New to this site and this world

[collegekid]

Hi everyone,
I'm new to this site, but i'm glad i joined because i have been reading the forums and have already felt more comfortable. I'm 20 (4 months away from 21!!!!!) and i transferred to a new college by the beach. I literally moved to the other side of the state away from family and now i think i'm ready to start enter the bisexual world. My biggest problem is You would never know i'm bi. My major is Criminal Justice, so needless to say for a majority of the day, I'm serious, or at least people think so, and it has made it impossible to meet anyone of any gender, unless they have legal questions. I need to know how I can get to know the bi community and start meeting people. I'm str8 acting i guess you will call it, however thats just me, and i dont know how i can be my true self, yet give signs that i'm open. It's confusing and all new to me, but I hope i can catch on quick in time. If you have any suggestions, please let me know. If you have any comments, please let me know, you can be as blunt and honest as you feel needed, i dont care, but i have to start learning a quick!

[arana]

Welcome to the site and good luck in college and making new friends!

[Manda5]

Hello and Welcome! I'm 21 and in college too and am having similar problems. However, I have found that sometimes if you see someone that you think you might like, just simply giving them a cute/sexy smile, or a wink can sometimes get their attention. If someone is interested in you they will most likely notice and send some body language back.

Good luck, and have the time of your life in college...I know I am!!!!

[codybear3]

Hello Collegekid and welcome to your new home... :paw: :paw:

[ancestral]

hi and welcome, i agree, show some body language and see what happens, thats if you dont want the neighborhood to know what you are, if you dont mind them knowing, then begin by letting your friends in on it, you might be surprised at how often they will try to "set you up" with someone they know who has similar interests. as for the being serious and not really acting in any way non hetero, i can relate to that, im a paramedic in the middle of the bible belt, oy things can get sticky around here fast. i do act somewhat feminine though not by choice, it just happens, some people suspect but are to timid to ask, those i dont worry about, if they want to know theyll ask, others, <not surprising> mostly women have no qualms about asking me straight up, though i always get the phrase, "are you gay? not that theres anything wrong with that" its rather humorous, most of the people around here have been surprisingly accepting, it does help that im not flamboyant about it. rambling again.

[LoveLion]

Welcome to our little community. Always love it when I get the chance to welcome some one new.

The best advice I can give you is to get out there! Don't only focus on your studies at un/college, there is so much more. Be serious during you classes or whatever, but the go out after, have fun and meet people. Expressing yourself as a Bisexual can tricky as Im sure you dont wanna go out and say to everyone you mean "Hi, Im collegekid, and Im bi." If I were in your situation I would just go out, meet people, if I become interested in someone I would pursue it and if things look like they are starting to work out, then tell that person you are Bi

[DiamondDog]

go to gay bars/clubs.
some clubs even have under 21 nights.
or I'm sure your university has a few student run GLBT organizations or maybe even a GLBT center so check those out.

[PolyLoveTriad]

Dont just run off and start winkin at ppl, if they arent bi or gay, you might get reactions ya dont like lol but there are places you can go to, and Im sure theres a gay/lesibian/bi community place in your area and maybe even a club in your college, do some checking around town :) Good luck!

[jedinudist]

Never change the way you act to try to fit into some predifned image of what someone else says you should be based on your orientation. Just be yourself!! Be safe, be careful, and be patient.

And above all... Be honest :)

[Mrs. Taz]

have fun in college. welcome to the site. :)

[twodelta]

....I'm sure your university has a few student run GLBT organizations or maybe even a GLBT center so check those out.

This is an excellent suggestion!! You might also look for a Uniterian-Universalist church in Your area. Many are known as "Welcoming Congregations". Those are congregations that welcome GLBT persons with open arms, and often have GLBT groups that meet once or twice a month. Bon Chance - Dave

[Enoll]

Never change the way you act to try to fit into some predifned image of what someone else says you should be based on your orientation. Just be yourself!! Be safe, be careful, and be patient.

And above all... Be honest :)

I was about to say something along those lines but you said it better than I would have.
Not like you have to act a certain way.

[12voltman59]

I want to say to Collegekid--welcome to the site; I wish you all the best in your academic and career goal pursuits and relating to why you are here--in your exploration of this side of you.

You are lucky to have discovered it now and also that you are in a good place to explore that--as Diamond Dog said--try your school's GLBT groups---and I also second a recommendation to check out a UU (Unitarian Universalist) church.

The Unitarian Universalist faith is very welcoming of GLBTs as is the Unity Church and I also believe it is the Church of God which is also---you may want to Google this topic to find more info about these and other faiths that are open and welcoming to GLBT individuals.

It was also recommended that you take your time and to be cautious--you are young and while none of us have a lock the fact that we will be here more than the next moment---the odds are-you will be around for a long time to come--don't wreck your life with a rash, spur of the moment decision.

Have fun in school, in life and in sex and love----and at this site---hopefully it will be of assistance to you in your exploration of yourself....

[12voltman59]

I want to say to Collegekid--welcome to the site; I wish you all the best in your academic and career goal pursuits and relating to why you are here--in your exploration of this side of you.

You are lucky to have discovered it now and also that you are in college-an excellent place to explore your bisexuality--as Diamond Dog said--try your school's GLBT groups---and I also second the recommendation to check out a UU (Unitarian Universalist) church.

The Unitarian Universalist faith is very welcoming of GLBTs as is the Unity Church and I also believe it is the Church of God which is also---you may want to Google this topic to find more info about these and other faiths that are open and welcoming to GLBT individuals.

It was also recommended that you take your time and to be cautious--you are young and while none of us have a lock the fact that we will be here more than the next moment---the odds are-you will be around for a long time to come--don't wreck your life with a rash, spur of the moment decision.

Have fun in school, in life and in sex and love----and at this site---hopefully it will be of assistance to you in your exploration of yourself....