ZenGolfer
Apr 10, 2005, 2:23 AM
(I just wrote a long post and then my gf walked in so I had to close it...so this is the abridged version)
I've known since I was young that the sexual aspect of bisexuality intrigues me. My problem is that it's ONLY the sexual part of it. I'm not looking for a male lover or companion and I'm not attracted to men...I'm attracted to sex with a man and a woman at the same time. My problem is that I've never had a chance to work on making this come to fruition. It's to the point where most of my fantasies surround sexual experiences of this nature and threepillows is my favourite porn site (thanks drew! :)).
My ex was hot on the idea, but we were young and were not secure enough in ourselves and our relationship to experiment in any crazy ways sexually. Anything private was fine, anything more was too much. My current gf of 3 years isn't into it. I've brought it up in the heat of the moment a few times and she never took to it. I figure that if she didn't take to it then, she'll never take to it in a normal conversation. She likes very plain vanilla sex, which is nice, but it's not helping me with my fantasies at all.
Is this weird? I don't really want to make out with a man (maybe if conditions were right in the moment), I just want to have sex with one in a threesome environment. What does it make me if I'm ONLY interested in the sexual portion of being bisexual? I did manage to get oral sex from a man in an Athens adult theatre when travelling, but have never had the opportunity to reciprocate. I feel bad about it, but I think that if I ever want to really pursue this (and I do), I will probably have to seek it outside the confines of the relationship. I think that I would only do this once, initially, to see if it's something that I want to do and then deal with the relationship part of it.
I dunno...have you guys been through this before?
I've known since I was young that the sexual aspect of bisexuality intrigues me. My problem is that it's ONLY the sexual part of it. I'm not looking for a male lover or companion and I'm not attracted to men...I'm attracted to sex with a man and a woman at the same time. My problem is that I've never had a chance to work on making this come to fruition. It's to the point where most of my fantasies surround sexual experiences of this nature and threepillows is my favourite porn site (thanks drew! :)).
My ex was hot on the idea, but we were young and were not secure enough in ourselves and our relationship to experiment in any crazy ways sexually. Anything private was fine, anything more was too much. My current gf of 3 years isn't into it. I've brought it up in the heat of the moment a few times and she never took to it. I figure that if she didn't take to it then, she'll never take to it in a normal conversation. She likes very plain vanilla sex, which is nice, but it's not helping me with my fantasies at all.
Is this weird? I don't really want to make out with a man (maybe if conditions were right in the moment), I just want to have sex with one in a threesome environment. What does it make me if I'm ONLY interested in the sexual portion of being bisexual? I did manage to get oral sex from a man in an Athens adult theatre when travelling, but have never had the opportunity to reciprocate. I feel bad about it, but I think that if I ever want to really pursue this (and I do), I will probably have to seek it outside the confines of the relationship. I think that I would only do this once, initially, to see if it's something that I want to do and then deal with the relationship part of it.
I dunno...have you guys been through this before?