Long Duck Dong
Jan 24, 2007, 4:21 AM
dealing with the hate /slur campaigns
This is a area, that has become all too common, the anonymous people that enjoy the net and the media, seeing the actions of the ones that use the net as a tool for hurt and suffering.... and sadly a lot of the time, its us that can be a big part of it
IF I look at bisexual.com... it never fails to impress me.... no mods.... no speech police....no abuse.....just what is the secret to bisexual.com ???
Its a community site, with a mixture of people from different cultures, races, countries, and sexualities, but its not a breeding ground for a lot of the issues that other sites display.....why is bisexual.com so different.... well i will tell you at the end of this post
lol... I have been the * victim..* of a hate / slur campaign ( not connected to bisexual.com in ANY way )..
well i say victim, but i spent most of my time, reading the dribble, and laughing my head off....
not only was it costing these people to post their crap on the net..... but the people that they wanted to read it, came, looked, laughed and left......all they did attract, was the mal contented, unadjusted, socially inept people that needed a false name to post a heap of BS about a person that was ignoring their crap.... my only crime was being bisexual
and thats just how dangerous the net and the media has become......
for many of us, there is no * truth * anymore.... just site after site, story after story, of twisted words.... a persons opinion put up as the *truth*... and it only takes a few minutes to post a thread, pass a judgment, make a comment...and let the fun begin.........but bisexual.com is different
day after day, we come to the site.... sit and view profiles,, chat, and laugh, joke and smile.... talking about how some of us, are hiding a * secret *from the world.... never really thinking about how much of a knife edge we walk.....
each day, we have new people join.... and they are overwhelmed to that hugs, and kisses, from total strangers....people that hug and love the person behind the name.... without caring if that the new person * fits * the criteria.......mainly cos we are a family and thats the only criteria needed
it is sad that many of the people in the site, are under a *cloud *.... a partner / family etc, that may not know about their bisexual secret....and they are search for a * home * until they come here........and then they feel safe.... but ever present in the back of their mind...is the thought ~ what if somebody *outs * me ??? ~
lol the day i think the law will protect me, is the same day, i will go barebear in a orgy of aids suffers........
we have no real protection against the nastiness of gossip, be it true or false.....no law in the land can protect you against humiliation, a lost confidence, a ruined marriage, a slandered reputation........and yet you are about as anonymous as a green and pink painted elephant in the middle of the street at rush hour .... the real danger however, is not you posting in a site...or posting a pic..... sadly in most cases.... its the people around you.... the ones that actually know you in real life, that are the ones to watch
most websites / news stories attacking a person.... are started by a person with a personal issue against the person in real life.... and 7 times out of 10... they have met the person in real life.....
I live in a small christian town ( 50,000 ) and i am so outspoken.... as a wiccan witch, a bisexual... a friend of LGBT/hetero people, a well respected and loved spiritual teacher.......I am no stranger to hate campaigns.... in fact i encourage them to go after me.... cos as long as people attack me, they leave my fellow LGBT alone
sadly... with hate /slur campaigns on the net and in the media spotlight.... its the innocent that get *hung*....their rights to privacy and the chance to heal, are gone.....their names and faces plastered over the net.... as people rush to attack the *villain *...and its a sad fact, that in peoples rush to put down the LGBT community and attack us, using the bible and religion and other means, they are possibly attacking their own partner, family member, workmate, fellow christian etc etc
that, my friends, is the secret to bisexual.com
many of us are out, and have nothing to fear, and safe in our linked arms, are those that are not *out* but protected while they draw the strength, courage and knowledge from us, until they, too, come * out *, then they will link arms and stand strong, as another steps forward, ready to make the step
and often you are our friends, our work mates, our fellow christians, our partners, our family....
thank you drew, for our home away from home......and thank you to all the members that help make bisexual.com a place of peace and serenity
This is a area, that has become all too common, the anonymous people that enjoy the net and the media, seeing the actions of the ones that use the net as a tool for hurt and suffering.... and sadly a lot of the time, its us that can be a big part of it
IF I look at bisexual.com... it never fails to impress me.... no mods.... no speech police....no abuse.....just what is the secret to bisexual.com ???
Its a community site, with a mixture of people from different cultures, races, countries, and sexualities, but its not a breeding ground for a lot of the issues that other sites display.....why is bisexual.com so different.... well i will tell you at the end of this post
lol... I have been the * victim..* of a hate / slur campaign ( not connected to bisexual.com in ANY way )..
well i say victim, but i spent most of my time, reading the dribble, and laughing my head off....
not only was it costing these people to post their crap on the net..... but the people that they wanted to read it, came, looked, laughed and left......all they did attract, was the mal contented, unadjusted, socially inept people that needed a false name to post a heap of BS about a person that was ignoring their crap.... my only crime was being bisexual
and thats just how dangerous the net and the media has become......
for many of us, there is no * truth * anymore.... just site after site, story after story, of twisted words.... a persons opinion put up as the *truth*... and it only takes a few minutes to post a thread, pass a judgment, make a comment...and let the fun begin.........but bisexual.com is different
day after day, we come to the site.... sit and view profiles,, chat, and laugh, joke and smile.... talking about how some of us, are hiding a * secret *from the world.... never really thinking about how much of a knife edge we walk.....
each day, we have new people join.... and they are overwhelmed to that hugs, and kisses, from total strangers....people that hug and love the person behind the name.... without caring if that the new person * fits * the criteria.......mainly cos we are a family and thats the only criteria needed
it is sad that many of the people in the site, are under a *cloud *.... a partner / family etc, that may not know about their bisexual secret....and they are search for a * home * until they come here........and then they feel safe.... but ever present in the back of their mind...is the thought ~ what if somebody *outs * me ??? ~
lol the day i think the law will protect me, is the same day, i will go barebear in a orgy of aids suffers........
we have no real protection against the nastiness of gossip, be it true or false.....no law in the land can protect you against humiliation, a lost confidence, a ruined marriage, a slandered reputation........and yet you are about as anonymous as a green and pink painted elephant in the middle of the street at rush hour .... the real danger however, is not you posting in a site...or posting a pic..... sadly in most cases.... its the people around you.... the ones that actually know you in real life, that are the ones to watch
most websites / news stories attacking a person.... are started by a person with a personal issue against the person in real life.... and 7 times out of 10... they have met the person in real life.....
I live in a small christian town ( 50,000 ) and i am so outspoken.... as a wiccan witch, a bisexual... a friend of LGBT/hetero people, a well respected and loved spiritual teacher.......I am no stranger to hate campaigns.... in fact i encourage them to go after me.... cos as long as people attack me, they leave my fellow LGBT alone
sadly... with hate /slur campaigns on the net and in the media spotlight.... its the innocent that get *hung*....their rights to privacy and the chance to heal, are gone.....their names and faces plastered over the net.... as people rush to attack the *villain *...and its a sad fact, that in peoples rush to put down the LGBT community and attack us, using the bible and religion and other means, they are possibly attacking their own partner, family member, workmate, fellow christian etc etc
that, my friends, is the secret to bisexual.com
many of us are out, and have nothing to fear, and safe in our linked arms, are those that are not *out* but protected while they draw the strength, courage and knowledge from us, until they, too, come * out *, then they will link arms and stand strong, as another steps forward, ready to make the step
and often you are our friends, our work mates, our fellow christians, our partners, our family....
thank you drew, for our home away from home......and thank you to all the members that help make bisexual.com a place of peace and serenity