QUESTION-I am Confused

[Confused_BC_Gurl]

Hi,I am new to this site and am exploring the possibilities of being Bi-sexual

I have a few questions If you dont mind.....
Well,lately I have been contemplating if I was Bi or not. I am kind of confused!I have never been with a girl,but I find myself turning my head to check girls out sometime.AlsoIf Im watching porn on the computer or the tvI often find myself getting turned on by the girl...I am lost..?Any advice


:rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[yoyo4u]

...I am lost..?Any advice


:rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Yes Gurl, you are lost in lust! Welcome to the club!
And it is probably good for you.

love,
yoyo :cool:

[Domino]

Don't be confused, be Bi :bigrin:

[Confused_BC_Gurl]

well I do check girls out sometimes..
How Do I know that I am turned on by the girl though??meaning when I see a pic,or an image in a mag or tv ...

I also feel like after I see a girl on tv or sometimes or even taking a glance at a girls clevage I want to masterbate or I just like what I see?

I even catch myself saying that some girls are hot,or pointing out that she has large boobs

haha.Thanks for the help !

[Confused_BC_Gurl]

any comments..feedback or advice would help
thanks :tongue:

[sammie19]

Hi,I am new to this site and am exploring the possibilities of being Bi-sexual

I have a few questions If you dont mind.....
Well,lately I have been contemplating if I was Bi or not. I am kind of confused!I have never been with a girl,but I find myself turning my head to check girls out sometime.AlsoIf Im watching porn on the computer or the tvI often find myself getting turned on by the girl...I am lost..?Any advice


:rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Not lost hun. Maybe you have just found part of who you are. much luv.

[michissweet]

Hey I know exactly what you mean. I also tend to search out the porn that strictly have women on women. It turns me on and I can explode within seconds of watching and playing. I also tend to watch women prance around and I love and wonder what it would be like to be with a woman.

These fantasies I keep having are killing me and I really want to explore this side. (well this side has been here since I was like 12, just never acted on it). I am hoping one day that this dream will come through.

I thought I was the only one who felt this way. Guess not.

Bi-curious in Toronto

[Solomon]

after reading your posts i'm a little confused too lol.

i think the first question that i would have is does this seem like just a passing fancy to ya, or have you had these feelings for some time, or do you feel as though it's just something that's never been thought of until recent?

i'm a little confused over that you seem to be expressing that this is just something that you've only begun to experience very recently, and yet from what you've described, it seems to be at the forefront of your thoughts now.

another question i would have is how do you feel to have attractions to women?

in any event, i think it's a great thing to raise our understanding of ourselves first.

[Rhuth]

Part of your confusion might stem from the fact that there are as many definitions of what bisexual means as there are bisexuals! Are we bisexual when a pretty lady turns our head, or does some action need to be taken before we can claim the label? I know a man who insists he is straight because he only enjoys oral sex with men, and doesn’t feel an emotional connection. He is allowed to call himself straight! These are just labels, so the main qualification for determining weather or not you are bisexual is weather or not you are comfortable with the label yourself. You will always be able to find someone who does not agree with your definition of bisexual, so don’t worry about other people. Go with what feels right to you.

That paragraph should have been the last one because it still doesn’t get to the heart of your confusion, does it? Lol Experiment with porn, pictures, and masturbation. The more you play, the more you will be able to come up with what you prefer. Be that women in general, or a certain type of woman. I would also suggest reading The Straight Girl's Guide to Sleeping With Chicks (http://www.jensincero.com/samplechappy.html). My bisexual curiosity was satisfied in a strip club (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1307). Play! Have fun! Then the first paragraph will make sense!

Best of luck,
Rhuth

[Solomon]

Rruth, that's a good link for strip clubs. very informative :cool: :cool:

thanx.

[Rhuth]

You're welcome, solomon, and thanks for the compliment on it! It was a heck of a lot of work to create, but sooooooooo much fun to research! Nice to see someone not sick of Rhuth telling all the newbies to go to strip clubs. :oh:

[Confused_BC_Gurl]

well Its been on my mind a lot more recently...however I have thought about the possibility of me being BI For the past year or two aswell...

I am kind of nervous to tell people that care about me...

[Solomon]

just my two cents, but i've been told by those much wiser than me that the people that truly care 'bout you'll be with you through thick an thin, no matter what.

and what Ruth was sayin 'bout the strip clubs might be a great way for you to at least expose yourself to yourself too, without the worries of having to be tied to any absolutes right off the bat.

But do use caution lol, there can be some thin ice, and we don't wanna see that stuff happen. But Ruth does have alot of common sense in her article to use for that. :cool: :cool:

[Solomon]

yvw Ruth,

actually strip clubs make alot of sense, there's no need to do anything, no strings, and it would be a great way to pay attention to feelings without having to focus on interaction or to just jump right in depending on the mood and all.

it makes alot of sense to me to test the waters without having to jump in right away.

and i like the way your article emphasizes safety.... watch for the thin ice! :cool:

[TashaSW]

First let me say Im happy to see another girl on here from BC, Canada :)
We need more BC gals here :)

The only way we can really tell is if we DO something with the same gender. (Kissing, Lovemaking....etc) Then afterwards if you enjoyed it and want to do it again, then yes your bisexual.... if you don't want to do it again then you were just curious and wanted to experiment.
Remember.. NOTHING IS WRONG with experimenting.... thats how we learn about our sexually.... experimenting is how we learn about life actually!!

I like to look at girls and strictly look at women/women porn. I first fooled around with a girl when I was pretty young so I always knew I liked girls :)
In highschool.... girls had thier own locker rooms and boys had thier own so I would always be sneaking peeks at girls, especially those I liked lol
I have never had girl/girl sex all the way yet... dying to tho lol

I hope this helped some, its normal to feel confused.... the only way you can tell for sure is to go out with a girl then when your comfortable, make love. :)
If your to scared to, then maybe you just like looking at them but don't actually want to do anything.

Being bisexual is many things....
Some are more into girls while some are more into guys.
Some bisexuals just like to look at the same sex and get turned on but wouldn't actually do anything with the same sex. (or maybe make out but not go all the way)

You just have to figure out what you want. I say experiement!! :)

Tasha
Im in the most boring part of BC....... hopefully your in a better area!!

[TashaSW]

You're welcome, solomon, and thanks for the compliment on it! It was a heck of a lot of work to create, but sooooooooo much fun to research! Nice to see someone not sick of Rhuth telling all the newbies to go to strip clubs. :oh:

But all the strip clubs here are full of nasty horny men and drug addicts!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I REFUSE TO GO IN THESE PLACES for my safetly. :)

We don't even have a gay/lesbian/bi bar or club around here... we have a club but its all much older people so its ok if your into people over 50. lol

Im stuck to online dating sites and not having much luck cause THIS IS A BORING PART OF BC. All nearby listings are like 5 hours away BAH :tongue: :tongue: :tongue:

Tasha

[Confused_BC_Gurl]

ok,This is very helpful;however,I feel kind of uncomfortable going to a strip club.I dunno what to do and am afraid I might see somebody I know,haha...I guess Im just going to have to get over that heap If I want to answer some questions I have about who I am .

I also believe that by exploring, then this will give me more of an idea if I just like to checkgirls out and watch women porn and If Id actually ever do anything with a girl...!!

This advice is great...

See I have a lot of homophobe people in my family and a few close friends that are also homophobe and am afraid that I might lose them and they wont understand,they will probably freak out :(

[Solomon]

well, it's a good thing you don't hafta be them then! :cool:

[TashaSW]

See I have a lot of homophobe people in my family and a few close friends that are also homophobe and am afraid that I might lose them and they wont understand,they will probably freak out :(

You know what? Do what makes YOU happy... not your parents, sisters, brothers, other members of the family and close friends.
If they don't like it, then thats too bad..... Its your life, not thiers and if you do things to make them happy, you're just gonna get real miserable later on.

I learned the above last year when my best friend sat me down and pretty much yelled at me :) lol She meant well, she just HATES people doing things to please others when its clearly making them miserable.

It may be a shock to some of your family members and friends at first if you do like the same gender.... but after awhile it'll wear off.

Tasha

[Avocado]

I'd say you're probably bi

[TashaSW]

I wanted to add, I don't know if people will agree with me but.........

If you have a friend thats Bisexual and she's very open. (Willing to talk about sexually) Maybe you could talk to her. She may be able to help you decide by telling you how she knew at first.

Depending how close you two are... if your both close and comfortable with each other, and shes not dating someone, maybe you could ask if she'll help you decide? (experiece with her?)
Sometimes opened minded friends don't mind helping in that way.

[spoiledangel860505]

Hi,I am new to this site and am exploring the possibilities of being Bi-sexual

I have a few questions If you dont mind.....
Well,lately I have been contemplating if I was Bi or not. I am kind of confused!I have never been with a girl,but I find myself turning my head to check girls out sometime.AlsoIf Im watching porn on the computer or the tv I often find myself getting turned on by the girl...I am lost..?Any advice


:rolleyes: :rolleyes:

I'm going through something similiar, but I actually look at lesbian porn, I too haven't done nething with another girl but, two-four girls together is a big turn on, I get just as turned on from watching straight porn.... I check girls out sometimes too. I consider myself bi-curious.

[open2both]

EVERYBODY is born bi. Sadly, too many never pursue it because of society's NEGATIVE judgement. :bipride:

[TashaSW]

EVERYBODY is born bi. Sadly, too many never pursue it because of society's NEGATIVE judgement. :bipride:

Wanna aruge with my mom about that?? :) lol PLEASE DO
She honestly thinks theres no such thing as being bisexual.... she said "Your either in love with a man or a woman.... bisexual doesn't exist"

To me.... I believe being bisexual just means your not limiting yourself to one gender. You love both genders.
Beside, Love has nothing to do with gender actually.... you love someone cause of WHO they are, you care about the person and love them.

[DanyGirl]

Confused_BC_Gurl and everyone who responded. I want to thank you all so much for your posts! I have been struggling with my sexual identity for over a year now and what you have said here has been so comforting both to know that others do struggle (not to say I like it when others struggle but to know I am not alone) and to hear how others have dealt with that struggle! I honestly don't know why I didn't think to look to the internet sooner!

[Confused_BC_Gurl]

Thanks for all the advice.Unfortuatly, I do not have any BI Girlfriends I could talk to:(...

I was wondering If this could also be another signal that I was BI..When I see or hear about two women getting sexual then I am turned on??

[flexuality]

Thanks for all the advice.Unfortuatly, I do not have any BI Girlfriends I could talk to:(...

I was wondering If this could also be another signal that I was BI..When I see or hear about two women getting sexual then I am turned on??

Someone once said to me (I think it was LDD actually :) ) Dont' be too quick to find a label, and throw away the checklists. Be who you ARE. :rolleyes:

[Mrs. Taz]

confused, as far as friends and family go, just tell the ones you know you can trust that wont mind you being bi or curious. my family still dont know about me being bi. I have 2 people in my family that know and they wont say nothing or look down on me for it. my imediate family how ever would disown me, they are very christian. they disowned one of my cuz's because they found out that she is les. as for your friends, i hate to say this but if they wont except you for who you are after finding that out then they werent ur true friend/friends after all. you are still the same person you have always been you just happen to like women. and as far as what tasha said to you, I couldnt have said it better myself. I would have told you the same thing she did. all I can say though is dont rush things wait till you know your ready to do anything and always make sure ur doing it with the right person cause even if you really are bi, you may not like being with that person which would make you think that your not bi. I hope that made since to you. and by the way, welcome to the site. :)

[Confused_BC_Gurl]

Thanks so much for all of the advice
I still haven't figured out if I am Bi though,hehe! :rolleyes:

[Solomon]

:2cents: Just my two cents,

I just find it absolutely amazing and outrageous that people claim Christian, in order to justify their abusive behaviours, designed to shove their beliefs on others!

I truly wonder what Jesus would do. Where are the scripture's describing Jesus as being abusive???

It is soooo true that NOT everyone who cries "Patriot, Patriot" is indeed a patriot.

[darkeyes]

:2cents: Just my two cents,

I just find it absolutely amazing and outrageous that people claim Christian, in order to justify their abusive behaviours, designed to shove their beliefs on others!

I truly wonder what Jesus would do. Where are the scripture's describing Jesus as being abusive???

It is soooo true that NOT everyone who cries "Patriot, Patriot" is indeed a patriot.

Nope Sol an ya knos wot Dr Johnson sed bout patriots an scoundrels! An if ya don ya shud! :bigrin: :tong:

[biwords]

Dr. Johnson and Solomon (our Solomon) were of one mind. Johnson did not, of course, mean that patriotism is bad, only that scoundrels who had already used up their other tricks were prone to claim immunity by wrapping themselves in the flag. Hence, "Patriotism is the last refuge of a scoundrel". Also, Johnson was a Tory and in his time the word "patriotic" had been pretty much appropriated by the political left, the way that Stalinists appropriated "peace-loving" in the 1950's.

[Solomon]

lol eyes, i'm not taking the bait :tongue: :cool:

however, i did just look up Dr. Johnson in wikopedia :cool:

and yep, i was referring to the principal of what Dr. Johnson was talking about... was just doing it as a matter of Christian scoundrels lol.