View Full Version : To douche or not to douche, that is the question
biguycancun
Sep 25, 2025, 7:53 AM
I have a new lover who checks all the boxes. He's taller than me, he's handsome, he's heavier than me, very smart, a great companion and has an intimidating cock that initially scared me, but now I love it. Better yet, he's a doctor (Jewish mother's dream) and he's Black (Jewish mother's nightmare). As is normal in new relationships, the sex drive is high and we couple most days at least once, and if he's not working (E.R. specialist) we fuck at every opportunity.
As a 100% bottom who actually once turned pro for a year or so, I have normally douched before anal sex. As KDaddy23 said, sometimes it's too much trouble, but I've maintained that discipline. Now, my doctor lover has told me I should stop, it's not normally necessary and could indeed be harmful, the irritation of it opening a pathway for infection. To support this he's shown me articles from the Mayo Clinic and other respected institutions. Also simoply Googling "Is douching necessary before anal sex?" brings up a rather complete answer of "no".
I must admit that it's taking some effort for me to get over the imaginary "yuck" factor, but on the other hand the spontaneity factor is great. There is something to be said for just roll over and fuck. Knowing that the majority opinion of the medical profession says it's not necessary and could be harmful, what's your take on this?
Neonaught
Sep 25, 2025, 9:16 AM
I think you can overdo anything including enemas. I hate the smell and sight of feces on my cock so I teach the new bottoms I meet how to properly take a simple warm water enema just before sex. The key is to not take in too much water or it can up high up in the bowel and get trapped only to be released when the fucking starts. Instill just enough that you can start to feel the urge to expel it, them expel it and repeat as needed to have the water comes out clean. I typically find 4-6 passes with the water is usual all that is needed. As a medical professional myself, I find the cleansing enema more important than the minor risk of any problems from it. If you are really concerned, simply use distilled water warmed in the microwave gently. The main health risk is if you use well water as some can contains amoebas.
dicktrobing
Sep 26, 2025, 4:45 AM
The starting point is what you eat 24 hours before.
I usually use a bag type enema 12 hours before anal sex, with a douche around a 2 hours before.
Don't over do it by using a shower attachment and only use body temp clean water.
With practice you'll get into a routine that works for you
RICKCASV
Sep 27, 2025, 7:14 PM
I am and always have been a bottom. I have never ever had any interest in being a top. I only have anal as a bottom if the chemistry is right and I make that very clear to the person I am considering hooking up with.. When I meet a guy on the internet (Adult Friend Finder) first we exchange e-mails and if that goes well then we move on to the phone call. Both the e-mails and phone call include graphic talk about sex. That includes what each of us likes sexually, what each of us is comfortable with sexually and how experienced we are. If the guy is a top and and think I might have anal with him I take a shower right before meeting up with him (I always take a shower before meeting up with someone anyway) and while in the shower I will insert one of the four dildos I have into my ass I have two sets of these dildos, one set is flesh colored and the other set is black (sometimes I like to fantasize about who is fucking me). The medium version is almost 8 inches long and the small version is almost 7 inches long. Both are made of silicone and shaped exactly like a circumcised cock. These dildos are specifically designed for anal play (they have suction cups) so I am very comfortable using either one of them in my ass. If there is anything in my ass that shouldn't be there, which is very very rare, it comes out as I fuck myself for two or three minutes. This not only gets me 100 % clean if I am not already that way and it also gets me in the mood for wanting to experience an actual cock in my butt later on in the evening.
I have never ever had a an issue with my ass not being totally clean as a result of using this method in preparing for a sexual encounter that involves a man's cock vigorously fucking me.
Jazminedress
Sep 27, 2025, 11:48 PM
As others said, diet the day before, but sometimes, things happen. I keep a syringe ( no needle), pull up a bunch of water into it, and shoot it up. Hold it in for 2 minutes, let it out, when it starts coming out clean, ready.
HAs worked and never had an issue, and no chemicals