lack of profiles, and pics in screennames! [Archive]

deletetacount123

Feb 24, 2007, 4:53 PM

- If the person hasn't logged on for several months then their profile/pics are removed.

- Maybe they are just browsing for now and plan to post a pic/profile later?

Just my thoughts although I had read that the profiles are auto removed if you haven't logged on for a certain amount of time.

sexybicplinwv

Feb 24, 2007, 5:04 PM

Maybe this person (s) don't know how to present themselves here. Take us for instance we have a profile but no pics. Maybe they just don't have a digital camera or scanner like us. Just our :2cents:. Always be true to yourself :flag3:

commonman

Feb 24, 2007, 5:34 PM

I cant imagine ,why would somebody would register a screen name on this site, if they dont fill a profile or post a pic? maybe fakes with no life?Maybe for the same reason you have your faced blanked out in your own pics? And maybe because some live in small town USA.

sammie19

Feb 24, 2007, 5:56 PM

I cant imagine ,why would somebody would register a screen name on this site, if they dont fill a profile or post a pic? maybe fakes with no life?

Maybe...but again maybe feel they dont wish to either proifile or show a pic. depends really what they are looking for. If anything or anyone!

deletetacount123

Feb 24, 2007, 7:54 PM

Also, some people may not be out to everyone.....
suppose you post a picture of yourself, a old classmate or family member happens to be on the site and sees your picture.... and you really DIDN'T want him/her seeing that??

Slide n

Feb 24, 2007, 8:45 PM

I do think everyone should at least take the time to fill out a profile of some kind. They don't have to give their name or address. It does look bad if they don't even fill out a basic profile.

orangecrush

Feb 24, 2007, 9:27 PM

While I agree that posting a pic should be optional, I do think that having to answer several questions in order to log on the site would be respectful and protective of the community here.

Casual bigots (and underage teens) are easily discouraged by having to spend several minutes aswering questions about themselves, before gaining access to a site.

I think this would be a healthy precaution to put in place, as well as discouraging expensive litigation, because as one of my teachers used to say, "You can still go broke being right."

leredacteur

Feb 24, 2007, 10:02 PM

The question from Rhode Island was phrased a bit aggressively but he does have (part of) a point. And the early replies are right on the money.
The reasons people don't post photographs with their profiles are myriad but among the most common are: living in a small town; having a higher-than-average public profile; not wanting to expose one's self to the prying eyes of lecherous non-bi visitors to the site.
I'm retired but still active in my industry as a consultant. I have several public speaking engagements a year in the Northeast. I'm not going to post a facial photograph of myself for the casual site-visitor to view and perhaps even download for nefarious reasons. And I won't post a photograph of my cock because I'm a lot more than a cock and a deep throat.
As for profiles: Rhode Island made the point very well. If you're going to be browsing here, have the courtesy to post some information about yourself. I think the minimum profile should include: Location, age, height, weight, sex, marital status, general state of health, whether you're experienced bi, bi-curious or just visiting the site for the liberating thrill of being able to talk about sexuality openly.

DiamondDog

Feb 24, 2007, 10:20 PM

People are closeted.

Many would rather go online to meet people instead of bars/clubs or queer environments where you meet people face to face and interact with them.

NorthBiEast

Feb 25, 2007, 12:01 AM

I don't have a pic up because I just don't care for how I appear in pics, and I have NO interest in posting pics of my genitals. They're called privates, not publics :tongue: Also, I want to be judged based on how I present myself and my point of view, not by my red-eye.
By the same token, its easier to judge by presentation if someone actually HAS a profile.

wanderingrichard

Feb 25, 2007, 12:35 AM

geesh, didn't we just do this in two other fora???

Long Duck Dong

Feb 25, 2007, 1:30 AM

lol richard

in regards to the original question, a pic or profile is not essential

I am curious if the issue is that you want to know about people and you are annoyed that you can't cos they haven't posted info, more than the fact that they have joined and not added a pic or profile

LoveLion

Feb 25, 2007, 2:26 AM

When I first joined here, I was not out. I was afraid of someone I know stumbling on this site and recoginzing me as slight as the chance of that was.

Once I became more comfortable with my bisexuality, I stoped worrying about stuff like that and Put some photos as well as Facebook and myspace links

Avocado

Feb 25, 2007, 5:10 AM

I'd say the one who puts fit in his name is the one with no life

JLR1976

Feb 25, 2007, 11:19 AM

I think some of us like to practice a little bit of discretion. I have no problems sending soembody a pic if I get to know them a little. but you never know who can be browsing these websites.

shaver6

Feb 25, 2007, 1:22 PM

I do think everyone should at least take the time to fill out a profile of some kind. They don't have to give their name or address. It does look bad if they don't even fill out a basic profile.

I agree 100%. If the whole idea of this site is too meet people...then you have to have some idea of who you are talking too. A screen name, with only the gender,...doesnt' tell you squat. I'm not sure why people would even bother being on this site, with that little information, unless they just want to be a "lurker", and have no intention of every interacting with other people on any level.

OK...if you don't want you picture on the site...I can understand that, especially if you live in a small town, or have a job that might be sensitive to that...but...at LEAST...put your age, and a very brief description of yourself, and what you are looking for......PLEASE :2cents:

12voltman59

Feb 25, 2007, 3:03 PM

This topic has been a recurrent one to answer Richard--it has been awhile so those past postings faded away.

I do have pics of some elements of my life--the boat, a painting, the lake--if anyone who knows me would happen to come in--they could figure out who I am based on those pictures alone.

I have not posted pics of my face or a part of my body such as many do here--I have shared them with some people but I just don't care to put a picture of me up on the net--I don't have a pic of myself up at other sites either---it is due in part because I do admit to some vanity that I feel I need to lose some weight and don't like my physical appearance at present and more than that--I am still leery for some reason to put up a picture of myself on the internet and I don't quite know why that is--it just is...

I do think I reveal a great deal about myself via my profile, my postings on the forum and my participation in chatting as well---

Long Duck Dong

Feb 25, 2007, 6:13 PM

I agree 100%. If the whole idea of this site is too meet people...then you have to have some idea of who you are talking too. A screen name, with only the gender,...doesnt' tell you squat. I'm not sure why people would even bother being on this site, with that little information, unless they just want to be a "lurker", and have no intention of every interacting with other people on any level.

thats ASSUMING that everybody is here to get laid

as I have repeatedly pointed out in many threads, a number of people in the site, are not looking, they love this site cos its not trying to turn them in sexually frustrated people

if I remove my profile and pics, it would not change the fact that I am not looking.... I am here to make friends, enjoy myself and share in a fantastic site, browse a awesome forum, and laugh in a great chatroom

12voltman59

Feb 25, 2007, 8:28 PM

well said Long Duck---when I first came here I was simply trying to get a handle on this part of myself and explore it a bit--I have done that thanks to this site--it has been a big help--

Even though I would like to find someone to meet here-- I have made friends and now know far more about this subject than when I first got here.

This place works for me--and I am still not ready to post any pics as yet beyond what I have up thus far.

Lorcan

Feb 25, 2007, 8:43 PM

I cant imagine ,why would somebody would register a screen name on this site, if they dont fill a profile or post a pic? maybe fakes with no life?

Don't assume. I took down my pic and profile for reasons that I can't say in a public forum. Oh yes.... this is pubic...anyone and their cat can read this.

If you really want to know, i could tell you in a private email. But i assure you i am no fake, and it really has to do with me having more of a life now.

jaglvr

Feb 25, 2007, 9:00 PM

My wife actually got mad at me because it was a "personal ad" and not a profile. I'd like to see actual profiles just for basic info and personal ads be a separate heading for those actively looking to hook up. Mine is now disabled pending revision and/or successful negotiations with the missus.

taz67156

Feb 25, 2007, 9:54 PM

some people just don't want to post anything in their profile like pics for fear of somebody finding out they are on this site, I'm sure that their are still alot of people that say anyone who is straight like myself or a few others that I know don't belong here but to bad cause even if we are straight our spouse is bisexual. but back to the profiles Drew is the main person that can remove a profile cause I don't think the system does any of that.

glantern954

Feb 25, 2007, 10:10 PM

I had pics and a detailed profile up for a long time. I just recently took the pictures down. I am sure I will probably have some up again one day though.

I took them down partially because any responses I got to my profile tended to focus on my appearance or sexaul interests instead of the bounty of other information about myself. People generally didn't want to make conversation beyond "So what are you into?"

Secondly, lately I feel a little disconnected. It's hard to describe it but I think I am going through some internalized biphobia and at the moment I don't feel comfortable with being equated with the public perception of bisexuality.

Usually this is stuff I can work through, but right now I am really busy at work and depressed over the situation I am in there. I guess I'm busy trying to work that out.

Slide n

Feb 25, 2007, 10:38 PM

I still don't see why everyone can at least tell us what city they live in,how old they are, and what gender they are. I can't take that info and say hey I know you! :2cents:

Fire Lotus

Feb 25, 2007, 11:16 PM

As long as there's some info in their profile, I don't mind so much not seeing photos. What I don't like are the fake nude/pornographic photos some post with their profile.

mrplayfuluk

Feb 26, 2007, 5:48 AM

some people who come on here are just interested in pick ups and dont care about the community element or the forums. I use both aspects but i agree some basic info wouldn't go amiss..... but conversely some people here are interested in peoples personality as well so it has to be balanced. Maybe Drew should have a couple of extra questions like 1) city 2) bisexual or bicurious etc

Long Duck Dong

Feb 26, 2007, 6:44 AM

well mr playfuluk,

how is people being required to provide info, gonna improve the site ????

all i am seeing is people wanting to know about others, and want people to not have the right to total privacy

its on the same level as saying that people shouldn't be allowed to close their curtains cos somebody may wanna check out their carpet

if a person joins the site, and doesn't reveal anything about themselves, its their right to do so... why should they lose that cos others wanna be nosy

commonman

Feb 26, 2007, 9:20 AM

I still don't see why everyone can at least tell us what city they live in,how old they are, and what gender they are. I can't take that info and say hey I know you!Give it some thought. If a person lives in a rural village in the midwest of less than a thousand people, or maybe half that, they should have to put that up? What else? Lie, and say they live in a big town nearby or put down a big city in the state? It's better to just not say, than to lie.

You city people don't seem to have a sense of rural community where everybody knows everybody. Sometimes not being out to certain people is for their sakes, not one's own. Mothers and fathers and other kinfolks and some friends and neighbors would be totally flipped out and hurt. And others might try to hurt you in the sense of trying to get you fired or something.

The fact is, unfortunately, people are generally mean when a mob mentality takes them over in the gossip mill.

A man who is comfortable with himself is also comfortable with prudence. That really should be a saying. Maybe it is.

So what the fuck's the big ado? Something's not right with all this. It's like the secret ballot. Where the hell did it go? Why fault somebody for wanting a right to privacy?

commonman

Feb 26, 2007, 9:25 AM

Solomon

Feb 26, 2007, 2:53 PM

Just a thought, but requiring someone to post info about themselves is sorta like the xxx sites asking 'are you over 18?' isn't it?

i feel that letting people post as they feel comfortable doing so is definately the way to let people just be themselves without feeling as though they hafta pass some exam.

i also believe that that's what this site and it's community promotes, which is why i love being here.

InsaneTyga

Feb 26, 2007, 4:15 PM

I've only just signed up today. My gf has been apart of this website for awhile now, and I'm curious as to why theres such a big deal over pics and profiles....

A lot of people could just be like me, unsure what to put until browsing and getting comfortable with the site? OR, as in the case of pics, they don't want pics of themselves floating allllll around the interbutts? This is an open site afterall, and not everyone here has come "out of the closet"

Just my 2cents
Muahz

yoyo4u

Feb 26, 2007, 4:29 PM

So what if everyone had a fake post and a whole series of pictures of somebody else?

Same difference!

Should you decide to date/meet someone based on their profile alone, prepare yourself for a big surprise!!!

There are plenty of other reasons to come to this site, other than reading fake profiles.

What do you think?
yoyo :tongue:

Avocado

Feb 28, 2007, 1:14 PM