THE CHALLENGES OF DATING THE OPPOSITE SEX

[Irishblueeyes]

As an open minded, predominately straight man looking to continue to expand my horizons, I find it increasingly challenging to meet women who are as open minded, comfortable and confident with their own sexuality. Like most personality and character traits we seek in a partner, (some more important than others), people's intimate views about personal sexuality are rarely offered up in coffee house conversation, but are more likely to be revealed as both intimacy and trust build in a relationship. The challenge is that, more often than not, we must begin to build these relationships BEFORE we discover the depth, or lack thereof, to someone’s sexual awareness, creativity, openness and, for what ever reason – their limits.

My dating opportunities are already limited because I am a single Dad with majority custody of my children so spending considerable time building relationships, only to discover that he/she has significant apprehensions, pent up issues or are outright homophobes, information contrary to the initial signals sent, can be time consuming and frustrating to say the least. I know that there is no quick fix or questionnaire we can hand out and maybe I am being a little impatient, but could it be that I am just looking in the wrong place? I am assuming that a single man would not be welcomed with open arms in a lesbian bar but are there bars or pubs that cater to bi people or just more open minded singles? I live in Canada’s National Capital Region but do travel when I can. Constructive comments or suggestions anyone?

[smokey]

Generally speaking I have found that most women are far more confident and sure of themselves sexually than the vast majority of men.