Are there many polys on here?

[PolyLoveTriad]

I havent seen any that post they are poly, and most of the people I see either want just a hook up or are bi curious. Also, if anyone else knows of any other websites for match making let me know please, I found a chat site, but theres not a lot of people on it yet. Anyway, hope everyone finds what they are looking for! :tongue:

[PolyLoveTriad]

poly poly oxen free! lol :tongue:

[twodelta]

Cat and I are poly. Right now we are looking for a single male that can fall in love with us and we with him. We've not really thought about a quad(another couple or even two other guys), but would consider it - Dave

[holybane]

Not poly, I'm not completely sure on the definition but I'd like good friends with benefits. Doesn't seem like it'll happen but I can dream, I want to experience a lot, and I've only experienced with one person so far... :( ah well.

[Biguybob]

My wife and I have a live friend. We all play. togerther or with eachother. It is really great.

[trip1]

For the right couple/ if I were right for the couple I'd do it in a second!!!

[Trinity-Fl]

Just a note...

Sue and I met 8 years ago when she was lookig for a third for herself and her husband. We hit it off and I moved in with them. We lived as a triad for 4 years.

We had one master bedroom. (I never had a room of my own.) We all slept together almost every night. Occasionally Sue would have a business trip and on those nights Steve and I would share the king size bed. Had one clothes hamper. :) We bought a house together. Steve bought a full size PU truck to replace the smaller one so the three of us could sit on one seat.

He was more gay than bi and it ended when he wanted a gay lifestyle. But it was fun while it lasted.

We were charter members of Central Fla Poly. We still attend meetings and the annual poly retreat. (Signed up for next year.) We also attended Tampa Poly until we moved further north.

We loved the triad life style.. As you say, sex is part of life and we loved that too but we enjoyed the shared times. Watching a movie together all curled up together on the couch, having dinner together and Sunday morning coffee when one of (usually Steve or me) would make coffee for all three and bring it to the bedroom.

We were "out" to family and most friends. After all, we lived together! We slept on a queen size bed for 9 months and finally went to shop for a king. We stopped by her mom's and told her where we were going and she said, "Well, it's about time! The 3 of you sleeping in that little bed!"

We've been a couple for about 4 years now and miss the triad. We have a regular partner whom we see often. Last week he cooked dinner for us and spent the night.

So... There may not be a lot of poly people on here but I think there are quite a few peeking out of the closets and maybe even some who are out entirely.

Good luck on your search.

Charlie and Sue

[selfe]

We are Poly or we are Poly in nature for the past 13 years. We don't look for another person to join us we are just open to anyone who would be open minded and accepts us in our relationship. Now in Smallville, Texas there are not too many people who are ok with a poly lifestyle so we don't really advertise the fact.

Poly match making check out.

http://www.polymatchmaker.com http://www.lovemore.com http://polyamory.com/

[VINdeWOLF]

Well, BiLissa and I are poly. We just started going to polyamorychat.com as well as here. Not many people yet but the ones that are there seem intelligent and we've had some great/informative conversations.

We've been looking online for almost 6 yrs and figured out after almost 5 yrs that we needed to "divide & conquer" so to speak... with our own IDs, as well as a "We ID".

We found that "online", men are at a disadvantage when seeking a woman for a triad relationship... we always seem to come off as predators on the hunt... with an adenda, that women can smell a mile away. (Personally I think it's kinda funny so I parody it with my ID and use it to my advantage) But I still do much better "on the street" with meeting women... ring and all.

Lissa seems to hit it off well with the ladies online... she doesn't have any agenda other than to make friends and if it goes any farther... just icing on the cake. In fact just yesterday WE had a R/L tea date with a delicious little redhead that Lissa met online... I know, just a couple hour tea date... but it was intoxicating just the same... great conversation, laughter and lots of mutual flirting all around... It made my day and to boot, we have another tea date set up with her after the holidays... we'll see where it goes from there. We've had other encounters with women from meeting online as well... but I'll keep those memories to myself because a gentleman doesn't kiss & tell.

To end... We are poly, we are here. We know that meeting other polys online can be done... we have proof.

Cheers,
Vin

[PolyLoveTriad]

Well, BiLissa and I are poly. We just started going to polyamorychat.com as well as here. Not many people yet but the ones that are there seem intelligent and we've had some great/informative conversations.

We've been looking online for almost 6 yrs and figured out after almost 5 yrs that we needed to "divide & conquer" so to speak... with our own IDs, as well as a "We ID".

We found that "online", men are at a disadvantage when seeking a woman for a triad relationship... we always seem to come off as predators on the hunt... with an adenda, that women can smell a mile away. (Personally I think it's kinda funny so I parody it with my ID and use it to my advantage) But I still do much better "on the street" with meeting women... ring and all.

Lissa seems to hit it off well with the ladies online... she doesn't have any agenda other than to make friends and if it goes any farther... just icing on the cake. In fact just yesterday WE had a R/L tea date with a delicious little redhead that Lissa met online... I know, just a couple hour tea date... but it was intoxicating just the same... great conversation, laughter and lots of mutual flirting all around... It made my day and to boot, we have another tea date set up with her after the holidays... we'll see where it goes from there. We've had other encounters with women from meeting online as well... but I'll keep those memories to myself because a gentleman doesn't kiss & tell.

To end... We are poly, we are here. We know that meeting other polys online can be done... we have proof.

Cheers,
Vin

Hahaha Vin&Lissa, I know you lol Im lookin4love4life at polyamorychat.com Ill see ya there!

[ready4change0307]

poly?

[someotherguy]

I tried getting on with a poly-minded couple once. But after a while I got tired of all the demands for crackers.

It sounds great in theory because no matter what mood she is in there would always be someone else for her to take it out on. Sign me up!

[Tripdoll]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now, and have been seeking a woman to join our relationship, and hopefully end up in a longterm relationship, for about a year now. Our search has not gone well, seeing how most people seem to think of a couple looking for a female as trashy, and as if they are just looking for an easy woman to use, to play out there fantasies with. The idea that a couple would actually be seeking someone to join them and share the love they have to offer, seems to be a foreign concept for most people. We have not given up on our search though, I am sure that our wait will be more than worth while, and when we finally meet that perfect woman, she will click with us and our lifestyle perfectly.

To any other poly's out their I wish you luck, and pride you on your open minded view of life.

Truly,
Tripdoll :bibounce:

[spartca]

I've been responsibly non-monogamous, or polyamorous, for over 10 years!

I had a female partner for about 6 of that - we enjoyed many other lovers together and separately during that time: men, women, and couples.

Now I'm starting over, with new partners - one of them might become primary soon and someone with whom I can hopefully start a family. We've talked about the idea of incorporating a boyfriend into our lives at some point... but we're kinda picky...

Reminds me of that T-shirt "I'm bisexual and polyamorous, but I don't like *you*" ;)

[mistymockingbird]

Open to poly, for sure. Definitely the non-monogamous type.

[PolyLoveTriad]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now, and have been seeking a woman to join our relationship, and hopefully end up in a longterm relationship, for about a year now. Our search has not gone well, seeing how most people seem to think of a couple looking for a female as trashy, and as if they are just looking for an easy woman to use, to play out there fantasies with. The idea that a couple would actually be seeking someone to join them and share the love they have to offer, seems to be a foreign concept for most people. We have not given up on our search though, I am sure that our wait will be more than worth while, and when we finally meet that perfect woman, she will click with us and our lifestyle perfectly.

To any other poly's out their I wish you luck, and pride you on your open minded view of life.

Truly,
Tripdoll :bibounce:

I dont see it as trashy at all, or just to use another person. For us, its like someone is missing from our lives. We are both bi, Im not looking for a gf, but I know how it feels for him, to want to have that bond with another guy. Its not just about sex, its about life. All the little things you do, watching tv, cooking, hanging out, camping etc. Normal stuff. I truely hope you find your match :) Good luck hon!

[IanBorthwick]

I have been in love with more than one person at one time, but have not bedded them or lived them in a multiple partner situation. Does that count? And yes I mean IN LOVE, not in lust. I think it makes me poly, but that is for the experts to decide.

[bearisbare]

I've considered myself to be polyamorous for about six years now. For about half that time I have actually been in love with more than one. Most of the time it has been through long-distance connections, which has made me very observant of scheduling.

All of my loves have been bisexual women who knew about my identity from the beginning and that I felt my ideal comfort zone in enjoying life for the moment and having the mindset to feel emotions for more than one.

[leizy]

my wife and i are poly. it's been a complex journey, but with different reasons, we both accepted that we are poly a few years ago. we don't sleep around, but both of us have had other lovers, shared and not. we're both looking for that ideal person/couple, that we share our lives with. I could honestly see us living happily as something more like a commune. at least one of my theories is that for some people, poly is about the need for "tribe" and the fact that monogamous marriage is quite isolating.

i've done some research (real research, i'm a psychologist), not published yet, but it seems to suggest that about 5% of people and couples out there are nonmonogamous. Some that are nonmonogamous go the direction of swinging, others into poly, though there is lots of overlap, both in lifestyles and definitions. My findings, and those of others seems to suggest that by and large, those that go into swinging tend to be less spiritual, more politically and socially conservative (many are republicans), while those that gravitate towards poly tend to be more spiritual (in nontraditional ways, such as pagan, unitarian, wiccan, nondenominational) and more liberal politically.

bisexuality is highly represented in poly - in swinging, about 50-70% of females identify as bi, less than 5% of males. In poly, at least 70% of females also identify as bi, and between 30-50% of males identify as bi...
cheers.
david

[diamond_tether]

Eh, we may or may not count. While that's not something we'd actively seek out (we're enough work for one another as it is) we can't rule ourselves out either. If a situation came along that was entirely natural, comfortable, etc. then we probably wouldn't pay any mind to organically becoming a poly relationship. Though, we're more likely to end up adding another male as a long-term pal than a female.

[DiamondDog]

I've been told that I'm poly; but I wouldn't use that label for it.

[the sacred night]

I'm open to poly, and actually think i'd love to try it, but i really don't want to railroad my fiance into something just to please me, and i don't think he's interested.

[Bi-ten]

Hi,

I haven't been part of a poly relationship, but I believe in the possibility of a loving more than one person at a time.

A

[Chaia]

I have been in love with more than one person at one time, but have not bedded them or lived them in a multiple partner situation. Does that count? And yes I mean IN LOVE, not in lust. I think it makes me poly, but that is for the experts to decide.

Me, too! I think it counts. Or maybe we are just "wanna-be-polys"
:)

[Chaia]

My findings, and those of others seems to suggest that by and large, those that go into swinging tend to be less spiritual, more politically and socially conservative (many are republicans), while those that gravitate towards poly tend to be more spiritual (in nontraditional ways, such as pagan, unitarian, wiccan, nondenominational) and more liberal politically.

bisexuality is highly represented in poly - in swinging, about 50-70% of females identify as bi, less than 5% of males. In poly, at least 70% of females also identify as bi, and between 30-50% of males identify as bi...
cheers.
david

Very interesting! Let us know if/when you get published! I'd like to read your research.

[PolyLoveTriad]

my wife and i are poly. it's been a complex journey, but with different reasons, we both accepted that we are poly a few years ago. we don't sleep around, but both of us have had other lovers, shared and not. we're both looking for that ideal person/couple, that we share our lives with. I could honestly see us living happily as something more like a commune. at least one of my theories is that for some people, poly is about the need for "tribe" and the fact that monogamous marriage is quite isolating.

i've done some research (real research, i'm a psychologist), not published yet, but it seems to suggest that about 5% of people and couples out there are nonmonogamous. Some that are nonmonogamous go the direction of swinging, others into poly, though there is lots of overlap, both in lifestyles and definitions. My findings, and those of others seems to suggest that by and large, those that go into swinging tend to be less spiritual, more politically and socially conservative (many are republicans), while those that gravitate towards poly tend to be more spiritual (in nontraditional ways, such as pagan, unitarian, wiccan, nondenominational) and more liberal politically.

bisexuality is highly represented in poly - in swinging, about 50-70% of females identify as bi, less than 5% of males. In poly, at least 70% of females also identify as bi, and between 30-50% of males identify as bi...
cheers.
david

Heres one for your study
:)
We are both republicans. We are m/f couple both of us bi. Both are christians. We are both spiritual. Ive been studying theology in college for 3 years.

[Tripdoll]

Thank you AndUMake3 ;) :)

[Biboz49]

We are non-monogamous, but not poly. We love each other only, and prefer it that way. We just like friends with benefits.