Just the same old questions

[Daniel1395]

So i have considered myself bisexual for about three years now since the age of sixteen and everybody i come out to is generally okay just a bit shocked but i always get these same old questions after i have told them

1. what are you serious?
2. since when?
3. so not long then?
4. Are you sure youre not just gay?
5. so do you prefare guys or girls?
6. Have you had sex with a guy yet?
7. are you out to youre parents?

oh and recently

8. How can you just turn Gay at sixteen were you born that way?

How can i answer i question like that. I had no attraction to men untill i was sixteen so was i born gay or did i just randomly turn bi i don't no it's just to much to think about.

One person once said three years thats not long don't you think its a bit soon to be coming out?

Is it too soon? i personally don't think so three years might not sound long but im fed up with lying to my friends why should i.

sorry i know this post is a bit random but i just had to say it.

[arana]

When I was very young I enjoyed seafood, now I detest it. (I know that wasn't a very good analogy but it serves its purpose) People change, develope, become more of who they are with age. Some are lucky enough to know what they like, want or need early on while others take time to savour variety and figure it out as they go. Neither way is right or wrong, just different, like people.

If you feel comfortable enough to say, "Hey, I'm bi" then it's not too soon. I don't think the bi-police will come after you for credentials or put you in bi-prison if you decide you want something else. It sounds like it's the other people that are uncomfortable with it.

[jenny2006]

If you can identify as bi and say 'I'm bi' like arana said, then I don't think anyone can say it's too soon for you to come out. If you're sure then no one can put a time frame on it. I came out to my li'l sis about the same time I was 100% sure myself and then to my parents about three weeks later!

If you're happy with it then what else matters?

[LoveLion]

8. How can you just turn Gay at sixteen were you born that way?


Thats one of those questions you just dont bother answering. And maybe glomp the guy on the head too

[ancestral]

to young? no, i realized my preferences when i was 13, albeit i fought them furiously for about 6 years before i finally came to terms with it, puberty seems to be a defining factor for most people, and there are those that havent realized their preferences until they are middle aged. as for answering those questions, answer them as honestly as you feel comfortable, if you dont, then tell them your not comfortable answering them.they are common and you will get them for the rest of your life, its peoples natural curiosity.

[PolyLoveTriad]

I have to give it to you, cuz I sure wish I had been bold enough and brave enough to come out and tell ppl I was bi when I was your age. If I had to do it over again I certainly would. Now that Im in my late 30's, Im a chicken shit lol Im too worried about what people will think. So yea, if I was 19, Id come on out too, itll make it easier to be who you are.... YOU. Also, when people ask you stupid questions, like have you been with a guy yet? Turn the table on them, ask, have you given a blow job yet? or how many times have you had sex? When they try to weasle out of answering, which most will, just say hey, I dont ask you questions like that, just accept me for who I really am. If they are truely your friends, they will respect that. Good luck! :bipride:

[DiamondDog]

When I was very young I enjoyed seafood, now I detest it. (I know that wasn't a very good analogy but it serves its purpose) People change, develope, become more of who they are with age. Some are lucky enough to know what they like, want or need early on while others take time to savour variety and figure it out as they go. Neither way is right or wrong, just different, like people.

If you feel comfortable enough to say, "Hey, I'm bi" then it's not too soon. I don't think the bi-police will come after you for credentials or put you in bi-prison if you decide you want something else. It sounds like it's the other people that are uncomfortable with it.

Arana- I think that food is a good analogy since it does make lots of sense. I sometimes use this to explain bisexuality and how I'll say, well you don't eat the same single type of food daily all the time and that's how it is with bisexuality we may crave a certain gender every so often but we're not soley attracted to one single gender like most people are.

[Long Duck Dong]

i can resist it... i gotta answer and believe me i would answer in this way too

1. what are you serious?... no its a april fools joke in the middle of november... so yes i am serious enuf to know thats what i am

2. since when?... a few years ago.....like about 2 years before i lose my virginity to my hand

3. so not long then?... *snorts * no only about most of the main years of my teenagehood

4. Are you sure your not just gay?... yeah I think i may be... let me ask the females i sleep with, about that

5. so do you prefer guys or girls?....i perfer good sex, good conversations and a good time....its just the sex of the partner that varies

6. Have you had sex with a guy yet?.....mmm yeah.... the same with a girl... thats how i know for sure, I am bisexual

7. are you out to your parents?... am i still living ???

8. How can you just turn Gay at sixteen were you born that way?... actually i was born bi capable....that means I was always bisexual natured.... my body just took a lil while to work it out

[Daniel1395]

Hey thank you everybody for youre replys especially your bit arana about the bi-police

also lol lovelion what you said puts a smile on my face.

Ancestral i think youre right sometimes im just not comfortable answering questions like that i mean its not really there businesses but i understand that people are just naturally curious
seems to me though thats its always the straight guys who ask questions like number 6.

long duck dong i have to say i do like youre answers especially number 4.

thanks again everybody xx

[mrplayfuluk]

It really depends who you come out too. I've told a close friend and he turned around and revealed he was seriously into S&M! then I told my new girlfriend and she revealed she has had same sex experiences with two different women in the last 5 years. So it constantly surprises me the reactions. Can't imagine telling my family though...

[ancestral]

hehe, maybe the guys who are asking about number 6 are a bit curious hmm?

[darkeyes]

Comin out is no easy task for ne 1 wotever ther age or however long they considered themselves bi, or gay or ne thin else. Its wen u r confident enough in yaself, feel strong enuff 2 face the world and take the inevitable knocks it will give ya.

Friends can sumtimes through ignorance and lack of understandin ask the wrong questions an aks them repeatedly, an sumtimes we react badly 2 them but Daniel that dusn mean they don care howeva exasperating they mite b. Wen we come out we r kinda landin a bloody gr8 bombshell on every 1 we know an it takes time for them 2 grasp the implications. Sum we lose wen we come out but then they canta been very gr8 m8s ne way, but if we r lucky most will still be our friends an in end not think the less of us cos we r different.

For sum of us comin out is neva an option eitha through circumstance or because they never develop the confidence not necessarily in their sexuality, but in their ability to ride the storm of openess.