wanting to be with your female friend

[confused2]

:( I have this female friend who i value very much as a friend but there is one problem or issue I have with it, I am sexually bicurious about her and I don't know what to do about it. I do want or have always wanted a straight relationship with guys but for some reason I am sexually curious about this woman. What does that make me to be? She is 59, married and I am 39 and single neither have invaded each other space or talked about the subject of being together sexually because from both of our point I think the friendship is more important. There is an attraction there on both sides but I feel we are both scared about doing something about it. It bothers her sometimes when I'm around my other friends and a little with me. Are we playing games with each other? or Are we scared to have each person as a friend? We both have been thru the same things in our past and believing in friendships is hard for her as trusting in friends is hard for me. We work together very well. We have a lot of laughs and joking. Please everyone or anyone give your advice or opinions. Thank You!!

[AngelOfTheMystic]

I too went through the same thing with my best friend. We where both attracted to eachother but really scared to do anything about it. Then we did end up becoming intimate with eachother, and we are still really good friends. I could not want more. My advice to you is to just give it time and see where it goes it it's gonna happen it will and if not then it's good that you still have eachother as a friend. Good luck to you!

[Lisa (va)]

Above all don't do anything to destroy the friendship you two have built.
I'm sure for every event of friends becoming intimate with each other and still maintaining the original friendship you will find one that ended said friendship.

If something is going to happen, then just let it happen in the natural course of life. Don't force the issue.

Lisa

hugs n kisses

[innaminka]

Above all don't do anything to destroy the friendship you two have built.
I'm sure for every event of friends becoming intimate with each other and still maintaining the original friendship you will find one that ended said friendship.

If something is going to happen, then just let it happen in the natural course of life. Don't force the issue.

Lisa



I concurr totally - Lisa, you couldn't have put this age old quandary better.

How many real friendships have been changed forever (usually not for the better) by turning it into a sexual relationship?

Tho of course that's what a real "mariage" et al should be.

Balance your need for friendship against your other desires. This isn't to say don't, but let developments ripen slowly - don't rush.

Good luck.

[confused2]

[QUOTE=AngelOfTheMystic]I too went through the same thing with my best friend. We where both attracted to eachother but really scared to do anything about it. Then we did end up becoming intimate with eachother, and we are still really good friends. I could not want more. My advice to you is to just give it time and see where it goes it it's gonna happen it will and if not then it's good that you still have eachother as a friend. Good luck to you![/QUOTE

Thank You for your advice and i think i will take to heart what you said, I will let things grow naturally and slowly no matter what direction it goes in.

[confused2]

Above all don't do anything to destroy the friendship you two have built.
I'm sure for every event of friends becoming intimate with each other and still maintaining the original friendship you will find one that ended said friendship.

If something is going to happen, then just let it happen in the natural course of life. Don't force the issue.

Lisa

hugs n kisses



Thank you for your sound advice I will take it to heart because her friendship does matter a lot to me. I f it happens it does if not we still will be friends.

[confused2]

I concurr totally - Lisa, you couldn't have put this age old quandary better.

How many real friendships have been changed forever (usually not for the better) by turning it into a sexual relationship?

Tho of course that's what a real "mariage" et al should be.

Balance your need for friendship against your other desires. This isn't to say don't, but let developments ripen slowly - don't rush.

Good luck.


I've rush things before and it went wrong, I will not rush or push things with my female friend.