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Take.it.Easy
Aug 17, 2024, 7:34 AM
It's been 5 years since I have been with a woman so I decided to go gay since I have been with trans and guys anyway. I am currently seeing a trans and a guy.
redngoldpride
Aug 17, 2024, 10:46 AM
Freedom , it's a great life much to short not to enjoy , just be you the true YOU
Footstep40
Aug 17, 2024, 12:11 PM
Welcome to the party! I had identified as gay before I met my ex wife, who is bi herself. We’re both in same sex relationships now. I love sex with men so much more, I’m trying to figure out if I was or am bisexual. But then again, does it matter?
Take.it.Easy
Aug 18, 2024, 10:15 AM
Right on! I am really into creating content, especially when I am giving blowjobs and swallowing loads.
elian2
Aug 18, 2024, 6:37 PM
I won't deny that I get aroused by the fantasy of women but I've always loved men more, and I adore the gay man I am with now -- he's such a kind and patient lover .. for the foreseeable future I might as well be gay.
jem_is_bi
Aug 18, 2024, 11:45 PM
I am now 76 years old and have been in a same sex relationship for about 20 years.
So, I am mostly gay now. I have almost no desire for sex with a woman anymore.
There are a few women I know that can still stir up sexual feelings in me.
However, at this point in my life, those feeling rapidly fade away.
DLazguy
Aug 19, 2024, 10:19 AM
I wouldn't say that I've decided to "go gay". I love my wife and sex with women, I just want to enjoy both sides of the aisle. I'd like to have a gay sex life on the side.
cornholejoe
Aug 19, 2024, 2:45 PM
it is all sex to me man or woman just depends who i meet up with
biwmtrucker44
Aug 19, 2024, 4:22 PM
I haven't been with a woman sense 2007. Not so much by choice but more circumstances. I have been with more then a dozen difrent guys sense 07 but I don;t think of myself as Gay
fredward
Aug 23, 2024, 7:44 PM
I haven't been with a woman since yesterday, when my wife left my alone with my GF. Haven't been with a guy for a couple of weeks tho.
licyou69
Aug 24, 2024, 7:44 AM
I'm not interested and won't ever be interested in a relationship with a man "to go gay", and right now I'm really not even interested in a relationship with a woman. I've just been enjoying gay sex because it's so much easier to find with no strings attached.
Take.it.Easy
Aug 24, 2024, 8:26 AM
I met a guy last month with a 9.5” beautiful cock, we are both fit and vers. I love sucking his huge cock and swallowing the delicious loads. We have sex 3 or 4 times daily. We might get a place.
AbiMan69
Aug 24, 2024, 9:14 AM
No need for me to go gay. I love my wife and we have lots of outstanding sex. We both are bi in different ways. I am not really interested in a mans body but I definitely like to suck a good cock.
voltaire
Aug 25, 2024, 6:37 PM
Welcome to the party! I had identified as gay before I met my ex wife, who is bi herself. We’re both in same sex relationships now. I love sex with men so much more, I’m trying to figure out if I was or am bisexual. But then again, does it matter?
I think ultimately it does not matter. Your story intrigues me because part of it mirrors my own but for many years I identified as heterosexual or at most a Kinsey 1. My last relation with a woman ended close to 2 years ago and while not seeking out women I did have experiences with 2 men. My fantasies and maturation skew heavily towards men recently. I am not even sure if I could stay hard for a woman without thinking about cock.
your relationship with your wife seemed genuine. I don’t know if you had to have homosexual thoughts to stay hard or come but you did enjoy sex with it seems. Whatever that meant to you is makes it authentic.
Oddly I don’t seem to have any romantic/emotional attraction to men. That still only happens with women. Not ideal for the long term but I’ve heard that other men are in the same leaking boat.
voltaire
Aug 25, 2024, 6:41 PM
Sorry for the sloppy grammar. I’m typing this on an IPhone SE that has a tiny screen.
Pantyhoseguy88!
Aug 26, 2024, 10:09 PM
Strongly considering it
remington12369
Aug 27, 2024, 1:41 AM
I have been married for 40+ years. If I wasn't married I would be out and proud and only interested in guys!
DLazguy
Aug 27, 2024, 7:07 PM
I hope I can find a fwb or a couple that I can join in the bedroom. I would love to experience getting spit roasted with two big cocks, filling me at both ends for me to go home and kiss and fuck my wife.
SAW1969
Aug 28, 2024, 7:23 PM
If I wasn't married to my wife. I'd definitely try dating a guy. The wife and I haven't had sex in several years and my desire to be with men has increased considerably. I tell myself every day that I'm gay, it doesn't bother me anymore if I am or not. To be honest I find a woman's vagina to be kinda ugly anymore, I prefer to look at pictures of nice big cut cocks. I have a gay Uncle and I came out to him as gay.... so I guess I'm gay.
Footstep40
Aug 30, 2024, 8:42 PM
Thanks Voltaire! Yeah, I certainly did have to sometimes think about guys to get off with the ex wife, I have yet to think about ladies when I’m with my man, or really any man. Being in any romantic relationship is work though.
marine20
Aug 31, 2024, 8:24 AM
my wife has been unable to have sex for eight years. i had been fucking a friends wife for a while , but they split and she no longer wants to fuck. so i have only been having sex with men for about a year. it looks like i'm going gay out of necessity . i love being a cocksucker , but i sure would like to have some pussy once in a while.
gooniegoogoo
Aug 31, 2024, 1:17 PM
Welcome to the party! I had identified as gay before I met my ex wife, who is bi herself. We’re both in same sex relationships now. I love sex with men so much more, I’m trying to figure out if I was or am bisexual. But then again, does it matter?
It doesn't. Live in the moment.
gooniegoogoo
Aug 31, 2024, 1:19 PM
I think ultimately it does not matter. Your story intrigues me because part of it mirrors my own but for many years I identified as heterosexual or at most a Kinsey 1. My last relation with a woman ended close to 2 years ago and while not seeking out women I did have experiences with 2 men. My fantasies and maturation skew heavily towards men recently. I am not even sure if I could stay hard for a woman without thinking about cock.
your relationship with your wife seemed genuine. I don’t know if you had to have homosexual thoughts to stay hard or come but you did enjoy sex with it seems. Whatever that meant to you is makes it authentic.
Oddly I don’t seem to have any romantic/emotional attraction to men. That still only happens with women. Not ideal for the long term but I’ve heard that other men are in the same leaking boat.
Good story. Thanks.
Footstep40
Aug 31, 2024, 4:14 PM
Thank you Gooniegoogoo(great name btw, Aunt Bunnie fell down the steps!!). I have struggled with my sexuality many times, trying to be straight, coming out as being gay, then am I straight now, no bi, get divorced, maybe I’m not bi now, or what am I? My counselor and I have made strides since my soon to be husband proposed, coupled with planning a wedding in October. At the end of the day, it feels good to know that it no longer matters. Reaffirming to me to hear others say it too.
bsquaredville
Aug 31, 2024, 5:42 PM
I’ve contemplated this a few times. Even the idea of being bisexual because I’ve always thought I’d only ever want to be in a relationship with a woman and men are only for sex (well, being fucked by them anyways. I have little to no desire to fuck another man).
I do have a few “going gay” fantasies. Some “forces gay” fantasies where I’m only allowed to have sex with men. Or meeting a couple of gay men and being a regular third in their relationship (although I understand how stereotypical it is and that just because a couple of men are in a homosexual relationship doesn’t mean they’re into multiple partners).
it would be easier, I think, to find a male partner. Although I don’t consider myself gay and I am obsessed with women I’d love to have some regular sex with a man and feel as if he loved me. At least that’s how I’ve thought since I’ve been divorced.
Hector
Sep 17, 2024, 12:30 PM
I wish I had the opportunity to live-in with a guy for at least a month. Sleep in the same bed, have sex any time we want, shower together. In short: live like as a romantic couple. In a city away from my family and friends, so we can go out as lovers.
This will tell me if I’m ready to go gay!
biguycancun
Sep 18, 2024, 9:24 AM
I wish I had the opportunity to live-in with a guy for at least a month. Sleep in the same bed, have sex any time we want, shower together. In short: live like as a romantic couple. In a city away from my family and friends, so we can go out as lovers.
This will tell me if I’m ready to go gay!
Judging from your wish I think it's obvious the decision has been made and you're already there.
Tarz1986
Sep 18, 2024, 11:03 AM
I always have and always will love the touch of a woman. But every now and then there is just that itch to suck and to be fucked by a hard cock. I can't have an emotional connection to a guy like I can with a woman . It's just the physical sex with a man that I occasionally crave.
marine20
Sep 18, 2024, 3:33 PM
a few years back , my wife acquired some medical problems , which makes her unable to have sex. it's a shame , because we had a wild open marriage . now ,the only people that i can have sex with are men. finding women at my age is pretty hard. what really sucks , is, i'm a bodybuilder and i stay in great shape . so i have no problem fucking or sucking. it looks like sucking cock is going to be my only outlet now. don't get me wrong , i like sucking cock , but i really would like to have an occasional woman. well , i can only hope.
AbiMan69
Sep 18, 2024, 6:07 PM
I like to go all three ways. More chances of having sex. LOL. Men, woman and ladyboys. I have to admit that finding woman which fit my taste and are down to earth, easy going and not bitchy, are hard to find in nowadays. Definitely in western cultures. For sure the younger ones are more complicated. Social media, politics and else is a big bad factor brainwashing people. In Asia me and my wife are enjoying great encounters and it always is very enjoyable.
Gladly I like sucking cock, pussy, tits, ass, balls and big nipples. That should help and make it easier finding play. LOL :)
Footstep40
Sep 21, 2024, 6:23 PM
It’s not all midnight bjs, surprise morning sex and showers together. Sure some of those things happen. Me being the little spoon, many a morning I have woken up to something hard pressed against me, I have been the human alarm clock for my fianc? many times, and we do enjoy our baths in my big soaker tub.
Like any relationship, there are squabbles over how to load the dishwasher correctly, how to fold towels, why is it hard to take your socks and put them in the hamper, I hate this show, slow down on the corners, (his name is Darryl, so I love that one), I’m going to bed, you coming up hun? Naw baby, I’m going to finish this drink and my show. 2 hours later, I come downstairs in the nude, he’s poured a few more and is passed out on the couch. Did you want to come upstairs and fuck me? Ohhh shit sorry. Like any relationship it takes work.
elian2
Sep 22, 2024, 5:12 PM
Quite possibly the best line I ever heard from a therapist - "If you love the dishwasher so much, why don't you marry it instead?"
I've TRIED to tell evangelicals that gay folks who have known each other long enough to want to get married do the same thing OTHER married couples do in bed, they fall asleep.
Footstep40
Sep 22, 2024, 6:19 PM
lol!! I guess in my case, he is marrying the dishwasher…me!
rukiddingme
Feb 14, 2025, 4:55 PM
Like many here, I have never been attracted to guys that I meet and have never thought of myself as gay. All of my friends are straight (maybe!), at least I have never had any sexual conversations with them other than girls. When I am out I still find myself gawking at beautiful women. When I see a hot girl on tv I Google images of her. But I have always appreciated pictures of nude guys with athletic bodies and nice cocks.
Yet when I find myself getting aroused I almost certainly fantasize of gay sex. 90% of my viewing is gay porn, guys making out, rubbing each other, sucking, and building toward intimate sex. If I view women, it will be in a bisexual setting with guys together.
I have progressed from 2 to 5.
NakedFun38
Feb 15, 2025, 6:14 PM
Does anyone else see that there is a trend that after men turn 50 they become more attracted to men than women? Is there any science behind this?
biguycancun
Feb 15, 2025, 9:01 PM
Does anyone else see that there is a trend that after men turn 50 they become more attracted to men than women? Is there any science behind this?
Just my opinion but it would seem that many women lose interest in sex with the onset of menopause whereas men continue to desire sex well into their senior years even as their bodies eventually weaken. And there's far less emotional and societal bullshit to navigate in establishing a male-to-male relationship. And sometimes that relationship is quite brief and in many cases, no strings attached. As I said, just my opinion.
KDaddy23
Feb 16, 2025, 1:23 PM
Does anyone else see that there is a trend that after men turn 50 they become more attracted to men than women? Is there any science behind this?
I would say that, from what I've personally seen and experienced, that men between the ages of 45 and 50 don't become more attracted to men as they do become more attracted to having sex with a man. There appears to be some social science associated with this, i.e., women not having sex for a lot of reasons including menopause but for as long as I've been bisexual (60 years), I have never figured out what "logic" takes place when a guy who's been heterosexual for 45/50 years decides that today is a good day to suck a cock. I have said that it's not a secret that there are men who have sex with men and some of them aren't gay - or so it's being said, right? Something tells a guy, "Hey, you aren't getting any from her, you don't want to cheat on her with another woman but there are guys who'll suck your dick without a lot of hassle and if you were of a mind to give it a try, hmm, really - how bad can it be when there are a gazillion men who suck cock?"
And, somehow, it all makes perfectly good sense. When I was in my mid-40s, I got with a guy in his 60s who wanted to experience man-sex for the first time and when I asked him why, he said, "I don't really know - it just sounds like the right thing to do." Later, he asked me if I minded if he told his closest friends about his cock-sucking experience and I said that he could. He said, "That's great because they would benefit from having their cock sucked and now that I know about it, I'm going to give them all blowjobs!"
I don't know if he did or not but the encounter left me wondering - again - why a man gets into his later years of life and decides to have sex with a man after spending the majority of his life being against such a thing...
NakedFun38
Feb 17, 2025, 1:34 PM
I would say that, from what I've personally seen and experienced, that men between the ages of 45 and 50 don't become more attracted to men as they do become more attracted to having sex with a man. There appears to be some social science associated with this, i.e., women not having sex for a lot of reasons including menopause but for as long as I've been bisexual (60 years), I have never figured out what "logic" takes place when a guy who's been heterosexual for 45/50 years decides that today is a good day to suck a cock. I have said that it's not a secret that there are men who have sex with men and some of them aren't gay - or so it's being said, right? Something tells a guy, "Hey, you aren't getting any from her, you don't want to cheat on her with another woman but there are guys who'll suck your dick without a lot of hassle and if you were of a mind to give it a try, hmm, really - how bad can it be when there are a gazillion men who suck cock?"
And, somehow, it all makes perfectly good sense. When I was in my mid-40s, I got with a guy in his 60s who wanted to experience man-sex for the first time and when I asked him why, he said, "I don't really know - it just sounds like the right thing to do." Later, he asked me if I minded if he told his closest friends about his cock-sucking experience and I said that he could. He said, "That's great because they would benefit from having their cock sucked and now that I know about it, I'm going to give them all blowjobs!"
I don't know if he did or not but the encounter left me wondering - again - why a man gets into his later years of life and decides to have sex with a man after spending the majority of his life being against such a thing...
kdaady23, thank you. It’s more precise to state it the way you did. Not attracted to men but attracted to sex with men. I’ve never found men attractive but sex with men is attractive. I’ve noticed my attraction to sex with men grow increasingly over the years, ever since my early teens when I had a play buddy. I’ve never bought into the statement “ my wife doesn’t have sex so now I have sex with men”. That just doesn’t make sense. There must be some sort of physiological change that happens. Perhaps it’s primal to reduce competition for younger male generations in reproduction?
SilkyHoseLover
Feb 18, 2025, 2:12 PM
KDdaddy23, thank you. It?s more precise to state it the way you did. Not attracted to men but attracted to sex with men. Yeah, don't know how many posts I've read here and on other sites beginning with: "I'm not attracted to men, but..." I've even written that a time or two, myself.
But I kinda take it one step further. I'm most interested in sex with a man when there's at least some degree of femininity in the mix, especially if it's me in silky lingerie or another CD like myself. I'm not enthusiastic about us both being just 'two naked guys' playing together.