What Should I do??

[AngelOfTheMystic]

Alright I need your help on this guys. I'm really confused and don't know what to do. Alright about two weeks ago I started working with this girl and she is really cute and we hit it off really well! I found myself very noticeably attracted to her and I'm pretty sure she is straight. How can I still maintain a friendship with her and not feel wierd because I'm attracted to her?

[djstizl]

This is something I deal with alot. I have a friend (of each sex) that I am great friends with, but have a big crush on. Neither of them know how I really feel (or atleast I haven't told them). I guess I kind of coax myself into thinking that a relationship 'just wouldn't work' as an easier way of dealing with it. It does help me that I am a strong willed person and can repress my feelings if I need to. I also like to keep in mind, that a friendship is better then nothing at all. Someday if you were to tell her how you feel, there is a chance that she may react positivly to it. That has happend to me once as well, I took the risk of sharing my feelings, and I'm sure glad I did. I dunno, I'm not the best at giving advice, I just wanted to share how I handle myself in that type of situation. :flag2: :smoke: hope that helps a little

[To_by]

To my mind feeling attracted sexually to someone -- especially someone in the workplace is a fun thing, but it doesn't have to go anywhere besides friendship. Chances are if she was having fun relating with you she probably thought you were attractive too. BUT -- sexual liasons with co-workers tend to be mistakes for a lot of reasons. Especially if either or both of you have other significant partners.

I'd say give it time. Emotional attractions tend to level out over the long-term and interactions tend to take on a more practical level after the initial tingle of attraction is over. Of course that's not to say it couldn't definitely work, but why put yourself through all that anguish only to make some kind of inappropriate advance or confession and blow the friendship? Give it time. I think you'll find that like water, attraction finds an appropriate level eventually, when all the essential information is in.

Good luck !

:) :)

[darkeyes]

I learned the hard way not to involve myself romatically and/or sexually with work colleagues. Without going into detail, what all of us must consider when contemplating such a relationship is what happens if they go sour. Every detail of one relationship was spread round the workplace and for a while it became not only uncomfortable but bloody unpleasant and nasty. After another the lie was spread that I had ended it because I was sleeping with my boss's husband. And silly bitch that I am after a christmas party after which I had a one night stand with a contractor who was there it was put about that I had participated as the play thing of a gaggle of sleezy old men because I wouldnt make it more than it was. I know. Thrice bitten. Silly cow.

Also even if the gossip is never spread, we have to think of how much pain and suffering we or our ex lover go through each time we meet or deal with each other at work, such is the close proximity we are unable to avoid.

I am not saying work relationships cant work because they can and often do. All I say is not for me.

So I just dont, wouldnt consider a relatonship with a colleague. It is just fraught with dangers I am not prepared to accept.

[bothbi2006]

I think if she is straight then you should just remain friends,you can still have a crush on her but dont ruin the friendship for the sake of a interlude.The one way to forget a gal is get another...good luck :flag4:

[Avocado]

The biggest downside is the possibility of it going sour and you having to still work with her. But, this is my head talking, not my heart.