having said all of that. I am a bottom who sucks cock better than my wife. Ironically one of the guys who has plowed my ass is one of her gay male "best friends". He will come to "visit her" for a couple weeks, stays with us and while she's at work he's filling me with his seed. I asked him about the situation and he said we were in the perfect situation. He knew neither of us would tell her and we never had to worry about the where is this going conversation. In addition to him, I have a fwb on the side, another married guy whose wife suddenly lost interest in sex after she locked him in with the second kid. He's a great guy who also happens to have a massive cock. When I am single again, I'll keep riding his cock as long as I can.

[Hornychimp67]

HEY GUYS IF YOU ARE MARRIED AND HIDING YOUR BISEXUALITY FROM YOUR WIFE, HOW DO YOU DO IT AND ARE ANY OF YOU ACTUALLY SEEING ANYONE ON THE SIDE. I AM MARRIED AND BI BUT MY WIFE FOUND MY SECRET EMAIL ACCOUNT AND GOT THE PASSWORD SO I AM PAYING HELL RIGHT NOW.

My wife found my email too. She was upset. I told her i still loved her but had needs she wouldn't or couldn't fufil.
As long as I'm discreet and it doesn't interfere with our life
She is not concerned.

[Grant_Norman]

Still safely in closet here. You have to plan ahead....my email is slip4296@gmail.com means nothing in case wife ever finds it...plus, I have a complex password she would never figure out. Every time I login to it I delete everything after I read it, so the account is usually pretty empty. Never do anything cell phone - no calls, text, or anything. To stay in closet you must carefully plan ahead for everything...was doing 4-5 guys a week and never suspected. I go to gym almost every day for 2-3 hours (wish she'll never go to) and I some days have missed it when slipping out to meet guys or guys...have even done blow jobs in parking lots early...again, you just have towatch and plan ahead.

[Hornychimp67]

Wish I could find someone like him!

Amen to that

[Funscout]

Sounds like you and I are in the exact same situation, my wife hasn't shown any interest in anything sexual in years and I've been too shy and too inexperienced to try the adult shop route but im very curious

[SuckerMC]

Still safely in closet here. You have to plan ahead....my email is slip4296@gmail.com means nothing in case wife ever finds it...plus, I have a complex password she would never figure out. Every time I login to it I delete everything after I read it, so the account is usually pretty empty. Never do anything cell phone - no calls, text, or anything. To stay in closet you must carefully plan ahead for everything...was doing 4-5 guys a week and never suspected. I go to gym almost every day for 2-3 hours (wish she'll never go to) and I some days have missed it when slipping out to meet guys or guys...have even done blow jobs in parking lots early...again, you just have towatch and plan ahead.

Very good advice. Thanks for sharing.

[williamg]

Still safely in closet here. You have to plan ahead....my email is slip4296@gmail.com means nothing in case wife ever finds it...plus, I have a complex password she would never figure out. Every time I login to it I delete everything after I read it, so the account is usually pretty empty. Never do anything cell phone - no calls, text, or anything. To stay in closet you must carefully plan ahead for everything...was doing 4-5 guys a week and never suspected. I go to gym almost every day for 2-3 hours (wish she'll never go to) and I some days have missed it when slipping out to meet guys or guys...have even done blow jobs in parking lots early...again, you just have towatch and plan ahead.

Nicely said. And 4-5 per week? You're a stud! Though I've not made a connection... yet, I do the same things. Nothing on the phone except my mail.com account that is a web based and the history is always deleted automatically. I use skype but only on my personal PC which my wife never uses as it's in my home music studio. I think the "going to the gym" story will be the best. Wife does not go there and I can just ramp up my number per week if play time happens.

[Jbtojbto]

That’s amazing that she encourages it. How long have you been married and when she first found out did she encourage it or did it take some warming up?

[cleves]

Yes I am married and in the closet. I just love to suck cock and lucky to have a few cocks I can suck every week.

[newporter4u]

Married, long time and bi here too but not out to her but a few years ago she mentioned that she thought I'd enjoy it. It was probably because I asked her to do my ass with a toy...lol Don't have a steady but hook up when I can.

[D2227s]

Married, long time and bi here too but not out to her but a few years ago she mentioned that she thought I'd enjoy it. It was probably because I asked her to do my ass with a toy...lol Don't have a steady but hook up when I can.

It took me some time but I got my ex-fiance into pegging...she actually loved it and it turned her on to no end. After the 3rd or 4th time we did she asked if I was bi-sexual and I denied it. Might have been because I was giving her blow jobs before the pegging. It came up again 2 years later when she found some pictures on my computer of my cock. Had to admit I was sending them to another guy and that I was attracted to men as well as women so she asked again if I was bi...I said no. Started seeing a therapist last year and found out it's not the end of the world and I was finally able to admit I'm bi-sexual. Ended up breaking up with my fiance but not because of that. Funny thing is we started hooking up again recently and she admitted this last weekend that she misses pegging me. I think we're going to start up again this weekend...I'm excited!

[Bbclvr]

HEY GUYS IF YOU ARE MARRIED AND HIDING YOUR BISEXUALITY FROM YOUR WIFE, HOW DO YOU DO IT AND ARE ANY OF YOU ACTUALLY SEEING ANYONE ON THE SIDE. I AM MARRIED AND BI BUT MY WIFE FOUND MY SECRET EMAIL ACCOUNT AND GOT THE PASSWORD SO I AM PAYING HELL RIGHT NOW.
I’m married and love cock, I haven’t sucked cock since I’ve been married though. I stroke off to gay porn and have had phone sex multiple times, which I love doing. Wife doesn’t know and I will keep it that way. Every time I J/O I think about sucking cock. It turns me on so much.

[Bbclvr]

HEY GUYS IF YOU ARE MARRIED AND HIDING YOUR BISEXUALITY FROM YOUR WIFE, HOW DO YOU DO IT AND ARE ANY OF YOU ACTUALLY SEEING ANYONE ON THE SIDE. I AM MARRIED AND BI BUT MY WIFE FOUND MY SECRET EMAIL ACCOUNT AND GOT THE PASSWORD SO I AM PAYING HELL RIGHT NOW.


Yes I am married and in the closet. I just love to suck cock and lucky to have a few cocks I can suck every week.
I’m from Ohio too and married. I have never sucked cock while married but I would love to suck someone sometime

[redw1ne4me]

I came out to my wife in a therapy session (honestly I was hoping it would be the last straw, but it wasn’t). I’ve cheated on her with guys (mostly covered in latex) throughout our marriage. About 3 1/2 years ago I made the decision to not cheat anymore as long as I stayed married., I have to tell you it’s been hellish lately as the wife has virtually no sex drive and mine is off the hook. For me it’s gay porn that gets things going. I don’t know how long I can endure not having passion in my life, but that’s my story for now.

[emerging]

Married and Bi but in the closet. Doubt I will ever come out. We have a great sex life as an older (65) couple, I prefer not to screw that up. I don't blame guys that go outside their marriage for sex if they no longer have sex with their wife. I would seek partners if we had little or no sex. I tend to be more straight than gay so that probably helps, less of an urge to stray. I ride bikes with a few platonic bi friends. This allows me to talk to folks 'like' me, but one does cheat on his spouse and the other does not.

[Cynthia_CD]

Mine knows but it surprisingly took me longer to tell her I was bi than a Crossdresser. She already had a somewhat hard time coming to terms with the dressing and then to add bisexuality on top of that, no thanks. But after s few years I did come clean and let her know. Would I go outside the marriage - no but at least the bisexuality has added some fun to our sex life with fantasy and porn.

[csreef]

Mine knows but it surprisingly took me longer to tell her I was bi than a Crossdresser. She already had a somewhat hard time coming to terms with the dressing and then to add bisexuality on top of that, no thanks. But after s few years I did come clean and let her know. Would I go outside the marriage - no but at least the bisexuality has added some fun to our sex life with fantasy and porn.

You are lucky to have a wife that supports your sexuality! Not all people do.

[casio]

My wife figured out that I was bi. She noticed that I enjoyed the bi three way videos. She asked me outright and I admitted the fact. Surprised me when she said that if I ever decided to try it for real not to sneak around but to bring the other home so she could watch. She is the one who researches videos we buy so we both enjoy the evening.

[Cynthia_CD]

My wife figured out that I was bi. She noticed that I enjoyed the bi three way videos. She asked me outright and I admitted the fact. Surprised me when she said that if I ever decided to try it for real not to sneak around but to bring the other home so she could watch. She is the one who researches videos we buy so we both enjoy the evening.

That sounds awesome, glad she is okay with it.

[rouye]

As I know, all most males are married in this forum. They are seeking for another bisexual lifestyle.

[redw1ne4me]

You are so lucky. My wife knows because I confessed it 5 or 6 years ago in a theropy session. (Honestly, I was hoping that telling her would result in some kind of final straw in our marriage, alas it did not. It only made her jealosy and acquisations men and women). I haven’t experienced any MM time outside of my marriage in over 3 years. Before that I had a rollercoaster of desires that bubbled over from time to time , all of it covered in latex. I made the decision to not cheat and so far so good. Lately, I’ve been spending a lot of fantasy time on the internet and I have to say that my frustration levels are off the charts. Ugh!

[Robtiti]

You are so lucky. My wife knows because I confessed it 5 or 6 years ago in a theropy session. (Honestly, I was hoping that telling her would result in some kind of final straw in our marriage, alas it did not. It only made her jealosy and acquisations men and women). I haven’t experienced any MM time outside of my marriage in over 3 years. Before that I had a rollercoaster of desires that bubbled over from time to time , all of it covered in latex. I made the decision to not cheat and so far so good. Lately, I’ve been spending a lot of fantasy time on the internet and I have to say that my frustration levels are off the charts. Ugh!
Take care of those fantasies! ;)

[csreef]

My wife figured out that I was bi. She noticed that I enjoyed the bi three way videos. She asked me outright and I admitted the fact. Surprised me when she said that if I ever decided to try it for real not to sneak around but to bring the other home so she could watch. She is the one who researches videos we buy so we both enjoy the evening.

Psst, she really doesn't want to watch, she just whats another cock in her pussy, in addition to yours. Deep inside your wife is a closet Swinger, and you will enable her! :three:

[Kirkwi2006]

I am. And I love to play with guys as well.

[Neonaught]

You are so lucky. My wife knows because I confessed it 5 or 6 years ago in a theropy session. (Honestly, I was hoping that telling her would result in some kind of final straw in our marriage, alas it did not. It only made her jealosy and acquisations men and women). I haven’t experienced any MM time outside of my marriage in over 3 years. Before that I had a rollercoaster of desires that bubbled over from time to time , all of it covered in latex. I made the decision to not cheat and so far so good. Lately, I’ve been spending a lot of fantasy time on the internet and I have to say that my frustration levels are off the charts. Ugh!

I am curious why you punish yourself by staying with someone like her. Life is short and before you know it your's will be over. Live happily while you can!

[Grant_Norman]

My wife is completely non-sexual of any kind...really part of her narcissistic control issues more than anything...I am secretly very bi, and really do not care....love to suck cock and swallow loads...will be sucking a regular who has a wonderful cock and shoots nice loads tomorrow early...looking forward to it.

[CuckoldHubby]

I couldn't sneak around on my wife. I'm so glad it's all out in the open. We communicate well and are very honest with each other. We've known about each other's bi-curiosity since were just dating years ago. She is yet to explore her desires for a woman, but I started to explore mine not long after we decided to become a cuckold couple. She's only had a handful of lovers, but a couple were okay with me sucking their cock.

[marine20]

I couldn't sneak around on my wife. I'm so glad it's all out in the open. We communicate well and are very honest with each other. We've known about each other's bi-curiosity since were just dating years ago. She is yet to explore her desires for a woman, but I started to explore mine not long after we decided to become a cuckold couple. She's only had a handful of lovers, but a couple were okay with me sucking their cock.
very hot .

[runsfar]

Hello, Married and secretly Bi, Have sucked cock or two. Enjoy sucking on nips as well ,his and hers. Spouse has 0 interest in sex anymore in any way. This is do to illness and meds. But I am committed to this wonderful woman sex or not. But I do not plan on going sexless . So I pay quietly on the side. Have meet and fucked a few woman on the side as well a having meet a few guys and sucked cock. Always play safe ,condoms for fucking an sucking. She did tell me I I needed it to go head, just keep it discreet and that she doesn't want to know about it.

[cslutt]

I am secretly bi and have been since forever and am totally comfortable with it. I love to get gurly and closet dress also. Have never been caught either, and love talking about it with other like-minded gurls, too.

[John1971]

Bi, married and very deep in the closet. My wife would kill me if she ever found out, so that won't be happening if I can help it. I've longed to have a hard cock buried deep in my ass for years, but have never had the opportunity.

[overit]

I can relate with so many here. Been in a sexless married for over 10 years and that in itself ramps up my closeted bi curiosity. I haven't hand the opportunity yet but the though of experiencing a hard cock is intoxicating.

[NewHusband]

Married and deep in the closet here. Sex life with the wife is very good, but she would never ever be okay with a bi husband, and would kick me to the curb in a heartbeat if she knew I enjoyed MM cock play. I’m fortunate that I met another married guy a few years ago who is in the same situation. We’re able to meet weekly and satisfy each other’s cravings.

[Bakerscream]

Disreet married bi- older married, wife works an is usually busy doing activities

[loftycraig]

i feel your pain.

[can2020]

my wife knows i am bi see is too. i dont play often but nice that I know I can

[loftycraig]

ditto for me

[Iplayonline]

I'm 57M and married almost 30 years and woman are my first and foremost choice but in my younger days I have had a few (ok many) Bi encounters and I'm not shy of looking at or feeling a hot cock. I'm a very open-minded person with my sexuality. I'm here to explore the adventure I once knew again.

[Larry19562020]

I am very bi curious text me 4055904603

[Larry19562020]

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[NakedFun38]

Married and deep in the closet here. Sex life with the wife is very good, but she would never ever be okay with a bi husband, and would kick me to the curb in a heartbeat if she knew I enjoyed MM cock play. I’m fortunate that I met another married guy a few years ago who is in the same situation. We’re able to meet weekly and satisfy each other’s cravings.

I wish I could find a steady friend like this.

[nuttybuddys69]

I was like many of guys here she loved giving head and damn good but won't have anything to do with me giving her oral pleasure. I stopped before meeting her and tried to get her to relax u have never any one scream so much. In eight years maybe got about three hours licking her all I could think of was watching enjoy sucking me swallowing she would look up at me. Alone I'd Jack off licking my cum off my fingers gotten to the point she blow me everytime I couldn't get hard enough to penetrate her posting online I found straight married men wanting a cocksucker that only a man could be I loved getting naked with men spending hours in bed with them Jacking myself off sometime over their cock and balls getting careless forgot to close my secret email account out I never deleted any in case I wanted to go back later I only used emails never asked for a name glad I only had men's dick pics but she Saw she had been kissing the lips of a cocksucker. I knew I was being unfaithful but it wasn't because she wasn't enough woman I need to give pleasure orally

[beemerbum69s]

Married and as others here secretly bisexual as well. Although afew years ago, out of the blue, she asked me if I liked men too! I chickened out and replied No to her. Now in 20/20 hindsight I wished I told her the truth! I am Bisexual and love enjoying a beautiful, big stiff cut cock! So there ya go lol520-227-0027...

[twilde1952]

It's hard to curb the desire when you're not getting much at home but living in isolation because of the pandemic only makes it worse. I would imagine there are many people who wonder what same sex is all about. I've tried same sex twice and still not sure but the desire is still very strong.

[loftycraig]

I have absolutely no desire to disclose my homo-erotic fantasy life to my wife for similar reasons stated by others (I think she would kill me to death!). As it says in my profile, I haven't had sexual contact with a man in over 25 years but I lust for a cock pretty often. The urge to act on my lust is powerful but with a little prudence, self control, and a talented left hand I can remain true to her. As it stands, I will remain secretly bisexual until my wife discovers this web site (only bisexual one I post to) or she asks, and I hope she does neither cause I just don't want to go there. i share all of your thoughts, except i've been at it a lot longer. great profile pic, by the way.

[Beacon1]

Married here also. Wife knows I have a bi side. She also knows I watch gay/bi porn. She’s ok with it.
sometimes she’ll take her dildo and stroke it with me. Really turns me on

[diver63]

Just curious, what's she doing to you...?

[Fredrock4fun]

I am Bi & married. Before we got married I told her I had been bisexual in the past. She asked if I had while we were dating & I chicken out and said no. I don’t want to hurt her but I really want to explore sex more with guys still. I “think” I’d like to do it with her (shared playing) but I’m pretty sure anything is off limits for me, in her opinion. It’s hard for me to share & discuss it with her because she is not a communicator. She’s rather not talk about anything that could be perceived as uncomfortable to her; which is just about anything.

[newbi60555]

Also older married & bi.

[Doug88]

Hi Everyone,

This is my first time on one of these forums and I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for posting their stories it's inspiring to hear everyone's journey, but nothing can top knowing that I'm not alone in the way I feel!!!!! So a little about me I started to be curious about everything when I was going thru puberty(like everyone else lol) I was around 13-14 (this next part might be TMI so skip it if you want lol) so I would hold my poop for a few days because it felt so good, at the time I had no idea that the reason why it felt good was because my really hard poop was pushing on my prostate. I actually ejaculated a few times while I was pooping, needless to say I was just a little freaked out the first time but because it felt so good I just kept doing it. After that I was all about whatever felt good no matter what it was. A little bit after that I saw a video about self sucking so of course I had to try it and I could get the tip in my mouth but it felt just like a tease, but I did discover that I got really turned on by the thought of cumming in my mouth. So I tried it and because I was so excited, (I also didn't cum for like 4 days prior) my load was so big that I couldn't keep all of it in my mouth and it got all over my face smh lol, but the biggest problem was that after the first or second pump of cum I would, for the lack of a better term "snap out of it" and immediately feel disgusted with myself and spit everything out and clean up really fast. To be honest I still feel that way now 20 years later(when I'm at the glory hole at the adult video store I have to suck cock or have someone fuck me before I cum because if I cum first I completely shutdown and rush out of the store, and I don't know why. I mean logically I tell myself its my body, I'm allowed to feel and do whatever I want, but I can't just shake that feeling. Sorry I got off track there for a little bit so I started dating my wife when we were in high school and we got married as soon as I graduated, (she's 3 years older than me) and in March we will be married for 15 Years. Anyways for the first couple of years our sex life was great we fucked like rabbits lol, and over time I told her all of my fantasies and she seemed OK with everything. So the first toy we got together was a prostate massage which I would use while I was fucking her and it was awesome, (Those were some of the best orgasms I have ever had lol). Almost immediately after we got married and I opened up to her about my fantasy about eating her out after I came inside her but it took me like 100 tries to finally have the "guts" to go down on her after I blew, and it took like 20 times of me going down on her with my cum inside her for me to feel a little less disgusted of myself. Does anyone else have that problem??? I swear like 5 seconds after I cum my attitude completely changes and all my sexual fantasies feel disgusting and that lasts for like 10 mins until I get "horny" again. So after a while our sex life was starting to get a little stale so we started a profile on Zoig.com (Check out our profile if you want https://www.zoig.com/profile/angieanddoug :-P) anyways they have a video chat room, so we would go on and take requests on what people wanted to see. Zoig is where I learned I was attracted to men and I'm weird because I'm sexually attracted to men but not emotionally (I love to suck cock and get fucked but I hate it when a guy would try to kiss me) anyways so I would secretly video chat with other bi-guys I would watch a guy stroke it while I blew my load in my own mouth. Me and Angie would go on a couple times a week and then in secret I would go on and video chat with guys on the nights I wasn't fooling around with Angie. So about 2 years after being on Zoig we got invited to a home party of some swingers in the area the we met on Zoig and it was nice no pressure to do anything we weren't comfortable with, so we started fucking with her on top and the couple next to us was fucking doggy style so the woman next to us started to lean over and make-out with Angie so I moved over under the couple so I was under the woman's pussy while she was getting fucked by her boyfriend so naturally I ended up licking her clit while she was getting fucked and then he blew his load in her. I made sure that Angie was still making out with the woman(I think her name was Heather lol) so when the guy was blowing his load I sucked on his balls, and then he pulled out I sucked the cum off his cock and I ended up sucking him back to attention after I licked all the cum out of his girlfriend's pussy. Well Angie must have seen me suck his cock cause she instantly started to get cold toward me, before we went to the party we laid down ground rules (ie I wasn't allowed to cum in anyone's pussy and she was allowed to have anyone cum inside her, other than that everything was pretty much fair game) and she said she was fine if I "hooked up" with a guy but as soon as we got done with the couple next to us I could tell something was wrong, so we left the party shortly after that. On the way home she explained to me that she thought she was comfortable with me fooling around with a guy but when she watched me suck his cock she realized she wasn't OK with it. We haven't been back to any swingers party since then, and when I hook up with guys now I keep it a secret, to be honest I don't know if she knows I still go down to the video store for the glory holes, I imagine she doesn't because she was really adamant about how she felt about the whole Bisexual thing. So now (Well pre-coronavirus lol) I would go down to the video store once or twice a week whenever I got really horny. One of the last times I was at the video store there was a nice couple in one of the booths so they asked me to join in, so just to give you some context every time I walk in the front door of Locomotion Video I instantly get rock hard, well I spread her pussy lips and insert my 7" cock all the way inside her (like my balls were literally pressed against her clit) anyways I got to start to fuck her and she say wait a minute "we have a surprise for you" before I mounted her I saw his cock and it was like 8" and like the thickness of a coke can, and I remember thinking to myself I might not be able to fit that in my mouth thank god they want me to fuck her lol. Well he's behind me rubbing lube on his cock and before I knew what was going on I could feel him start to spread my cheeks (I have gotten fucked so many times by then its almost automatic) as soon as I feel the head of his cock pushing against my asshole I just pushed back and in his cock went. It was different this time though cause I could feel my ass getting stretched out, anyways I shit you not he probably got 8-10 strokes in before I blew my load so far into his girlfriend it wasn't funny lol. For some reason I didn't get soft so I just kept fucking her while I was getting fucked and OMG that was my first time doing it like that but I swear it was the best 2 loads I've ever came lol. Sorry about such a long response I'm just excited to be able to share my experiences with someone/anyone lol

[Tag200]

Yes being on lockdown has been rough for me no women to play with and no men (I have a little experience) either

[Tag200]

Married and secretly bi I guess , not sure am I bi if I only like cock and not attracted to men? Lol who knows but regardless wife does not know and I want to try a lot more cock now well when virus calms anyway

[LVTOGP]

I guess not married, but serious strait relationship. She is bi and we have brought women/ couples and she fools around with the girl then we both enjoy our spouse. I’d love to be a bottom with him while they mess around. She’s aware I like anal play just not about my attraction to men

[Meats]

I’ve never been with a man and would see it as unfaithful if I did it behind my wife’s back. But I jerk off about it a hell of a lot! I’d love to feel a think dick pump it’s sperm into my throat. I think. I don’t know! I think I would! Never tried it! But I do get hard for my wife too. She’s a doozy for sure! 👊😁

[xxxBiCurCpl]

I pretty much think of myself as gay even though I find women attractive. I am not interested in pussy at all though. My wife is completely aware of my sexuality and I no longer pleasure her tits or pussy unless she asks me to. I have had my cock in her pussy just once since last December and it did nothing for me. She prefers it in the ass anyway so I still take care of that need for her. She masturbates at night to lesbian porn. I masturbate in the morning to gay porn. 2 or 3 times a week I wake her up by sticking my cock in her ass and pounding her while we both fantasize about me with a man. She loves how gay I am. Huge turn on for her. She wants to watch me with a man.

[CmeCu]

not sure am I bi if I only like cock and not attracted to men? Lol who knows but regardless wife does not know and I want to try a lot more cock

This is totally me! I am not attracted to men, not to say that I don’t appreciate the way some sexy dudes look :-)
I am attracted to cock ! A nice long, not too fat, well trimmed cock ! Hard and soft. I’m not sure what that makes me, but I do know it makes me......HORNY AS HELL !

[Tag200]

thans for response ! So do you play with cock often or ...?



This is totally me! I am not attracted to men, not to say that I don’t appreciate the way some sexy dudes look :-)
I am attracted to cock ! A nice long, not too fat, well trimmed cock ! Hard and soft. I’m not sure what that makes me, but I do know it makes me......HORNY AS HELL !

[middleagedinnj]

I have been for quite some time. I indulge on the DL as my wife would never understand my desires. As long as I keep her happy I get to play from time to time. So far it has worked out for me and I hope it continues to do so.

[CmeCu]

thans for response ! So do you play with cock often or ...?

When the opportunity “rises” !! ��
A couple of times this year. It can be a tricky conversation to start with
a guy that you just meet or see occasionally at the PF. Discretion is a must !!

[Tag200]

Me too, I have no sex with my wife at all but she would never understand me cheating with men or women .. had an x girlfriend and sex was great but pain not great . Wide oof men can give me my sexual needs without the bs

[Tag200]

I think there is something to your statement as my interest in men was basically zero until my marriage which is sexless went from “sexless” less than 10x a year to no sex ; like zero.. I have played with women and it was fun and great but my desire to suck com has only grown since we went no sex ..


Thanks for the empathy and understanding. But at least one assumption is wrong. We have no children. And I was supposed to know how I would feel 23 years later after being rejected for sex?

[delpark]

I reckon it's time for me to add myself. I came to this site fifteen years ago as a closeted bisexual. My wife is not one to understand same sex attraction. We discussed my past before we were married, she attributed it to youthful exploration. She was never receptive to having another guy join us.

As the years have gone by, my sexuality was changing. I had been mostly hetero, with a curiosity for homo. My wife's desire for sex ended and pretty much my hetero side did as well. Today I consider myself gay, my sexual desires and needs are almost entirely homosexual.

I enjoy seeing the female body, love the touch, but know in the end I get more gratification sucking cum from cock.

[Tag200]

I noticed two things in your post; that your wife ending your sexual life has sparked the interest in men to become the focus; is it simply the lack of sex? Like if another sexy women came into your life and had great sex with you and was open so you see yourself engaging or reverting back some? Secondly when you said you office is now men gay sex you stated sucking cock specifically not even you getting blown. Is that an oversight or is your focus truly sucking rather than getting sucked ?


I reckon it's time for me to add myself. I came to this site fifteen years ago as a closeted bisexual. My wife is not one to understand same sex attraction. We discussed my past before we were married, she attributed it to youthful exploration. She was never receptive to having another guy join us.

As the years have gone by, my sexuality was changing. I had been mostly hetero, with a curiosity for homo. My wife's desire for sex ended and pretty much my hetero side did as well. Today I consider myself gay, my sexual desires and needs are almost entirely homosexual.

I enjoy seeing the female body, love the touch, but know in the end I get more gratification sucking cum from cock.

[delpark]

I noticed two things in your post; that your wife ending your sexual life has sparked the interest in men to become the focus; is it simply the lack of sex? Like if another sexy women came into your life and had great sex with you and was open so you see yourself engaging or reverting back some? Secondly when you said you office is now men gay sex you stated sucking cock specifically not even you getting blown. Is that an oversight or is your focus truly sucking rather than getting sucked ?

I'll attempt to clarify...

Is it simply the lack of sex with the wife that sparked my interest in men? No, my interest in men had been growing. One day as I was sucking a cock an inner peace came over me, a knowing that sexually that was the proper place for me. Years before that I was in a relationship with a woman, we were 69ing, and she had me feeling sooooo goood, like nothing I had ever experienced before, when I knew that I wanted to pleasure men to the degree she was pleasuring me. It took a long time for me to accept my sexual preference.

Would another woman change me? Perhaps. I doubt it though.

I enjoy getting sucked, when I do I get this incredible urge to be sucking cock. When I get fucked in the ass, I want to be sucking cock. So, no, not an oversight, I prefer to suck cock. I had a whore stay with me for several days once, she was heard to say "I aint happy unless I have dick in my mouth." I understand her better now.

[cuttin2dachase]

Seems to be lots of philosophising and justfiying why men want men. If married/attached bi men with longtime or newly inspired mm desires are in a sexless or "jump-thru-hoops-to-get-sex" situation with their wives , gfs (or gay partners)...well I say fuck justifying and pondering why. Just go for it ! You'll not find a shortage of men to go for it with !

[Bicujr]

I’m married and open to my wife who is supportive and has not problem with it. What I don’t have is a guy friend. Finding a bi guy is extremely difficult. Finding one you like is even harder.

[charman]

There is no way I could come out to my wife without losing everything, both emotionally and financially. Even though she's not interested in sex, if she ever found out that I was visiting this site, it would be over.

Right there with you zkuz69. If my wife ever.found out it would destroy her. Makes it very hard to get out and meet with other guys, have to be very discreet. Only time I can even think about it is when she is out of town with friends and that is not very often.

[BiCoffeeM8]

I've known I was bi since I was 14. First gay experience was at 16. In my single years, I occasionally dated bi or gay men in between my few straight relationships. When I was 25, there was one woman I was deeply in love with. I actually was stupid enough to think I would be marrying her. I sensed she kinda knew I was bi from the hints she was dropping. So, one day, I came out to her. The only woman I have done so with. The scene was light years past unpleasant. It caused our split a few months later. To make matters worse, I found out she told several mutual friends I was bi. How I found out was when a coworker of hers gave me the stink eye and said, "So...you're the one who'd rather suck a dick than to lick a slit." Since, that moment, I refused to ever disclose my being bi to anyone except a complete stranger or to my best friend who was gay.

Like others have posted on here, finding a guy you can relate to and actually like is tough as hell. More so when you're over 40.
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[Tag200]

Seems to be lots of philosophising and justfiying why men want men. If married/attached bi men with longtime or newly inspired mm desires are in a sexless or "jump-thru-hoops-to-get-sex" situation with their wives , gfs (or gay partners)...well I say fuck justifying and pondering why. Just go for it ! You'll not find a shortage of men to go for it with !

i seem to prefer women as only interested in women fully on all levels. With men my only interest is their cock and sex, not anything else. But to stay On topic my sexless marriage has certainly steered me that way some. That and women hurting me , just seems getting what I need from men without the baggage and pain might be best

[travelmanNW]

BiCoffee can relate to telling someone I told my ex wife I was bi. She was turned on at first as time went on became a issue. When we went to divorce court she told everyone I was gay and in a small town word traveled faster than the virus. I end up moving from that area and said I would never share this information with anyone. So I'm very discreet.

[oldoralman]

I'm a 66 year old married Bi male. The difference is my wife knows about it. I've told her a number of times , but she doesn't want to watch me. I wish she would and hope she might change after the pandemicic that is going around is under control. I'm staying safe at this time as she wishes, but hopefully later when its ok I will get back to enjoying cock as I love it very much.

[aLABiM75 & StrF51]

Married & Pansexual, here
A select few people know the "secret" part, so guess it's mostly still one.

[crbrks991]

Right there with you zkuz69. If my wife ever.found out it would destroy her. Makes it very hard to get out and meet with other guys, have to be very discreet. Only time I can even think about it is when she is out of town with friends and that is not very often.

I'm right there with skuz69 and charman. She's not interested in sex and hasn't been in a long time, but she sure would not understand this. I have been curious since I can remember but have never pursued getting to know another guy who I could relate to. So this has remained dormant in me for a long time. I'm keeping it discreet, but the curiosity is killing me.

[bsquaredville]

I'm married and have interest in both men and women (although leaning towards women).
Wife doesn't know about my interest in men (cock mainly).
For me it was never a "had to" thing. If it ever turned out that I could try it then I would like to because I had an interest. I always thought it was stronger than merely a curiosity though because I used to fantasize about it. I'm lucky enough to have found the ability to actually get together with a guy (a few actually) and found out that it is more than an interest and right in line with where I thought it would be. I enjoy cock but I am more into women.
Wife had said while watching one of those old Oprah-esque talk shows where a gay man came out to his wife of however many years, "you better not ever do that to me because I will never forgive you." That alone was enough to make me never want to tell her. It was almost a threat even if it was somewhat in jest.
So having "fooled around" with a number of other men but only to experience something that would otherwise ruin a perfectly comfortable life...I'm not sure there's anything wrong with that.

[Henry02]

Pa here I’m by but looking for a nice casual thing

[Henry02]

From pa also, it is very hard to find a nice cock to suck on occasion. I keep looking and waiting

[Phat3lvis]

Married here but not so secrete. She knows I like a good cock sucker and would love for me to find one so she does not have to do it. When we met she was a nymphomaniac, never wore a bra, loved short skirts and would fuck or suck just about anywhere. Now she wears layers and layers of clothes, and gives me a mercy blowjob in the shower every other week or maybe a quickie, with no foreplay, just hurry up and finish. While she does know, I am a little afraid if I was out in the open about it she would cut me off completely with the attitude that "let your boyfriend take care of that".

[Kirkwi2006]

I am married and secretly bi. I love to suck and take a facial. Just dont get the chance to do it much.

[rascal2014]

I'm a 68 married bi guy. My wife has no idea, although I wish she was open about it. My ideal marriage would be for both of us being open and enjoying sex with other partners.

[4nik8ter]

Long time ago when we met, wife said to me she would love to see guys having sex and have a 3 way with 2 guys. Back then, being young dumb and full of cum, I did not do anything about it, now 44 years later I am major kicking myself in the ass about not having jumped on it Have been bi curious now for over 20 years but not tried yet. Told her about it maybe 5 years ago so she knows about it and wants to see it and maybe be a part of it. She knows I want to try it all (short of pee and poop) and she also wants to have sex with women. It would be a win win for both of us.

[Nocockyet]

There is no way I could come out to my wife without losing everything, both emotionally and financially. Even though she's not interested in
sex, if she ever found out that I was visiting this site, it would be over.

Couldn't have put it better myself. For much of my marriage she's been very overweight and I endured. Although I always secrectly used toys with my masterbation to keep it interesting for myself. I managed to inroduce the toys into our sexlife and it helped. Then, For a brief period of time she lost a ton of weight. It was fantastic. With her thinner and strapping it on it was awesome. But then she gained it all back plus some extra. And now there's all kinds of health problems. Even if she could do anything, I'm frankly not interested . But we have a house, debt, and I like my stuff, I need a place to keep it. So in the last 5 years I've really amped up the solo ass play. And now I'm coming around to the reality that I'm bi, and want to do something about it. She can never know. I would be living in a refrigerator box if she found out.

[Joboo]

That’s why I will always keep it to myself.

[Joboo]

I had only explored that side or part before I married. It was many years later that I took two opportunities. Easy for me since I never acted. She would be furious and rent a billboard to expose me. No shit.

[bikurinpa]

Pa here I’m by but looking for a nice casual thing
Very hard to find, I am in Pa too, the very central Pa where there isnt any one decent or seeking what I am within a 2 hr drive!

[DLazguy]

I don't know if you would say that I am bi or not. I say that I am heteroflexible. Meaning that I am attracted to women in every aspect, but will play with or want to play with a good looking guy. To me, sex is sex, physical pleasure. I also like the idea of sneaking around to play with another guy. My wife would leave me or kill me if she ever found out that I've played with other men. She'd kill me if she knew about the other women too.

[BrokenQuill]

It is a strange situation that I'm in as I have discussed my desire to be with a man with my wife. Despite being pillow talk about fantasies, the conversation really didn't go down well. This was several years ago, and since then I have felt more distanced from her as time has gone by. Our intimacy has been on the decline and is now almost zero.

In the meantime I have explored my bi-side in secret and have made one or two good friends. If she were to find out, then our marriage would be over. Living in a rural community is difficult as everyone knows everyone so discretion is a huge factor in any conversations that I have with anyone.

[sterculius]

I'm not sure how to classify myself. I don't consider myself to be gay as I feel no emotional attraction to men as I do for women. Although I do love sucking cock and giving men blowjobs whenever the opportunity arises, I have no desire to engage in any other form of sex with men. I did recently admit to my wife of many years that as a young teen I was my best friends personal cocksucker all through high school and would give him daily blowjobs whenever and wherever he wanted me to. I told her that I enjoyed letting him roughly fuck my throat with his larger than average cock and I liked the way that being a "Cocksucker" made me feel. She was surprised and when she asked me if I still felt the urge to suck cock, I lied and told her no. She ultimately attributed my behavior to adolescent sexual experimentation. I neglected to tell her that I'm still a Cocksucker and that in spite of the pandemic, I routinely meet with men to give them blowjobs. I don't like being dishonest with my wife and have attempted on numerous occasions to revisit the conversation, hoping to be able to confess to her of my ongoing oral obsession and obtain her permission to allow me to continue sucking cock, but she immediately changes the subject, the last time becoming quite annoyed by my persistence. It's as if she suspects the truth, but would prefer not to know for sure.

[Ccmmss]

Yes. Married and bi. She does not know. Please do not fault us for that.

[RickWilliams]

Mine kind of knows. She's cool with it.

[bihubby50s]

I’m bi and she knows, I came out to her a few years back after more than 30 years of marriage. After some tears and anger and shock she has accepted it quite well after I convinced her I wanted very much to stay together but we are still feeling out how to fit it in with our relationship.

[SilkyHoseLover]

I know that I've responded on this thread before, but didn't go back and try to find what I wrote. Suffice to say, whatever it was, it was accurate and reflective of our relationship at the time it was written. I'm nothing, if not consistent and candid in portraying the person that I am.

But as time goes by, I've found myself evolving even more, both in terms of my bisexuality and my cross-dressing endeavors, and my wife is becoming increasingly supportive of both. We don't talk about either at-length, but she'll occasionally make a comment about us both admiring the same dick, and she's been mixing in gender-blending jewelry, like a bracelet, or an ankle bracelet as gifts for Valentine's Day or my birthday. (which is coming up soon! Last year, she bought me a lacy sissy bodysuit that I love wearing!)

We've been married for 49 years, and have never been on a better sexual wavelength together! We know each other's kinks, and do our best to make sure we each get what we need! Although Covid has been throwing up a barrier to my bisexual ambitions for most of this year.

[Luckybiguy]

I told my wife before we got married she always said she was ok with it but it took me a long time to get the nerve and act on my fantasy. I told her before I did it and told her all about it after I sucked my first (adult) cock. I was nervous, was she going to think of me differently was it suddenly not going to be ok when it was real? Lucky for me it was not only ok she was happy for me and excited for me and turned on. Because she always knew this about me and that it's who I am and I didn't keep a secret from her. I guess we are the exception. I would recommend gently introducing the subject it's always going to be worse getting caught than being honest both are scary. I really am a Luckybiguy

[JordanCD]

The way I look at it is, what are you trying to achieve? There is no point in fessing up just for the hell of it.

Do you just want to get it off your chest? You're better off telling a friend, he/she is more likely to sympathize and continue to be there for you emotionally.

So what do you actually want from your wife? You fantasize about sucking dicks and getting fucked in the ass. Great. She won't know what to do with that information. You will need to translate your needs within the context of your relationship.

Option 1 - You want to bring another guy into your bedroom that you can both enjoy. Has she ever hinted that could be an option, or maybe hinted the opposite? You know your wife better than anyone in this regard. If she's into it, this could be the ideal situation. But it's going to be awkward at first and it could lead to her losing respect for you - or just as bad - her liking the other guy(s) too much.

There is one benefit with option 1, you don't have to actually come out and say "I want dick", you can gauge her interest in group sex and what kind. But I suspect most married guys already know how she leans in this regard. Likely if she's into MMF you're past this conversation. If the answer was no but there is a sliver of hope, you might need to bring it up again, or even be more specific, like "wouldn't it be nice to have another guy in bed with us" kinda specific... Which is pretty much saying you're bi, so you might as well just say it. Otherwise she might think you want her to cuckold you.

Option 2 - You want her permission to suck & fuck guys on the side but keep your marriage intact. That might sound great to you, but to her it might not be that different than you fucking another woman. Or is she homophobic, does she get hurt or jealous easily? Again, you probably know her enough to guess her answer. It comes down to how much she loves you and how open minded she is. But even if her initial answer is yes, it's unlikely most women would stay with a guy who kisses her and the kids goodnight before he leaves to go suck the cum out of his boyfriend's cock.

Option 3 - You want to tell her it's over and move out. This is at least pretty clear cut.

Figure all this shit out first and then see if you still want to open Pandora's box. The chances that you will have your cake and eat it too are very slim. You're playing high stakes so be prepared for the worst case scenario.

Point being, if you tell her, you have to be ok with losing her and your entire life turning upside down. How badly do you want her permission to suck dicks? Shouldn't you try sucking a few dicks before you decide dick in your mouth without guilt is more important than your marriage?

[JordanCD]

To me, marriage is the most solemn promise a person can make.

It involves TOTAL DISCLOSURE to the other person, TOTAL TRUST in the other person, and UTMOST CONSIDERATION for the other person. Above all, it is about LOVE.

You not only owe it to your wife to be honest about your orientation, but you owe it to yourself too.

When my wife (who knew about my sexual history before we married although I did not consider myself "bisexual" any longer) helped me finally accept my orientation, it was as if my life improved in an instant. An incredible amount of stress and guilt evaporated instantly. She has even given me her blessing to have a male friend with benefits if I need or want one. This incredible thing did not happen overnight, it happened over years of being married to each other, being deeply in love with each other, and being HONEST with each other! So honest in fact, that she knew more about me than I knew about myself. She recognized that my heart is her's, and her's alone. She understood that my sexual attraction to other guys has nothing to do with my Love for her, or even with "love" in general, that it is a physical attraction that could never proceed beyond a friendship level.

By hiding this (and it will surely come to light someday), you are only increasing the negativity of everyone's reaction when they find out. You are increasing the stress and tension you will have to cope with, and you risk demeaning your own self-worth by "hooking-up" behind her back. Part of you knows that doing so is wrong (otherwise you wouldn't feel this way about it and keep hiding it) and when you repeatedly engage in behavior that you know and feel is wrong, you increase your guilt and lower your own self-esteem.

Please consider seeing a counselor for advice on this. Yes, finally admitting it out loud may not be the most enjoyable experience in the world while you are doing it, however it is one of the most rewarding, as it allows you to regain some honor by being honest, and it raises one's self esteem in so much that you are able to be honest and above board.

Good luck to both you and your wife :D

Sounds like your wife had some background before she married you and she was supportive from the beginning. You're a lucky guy. Most of us figured this shit out after years of marriage, and the wives have no fucking clue what's going on. To them it's like you taking a dump in the living room. It's so far outside the realm of their reality there is a real danger she shits a brick and goes off the deep end. Pick your freak out analogy.

[JordanCD]

Thanks for the empathy and understanding. But at least one assumption is wrong. We have no children. And I was supposed to know how I would feel 23 years later after being rejected for sex?

Man I feel you. This is quite common. Wife stops wanting sex and the guy is just supposed to deal with it. The women are basically saying "tough shit" to the guys. So many guys out there feel unwanted and lonely and women just roll their eyes, guys are just horny. Yes we are horny, but it's not just about getting off. It's about wanting intimacy wiht someone, and it sucks when the person you married because of intimacy, no longer wants to be intimate with you. So a lot of guys start looking elsewhere, particularly at other men, because their experience with women has left them with a bad taste for the gender.

[Neonaught]

I am bi but so is she and we support each other's tastes.

[flyingbee]

I am very much secretly bi. We were talking together about sexual preference and she made the statement to me, I think you could be bisexual. i didn't respond but know the answer. We may be able to talk about this topic but know in my heart like most others here, marriage would be over for the most part.

[Cum1st]

My wife has known since before we were married, but we don't talk about it. Other than that, I'm still in the closet. I'd prefer to keep it like that.

[marine20]

i was married for about 40 years without my wife knowing that i was a cocksucker. i am very macho ,and she could never guess what i was doing behind her back. for a few years , she was a hotwife , getting cock on the side , while i was getting cock and pussy on the side. finally , i decided to tell her of my bi side , since we were getting more open sexually. she took it pretty well , but did not seem to want to hear any details of my cock sucking adventures. she knows when i go out for cock , and it really gives me a thrill , that she knows that i'll be sucking cock very soon. sometimes she will ask me how it went, or did i get lucky .i'll tell her if things went good or not, but like i said , she doesn't want to hear the cock sucking details. it's enough to know that she has pictured me on my knees , swallowing some strangers cum . it does give me a thrill. as far as i'm concerned , life is good.

[Bimiself48]

I danced around the subject with my ex wife once. She made it clear that she found the idea of 2 men together was disgusting to her and I never brought it up again. I've since had one long term relationship ( 5 Years) and one time after a few drinks I told her about one guy that I had blown years prior. I couldn't believe it after I said it, and all she said was that it had to come eventually. We stayed together another 3 years after that and it never came up again. I never acted on my desires for men the whole time we were together. However now I'm single so all bets are off. Lol

[Nghtynbi]

Thats Awesome!! I wish mine was ok but she isnt so I continue to pursue my sexuality

[Catharsis]

My husband was secretly bisexual until 2005, which is when I caught him on this site. He told me he had just packed it all away inside himself and used fantasy only. It wasn't until we had our first child and I was not interested in sex a whole lot that his fantasies started taking over more. Knowing that he had never done anything behind my back except join this site was a huge relief. He loved me and respected me enough to not do anything without my knowing. I'm not going to say I was completely ok with it when I found out but I dealt with it, learned alot from this site and listened to what it was my husband wanted. My love for him NEVER changed, nor did my views of him as a man, husband and father.

I think alot of times...and this is due to our society..people don't understand and don't want too. I feel bad that my husband kept it all inside for as long as he did thinking I would leave if I knew. I didn't and I never will. I feel bad for men and women who have to hide. I don't like to see men and women playing behind their loved one's back...it's just wrong...but I have to say that for those that do it...I do understand, it's just sad it has to be that way. :(

I really hope my wife handles things like you have!
I wasn't aware of my bisexuality until recently...oh, I've had fantasies for years, but those rare glimpses into this world were just a healthy expression stemming from sexual frustration (or so that's what I tell myself). Earlier in life it was all about pegging, but recently it's involved fantasies with men in them.
This all really came about when we had kids...and, like you, our sex life kind of disappeared. This was rough, as we'd spent 2 years having sex daily to have our first child, and then only got 2 sessions before the next one was on his way. Now, amid lockdowns, stay at home orders, and us wanting to mitigate risk to our household and extended family, we are all home, always, and have no "child free" time or even quiet time till late in the evening...when we are both so tired all we want is sleep.

[Warren63]

My wife knows I want a cock in me, whispering in her ear about i while played with her clit got her off a lot! Don't know what she'll do when I finally get fucked for real.

[wifekinky4husband]

My wife knows I want a cock in me, whispering in her ear about i while played with her clit got her off a lot! Don't know what she'll do when I finally get fucked for real.

Probably pass out - lol. I have been around it since my college day but still the first time it happened with my husband I was so weak in the knees I had to lay down to watch. It curls my toes every time and my nipples are so taunt they ache (a good deep sexual aching)


I feel so sad for so many, I love to share EVERYthing with my husband, it is deep way we connect. I hope you all find contentment in some form and fashion. I wish we could clone a bunch of wives who love to share, for all of you.

[bhytrdfg]

i am but never had the opportunity yet. my dream is to be taken with no choice, held down lying on my back with my legs held up and open and gang banged by unlimited multiple men. Forced to suck and swallow multiple loads, being equally filled at the other end also obviously with no condom use. if a condom is used i want to clean him off with my mouth.

[needalittle05]

Bi married, wife knows and is ok with it. just havent played in a while due to covid, and had a couple health issues that took me down for a while

[rocker_sexy]

Count me in.

[Fzmr9t]

I discovered my love for cock, and subsequently other things, in my early forties, about 27 years ago. I was 35/36 at the time and had been married for about 14 years. My Mrs is not the understanding type and very puritanical so there’s no way a discovery of that nature would go well. So other than a few chance encounters, there have not been very many chances to explore

[michel]

I am. My current wife knows of my love for men, satin and lace. She doesn't want to know or be involved with it. My former wife of 32 years had no idea. I've been dating men, off and on, for over 40 years, starting in 1970. Over the years my sexual experiences became more and more uninhibited to the point that, between marriages I lived with a loving, romantic man for two years as a couple. I was the passive partner, always the bottom, succumbing to whatever his desires were. He loved me to meet him at the door after work, dressed in lingerie, ushering him to the bedroom. It was a beautiful, satisfying relationship for the both of us. I really miss that now that I'm remarried. I live in Rosarito Beach now, 20 miles south of San Diego.

[vanquished005]

very bi curious in south jersey nd am looking to explore my curiosity with a like-minded guy.

[Gemini72]

Bi married here. Haven’t played in a while. Wife doesn’t know.

[Neonaught]

Came out to my wife about 22 years ago (been married 33) and to my surprise and delight she had also had some same sexual experimentation. We're both happily bi and enjoying both sexes at every opportunity.

[SlowNEZ]

She knows that I fantasize about spending intimate sexual time with a man.
However she is not aware how much I desire to orally and manually make love to his cock ... enjoying every fondle, lick and suck, then finish by savoring every drop of his cum, while his cock slowly softens in my mouth.

[Dy-No-Myte]

My wife and I both enjoy cock and pussy and we share with one another. No secrets.

[MrCocksucker]

My wife stopped sucking my cock many years ago and told me if I want a bj I can go pay for one. I did that several times and then one day I thought to myself, "Why would I ask her to do something I wouldn't do?" So, I experimented by tasting my own cum a few times and thought, "Not bad. I wonder what another guy's cum tastes like?" That was more than ten years ago and geez, so much has changed. Now, I'm thinking about sucking cock all day long!! I'm still doing it on the down low and I'm lucky if I have the opportunity to suck cock more than 3 or 4 times a month. But man I sure love it!!! I've had a few regulars that can host and that's perfect!! Blo n go for Daddio!!

[adamlily1972]

Yeah, I'm bi & married. It's not a secret to my wife of nearly 30 years, but she won't allow me to get out there & play or bring anyone home to play.

It's enormously frustrating, and sometimes angering. But in all other aspects it's a good marriage. I like taking care of her and being there for her. I like her, and have an enormous amount of respect for her. "My best friend" and all that.

But sometimes I just want to suck a cock, take a load on my face, and want my wife to urge it on and watch it happen.

I won't say the lack of it is killing me, but it really is frustrating. And lonely.

[oldoralman]

My wife knows I love to suck cock. The only trouble I have is she won't watch me suck one. I think shes really afraid she would fuck it too much. Wouldn't be a problem with me.

[Christopher South]

My wife knows I'm bi. She just doesn't want me to have sex with guys (or her).

[delpark]

one day I thought to myself, "Why would I ask her to do something I wouldn't do?" Now, I'm thinking about sucking cock all day long!!

I came to that decision long ago, not to ask my partner to do anything I would not do myself.

[delighted2bbi]

My wife was conflicted about being married to a bi guy. At times it turned her on (a lot), and then she would pull away with anger. Eventually she saw who I was and couldn't accept it -- she left the marriage -- but I still remember the times when she thought it was super hot for me to enjoy a man.

[Sualltc]

I’m super lucky that I don’t need to hide anything from my wife.
Having discussed fantasies with her during sexual play times together she had no issues and also has her own FF bisexual fantasies.
Telling her of an experience I had with a mate whilst we were a bit messed up and she loved hearing the details.
Same mate when we had our first MMF with bisexual action between me and him. She loved it and played with herself as she watched me blow him and stroke myself.
Happened another time when the three of us were a bit loose and I asked her if she wanted to see me suck him again. She was straight into it sitting on the couch rubbing herself as I was on my knees between the other guys legs sucking him and jerking myself.
She was so turned on and saying that she can’t wait to see his cum shooting into my mouth.
As he was about to blow he pulled out of my mouth and jerked himself so she could see his huge thick load pumping out of his cock into my open mouth and over my face.
She started cumming and I blew my load all over my hand and in front of me.
We often watch porn together with guys sucking guys cocks and guys sucking shemales. Gets both of us off all the time

[michael95404]

Oh, man. That does sound rough. But I see that this was written a couple of years ago. Any improvement in the situation?


I came out to my wife in a therapy session (honestly I was hoping it would be the last straw, but it wasn?t). I?ve cheated on her with guys (mostly covered in latex) throughout our marriage. About 3 1/2 years ago I made the decision to not cheat anymore as long as I stayed married., I have to tell you it?s been hellish lately as the wife has virtually no sex drive and mine is off the hook. For me it?s gay porn that gets things going. I don?t know how long I can endure not having passion in my life, but that?s my story for now.

[Rest85]

My wife knows and loves it! Encourages it in fact. It?s a huge turn on for her.

As you well know, from reading all the other posts here, you are one lucky guy! My gf has told me that she doesn't like the idea of two guys having sex in any form. It was during a general sex discussion were were having that she told me that info, but it was a warning sign that I must stay in the closet about my rare m/m oral pleasures. What I'd give for a lady like yours!

[boriley]

Truth

[jrtxbcs]

I count myself as +1. I love dick but she has no idea.

[Katana60]

My wife found out by accident that I love cock. Was rough with her for a while then she accepted my bisexuality. As long as I dont have sex with men she is OK with it. She is not the jealous type, it is all about STDs. What would I not give though to suck a nice hard cock. It is on my mind every day. I repect our marriage and have refrained so far from giving in to my impulses.

[SlowNEZ]

My wife found out by accident that I love cock. Was rough with her for a while then she accepted my bisexuality. As long as I dont have sex with men she is OK with it. She is not the jealous type, it is all about STDs. What would I not give though to suck a nice hard cock. It is on my mind every day. I repect our marriage and have refrained so far from giving in to my impulses.

How did she find out about your bisexuality?
I respect and can relate to your feelings of being torn between your marriage vows and your desire for cock play.

[Mncurious]

My wife doesn’t know I visit this site (or at least I don’t think she does) or have a desire to have my cock sucked by another guy and sucking a cock. If she did I think she’d be pretty pissed.

[mnjack]

Mncurious,
My first wife was much the same as yours but, to be fair, I did not figure out my sexuality until sometime after we got married so I can't blame her. It is not what she signed up for so I put that part of me on the back burner until she passed.

My second wife was very open (even excited) for me to explore my bi side but she passed before we were able to act on it.

[Katana60]

I was chatting at that time quite intensely with a guy. I stupidly left the app open on my iPad and you can imagine the rest. Our chat was very explicit and did not leave any doubts in her mind I was attracted to men. She threw a tizzy-fit but after a long talk she finally believed me when I told her I had never had sex with a man. It helped a lot that the guy I chatted with lived very far away from us.

[Warren63]

Still hope we get together buddy.

[happymouthandtongue]

Married for 50 years and my wife has no idea that I like to suck cocks, I always kept it a secret. I started sucking older mens cocks at a very early age, I wasn’t seduced, I knew what I wanted. I’ve sucked cocks my entire life, but I’ve also like pussy from my first experience eating it and fucking it. My wife would divorce me, if she knew. I’ve had a lot of girlfriends over the years, basically just female sex partners that liked to suck cocks and have their pussies eaten.

[tongueteaser]

I am not married but was in a nice relationship with the last babe. She and I were so sexually compatible. She was fun and she used to tell me how tight my ass was for an older guy. She used to comment how she would like to see a guy fuck my tight little firm ass. She said it jokingly but I know she was serious. Thing is then we were together and I knew that if we ever broke up that she would tell everyone to ruin me

[illcuminualot]

I am and she don't know I'd be fucked if she found out, I work at a hotel and it just happens that "friends" stay there alot so I play

[Tag200]

Married for 50 years and my wife has no idea that I like to suck cocks, I always kept it a secret. I started sucking older mens cocks at a very early age, I wasn’t seduced, I knew what I wanted. I’ve sucked cocks my entire life, but I’ve also like pussy from my first experience eating it and fucking it. My wife would divorce me, if she knew. I’ve had a lot of girlfriends over the years, basically just female sex partners that liked to suck cocks and have their pussies eaten.

thanks for sharing your story … I am married and it is sexless , have a girlfriend bit it is complicated tried sucking a handful of times a s want to do it more

[Cleon]

I love the quote at the bottom.

[menbi]

My female friend see photo men kissing and ask surprisingly "why do handsome men love each other?"
I reply Age is very different. I think "no more traditional"

[dowmass]

And in closing, if you haven't told your wife yet, you need to. Find a way, but don't be one of those Oprah episodes. :rolleyes:

I respect what you did. You are very lucky to have a spouse is very understanding of your being bisexual. For many it would mean a very nasty scene and maybe the end of their marriage. I know that it?s immoral to be dishonest, but sometimes one doesn?t have a choice.

[menbi]

Time is different. World is different. No more traditional

[NJwood]

I learned the best time to open up to a potential partner about who you are and your what turns you on is when you’re dating. This way, if there’s any issues you can decide to continue and make concessions or move on. Just part of the process. The next best time is when your stifled desires are becoming overwhelming and it leaves you feeling unfulfilled. Be honest with her about your bisexuality and then decide together how you will proceed and reshape your relationship. It may be a radical change or little at all. You may be able to indulge your desires or set them aside. It’s between you and her to decide what is important, what either one of you need to have in the relationship in order for it to work for both of you.
I told my wife before we married but then never acted on it until many years later when her sex drive diminished. She found out I had a dildo and asked if I wanted to have the real thing. I was honest with her and we came to an agreement with a set of rules by which I live by. If it meant I was going to be happy then she was cool with that. Maybe, it’s because she is completely confident in our marriage.

[Cleanshaven69]

I came out to my wife that I am a crossdresser about 10 years ago. Was the worst thing I ever did. She did not accept it at all. One of her questions was if I wanted to out out with other men. I wanted to but told her no. I was dressing on weekend mornings before she woke. I would fully dress, makeup, wig, skirt, blouse, heels, etc. I loved it and wanted to be with a man. When she would get up, I would go downstairs and turn back into a man. She knew what I was doing but never saw me, didn't complain but could sense she wasn't to happy. I was tired of hiding so I decided to be dressed when she came into living room. She clearly did not like what she saw, she would hardly talk. I would sit in room with her for a while to try to smooth things over but that didn't work. I asked her if we could try to be girlfriends and go out sometime, she told me that was perverted. Well, I stopped dressing in front of her and eventually stopped dressing. This was a couple of years ago. I ended up purging all my feminine items and am so sorry I did. But our marriage got smoother again. Couple times a year I had the opportunity to dress and go out when she was away. I loved going around town, was even being called Maam. When I got home I jacked off and cum so hard from that. I wanted to go to a Gay bar that had Drag nights, but was too scared. Unfortunately it was in my hometown and was always afraid I might run into someone I knew

[mewanturcum]

There is no way I could come out to my wife without losing everything, both emotionally and financially. Even though she's not interested in sex, if she ever found out that I was visiting this site, it would be over.

I am in the same boat as you! I feel bad that I have to hide my desire but it's not worth losing everything! I am pretty sure that I will get to do it again someday.

[flyingcum]

The secret to successful, discrete bi activity outside of your marriage is ABSOLUTE attention to details.

Always use gmail that is opened inside an Incognito browser. That way, you are automatically logged out and evidence deleted, as soon as you change screens.

I use a box.com cloud drive to save all my pics & vids. You can share private links to anyone you please to only the folders or individual files you desire to share, Open the box.com (or dropbox.com) account in an Incognito browser, for the same reasons stated above. And 10GB is free; I have never filled mine in years!

If you are on an Android phone, you can hide apps and pic galleries from detection, requiring a secret access from a benign ?calculator? or other, non-suspicious app. If you use iPhone, create a innocuous folder that is many levels deep (stuff it full of 20 or more apps, forcing creation of many sub pages. Put your most critical, sexual contact apps there, hiding them from exploring fingers. And if you are really paranoid, like me, always create a dummy account that you log into when finished, that can be explained as ?school? or ?work lunch buddies?; anything that can be explained away as innocent. Choose names that are not ?frisky? in any way. Then, log in with your sex account, when you have opportunity. And? always log out and clean up your browser windows.
I know it sounds droll-fully anal, but it keeps your other relationships intact.

Another thing: when you create excuses to be cruising for sex, always make it a half truth that can actually be verified by a friend or a legitimate club meeting, or golf session. It is much easier to corroborate if asked and seems much more credible when you are explaining your time away. Been doing this for many years and it serves me well.
Happy fucking, you horn dogs! Class dismissed.

[jjourneyman]

Is this just an old thread or am I in a time warp?

[jjourneyman]

My advice to anyone in a married relationship who likes giving head to guys... be prepared. I've had two angry wives contact me afterward because they went through their husbands phones and found my number and pics.

Shit gets backed up in the cloud... And sometimes comes down without you knowing it.

Just know, there are ways around it, but don't be so open if you don't want it to be.

[Cum1st]

We don't talk about it. She had consented to watch me with another guy before we wed, but he wasn't into it.

[jjourneyman]

Single and bi here... Lots of guy's have been where you are though. Feel for you, bro!

[csreef]

I learned the best time to open up to a potential partner about who you are and your what turns you on is when you’re dating. This way, if there’s any issues you can decide to continue and make concessions or move on. Just part of the process. The next best time is when your stifled desires are becoming overwhelming and it leaves you feeling unfulfilled. Be honest with her about your bisexuality and then decide together how you will proceed and reshape your relationship. It may be a radical change or little at all. You may be able to indulge your desires or set them aside. It’s between you and her to decide what is important, what either one of you need to have in the relationship in order for it to work for both of you.
I told my wife before we married but then never acted on it until many years later when her sex drive diminished. She found out I had a dildo and asked if I wanted to have the real thing. I was honest with her and we came to an agreement with a set of rules by which I live by. If it meant I was going to be happy then she was cool with that. Maybe, it’s because she is completely confident in our marriage.

You are lucky to have a wife who is so open and understanding. . . Not all wives are so understanding.

[csreef]

Is this just an old thread or am I in a time warp?

Probably both . . .:rolleyes:

[DLazguy]

I'm married and secretly bi. I like the sneaking around to play with another guy. There are things that that I can't experience with my wife that I can with a man. Other than the obvious, I like the taboo of two guys pleasuring each other. I also like the feeling of a hard smooth cock in my mouth.

[Opportunist]

I am. I've hinted about some bi moments when recounting some MMF experiences to my very straight laced wife, but did not pursue it based on her reaction.

[Grant_Norman]

Openly bi now...divorcing frigid wife

[Rest85]

I'm married and secretly bi. I like the sneaking around to play with another guy. There are things that that I can't experience with my wife that I can with a man. Other than the obvious, I like the taboo of two guys pleasuring each other. I also like the feeling of a hard smooth cock in my mouth.

I'd have to second that! The sneaking is a turn on and adds to the pleasure of being a closeted cocksucker. I am not married but I know my gf would not be so understanding about me doing that, so I have decided to be cautiously (about who, when and where) orally submissive on rare occasions when the craving gets the best of me.

[DLazguy]

HEY GUYS IF YOU ARE MARRIED AND HIDING YOUR BISEXUALITY FROM YOUR WIFE, HOW DO YOU DO IT AND ARE ANY OF YOU ACTUALLY SEEING ANYONE ON THE SIDE. I AM MARRIED AND BI BUT MY WIFE FOUND MY SECRET EMAIL ACCOUNT AND GOT THE PASSWORD SO I AM PAYING HELL RIGHT NOW.

I am married and hiding my bisexuality. I am not seeing anyone, but I play when I'm working out of town. I've mostly been sucked, but last year I decided that I want to relax, open up and enjoy whatever I can with another man. I've sucked cock a few times and hoping to bottom.

I just look at it as physical pleasure, not bisexual, gay or straight. I love sex and cumming, whether it's with a man or a woman.

[Jkf665]

I am married and hiding my bisexuality. I am not seeing anyone, but I play when I'm working out of town. I've mostly been sucked, but last year I decided that I want to relax, open up and enjoy whatever I can with another man. I've sucked cock a few times and hoping to bottom.

I just look at it as physical pleasure, not bisexual, gay or straight. I love sex and cumming, whether it's with a man or a woman.

@DLazguy I couldn't agree more!

[cuteguyincali]

I used to be secretly bi. Several months ago I came out to my wife. She was a little confused but accepted it as Im a non practicing bi lol. But there will always be an attraction for cock. She knows im crazy over bottoming and we have spoke about maybe finding a cute regular guy that could fuck us both. But the topic usually only comes up when we are fucking and shes pegging me or im ridding her with a double sided strap on. Then after we hit that ?post nut clarity?. She seems to get super turned on To the idea when we are horny and she says things she would never say normally. I kinda dig that. I dont know if these fantasy will ever happened but i sure am glad I did my thing way before ingot married. 100% NO ?RAGRETS?

[waitingtomeetyou]

It would be a disaster to tell my wife I was bi. She is very anti gay. I told an ex girlfriend who I have continued to be friends with for a long time thinking she would understand as she used to want to see me with other guys and I balked. But now she banished me when I told her I had been with another man. Unfriended me and everything. Another female friend who I told does not approve and doesn't really want to hear the details. She knows I have been with another guy but doesn't really want to know. So the females I know do not really want to know.

[marine20]

i was secretly bi for for 40 years. i finally came out to my wife five years ago. i can't say that it was a thrill to go behind her back , i'm just astounded that she never had a clue in all those years. when i told her i asked her if she had any suspicions that i was seeing men on the side . she said no she didn't , and that she never had a clue , ( i appear to be macho normally). well , thank goodness , she was shocked, but is ok with it . she however doesn't want to see me with men. i now tell her when i'm going to the bathhouse or somewhere else where i go to meet men. i no longer do it behind her back. it feels so much better this way. a real relief !

[Grant_Norman]

Was secretly bi for 7 years. Outed myself in January and now openly bi. Divorce in progress. 59678